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Q: i have a piece of jewlery that has two G's on it that are crossing like the chanel C's

http://www.piercemattie.com/blogs/chanel.gif

it's not gucci though because those G's cross from the open part of the G. Anyone know what brand this is??

THE BRAND IS CALLED "CHANEL" I DID READ THE QUESTION. jeeze.

Q: im 16/f
the guy is 17. i really like this guy. he's gorgeous and has a really awesome personality. i normally talk to him in school but a few nights ago we both went to watch a track meet and he smelled like cigarette smoke like, he had just smoked it. i knew he did pot but i actually don't mind that. i never knew he smoked cigarettes because whenever i talk to him in school he doesnt smell like smoke. im one of those people who say "its their life, they can do whatever they want" and i really like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me because he's always trying to make cute jokes around me and hang out but i dont know if i can date a smoker? for anyone out there dating a smoker, and you dont smoke, how do you deal with the smell?

ironically my best friend is going through the same situation with a different guy.

well i make my boyfriend go outside of the house when he smokes and usually he caries gum so i make him chew it or brush his teeth or something before i let him kiss me. you can try asking him to do that?

Q: okay so theres this boy of course haha and we were together in the summer and on the third day of school he broke up with me i thought it was becuase of me and crap and other stuff and i was really taking it hard when we broke up and i was just all over him still and always talking about him but theres his ex friend eric that i recently talked to and he told me that he broke up with me for this other girl and i knew he did all along i just never wanted to belive it but now that girl broke up with the guy i like and hes all alone but he sitll talk to her nd they still like each other...... so what i want to know is why am i sooo angry??? man things like this never bother me!!!! and how can i get him back or at least something to bring him down.....

well im guessing your angry because you really liked him and he left you for another girl, i mean anybody would be upset or angry at that, and as for trying to get back at him.. i wouldn't do it that will just start drama and you don't want to be brought down to his level and look like a jerk so i wouldn't do anything about it make him look like the immature loser.

Q: im 14, turning 15 in june.
i have a mole on my face and i really want it removed. i actually have two. you think that like my dermatologist would let me? and how much does the normally cost.?
thanks

my mom get her mole removed like 8 or 9 years ago and it cost $125 to $150 something like that but it really depends, how big it is, what state you live in and where you go to get it removed..

but as for the person who answered before me... if you get the surgery done right.. they wont "grow" back.. my moms didn't and they shouldn't.

Q: 15/f.
okay so about three weeks ago i broke up with my boyfriend. we had been going out for 4 months [yes, i know that's not really a very long time] but i honestly was in love with him. i had never felt the way i felt with him with anyone else i had ever dated. he is also the first guy i had sex with. which makes it even harder. the last time i saw him & talked to him was on valentines day when we went to the movies. the bad part is, at the movies we ended up making out and everything. he was even walking around holding my hand like we were still going out. ive always told myself that i wouldnt be in a friends with benefits type relationship; because that isnt something i would want to do. since 2/14 i havent talked to him [called, texted, or seen him] at all. i feel beside myself. i dont go out with my friends anywhere anymore because they all think im a slut when they found out about i had sex with him. i really feel like i want to call him but i dont know if i should. maybe the best thing for us both to do is not to talk, but i honestly feel like i cant let him go. should i try and work things out? HELP ME PLEASE.

well if you really love him i would try to work things out.. but why would you brake up with a guy that you love in the first place..?

Q: if i constantly think bout growing up, that rarely i like to go out anymore, and im 5'9 and 135 and still want to look like heidi klum, and im always stressed it may because i have been getting acne but i eat good so why am i breaking out?! someone help..

i dont think you really have a problem, a lot of people like to think about growing up.. and remember that like 1 out of like 309240239482304 people look like heidi klum.. so dont stress about it, and stress can cause acne so if you worried about that try getting proactive or something like that, or just try to not stress out as much.

Q: I'm a 20 year old female. I don't really masturbate often but when I do, I'm fairly certain that I do pee. Once during sex I think its happened as well. I've heard about "female ejaculation" before, but I don't think thats what it is. This liquid has a strong smell and has a yellow tinge. Is it possible that it IS in fact pee?? It feels really good when I do "pee" but I'm thinking maybe I'm really weird... Is peeing during sex/masturbation normal?

yeah I'm pretty sure your peeing ha it should be clear and odorless.. so use the bathroom before you masturbate or have sex it will reduce the chance of you "peeing"

but if you go to this website it tells you more:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm

Q: So I was just wondering, if you're a Freshman in high school and you go out with a Senior, and you two stay together for a while, is that illegal?

its legal but it may not be if you do something with them like sex, depending on your state and age.

Q: im 5'9 and i weigh like 180 pounds. my friends joke around and call me fat, and my brother always picks on me and says im a muffin top. but it really does hurt my feelings ! because well i dont think im "fat" but i have wicked bad love handels. does anyone know an exercise i can do to make the go away fast? thanks!

go to these websites:
http://www.weightlossforall.com/exercise-love-handles.htm

http://www.flat-stomach-exercises.com/love-handles.html

Q: sadly to say, i have no ass. i'm about to be 16, and i still fit in those little kid pants that are size 14. how do i make my butt bigger?? what can i eat or do to make my butt grow. thanks!!!!!!!

go here..
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Your-Butt-Bigger

it tells you how.

Q: My brother is in 7th grade, turning 13 very soon, and has no interest in girls whatsoever. He also cries everyday over little things and is very sensitive, impatient, and self-centered. Is that normal and what can I do as an older sister (I'm 17), or do I do anything?

He is also homeschooled but he does Judo and swimming, so I guess he is a little socialized.

i dont think theres much you can do, once he hits puberty im sure he will start to get interested in girls.

Q: Ok, can anyone send me a link where I could download the FULL south park episode for FREE called ''Proper condom use''

And please, give me links that actually work...
or even better, if someone has this episode on their computer, will you be willing to send it to me over msn or something? :P

Thanks! =]

http://www.southparkzone.com/

go there you can watch like any episode for free

Q: I'm 16 and a sophomore in high school. I know I have tons of time and everything, I just really want to figure out what I want to do as a career. I don't want to go into college having no idea what I'm going to do with the rest of my life.
I want a career where I could help people. I really want to go into social work, but they don't make much. The average is about $40,000 a year, plus you need a masters in social work, so that's about 6 years in college, and making that kind of money, it's not totally worth it. Plus, it's extremely heart breaking. But social work isn't totally out of the picture.
I've also thought about becoming a nurse. I'm not too good at science and math. Do you have to be really good at those to become a good, successful nurse?
I've tried searching for careers like social work, but haven't come up with anything.
I do pretty well in school. I get about a 3.6. I'm not really good in any subject, but I'm not horrible in any, either.
I don't have to have a career that helps people like social work and nursing Those are the only ones I can think of that I'd possibly like. I would just prefer a job that does, especially helping kids. I'd prefer not to work with the elderly. If you have any ideas at all, it would be greatly appreciated!! :)

well you could maybe try being a message therapist? thats what im going to go to school for.. and can work at a clinic or have your own private place and you can decide your own hours and how much you get paid per client and you dont need to be good in any specific subject for that, all you need is a high school diploma and then you go to a school and you get certified in it like i wanna go to CCMT(ct center for message therapy) it kinda sounds what your describing so yeah

Q: i cant pull my foreskin fully back. It seems to be attatched to the head of my penis. This means i cant fully clean it aswell. what do i do?

i dont really have an answer for you but i want to comment on what the last person said.

why on earth would he go see a Gynecologist? he's talking about his penis and foreskin... gynecologists are for girls, and there vagina's haha.

Q: okay, i'm terrible at reading guys but i need help! there's this guy, lee who sits one seat in front of me in math class and he's never really talked to me until just recently. we have mutual aquaintances in the class that sit near us. well, whenever i talk to my aquaintances, lately he's been moving to sit closer to me, i don't think it's just to be closer to the aquaintances because he always talked to them from his original seat all year until now! and he's been directing his conversations more towards me lately. and i sometimes pass him in the halls and we never used to say hi to eachother until last week when he randomly decided to wave and say hi to me. so, someone tell me if he's just trying to be friendly or he's developed a new crush on me. thank you guys so much, i rate high!

PS: also, there was this one time where i was talking about asian girls being cute (i'm an asian girl by the way, haha) and he was like, "yeah, not you, just kidding!" i was just throwing that in because it was unnecassary to say but he said it anyway :p thanks again!

i would say there is a possibility that he has developed a "crush" on you, but the only way to really know for sure is to come out and ask him, or maybe get one of his friends to ask him and then have them tell you or something like that.

Q: well i thought i was over my ex but i went on his myspace after i told myself i wouldnt look at it and he likes this girl but now shes his number one. i knew they were friends and that she probably liked him too but its kind of annoying me now.we havent spoken in weeks and im in the process of getting over the relationship. well i dont think i like him still but theres just all these memories because he was my first boyfriends ever. most of all im mad at myself for looking at his myspace because i know it only hurts me to go on it and i shouldnt have. does anyone know how i should deal with this?
thanks

omg i had like that same problem hah, and my friends all told me that i needed to either block him on myspace or take him off your friends so you aren't tempted to go to it, it actually worked for me but it was really hard to delete him but, it does work.

hope that helped.

Q: well my butt smells really bad. even like right after i take a shower its like that. i've already seen a gyno about it, and he said everything was fine. But do you think other people can smell it. me and my friends sometimes lay down on top of each other if we are like watching tv or something. so i have to put something over me to block the smell. i don't know if i'm the only one that can smell it though. plus, perfume doesn't completely cover it. and i tried putting some on everytime i smelt it, but that made me smell a little cheically from all the perfume. any idea what i can do?? can other people smell it??

hm thats.. diffrent ha well.. try washing it better? or maybe go see a diffrent doctor and get another professional opinion on it.. i dont know anyone who has ever had this problem, but im sure there are other people that have this.

Q: Is it possible that the guys's penis won't fit inside the girl at all? I mean, my friends were fighting about this yesterday and today. And one of them said that happens to girls only if they're, i forgot the word,is to small? And the other girl said that is a "total lie". so who's right? I know, stupid question, but they're both right beside me and they want to know what other people think. haha

a vagina is designed of a penis.. no matter how big the penis is.. it will fit.. might not feel to great... but it will fit.

Q: i've only ever pecked a guy, but just in case...
how do you make out?? i know it will come naturally and all but is there some kind of technique or something? I dont want to make a fool of myself..
Thanks so much

go to this website :]

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Out-for-the-First-Time

Q: Me and my mom are kind of close. We get along soemtimes but not really. I can't go to her for anything. She gets really involved in my sisters life and i think its weird. So i don't go to her for anything. But then she wonders why i don't go to her! I really want to take acting lessons and possibly model. i also kind of want to be in a pagent. i just can't get up the guts to tell my mom this. what if she doesn't think i should? HELP PLEASE!

hm well maybe if you dont want to directly talk to her about it.. maybe you could try hinting it? like say something like "hey mom what do you think of modeling or acting?" or just bring it up casually thats what i do when i need to talk to my mom about something i want.. or want to do.

hope that helped a little bit?