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what does it mean when you guys on here in your profiles say "i don't sugarcoat answers" ?
well whoever it is means that the truth is not necessarily told in a "diplomatic" way... i.e be warned the responses you get from that columnist may be harsh or just blunt as much as truthful....
What is a good digital camera?
I'm at a loss to where to start.
I don't know much about cameras. I'm trying to learn and understand it. I would like my pictures to come out with some distance instead of having the pictures come out up too close. To have a good focus but not so much macro.
I'll be taking pictures of models and I really want the best camera in a range of $500-$800.
I want a camera that won't pick up bad details.. for example skin flaws or perspiration. The camera I have now, picks up the slightest red tone to the skin. I don't want to constantly edit the photos.
Any help? Websites?
i love my lieca dlux3 (about 500-600) for simple day to day unprofessional work!!! i absolutely love it.... leica is known to the world for its professional lenses... they are like the elitest in making them... so to come up with a digicam i was impressed.... however in order to get great pictures i really do believe that a minimum amount of editing is necessary... i have a strong background in photography and i work with both digi and 35mm... if you want something more professional let me know they are much more expensive(rang of 1000s??)
hope this helped!
I'll be 33 in July, am a quarter shy of a degree which I don't really want, won't get me the job I originally wanted and which I still owe a lot of money for and I can't seem to find anything which really inspires me or that I'm passionate about and would also make good money. I guess what I'm looking for is some helpful advice or inspiration...?
i mite bore you to death with this but i'll make it brief.....
my granpops started college at 22 since he had to work his way to get into college... his father wasn't well off... by that time he had my mum and my uncles..... anyway he began his long life career as a lawyer... once he got his bar exam done and received his license he realized he hated it.... so he began his college years again in sciences unsure if he wanted a medical career or an engineering one.. he decided on the first and i swear i never heard him say law was a waste or that he wasted his time... at somepoint he worked part time in both! and eventually he continued with his medical job....
moral of all this?!
its never too late ......... 33 is the new 23... in four years (let alone if they consider the credits you took) you'll graduate at the maximum age of 37... not too bad.. and meanwhile you cud work in whatever it is that you want to try out something crazy like say an assistant travel agent or whatever..... you dont seem like you have a fam or strings attached so go for it while you can!
oh as for careers.... try something you never thot about.... archeology ... cooking... ART and design..... hospitality... diplomacy... dnt stick to the main stream majors... it really limits your options... so think out of zzz box!
hope i help and good luck wichever way you go!
For the past few days I've been having these dreams of this classmate of mine and after three days I start having these feelings for him.My heart dos'ent stop beating and it hurts my chest.Then I realize I might have feelings for him,but I'm scared to death.He do'sent have girlfriend or anything but I'm just scared to know that I might like him but he may not like me.I mean, he do'sent even know me that well and I do'nt know him that well.All we Know is just each others names.I'm really scared of this feeling.
i notice 2 things. your feelings of fear and your fear of the actual outcome.....
lets start with your feelings.... "i'm really scared of this feeling". i understand it can be the crappiest thing on earth wen you don't know what someone else thinks of you when you think the world of them. after all we are afraid of what we do not know. but in the same respect what you don't know can't kill you .... its very normal though to be confused. especially that you sound like a smart rational person... (your sub-conscience connecting to you through dreams and all means you listen to your head more than you heart oftentimes) ..... but sometimes you need to let your gut and emotions tell you what you want... once you face those it wont be as scary.... you'll face it and then use your mind to rationalize.... rejection is a difficult thing to deal with but whats the worst of it...
this brings me to the next point... the guy... its soooo hard to acknowledge your feeling towards someone you barely know let alone to actually tell them... so what i would suggest is that you get to know him a little better.. try to spend more time with him and hang out without being too obvious. just get to know him as a friend.
once you've established that tell him. (it won't be easier... i give you that.... but at least you get to release a huge huge huge burden off your chest) after all it's 50 50 chance he may try to give it a chance in th end and he may not. try noticing his signs (if he's interested) once you get to know him.....
i did that recently and the guy i told was so fine with it even though it wasnt mutual. lol ok this may sound mean but now i have another guy i am madly in love with and who loves me back... only to find that the guy i confessed to harbors new feelings for me... his loss i gave him a chance and i'm happy i told him coz i dnt regret now what cud have been. i can garentee you this though, once i told him i felt like the happiest person on earth it hurt a bit and i was so nervous but he was sweet enough to ignore it and take me out with friends to ease up the tension.... not to bad rite? so go for it!
i have EXTREMELY curly/frizzy hair and i can't find any straighteners that will work in it. Can anyone tell me any good ones (money is not a problem)
THREE LETTERS!
CHI!
lol
my hair is a jungle otherwise
when i am bored i eat. and i'm bored a lot. i'm bored becuase i live in the country and there is nothing to do out here. and most days it's windy or rainy to go outside or its a raging inferno. i hate that i eat so much but it's a way to keep me preocupied. What can i do to stop this?? and i want to go on a diet but i can't stay on it becuase of this boredom thing. it really really sucks and believe it or not it's slowly control and hurting my life. I have no self confidence since this all started. I used to be a skinny minnie but then i got bored with these little things and now i really am over my head and need serious help. please anwer anything you can think of to keep me focused on my diet.
find something your really really passionate about. my cousin is really obsessed with video games and there was a time wen his mum and dad (my uncle and aunt) removed all entertainment facilities from his reach he started eating like mad. soon enough he gained alot of weight... as soon as they gave it back to him he seriously lost everything in a matter of a month!
so i suggest you find something you really love and do it. like read, write, chat, advice (:p), watch movies...etc
it's mostly a bad oral habit so have a pencil or something to chew on when your bored (think of something you use wen your in class) that helps too
good luck!
how many filipinos are the in Black Eyed Peas? Just wondering.
1... allan peneda... their song bebot was in Tagalog too.. pretty cool
when i really like boys, i cant seem to keep a conversation going with them. i really want to, but i just dont know what to say. what are some good things to say or whatever to keep a conversation going with a cute guy you like?
well everyone loves to talk about themselves so ask him about things he does activities hobbies where he goes out to stuff like that.... you should note though that you shud watch out so you dont sound like your interrogating him or sound a bit unsure... try to be casual think of your frnds head on his shoulders to ease you down if that helps just be calm and casual really that works best... after all you want to show him your interested IN him not that you are dying FOR him....
guluck!
what are some reasons for discharge to smell? i know it's not healthy but my mom thinks i'm a hypochondriac and won't take me to the doctor. is there anyway i can help myself without going to the doctor?
well it depends on what you eat the more red meats and dairy the stronger the smell... the more leafy veggies and water you have the less...
if it is a fishy smell it might be some kind of infection or so... if it is sour you probably need to change your hygiene habits abit... wash everyday (get some of those femme toilettier wipes to use instead of public tissue paper when your on the go)... hope this helps! oh and i emphasize the water soooo much what ever you have will clear in a matter of days if its not something dangerous...
what is sambal
to add... it's kind of saucy (usually red coz of all the peppers and chili)....... ah i usually have it with rice and/or randang....
My facebook isnt really working. I can see all of the pages except my home page. The side bar loads, but nothing else does. I've tried getting onto it from different computers, but it still didn't work. Any ideas?
report it to the site administrator..... plus it could be a bug thats going around the site... i had problems logging in the other day and it turned out o be a technical/bug problem they had.... try again at a different time
Well i downloaded adobe photoshop and i wanted to make my pictures like half black and white and half color- like i want me to be in color and the back ground i am in to be in black and white. But i have no clue what i am doing, i just downloaded it and i have not gotten a chance to play with it at all and i need to make this picture in like to day.
Can anyone help me?
Please explain it as smiply as possible.
Thanks in advance.
-Amy
WHAT ARE YOU USING??? MAC OR A PC? i have mac but i think on a pc you should be able to find it try under edit then adjust or so i think its the third or or 4th tab from the left (where it says file at the top on your window) and then go into adjust and fix your saturation......
fair rating ???.... was only trying to help ...
lates
ahhh i've been looking for photoshop everywhere! it's to expensive for me to buy :'(
well anyway what you can do to turn it into black and white is go to the top where it says edit or tools or something at the top and look for saturation... reduce it to get the level of black and white that you need... then play with the contrast to depending on how contrastie you want your pictures to be... hope this helps!
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yarmi
This will be long and I apologize, but it's a long story. I have good grammar, I promise. :] (and yes, this is about a guy)
Me = 18/f
Him = 17/m
Ok, we'll start 2 years ago where it all began. His name is Drew and I forget how I met him hahah. But we had lunch together and we slowly started liking each other. We would feed each other french fries and flirt a lot and everyone kept saying "Why don't you guys just go out?" and we'd just look at each other and laugh. We had an AIM conversation in which we basically told each other we liked each other and he asked me to the Snowball. As it turned out, they cancelled it. :[ And nothing else really happened that year, except the same old flirting. At this point, he usually wore a black t-shirt and jeans and had a longer haircut. Not a lot-long, it was above his shoulders and kinda wavy.
Now we get into last year. I hadn't talked to him all summer and when I came back to school, I was surprised to find that he cut his hair short and kinda spiky and dressed completely preppy. I didn't talk to him much during the first couple of months. Then Homecoming was coming around and I know guys are supposed to ask girls, but I ended up asking him, because we sort of starting talking again (as in saying "hey" in the hallway and stuff). But he already had a date. Obviously, I was a bit crushed and ended up just going w/ 4 of my friends. I got to talk to him once during the dance and got a cute pic of him, but then I left to go hang out w/ my friends. We went out in the courtyard to hang out and eat popcorn and I started crying and saying how much I wanted him. Pathetic, I know, but it was how I honestly felt. After that, we hardly talked much the rest of the year. He was hanging out w/ a different group of friends, but we still had the occasional "hey" in the hallway.
Now the most recent and confusing paragraph hahah. This is this school year. Again, we didn't talk much during the first few months. At the time, I had a boyfriend of 4 months, but we broke up because he told me he was bi, and I wasn't comfy w/ that, if you know what I mean. I'm not a homophobe if that's what you're thinking, it was just weird dating him after that. So almost as soon as I broke up w/ him, I went out w/ another guy, but it didn't last long. I also requested to be Drew's friend on myspace, but we never commented on each other's profiles or anything. Then, out of the blue, he sent me a comment saying "This might sound weird, but I actually kind of miss you". Cute, rite? So we started commenting back and forth and he gave me his number and told me to call him. I did, and for not talking in practically forever, it wasn't awkward at all. He even started talking about the past and how he wondered if we would have dated, had the dance not been cancelled. He got kind of excited and was like, "You wanna go out now?" And we started laughing and then we're like, "Wait, we just started talking hahah". So after that, we texted nonstop for 3 days straight and it was really nice. He told me he had a number of crushes, but that the biggest one was me. I thought maybe we had a chance to go out. Then we started talking about going out and he said that there was only one thing holding him back. And it was because of my friends. A couple of them are gay (a guy and girl) and some are kind of annoying (I'm not the most popular person, but I do love my friends hahah) And he said that his friends made fun of my friends sometimes and he was afraid of what they would say if he went out w/ me. Kind of egotistical rite? Like I said, he had a different group of friends now who were more popular and I guess it got to his head. It pretty much pissed me off, but I didn't say anything, just that I understood. But after that, we stopped talking again. Except when he saw me in the hallway, he would always smile and say "hey". And we gave each other the occassional pic comment on myspace (He always said I was cute and all). That was around December. So from December until the end of April, we would sometimes say "hey" in the hallway and have the occassional nice times when we got to talk for a little bit, like at the school musical (He was in it, and I was an usher w/ some of my friends). Then prom came around (May 4). Near the end of the night, he asked me to dance (I was ecstatic hahah but didn't let it show). It was really nice, but then he had to go, so he gave me a hug said good-bye and smiled. A couple weeks went by, in which not much happened.
Now the final phase of this question. A little less than a week ago, I had a dream about him. To keep it short, at one point, he asked for a hug, so I hugged him and he gave me a kiss on the cheek (a very nice one, I might add ;]). I flipped out, once I woke up and discovered it was only a dream. And now, ever since then, I've been going crazy. It's like my feelings for him exploded, like an exponential growth, if that makes sense. I've been going crazy this past week, crying when I think about him. It's so bad. I have no idea what to do, and even prayed to God about it (although I've got no answer yet). Saturday night, though, we had another "moment" if you want to call it that. I went to the chorus concert, because a lot of my friends are in it. I came in really late, because of work, so I ended up setting against the wall in the back. I watched him and I almost started crying and I couldn't stop shaking. Once it was over, I went backstage to find my friends. I saw the usual, gave them hugs, and told them good job and all. Then Drew saw me and gave me kind of a half-hug and said hi. I went to talk to my friend Sam after that. He came back and hugged me again. And then he said it wasn't long enough and that we would have to do it again hahah. So we hugged a third time and started talking again (needless to say, I can't remember a THING we talked about). So then he left for a bit and came back wearing a viking hat w/ blonde pigtail braids on it. Being weird I guess. So I was like, "Wow.. that's attractive." So we laughed for a bit, but I had to go, so he hugged me again (:D). Today, I had finals, so our schedules were all screwed up, and I never got a chance to see him.
I casually commented him today about the viking hat, and he was online at the time, but never commented me back. :[
So of course, I'm very sad right now. My mom and friends think I might be in love, but I think that's a strong word. All I know is, I REALLY like this boy. It's killing me knowing I'm not w/ him right now. I'm freaking out. I graduate next Thursday. Tomorrow is my last day of finals and Wednesday is the senior's last day of school. I'm afraid if I don't do something now, nothing will ever happen. I'm afraid of not seeing him ever again. I feel like I can't live w/o him. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I tell him how I feel, he'll either not say anything back, or reject me, which I know I can't handle. I can't tell if he likes me or not. I'm pretty sure he does, from the way we texted back in December and some of the things that he said. But he's sending me mixed signals and I have no idea what to think or what to do. Please help me, I don't know what to say to him or what to do. And he's REALLY FREAKING CUTE!! HELPPP!!!
Thanks in advance, sorry this was so long, but I feel like I needed to tell you everything in order for you to understand more. :/ I know I've left things out, but it's long enough already. If you need more info, let me know.
Signed,
Lost and Confused. :/
wow.... i must say you put a lot of time and effort into this ... this guy must be reaaally special.....
anyway.... what i kind of notice from this is that you liked the romance at the bgining... and once it started to die down you began to miss it.... guys don't usually react that way to such situations (we tend to more!)... most of them stay balanced... it doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you (we'll get to that in a min)... i am just assuming you obviously have more for him. you're kind of like me.... lol even with the way you needed to include ALL the details in (hehe my friends roll their eyes when i start.. kidding!) i get real close to a guy friend and we're fine .. then i get feelings when he begins to flirt...and i don't do the first move because i believe he should do it. and at that point it really doesn't matter because i am kind of indifferent... after however, when i know i won't stand a chance or that i've lost it i begin to act madly crazy in love...... and get so caught up when it's too late and so get rejected if i finally do something... so basically i personally think it's too late ... something should have been done from the beginning if you really wanted a relationship... however, it's not to late to say something... at least so you don't regret stuff...
cure?! hmmmm... well what i did... after about 2 or 3 regrets (with diffrent guys) i finally went up to my last crush (he was leaving for good) and told him how i felt and that i want to give it a shot.... needless to say i got rejected.... but he was decent about it and we still hung out... i even made sure we spent all that day and night together so i don't feel awkward and drift (from embarrassment).... we went swimming that day and partied all night then spent the night at a friends...we aren't very close now but we are still friends... and now i am seeing someone amazing..... so good news.... it's not the end of the world.... you're just experiencing what i call the fantasy buildup syndrome.... it'll go away i promise!
the point is......i think you owe it to yourself to at least tell him what you want... you'll either live questioning what could have been.... orrrr you'll live knowing the result of what telling him would mean... who knows it could be a yes... leading to a summer fairytale :)))) hehe
i don't blame you for being confused... your situation is the worst... for even i find myself hung up on it every now and then and at that given moment you become so blurred you can't think straight... what you need to do is consider every solution... your gut is a bit hazy and so is your judgment... listen to both and you won't go wrong.. don't risk things and do what makes you feel good. and think about how you'd feel with every outcome you can imagine... bad? then avoid it....
hope this helps....
guluck!
i want really white teeth? are there any tricks or ways i could get whiter teeth besides using whitening strips?
your dentist should have the lazer/light machine that whitens your teeth..... costly.... but supper effective! my god you'll have teeth that are so white they blind... lol i am not kidding! i've seen the effect!
do any of you know any songs that are good that are kind of along the lines of "i will always love you no matter what"?
i will always love you -- whitney houston?? lol the only one that pops to mind... what kind of genre are you lookin for?
I need new music, I mean i like my music,
What i need is a site that you put in 3 of your
favorite bands, and it comes up with another band
that you might like.
I just can't remember what the sites called.
Heelpp!
well mystrands.com gives you recomendation's on similar songs and bands and stuff... and there was something called last.fm i don't know look the last one up on google to find it... it's basically an online radio and they play you music similar to your taste and stuff so you get introduced to new stuff.... hope i helped.
I went to this restaurant a couple months ago (the kind wherethe chef guy cooks right in front of you) and they served this salad with AMAZING dressing and I've been dying to have it again but since I can't get to the restaurant, I've been looking for the recipe online. But I haven't had very much luck, so I'm coming here for advice! :)
It was kind of creamy dressing, and tasted a lot like soy sauce. I've looked all over the internet for a soy sauce salad dressing but I can't find any that aren't like, vinegarettes.
I don't know how much help that is, but if someone could at least point me in the right direction, i would REALLY appreciate it. Thanks! :)
japaneseeee yum! you had tepanyaki i am guessing?!
ok so i am assuming the salad was an asian salad.......... and since it's japanese i guess it has to be sesame sauce so try this..:
* 3 tbsps rice wine vinegar
* 1 tbsp sesame oil
* 1 tbsp soy sauce
* 1 tsp sugar
* 1/2 tbsp sake rice wine
* 1 tsp grated white sesame
(as you noticed it dsnt have cream in it but the consistency is quite thick)
hope this is it!
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=492908
okay, so i'm definitely going to say no to him, but what EXACTLY should i say so i don't come off as a rude, insincere bitch? i mean honestly, i want him to get the point. so i want to say something like:
look, we've already been through this... i really don't feel that way about you right now. i'm sorry but i can't go with you.
i am getting SO annoyed with this guy!
hun you already know what to do! truth like surgery hurts you knw......
as for what to say just say what you think you'd want to here if a guy was to let you down in a reverse situation.....
don't be mean just be straight forward.... something along the lines of: hey (name) listen we need to talk (sit him down somewhere..... dont touch hand or anything!!!) i really like you as a friend... but thats just it. i really am flattered and i think your an amazing guy but i really like someone else and right now all i could think of is him i am sure you know how that feels.... you should be with someone who shares mutual feelings and so should i and i don't think "us" is it...
i am sorry.... (the only time you are allowed to be physical- give him a hug and leave)
hope i helped
I just got a nose ring. I work at walmart and they said NO facial jewlery at all in the policy rules. Now... I bought a clear ring for it, but I'm scared to put it in. They guy said 6 weeks then I can change it... but I can't wait that long. Is it okay to put a clear one in before its heald and just keep it clean and stuff. Or should I reeealllly wait?
Angelina
angelina i had my eyebrow pierced for about a month or two ( i knw it wudnt stay for longer coz my parents would freak if they saw it!) well anyway during the first week my cousin called and begged that i come visit so i had to travel all the way to her place and stay there for about 2 or 3 days..... anyway you can't hide something as obvious as facial jewelry... in your case your not exactly hiding it you're just making it less noticeable.... i had to REMOVE mine for 3 days and it hadnt healed yet.... lol i am yapping excessively today... what i mean to say, to make a long story short, is that its ok to change it so long as you replace it with something the same size as the current one and also to make sure its extremely sterilized! the wound hasn't healed yet and you don't want to take risks.... i stuck a small piece of fishing line in there and although one end with a scar showed, i convinced everyone it was a weired pimple near my eye :P
gooluck!
I think I'm going through a fit of depression.
I've been looking up symptoms & I literally say yes to every single one.
Here's my little story:
I have a best friend, our parents are friends & we've been friends literally forever. But she's a grade lower so we don't have the same friends.. so I don't hang out with her when I'm with my grade friends.
But that's not what this is about. Just that, she's my only friend, but I feel like I have none.
I talk to all the people at school but.. none hang out with me on weekends/after school. They all have their own friend circles.
All year + last year I've had three best friends [besides the other].
We hung out all the time.
Then, two started hanging out with an older girl & got into drinking & smoking.
Me & the other friend don't do that, so we just hung out with them like on one weekend day & each other on the other most of the time.
But then, they stopped hanging out with that girl.
So randomly, one day, the third friend started smoking & drinking with them.
So now I feel like they don't want to even be my friend. We haven't hung out in weeks, & they never call me.
I'm fine with losing them if they're going to get into that & ditch me for it but.. I have trouble with it because now I have no friends in my grade.
& it's embarrassing.
I already have social anxiety disorder, which is why I suspect depression.
I don't know what to do. Lately I feel so worthless.. I never hang out with friends [besides my one] & it seems like they don't even care, or notice.
I once called one about another's birthday, & I said can I give you the gift at school since you guys don't hang out with me anymore & I see you at lunch.
& she didn't even acknowledge me saying that, she just said yeah sure I think we're having a small party.
So I was like.. okay.. well if you want me to then maybe I can come.
It's just made me so depressed. I feel worthless. I feel like a burden to them, & they don't notice. I'm increasingly angry all the time. I have no energy. I'm always sore for no reason.
What should I do... about the friends/depression thing any advice at all?
sorry for the novel.
hun......... i notice four things you sed that struck me!!
"sorry for the novel"
"IF YOU WANT to then maybe i can come"
"i feel worthless"
"can i give you the gift at school since you guys don't HANG OUT WITH ME ANYMORE AND I SEE YOU AT LUNCH"
honey...... your self esteem is almost invisible! i use to be exactly like that when i was a child.... you don't see it now but you are playing damsel in distress.... first of all you shouldn't throw yourself like that to them or to anyone else... you are worth a million people bowing at your feet! you seem like a smart girl with a good head over her shoulders (right on ya for avoiding the booze and the beer and the cigs!)
second... my grandfather always said he who fears the ghost will always be seeing it...... meaning if you think of something hard enough eventually you'll believe and see it..... YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS unless you want to be.
never go the extra mile..... i use to and still do it at times but i force myself to stop now... y get the girl the present?! they should be the ones that are asking you forgiveness since they ditched you..... honey why did you get her the present? consider their friendship a gift... and its your birthday and the older person who drinks' birthday..... they gave her the gift of their friendship and didn't give it to you.... you're super sweet to get them a gift but honestly you should have been more rude.... sweetness doesn't work with people not of your likes... trust me i should know.... after awhile they will begin taking advantage so watch it.......
stop explaining yourself....... "sorry for the novel" why?!? this is what this site is for.... if you do it with simple things like this i can only imagine other things.... why are you embarrassed about your younger friend.... who cares what people say?1 it's hard i know but i swear to you that confidence is key if people sense the lack of it they will taunt you about her and your friendship... if you stand up with your head held up high eventually no one will care... what do you think happens in college anyway.... age becomes a stupid pair of numbers.... a sign of maturity when you get over it! with you it's just happening earlier :)))))
good luck!
and i know you have it in you to toughen up
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as for the depression if you feel it is very serious i would suggest you visit your family doctor and discuss this with her or him they may refer you to a specialist if need be... otherwise occupy yourself with things like activities afterschool clubs etc.... its a great way to take your mind of things and to meet new people!