hi! i'm xt :) i'm 17/f, from sunny singapore, tiny, and i've loads of loony bins for friends. feel free to ask me stuff on regular teen troubles - school, friends, dating, family, music, cooking, home decorations, fashion, etc. (please refer to my fave categories) however, please do not ask any questions regarding sex as i will not answer them. otherwise, hope i'm able to help you with my advice! :) please leave a name so that i can address my advice to someone, and if you don't want people to see your question leave your email add in the question so i can get back to you privately! :)
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Dear ah ma xtie,
I recently watched "Desperate Housewives" and I find that having a gardener like eva longoria's is very cool. Where do you suggest I get one of my own? Oh, by the way, I don't have a garden. Do I need one? And if so, what kind of plants should I plant? potato? peanut, strawberry? Marigold, Magnolia fresh milk, Daisy hi-lo? do you think sunflowers are sexy?
Love,
Interested (link)
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dear Interested,
firstly i must clarify with you that i am NOT AN AH MA. i'm 17. O_o
on to your questions. i agree that having a gardener like John Rowland is quite exciting, but i doubt you would want to engage in such activity with him. it is morally wrong, ok?
to get a gardener of your own, you could look up your local yellow pages, or search on eBay. i'm sure they have gardeners on auction. :)
well, if you would like to hire a gardener, you would need to have a garden first. the kind of plants you should have depends on the size of your garden and your personal preference. it also depends on the climate of the area in which you live. for more details, i suggest you get your garden, and then consult a landscaping architect or the gardener you intend to hire, as they are the ones with the expertise in this area. whether sunflowers are sexy or not is highly subjective, and to me they aren't.
i hope i managed to help you! :)
luv, xt :)
p.s. Magnolia fresh milk and Daisy hi-lo are types of milk, not flowers.
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you would think that a person with some family background issues would be too troubled to find more reasons to sabotage herself...but i did it again.
i like a classmate, and she sits next to me. she's everything im not. she's perfect...at least in my eyes. i despair of ever being worthy of her. she's everything im not. maybe im desperate to find acceptance and love, or just a form of admiration, i don't really know. i wish i was somebody, or something, that can always be by her side, that she trusts, that can care and protect her as much as i want you. deep inside, i really hope she'll discover how i feel towards her, but then, i know it's wrong and she'll never approve of it.
they say that as long as you're under eighteen such relationships are just teenage infatuations. i don't dare to confide in anyone else, but then, you don't know me as me. i think im sick, but i do fantasize about us being together. i try to concentrate on my work a little harder, im putting in about sixty hours a week at two different jobs, but everything i put effort in i can't help thinking i do my best for her.
thanks for listening,
mich (link)
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Dear mich,
i'm so terribly sorry i didn't reply earlier! please accept my deepest apologies.
well, it takes alot of courage to admit your feelings for your classmate. i'm glad you're able to identify how you feel. :) you sound sort of confused though. i think those of us who have ever liked someone all feel this way. like, you secretly like him/her but you're too scared to let him/her know, right?
i can tell you really want to be at least a good friend to this girl. it's great of you to offer your friendship. :) however, if you feel that this is wrong, and you know she won't approve, then perhaps you should let your love/admiration stay as just friendship. it's always good to be friends. you should try to find out her views on this matter. maybe you could have a talk with her.
you must be really exhausted, with your hectic work schedule and all. i can see that this issue really weighs heavily on your mind. as i'm not a professional, you might want to speak with a counsellor regarding this. you say you don't dare to confide in anyone else, but you just did to me. so, talk to someone. a counsellor doesn't have to be someone you already know. that person can be a total stranger. :)
i wish you all the best and do let me know if you have any other trouble. :)
love,
xt :)
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dear grandma xt,
i know i'm not supposed to ask you questions on sex, but everytime I fill in my particulars and they ask me my sex, I dunno which box to check. Is there a box for in-betweens?
Yours lovingly,
confused (link)
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dear confused,
i'll make an exception and answer your question. you could try ticking both boxes. or drawing your own box labelled "in between" and ticking it. otherwise i suggest you go find out which gender you are, or have corrective surgery done so that you will definitely be of a specified gender on the particulars form.
by the way, i'm NOT a grandma. i'm only 16. and i'm not even married. O_o
luv, xt :)
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i came across your site when i was surfing the net, and i just thought i'll write in. perhaps you, your age being closer to mine, will understand better how i feel.
i'm the oldest in the family, 15, with a younger brother and sister. my parents are arguing constantly. they told me they want a divorce. because they're so rarely at home ive to watch over my siblings, so i keep having to miss school.
my sister is literally retarded. she can't spell apple and she's six. my brother is in the beyond parents control program, he smokes, drinks, and threatens to beat me and my sister up.
last year i had depression and started cutting myself. people just didn't get it. im not acting out. im thinking of quitting school and starting work. what is your advice? what do you think? please reply.
mich (link)
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dear mich,
thanks for writing to me :) it appears that you are shouldering a heavy emotional burden, and it must be tough on you. you are doing great by holding on so far. :) your family problem is of extreme severity, and i see why you were driven to cut yourself. but, please don't hurt yourself. there are ways to work it out.
you mentioned that you want to quit school and start work. how are you doing in your studies? if you are a good student, wouldn't it be a waste to give it all up? even if you're not top in class or anything, i feel that an education is important. why not try to finish high school first and then see what happens? at least you'll have some qualifications that will aid you in getting a job.
as for your family problem, i would really like to help you, but as i have no experience whatsoever, i feel that i am not qualified to give you proper advice. thus, i suggest that you seek the advice of a trusted family friend or a teacher, or even a counsellor. getting professional help will enable you to work out the problem and make life happier for everyone.
meanwhile, hang in there and remember, you should not cut yourself. there is no need to inflict more pain on yourself, ok? all the best. :)
luv, xt :)
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my friends say my hair is like barb wire. they say there isnt a difference between my hair and pubic hair! i admit that my hair is poofy, but i dont think it's THAT bad. they keep telling me to rebond it but i dont wish to as it would kill my hair cells and make my hair lose its lustre and bouncy effect. please help me!
Renee (link)
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dear renee,
there are other things to do with your hair besides rebonding. you could try experimenting with curling tongs/flat irons to straighten your hair/curl it back. there are many hair products available that won't damage your hair, but instead help to protect it. try using brands like l'oreal. this way, you can alter your hairstyle as you like, and still keep your original 'do. makes for more flexibility than rebonding which will last for awhile. :)
you could also opt for an afro. since your hair is "poofy" and "bouncy", it would seem like an ideal style to try. however, you should take into mind the size of the afro.
hope i helped! :)
luv, xt :)
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my friend says i emit bisexual frequencies. how? i am very disturbed. furthermore, he is gay but keeps hitting on me. oh nooooossssss. i'm a 16 year old straight girl btw. byeeee! (link)
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dear miss bisexual frequency emitter,
why does your friend say so? are you disturbed by your friend's comment, or are you just disturbed? if he is gay but hits on you, then he isn't gay, but bisexual. maybe that's why he says that about you. you can choose to take it as a source of amusement, or just ignore him. as long as you like ONLY guys. :)
luv, xt ;)
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I need help for what kind of make-up I should wear. I have light skin, blue-green eyes, and darkish blonde hair. Like what kind of eyeliner ect. Thanks! (link)
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hey there!
wow, you sound like a supermodel! to play up your light-skinned features and beautiful eye colour, i would suggest a dark-coloured eyeliner, like smoky brown or black. try going for the smoky eye effect to emphasise your eye colour. to offset the dark nature of your blonde hair, you could wear some very pale cheek colour, probably nude shades. to top it off, wear some light pink lip gloss. i'm sure you'll look fabulous! :)
hope i helped! :)
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#@!RY gEr GeR (link)
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dear #@!RY gEr GeR,
consider yourself blessed to have such an abundance of hair. look around you, so many people, especially men, wish they weren't balding. you must be sad about your friends teasing you, but it could be because they are jealous.
you mentioned some measures you took to remove your hair. do they work at all, or just for a short period of time? if they work for awhile, you could try doing a tie-up with a wig manufacturer. don't let your hair go to waste! let other people enjoy the experience of having hair. as for the sensitive areas like your chest, i think the only way would be to have it waxed regularly. if you do so, you should be able to remain less hairy, and enjoy swimming. plucking is too tedious, and shaving would only make the hair coarser. therefore waxing should be the safest. however if these measures do not work, you might want to consult a trichiologist (is that how you spell it?) and consider having surgery done.
as for your weight, you could try following an excercise routine and going on a healthier diet. i'm sure you will look and feel better after that. :)
don't be sad, i'm sure you'll be able to find a guy who accepts you for who you are. :) take care!
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lUrVvEsS,
xIaOaNtZ~~ (link)
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dear xIaOaNtZ~~,
thanks for writing back! :) it's nice to know that you took my advice. it's good that you found out why he broke up with you - you nibble your toenails. well, it's not exactly very hygienic to do so, seeing that your feet have contact with the floor nearly all the time. so you might want to consider giving up your nibbling habit. biting your toenails makes them look ugly anyway. you could trying going for a pedicure. that way, you won't bite them cos you won't want to ruin your pedicure. this pedicure will also make your feet look prettier, and which girl wouldn't wanna look good for her guy?
please don't be heartbroken. you could try asking your bf to patch up when you've given up your habit, things just might work out! :) if they don't, then i guess your bf doesn't treasure you. you'll be better off with someone else then.
good luck! :)
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dear ms xt, i have fallen for a girl in my school but i am not sure if she likes me! we are pretty good friends and she used to drop subtle hints about liking me too. Unfortunately i never had the courage to tell her the truth, so i guess she's moved on already. ive tried to move on myself too, magnifying her flaws to convince myself that i really should not like her. for a moment, i really psychoed myself to believe that she is such an ah lian who talks loudly and is ugly. i even hooked up with another girl in order to forget her. but whenever she calls me up the sound of her voice just makes me melt inside again. i cant seem to forget her! what should i do??
l0st bo! (link)
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dear l0st bo!,
ah. who doesn't know the feeling of liking someone but not knowing if that person likes you back? firstly, how do you know that she's moved on already? has she got a boyfriend right now? (let's call her A for convenience) secondly, are you still with the girl that you hooked up with? if both you and A are currently unattached, now might be the time to tell her how you feel! since she dropped hints that she likes you, it's obvious that the feeling is mutual! if you feel awkward telling her in person, you could try doing it over msn or the phone. if she rejects you, you can still remain friends with her like in the past.
however, if either or both of you are attached, it would not be advisable for you to go after her, as that would be cheating on your girlfriend, B. however, your hooking up with B to forget A isn't really fair to B as she is being taken for a substitute. don't despair though, you and B might develop real feelings for each other with time. if you feel B isn't suitable for you, you should end it as quickly as possible to avoid hurting B more.
it's good that you took steps to forget A, but since she is your good friend and calls you up regularly, it would be difficult to do so. you mentioned that "the sound of her voice just makes me melt inside again". i think that means you still have feelings for her, right? you must be feeling quite furstrated right now. do try to remind yourself that she/you is attached (if she is) and it is morally wrong to covet another person's treasure. you can still remain good platonic friends. remember, don't despair. there are many girls in this world. i'm sure that if it doesn't work out for you and A/B, you'll find your miss right someday. :)
take care and do update me on how it's going okay? good luck! :)
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Dear auntie xt,
I can never remember today's DATE. how?
yours lovingly,
olensenile
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btw, is this column to ans real qns or fake ones?
and can pple pls leave their real and fake names? thanks :)--chello (link)
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dear olensenile,
thank you for asking me a question. however, i am still reasonably young and do not fulfil the requirements of being an auntie. to counter your problem of trying to remember the date, you could try writing the date on your hand every morning. however, as that might wash off, you could try tattooing it on. you will eventually run out of space on your body, so that is not very advisable. i guess the best method would be to carry a little calendar around in your pocket and tick the day off every night so you can keep track of the date. good luck! :)
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dear chello,
this is a proper advice column with proper answers to the questions posed. i do agree with you and hope that everyone will leave a name (real or fake) when they ask a question. thanks!
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hi i'll just like ask if button mushrooms taste good when their barbequed? my friend says i'm crazy but i really love bbq food! and i lvoe button mushroom too! so will it be tasty?
from
amanda hugginkiss ( not a man that hug and kiss sheesh!) (link)
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dear amanda,
thanks for being the first person to leave your name here. it's nice to have a name i can put the persona to. anyhow, i myself haven't tried bbqing button mushrooms before, but seeing that they do taste good when stir-fried, which i presumes has a similar effect as grilling/bbqing, i would say you can try bbqing them. however, canned button mushrooms might be more risky than fresh ones. i really can't guarantee the taste of the mushroom, so you'll have to try it out and let me know! have fun! :)
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ermm i'll be meeting my boyfriends parents like tommorow? and i have NO CLUE OF WHAT TO DRESS!! AHHH!! i have this pink mini skirt that i love
alot! like literally! and i thought of matching it with this hot pink spaghetti strap but then i'll look like a pink panther! but i really like it!! i just love pink sooo soo much! but i don't think josh parents would like it. i thought of wearing my last year prom dress from sixth ave, this black gown but then again, their just inviting me over for dinner at macdonalds. don't you think it'll be a little out of place? or should i wear this white tube top along with that pink mini skirt of mine? would it focus attention on my big boobs or something? AHH HELP ME! or maybe i should just wear this orange top and a pair of jeans? but would that look too casual? because josh parents own are quite well off and i do not want them to look down on me=( HOOOW!!! (link)
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hey there josh's gf!
wow, so you're finally meeting his parents huh? :) of course, which girl wouldn't wanna make a great first impression? i am assuming that you are a girl. well i do agree that wearing a hot pink spag top with a pink mini is a little too much pink... perhaps you could tone it down a little. wearing your black prom gown isn't really appropriate as you stated the dinner venue is mcdonald's. as the atmosphere there is casual, i would suggest you dress simply, but you don't have to compromise style.
as you mentioned, you are well-endowed and do not wish to focus attention on that. for that, i suggest you wear a dark coloured top, such as black, which is always an "in" colour. since black matches everything, you can then wear it with your favourite pink skirt. this would show off your feminity in a subtly elegant manner. alternatively, your suggestion of wearing an orange top with jeans sounds good too. it would not be too casual as the dinner is at macs. bootcut jeans are stylish and i believe that his parents will not look down on you. as this is just a simple dinner, don't worry too much about how you look. bowl them over with your charm and grace instead! of course, a great outfit always helps.
good luck!
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It gets really hot and sticky in the summer sometimes, what is the best way to combat stickyness when you are out?? also...what shoes should you wear with a long bright coloured skirt?? (link)
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hello!
hmm. one of the ways to counter the humidity would be to wear light coloured, thin cotton tops as these are cooler and don't absorb heat as much as dark coloured, thick tops. you could also wear sleeveless shirts, tank tops, etc. another way would be to use anti-perspirant. apply before you go out and reapply every few hours just to be safe. hope that helps. otherwise, just have a nice huge scoop of ice-cream - it solves all problems! :)
as for footwear to match a long bright coloured skirt... it depends on the top you're wearing with it and the occasion. i am assuming your long skirt is the flowy gypsy sort? if it's a formal occasion, strappy high heels would add height and balance the volume of the skirt. the colour of the heels should be a neutral colour like black to emphasise the colour of the skirt. if the occasion is casual/fun, i would suggest wearing those greek flat leather sandals in earthy tones like light brown. it would complement the skirt and contribute to the bohemian chic effect of the outfit. match with a plain white top and some chunky necklaces or earrings and you'll look awesome! :)
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i BeRiIi bEriI sAdx yU kNoEsXx!! wHaTt i dOoO... tELl mEe ^_^ (link)
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hi!
you didn't leave your name but that's okay. well, i am first going to assume that you are a girl okay? :)
i'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend broke up with you. it seems like you treasure him very much. have you tried asking him to specify retarded in what manner? however, i must first warn you that in doing so you might inflict more pain and hurt on yourself, finding out why he doesn't want to continue this relationship.
i understand that you must be feeling miserable right now. that is inevitable in a break-up. perhaps you should take some time to cool down and reflect on what went wrong? or maybe you should just forget about this relationship, if you feel that your boyfriend is not worth another try. time will heal the pain. :)
i hope i managed to help you, do write back and update me on how you're doing! :)
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