Hi my name is Chelsey and I've been through a lot in my life. I live in Branford Connecticut, and I'm 13 years old. Even though I'm young that doesn't mean that I haven't been through a lot. Everyday is a struggle, and i like to feel that i'm not alone and I wish that someone was there to help me get through the tough times and confort me. Thats why I like to help. Also ever since i was little I was usually the advice giver to my friends and I always gave them good advice so I hope to help more people in the world. When i grow up I hope to be a councelor for teens because teens usually go through the most dramatic things. Also just to let you know I used to cut for you cutters out there and I've done a lot of other things. I know that these days a lot of teens think self harm is normal and theres nothing wring with it but it is TOTALLY wrong and that why I'm here to try to help some of you people stop. I've helped a lot of people in the past. Also I've been through a lot of family roblems since I was little. Including my dad and other family member's making me feel like nothing. I've also been through a lot of unwanted sexual contact. So for you boys and girls out there that have been raped or moulested I'm here for you. As most teens know a lot of depression problems are caused by relationship problems and I've been through more of them than I can count, I know how hard they are and how much you cry and cry you can't bring them back. Or you just don't know what to do when theres a problem. Also my mom she has a disease that makes her not feel good at all, all the time,and there is NO cure for it. So i kind of know how it feels not to have a mom because she's not like normal mom's. So if you need advice i'm happy to give you some to the best ability that I can.
~*Thank you*~
Gender: Female
Location: branford,CT
Age: 13
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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this? (link)
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.:crying!!!:. OMG that is so sad!!!i feel so bad for you! you are not a bad person!!! DON'T YOU EVEN THINK THAT!!! You are a great person! and don't think he hates you because he doesn't he loves you and you and me know it! if he didn't love you he wouldn't of let you know in that note that he loved you before he comited suicide!!And you have every right in the world to e upset! but don't worry things will slowy start to get better it won't be that bad forever.Just remember he's looking over you and he will protect you from everything.He loves you with all his heart and he wouldn't want you to cut anymore if you still do. Because he just wants you to be happy and not miserable. I just wish you the best and that you'll heal! If you need anyone to talk to, to comfort you at all i'm here you can IM me on xoXCoNfUdLeDXox (on AIM)... much love
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um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
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Hey yea i know it's hard to hide cuts. well you can put fondation over it it usually works. just brong it to school and make sure you put it on a couple times a day. Also it it's on your lower arm near your wrist you can wear a lot of bracelets i also did that and no one noticed. but if you don't do something to hide it i would be worried. I wish you the best!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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hi im 15 and every night and morning i have an itch 'down below'. and it wont go away. its really annoyin me and i darent tell my mom.
please help...what can i do?! xxx (link)
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You should go to the drug store and buy something called cortozone cream...(sorry i don't know how to spell it). But that will work it will go away faster and it will take away the itch and pain.Hope i helped!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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hi, it's very weird...I think I'm happy now. It's been a week that I think my life miraculously became better. My relationships with my friends and family improved..But my dreams are the same: sad, dark, disturbing. With common themes like: mean men, men who treat me like only a sex object or have lust for me, rejection and abandonment, not being good enough, and death or running away....I've been having bad dreams since I was a child (5 yrs old?) and lately, 18-20 yrs old the dreams became more clear, vivid and the frequency of bad dreams increased.
I've been reading self-help since I was 16, and now I'm already 20, and it helped a lot, but I think it is not enough to solve my "issues" which clearly manifests in my dreams?
So, what do you think should I do to resolve my issues? what makes it hard is they are all in my "unconscious" mind so its hard to uncover them in the first place..or, maybe I haven't read the "right" book yet, if that's the case, what book should I read? (link)
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hey i think you should go to a theripist or a councelor to talk about these dreams your having. Because my friend read something online that when you have dreams like that it has to relate to something in your life or something around you. You should pay close attention you never know it might mean something important! But then again it might be nothing. Well i hope i helped at least a little bit!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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ok so my birthday was like a month ago..i started planning my sweet 16 but couldnt do it the date i wanted because one of my good friends is having hers that day. I was ok with that and decided to wait until June because my aunt who works there said i can get a deal this one weekend. I checked with everyone to make sure i didnt interfere..my one good friend is having hers the day after mine..im having mine on a friday. Today she asked me if i can change mine because she was talking to her mom and her mom doesnt like the idea because she said it will be hard for people to go to to parties in one weekend. She asked me to change mine because she cant change hers. I was like WHTA? her dad works at the firehouse (thats where shes havin hers) and i know she could probably change it if she feels that way. Every weekend there seems to be a sweet 16..i have to wait 2 1/2 months after my actual bday to have my party..so i think ive sacrificed enough. I dont mean to sound stubborn or anything..its just im sick of accomadating others...plus i can get a good deal on the catering that friday night..and i have double header softball games on saturdays..between everyone elses parties,plays for the schools,and talent shows,this is my open date and i dont wanna change! do you agree? how should i say this to her (link)
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hey just tell her the truth explain to her that you don't really feel like changing and also it's not just that it's also that you can't because your so busy. and it's not fair because you have already sacrificed you bday party. Also ask her why would it be hard for people to go to 2 parties in one weekend?They would probably like it. I know i wouldn't mind!!!Well i think you should just still have your party the day you planned. i hope i helped!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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there's this guy that i like and i haven't told him that i like him but i'm not the kind of person that really does that. Well, over spring break the guy went on a cruise and today he had pics of these 2 girls that he met that were drop dead gorgeous. He kept talking about one of the girls and how they were gonna take him on a cruise next year and how he might move to indiana to be with one of them and i know that he can't have been serious because he only knew them for a week and i know he was just trying to get me and my friend to be jealous but then he kept being all like a jerk and it pissed me off. But i still like him. Its so hard because i really like him but he can be such a jerk sometimes. He can be a showoff and stuff but he's my friend. I don't know. I don't wanna tell him i like him because then he will be like all weird and maybe be disgusted. I don't know. Help me! (sry its so long) (link)
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I really think you should tell him because if he's trying to make you and your friend jealous why would he want to do that if he didn't like you a little bit?I just think that he might like you should tell him. And i don't mean you have to tell him face to face. You can have a friend ask him what if you liked him what would you think about that?....like ask quetsions like that. or you can ask over IM or something. Well i hope that helps a little!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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ok...all my friends have their boyfriends and all this stuff and they always want 2 do something with them and it makes me really upset to see them all have someone they like except me. Everytime they ask me to do something with all of them i will say mmm.... im not sure! and they will get mad at me...
how can i tell them so they wont get mad at me?? (link)
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Just tell them the truth. Tell them that it makes you upset that they care for someone other than you. Also that it hurts you because you don't have a boyfriend and all of them do. Maybe you can go boyfriend hunting. But i think that you should atleast try to go out with all them and see how it goes before you complain about it you never know you might like it. But yea i know it's kind of depressing that everyone else has a boyfriend and you dont. But don't worry you'll have a boyfriend soon it just takes time. You never know it might be for the best because relationships are hard!Well good luck and if you need any other advice i'm here.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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Ok there is this girl that i have been best friends with for about two years. we arn't as close anymore because of fights. but ever since i met her i like, loved her. i cant get her out of my head. although im young (13) i know this isn't immature love. everyone seems to think im crazy because no matter how many times she breaks me, i still love her. i have been with her before, but... im not over it. i miss her so much. but the thing is, now, whenever im somewhere and she comes along. i wish she never came and just went home. but yet, i still feel the same way about her. and im not sure what i want completly. at the time, the thing is that i dont know how to get her out of my head. im starting to really lose consentration. im doing worse in school and im always sad. if anyone can please help me. i know its hard since i cant really ask a direct question... but try. i really miss her.. (link)
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hey wut i think you should do is talk to her and tell her that you like and and you never know after that she may start to like you or even better she might already like you. But i don't really exactly get it how you said that when she comes along you wish she didn't. maybe it's because you don't want to get heart broken because you think that she doesn't like you but you don't know that until you ask her or tell her how you feel. I wish you the best! JUST REALLY TALK TO HER ABOUT IT!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months. We're really close and i love him soo much. We hold hands.. hug.. stuff like that but weve never kissed. Hes told me he wants to kiss me and ive told him i want to kiss him.. only we never do. Im waiting for him to make the move but he gets nervous really easily. Im starting to wonder if theres more to it than nerves. Let me know what you think... Should i just go ahead and kiss him even tho id feel weird? Thanks! (link)
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hey, i don't think you should kiss him if you feel weird if it's you first time because think about it it's your first kiss and you wouldn't want to waste it if it wasn't a true kiss. But if you have kissed other guys before i think it's ok to kiss him because it's not that bog of a deal. well good luck!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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Hey, um, I used to go out with this dude and like we loved each other a lot. When we broke up it hurt like shit loads and like I still love him. But I hide it from all my friends and everything. I still have dreams about him and I can't stop thinking about him. Like long story short, I still love him like a lot. I've told many people that I have gotten over him and that I love someone else and whatever. But truth is I haven't. How can like how can I forget about him and just move yet like just be friends with him. Because everytime I try to get over him, but like the next time I see him I fall for him again. How can I just look at him as a friend rather than as a boyfriend or as a crush? How can I move on?
Signed, Troubled Child (link)
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I SOOO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!! i just went through the same thing not too long ago. it sicked so bad and it was so hard!what you should try to do is like someone else. thats what i did. and i got a boyfriend out of it. now i am totally over the boy that i used to like and i'm just his friend. and if that doesn't work u think you should talk to him about your feeling and see what he thinks, that might help you too. well tell me what happenes and if you need any other advice you can just E-mail me at sheri06405@netzero.com .
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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So, i like this guy that i've liked in the past. We spent alot of time together over the summer of *04 and we got to know eachother. We snuck out at like 2 once and hooked up. Slowly, we stopped talking. We started talking again in January, and now were all flirty again and i think I like him again. But my bestfriend called him me "hook-up buddy" and i guess we are. But i still like him, alot.
I dunno what to do about this bc I mean I like him but at the same time i cant, i dunno why though, please help
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hey i really think that you should talk to him about your feeling and u never kno he might feel the same way about you. And if he does i think you two should go out, because it sounds like you really like him and since u guys hooked up then i think you should go out.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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well for the past couple months i have been really sad and drepressed! i dont know whats wronge with me....i like havent been feeling like doing anything but sitting around and i've been crying alot for no reason....i have also cut my self...i dont know if is drepression or what? please help!!! (link)
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I realy think you should tell a close friend or your parents theymight be ale to put you on medication to make you not be depressed.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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