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My husband is a sweet guy but sometimes I think he has his priorities mixed up. He was going to bring his friend flowers for her B-day, which I was fine with, but he found out she is having a few stressful problems and now wants to give her a spa package, which is like $60-$80. We are not poor, but money is a little tight, we already went to an expensive dinner with her, isn't that enough?
I would never spend that much even on my family. What makes me mad is that he is so determined to do something nice for her, but he wouldn't go out and get his mother a card for Mothers Day. Or for Valentines Day I got flowers a week before just because, but on the actual day, I was home sick with the flu and I got nothing, and we never did anything later. I know his heart is in the right place, but I wish he would put the people that really love him up higher on his priority list. Am I being selfish, or jealous, or am I right to be upset?
As a woman and his wife, you have every right to be upset. It has been my experience in situations like these that men like to show off. I think he is trying to show her what a caring man he is and is not realizing the message he is sending to you or any other women that holds priority in his life. Tell him to cut out the nonsense!
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It doesn't seem like we have touched on this subject much. I know how contravercial it is...so please dont pass judgement on me. I want advice not a lecture. 2 years ago on Aug 8th I has an abortion. I was 7 weeks Pregnate. I strugle every day with the descion i made. This time of year is the worst though. I had no support from anyone who knew including the scumbag who I had sex with. I mad a rash descion. And to this day I know it was the wrong one. It was increadably selfish. I had more options but I took the easy way out. I should have taken responsibilty for my actions and I didn't. With all that said, my quetion is...what are my chances of being able to conceive a child again. Are they less...or does it make it more difficult becuase of the abortion. Please let me know any info or websites you may know of that can help me. Thanks for your help ! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
If the procedure was done properly, there should be no problems. I would advise you to go to your GYN to make sure everything has been expelled and your system is clear. Also, you made a decision and no one has to live with it but you. Stop beating yourself up over this. You cannot undo what has been done but you can move on and make a decision not to do it again (if that is what you want). Believe me, my sister had the same reservations when she did it over 20 years ago. She got past it and never did it again. No one should blame you for making a decision you had every right to make.
I am 23 years old. I just moved to California from Alaska with my boyfriend. The problem is, i do not think i love him. I am still in love with my guy friend back home. I am very unhappy in my current realtionship. I told him i wanted to go back home to Alaska. He agreed, but i am afraid once we get there, I will not want to be with him anymore. I want to be happy. My guy friend back home loves me also and i know that he would be with me and we would be happy but i do not want to break my boyfriends heart. What do i do to make this easy for us all?
You can't make it easy for everybody. You have to tell the truth or everybody will be unhappy. In the long run the truth will come out. If you tell your current b.f. now, he will probably stay in California. Remember, you can't go forward based on a lie, everyone loses.
One of my friends said that her parents thought people who attempted suicide or thought about killing them selves were crazy- and i said that i thought that to, and then my friend said that when people have depression they cant help it so they just kill them selves..i didnt believe it..but is it true that you cannot control ur self when ur depressed? i mean isnt there something u can do about it --HelP * i RaTe hIgH
People experiencing some forms of depression act out before seeking help. They are NOT crazy and they CAN seek help before depression gets the best of them. Remember, as long as there is life, there is hope. HELP can be sought from counselors, your churches, your schools, your parents. There is help for depression. You must first seek it. Remember, YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS...SEEK HELP!
ok i've posted before about how i like my bff guy friend. and i thought he liked me back i mean flirt totally and he always talks to me on aim and everything was going great! and then his sister tells me he likes his old girlfriend again. i have nothing against his old girlfriend (besides the fact i like him.) i mean i really really like this guy. more than any other guy i've liked before. what should i do?
leave him alone and like someone who is not your BFF GUY FRIEND.
This might sound a lil weird.. but im 15 and i was wondering when is the best age to start having sex?
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I have been in a relationship for a long time. I recently discovered that my girlfriend wants to bring another woman into our sex life...what should i do??? I realy care about my girlfriend i wonder if it would ruin what we have???
Did you ever think that she wants to bring another woman in for herself? I say if you don't mind and she wants to.... :)
We are constantly getting into petty arguments, that escalate until he is angry and I am upset, sometimes to the point of tears. He blames me, saying I go on too much about things, and I blame him because I feel he doesn't listen or respond to anything I say, or he belittles me and my point of view. He says I belittle him too. I don't really know where to begin but to explain what happened today. We were going out to lunch with our 5-year-old daughter and as we were leaving, he suggested a fish and chips restauraunt called "Tugboat". At first, I agreed, but after we got in the car I said "I really don't feel like fish and chips. Can we go somewhere that has other choices?" I don't recall if he even responded. So I suggested three fast-food places that have fish and chips and other choices as well. He said "I don't want to eat fast food, " in this very hostile tone of voice like I was stupid for suggesting it. I went on to explain that there are heathly things he could get there too, like salad, and that the place he wanted to go was fast food and not healthy anyway. He did not acknowlege my valid point and continued to make negative remarks. He said that he didn't want to eat salad. I said ok then, but they have fish and chips, which is what you said you wanted." Then he got more angry and denied that he said he wanted that. I pointed out that the restaurant he wanted to go to only served that and little else. I explained again that I was just trying to be fair and pick a place we would all be happy with. He just told me to shut up and that he wanted to go home. I couldn't figure out what he was so upset about. Maybe I overexplained my point of view, but I was getting no response from him. At one point, he drove to one of the fast-food places I suggested and said in a very nasty tone "Here is the place you wanted to go. Are you happy now?" No, I wasn't, because I didn't like his attitude, and I said "If you don't want to eat here, just tell me where you'd like to go?" He refused to answer, so I angrily got out of the car and started to walk away, telling him he was being a jerk. I ended up getting back in the car and he told me I was a psycho. I said I wouldn't be acting like this if he didn't treat me like my ideas were stupid, and refuse to tell me where he wanted to go. We then went through the drive-thru of another restaurant, three times, and he kept getting out of the line because I was upset and wanted to talk to him about how I felt. Our daughter was really hungry, as was I, and was getting really upset. Finally, we ended up at a nice restaurant and I calmed down enough to go in, and we had a good lunch, but barely talked. I was still upset and angry. All this took about a hour of wasted time driving around. He still never acknowleged that he was wrong to not respond to me when I asked him where he wanted to go. He did apologise for belittling my suggestions, though, and I admitted that I tend to go on about things, but only if I feel that he is not understanding or acknowledging me. I know that I'm partially responsible for these petty arguments. but I don't know how to change this destructive pattern. My husband just wants to "drop it" and it never gets resolved. We argued about this and many other petty things over and over again and I just want it to stop. I love my husband and I know that he loves me, but sometimes it feels like we are enemies at war, and this is not a good example for our daughter. Also, I am 4 months pregnant, and the stress is not good for me or the baby. Help! And please don't suggest divorce. I am determined to do whatever it takes to save our marriage. Please tell me objectively what each of us is doing wrong. Thanks
The problem here is, you both let things go without resolving them. When there is a problem and no resolution is come to, that problem stays open and is added to and added to until someone literally explodes. There is more here than a misunderstanding about dinner reservations. You 2 have been having disagreements and not resolving them. Just letting them go to the back of your heads. Out of sight but not out of mind. You need a third party intervention because you cannot handle this yourselves or else you would have. Also, this is not healthy for your little daughter as well.
Ok, I'm 13 and I get really bad depression. I've had it for like over a year now. I forgot what its like to actually have true happiness. And I know most teens go throug this, but mines pretty severe. Like I never want to do anything anymore, I just dont care, I hate life, And most of the time I just feel like dieing. And like ver since I got it, its screwed up my life. I lost all my friends and havent really had any in like a year. It seems easy when people just say "start making new friends" or "find an activity you like doing" or try to be happy or whatever, but its so hard. I don't know what to do about my depression. Please help?
Have you talked to your parents about this? Is there a situation that happened around the same time you became depressed? There is something that triggered this and you need to speak to someone in an authoritive role about this. Go to your parents, guidance counselor, minister. They will help you get over this depression.
the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :(
NO,NO,NO! IF you do this, you will regret it!Why would anyone put a person in this position? You are worth a lot more than this! LOSE YOUR INTEREST IN HIM INSTEAD OF YOUR VIRGINITY TO HIM!
me and my boyfriend give each other oral every now and then. well he recently mentioned something about me shaving my pubic hair. he said it would be sexy and easier to perform oral on me. i dont know if i should, it would grow in thicker and darker and id have to shave it all the time. i wouldnt mind it tho probably... what do you think ?
If you shave, it'll grow back faster and it will itch when it first begins to grow in. But, since you say you both give oral, it will keep the hair out of his mouth and be more pleasant.
My suggestion to you is, if you do decide to get rid of your hair, shave it very low but not off. Get the rest of it off by waxing because this will slow down the growing process and it will prevent IN GROWN HAIR which will look like razor stubble!