I love helping people. I've always been a good listener and people often come to me for advice.
I am a married mother of 5 children 11 yrs-27 yrs.
2 are step-children in case you checked my age, I didn't start when I was 12 :)
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Location: Vancouver, Canada
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Age: 39
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One of my friend is late in her periods always ,please tl me y its like that and what should she do to become correct periods (link)
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Nothing to be worried about. Many women, especially young women have irregular periods. Tell her to talk to her doctor about it. She can take birth control pills to force the cycle to regulate but you don't want to take them if you don't have to.
Also, the doctor may want to check her blodwork for anemia or low iron in the blood as sometimes this can cause irregularities.
Hope this helps.
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So I started hanging out with a guy last October. We talked all the time (actual talk not text) and spent a lot of time together. He bought me an expensive watch and everything for Christmas. He is a pretty tough guy so he isn't always expressive about his feelings. But I digress. He was always comfortable when I was around and I pride myself on being attentive and loving. I even mentioned that I liked that he was so relaxed with me. It was almost as if it scared him to care so much because he just stopped calling and answering my calls. When I tried to find out what was wrong he said nothing was wrong and that there was nothing wrong with me. He pops up at my house to surprise me and if I say I'm done trying to figure him out he gets mad. I feel like a fool because I care so much about him and he acts like he cares about me but he is so hot and cold. Should I just give up on a real relationship with him? And if not how do I fix things? (link)
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Have you ever read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? It's great.
One thing I've learned over the years is that people do not communicate their feelings in the same way. The fact that he feels comfortable with you, spent lots of time talking and being with you and bought you a nice gift tells me that this guy really likes you. It sounds like he is afraid of feeling too much. It's possible he's been hurt in the past by someone he cared about either a girlfriend or family member and doesn't want to go through that again.
My advice would be to actually take your own advice and stop trying to figure him out :)
Try not to tell him with words how you feel about him. He seemed comfortable with you showing him through your attentiveness and loving actions toward him. Keep that up. When he shows up unexpectedly just show him that you're happy to see him. Enjoy the time you have with him and eventually he will be comfortable enough that he'll start opening up about his feelings.
If you know that he prefers to communicate without words then you will learn to interpret the things he does for you or the way he acts with you as his way of saying he cares.
Hope this helps. Good luck :)
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A few days ago I went to sleep over my grandmothers house (Im going to sound like a crazy person right now, but whatever), Around 5 am I was laying on her couch and I started to hear somebody talk to me in my head. There was something I was feeling guilty about that time and that voice told me that he forgave me and that it was alright and I thought it was God at first. But after a while that voice became really annoying and when I started to doubt if it was God it became really scary. I would feel really heavy and started to hear more voices talking. I was in total panic because I had heard scary stories about people being possessed and killing others. And I was really afraid that my body was possessed too and would move out of itself. I suddenly started thinking of knives and all that and my family who was sleeping. I started clinging to the couch and keep holding on to it and tried to keep still. And when my leg suddenly began to spasm I freaked out. It felt like something jumped through my body and I got scared. And well at the end I started crying.
I then prayed to Jesus and asked if he could please help me get rid of the voices. When I stopped praying I heard one voice say 'Im still here' and I went on with praying. Then I called my mom to come get me because I was too scared and my grandma wouldn't wake up , when my mom came I got into the car and I heard angry growling & demon voices. I was so scared that I didn't tell my mom cause she wouldn't believe me. They've gotten worse.
I've been hearing voices on and off since I was 10 yrs old but now they're worse. I see shadows (not people's shadows) all of the time.
I probably sound like a lunatic but I swear this story is true. I have no reason to make this up since I don't gain anything from making myself look like Im crazy. I keep hearing scary demonic voices and I'm scared. I hear angry screaming and weird noises. I even saw a cloud of black smoke floating by me when I was in the living room. When I close my eyes sometimes I heard angry demonic voice too and I know I'm not mentally ill.
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I have to agree with the others and say that first and foremost I would speak to a doctor and rule out schizophrenia before going on to the spiritual end of things.
It is very rare for this type of spiritual warfare to take place. If however, it is then I have a couple of questions for you. You prayed to Jesus when you were scared. Are you a Christian? If so, then you need to know that you have the Holy Spirit living in you and demons cannot reside where the Holy Spirit resides. This means they are not in you but possibly are around you, taunting you. Have you or your family (this could be as far back as your great great grandparents) ever been involved in satanism or witchcraft or any other dark spiritual stuff?
Don't be afraid of them. They have no power over you. You can speak to them, tell them to leave you alone, that you're not listening to them anymore and you aren't afraid of them. I know this sounds kind of stupid but I know what you're going through if this is a spiritual issue.
I don't think you're crazy :)
If you need to talk you can msg me.
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i work for a adult day care and i started to notice a serious pattern with the owner. She seems to complain all the time! at the clients or at her staff. she seems very impatient with the people that are there and they seem afraid of her. Meaning during meal times if i am feeding one of the clients and its taking a while she want me to rush them to eat. I also saw her having a full on cursing argument with one of the clients with dimentia. there is another client with advanced dimentia that she almost pulls up the hall and they have a hard time balancing themselves. What do i do? Im not sure is she is just finging a reason to pick with me or the clients. (link)
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How long have you worked there? Are you just noticing this behaviour because you are fairly new there or has she just recently started behaving this way?
Unfortunately some people get into senior care because they think it'll be easy money. When they find out how much patience and work is required it overwhelms them.
You should definitely report this to whomever regulates adult care where you are or even to the police who will notify the proper authorities. Picking on those who are defenseless is never something that should be allowed.
Good luck with your situation. Let me know how it turns out if you can.
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So, there are two people at this point in life I would call my best friends. There's a guy, my age(19), who for all intents and purposes will be referred to as Bob, and a girl a year younger than us, who I'll call, oh, I don't know, Jasmine I guess.
We've all graduated high school and work in the area, and Bob and I hang out close to every day. Jasmine on the other hand doesn't get to hang out with us very often because we usually work opposite shifts. On the occasion that I do see Jasmine, it's usually in public and she always makes a very sneaky, yet high-energy and flirty entrance.
She'll always sneak up from behind and hug me tightly, or tickle just under my ribs, or something along those lines. She's always so happy to see me, sticks close and always has some kind of contact, and always has a smile on her face. Now, I understand this is how a lot of girls are with their friends, but she isn't. She - and I, too, actually - hate physical contact with practically everyone. She has literally - on several occasions - noticed me or my car somewhere and stopped in to surprise me.
This is how I know her to act when she's flirting. It's how she's acted with boyfriends in the past, and with her current boyfriend, only even more so with me. And I don't mind, except the fact that we're both in serious relationships.
If she wasn't living with a boyfriend and I hadn't been in the same relationship for 3 and a half years, I would love it. She's very attractive, completely adorable, and I've always felt a connection with her. Our personalities
But, because we've both been in relationships, I've done my best to remain sort of ambiguous about my interactions with her. I don't want to encourage anything, but I don't want to falsely act as though I'm not at all attracted to her.
So, what should I make of this and how should I handle it? Should I ignore it for now, or talk to her about it? Sorry for the long question.
Thanks in advance for any opinions! (link)
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Interesting predicament. Have you talked to your boyfriend about it at all? Maybe he would be open to you exploring your relationship with your friend. I do suggest you talk to her about it. It may be a bit awkward but try telling her just what you said here. That you like her but can't be anything more than friends because you're in a committed relationship and that her friendship means a lot to you but it makes you uncomfortable when she's so touchy feely. If your relationship with her ever does go to another level you'll at least know you guys can discuss issues with each other.
Hope that helps. Good luck :)
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I'm wondering if I'm behind the bandwagon with dating. I'm fourteen and female and my friends have already begun dating which worries me about missing out in crucial moments or experiences which I could use in my adult life. Would it be okay to put off dating until collage or even a little afterward? I want to know before entering high school. Thanks for reading :)
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You're not missing out on anything. When you meet the right person then you'll be more interested in dating. There is absolutely nothing wrong with focusing on your school work during your teen years and waiting to date.
You should be proud of yourself, you're on the right track to a successful future :)
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Boyfriend 20m
Me 18f
Little siblings are 8 and 9
I'm gonna say that I need advice on understanding if I'm in love because there's a side of me that always says yes and other says no. My boyfriend loves me completely he is willing to do anything to make me happy, but I have doubts that go through my head because whenever I see his flaws I end up getting really annoyed by him and when we hang out all he wants is to kiss me I like it but there's times where I don't, it just gets old and so do his jokes:/ I know that only I can fix my emotions and figure them out but I have this feeling of braking up with him whenever I don't like something maybe I'm selfish or something I don't really mean to though. in the beginning I really loved him and we even agreed to just be friends for 2 weeks but I end up giving in with his nice honest words he says that he thinks I'm gorgeous and he can't keep it in and wants to be more so bad. I love it when he's like that but when I go back with him I'm scared of having these doubts about it again. Maybe I might need space from him but when I do get it I really miss him because he's like my best friend pretty much no one would ever hang with me so many times like he did. But when we are friends it gets really hard to fake it. I don't know what to feel.. Does it have to do with the my mind says no and my heart says yes or the other way around... I've been with him for almost 2 years. I do have much going on at home my mother is a single mother with a boyfriend that's nice but she struggles a lot with my little siblings. But that's not part of it I'm just saying I got stuff going on and i don't know if it has to do with my emotions with my boyfriend... Me and my boyfriend meet in high school and we talked on the phone for a long time before hanging out we would talk about how bad his depression was and I would always be there to help because I knew how it felt too. He was my first kiss and I was his by then we always hanged out we did kind of went fast in the relationship because I was never honest with me or with him because I didn't know if I wanted to be with him I mean I had a huge crush on him but I wasn't sure of dating him but when he told me he liked me and wanted to date I said yes even though I wasn't sure. In the beginning it was perfect but then I hated how he would be forgetful yes I know guys are like that but it wasn't that hard to forget something about us hanging out you know but whatever I will never forget how bad I held in when he didn't arrive for our 1 year anniversary because some girl was asking to meet up because she had problems and stuff well that's it guys I just need advice thanks... (link)
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It sounds to me like you are very comfortable around your boyfriend and don't want to lose that connection you have. You will never have a perfect relationship as all people have flaws, both men and women. No one can say whether you love him but you.
After reading your story, it sounds like he pays a lot of attention to you, compliments you and says he loves you all the time. You mentioned depression. Does he try to keep you in the relationship by saying he'll hurt himself if you break up or anything like that?
You mentioned that he didn't arrive for your anniversary because a friend was having problems and he chose to help her instead. Although that must have hurt you, it is nice that you have a man in your life who cares about his friends and is there for them in their time of need.
I'm thinking that maybe you want to keep the friendship but not the love relationship. I would suggest that you sit down and discuss your feelings with him. I know it's hard to do but really, you both deserve to be happy. If you're not happy and you're staying with him "just because" then you're keeping him and yourself from finding someone who is right for each of you. If however, you do love him and are just going through a rough spot right now, it would be terrible if you broke up with him and then realized this when it is too late.
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Be honest with him. Tell him how you're feeling and maybe you guys can sort things out.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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Warning, this might get long. But I really need advice!
Okay, I'm homeschooled(a sophomore) and I don't have many friends and am really shy...
Two of my friends are (what I'll call them) Amanda and Daisy.
Amanda, met her like, 5 years ago. She's really funny and can be nice and we have a lot of common interests. I live in a small town in rural Wisconsin and when I first met her she had just moved here from a richer Chicago suburb. She was spoiled, kinda stuck up and pretty much a controlling brat. She'd buy me food then spit in it and make me eat it, call me dumb and stuff, make fun of me to her other friends while I was there, do stuff I'd ask her not too because she thought is was funny when I was mad and many other mean things like that(still sometimes does).
I kept being her friend through it all though I did get mad at her for many things. I often wonder why I did, but she was pretty much the only person who hung out with me at the time. It was to the point where I couldn't stand being in the same room with her for more than an few hours and a lot of the stuff the did I was so used to I didn't even notice it anymore.
I told her how mean she was a few times and either nothing changed, or it was better for like a week then was bad again.
For the last year or so she's been better, But still does some of those things. And I tend to resent her for it sometimes... but don't really say anything. She's been different lately, doing things I never thought she would do, like cheating on her boyfriend.
Her dad is an alcoholic, and cheated on her mom and her home life is not the greatest....
As for Daisy, I've known her since we where in diapers, our older brothers where good friends and we when to the same church. But from the age of like 7 till 6th grade, we never hung out much. Then started again when she became Amanda's friend.
She treats me good and we get along pretty well. She also stood up for me whenever she saw Amanda was being mean to me and also resented Amanda and stuff. I really enjoy hanging out with her and we have a lot more 'country' things in common than I do with Amanda.
Her father also drinks and also doesn't have the best family life and attempted suicide last year, but she survived and went to counseling.
Those two have had a lot of fights and are no longer really friends, Daisy tells me She hears Amanda at school talking bad about me and does stuff, I really don't want to believe it but I can see it being true. Though I've had my mom and some other adults tell me she is minipulative and can see her minipulating me and Amanda.
Amanda got mad at me a few months ago for something really stupid and stopped talking to me for a month. Then We started talking again and We hang out a bit, but not nearly as much as we did.
Last weekend, Amanda wanted me to go shopping with her and I couldn't because of chores and yard work. So I said, "Maybe next weekend".
This weekend: Daisy came over on Friday and stayed the night. On Saturday Daisy was still here, and Amanda called, asking if she could come over for a few hours and she did and we all got along pretty well. She then asked me if I wanted to see a play with her today(Sunday).
But for some reason I didn't want to. My mom later told me that Amandas Family had gotten in a huge fight(our parents are friends) and her dad called Amanda a mistake and that she shouldn't have been born. And that she had notices how she was sadder and more depressed than usual.
But even after that....I still didn't go to the play. I don't know why, but I didn't. After Daisy left a few hours ago, my mom yelled at me for being rude to Amanda and that it was wrong for me not to go, and I know it was...but I don't know why.. I want to be a good friend to both of them, I want to stop being selfish... I just feel so guilty... (link)
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I admire your willingness to help both of these girls. Please do not think that you not wanting to go to a play with Amanda regardless of what's going on in her life, makes you selfish and you have nothing to feel guilty about.
Obviously your mother wants you to be friends with Amanda because she is friends with her parents. The thing is that friendship is a two way street. The way that Amanda has treated you since you met has not been friendly. In my opinion, you should be there for her if she wants to talk as it sounds as if you have a caring heart but please don't put yourself in a situation where you are being treated so badly. Nobody should be treated that way.
On the other hand, it sounds like Daisy has some major issues she's dealing with as well. You two seem to get along and treat each other well and that's what friendship is about. If you feel good about yourself and are happy when the two of you are together then that's great. That is a relationship you should continue.
Maybe you should join a youth group at your local church or a club of some kind so you can meet some other girls your age that you have can possibly develop close friendships with.
You sound like you would make a great friend. Be careful with your choices.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
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I made out with this guy at a party and he has a girlfriend. I do feel terrible about it but it happened and I can't take it back. However, the next day, my roommate was talking to his roommate and he told her that the guy I made out with always tell his girlfriend when he cheats but he didn't tell his girlfriend about me. He told his roommate that he doesn't want his girlfriend to know. That would make me believe that he regret it happening and that's why he didn't tell her but his roommate said every morning after, he always says he regrets what happened and he wishes he could take it back but the morning after we were together, he didn't say that and we continued on being normal friends and we went to the diner together to get food after we woke up and it was all good.
I'm just confused and wondering if somebody could give me insight as to why he always tells his girlfriend when he cheats but why he didn't tell her about me.
19/f
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Firstly, do you have romantic feelings for this guy? It sounds like you were friends at the time this happened and perhaps continuing your friendship is more important to him than telling his girlfriend what happened.
To me, it sounds like when he regrets what he's done is when he does tell his girlfriend. If you and he intend to remain just friends then I wouldn't be concerned about the issue as it is now. If you and he do have feelings for each other and suspect this may happen again then I would suggest that you consider what you know about his current relationship pattern because if he cheats on his current girlfriend then more than likely he will cheat on you as well. Also consider how important your friendship is because sex can ruin a friendship very quickly.
Hope this helps. Good luck with your situation.
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