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Hey. I hugged another guy. I have a boyfriend (of over a year a 6months) and my boyfriend who I love soo much got mad, and he doesnt trust me.

what should I do? we are still together, but things are shaky. I know he still loves me coz he told me he did, when he came over to my house to hear the whole story. So that has to mean something.

What are some sweet things I can do?

BTW i have no idea why I hugged the other guy! I wouldn't ever date him! crazy! When I hugged him, I got the worst feeling in the world, it didnt feel good. I got a stumach ache, and wanted to run away. And I felt like I was gonna puke. It was @ work. and after I hugged him, because I felt so bad I ran out of there!

-thanks a million!

I'll rate and leave feedback!

-Kelsee-

It's not against the rules to hug another guy unless oyu have feelings for them.. i hug my guy friends all the time and my boyfriend doesn't care because he's knows how much i care for him. Tell your guy you're sorry and he should understand. Try taking him out somewhere and pay for it all. Do things everyday that let him know that he is the only guy that you really care about. hope that helped!

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Okay, I finally convinced my mom to start letting me wear tampons. But we're going in the afternoon to get them. (And Im on my period) But my dad wanted me to go down on his bike (motorcycle) to a couple places that are hours away, even in another state, and I have to wear pads. Last time I had an overflow. I'm afraid of that happening again. We're going in the morning at like 11:00am. So what can I do to prevent this? Is there anything I can do? And for another question, what about the tampons? Will they hurt, what if I forget about them,or if I can't understand the directions? Please help. Sorry this is so long. But i'll rate high for good answers. Thanks a lot.

I know how you feel! I had a hard time switching over to tampons, but i like them soo much more. It all depends on how comfortable you are! If you forget about you're tampon, nothing will happen! It may leak because it is too full, but thats about all that can happen. Tampons take a while to get used to but just remember to stay relaxed! If you are goin on a long trip and do not have time to change your tampon, try wearing a very thin pad inderneath just in case of a leak.. there are also larger tampons that hold more so that there is a lesser chance of this happening. Start with the smaller tampons first to get used to how it feels. Remember it should never hurt! if it does maybe you put it in wrong or that brand may cause some kind of discomfort. The directions are pretty easy but just remember do whatever feels best for you! hope i helped!

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im 14 and a freshman in high school! i have been going out with this guy for almost a 2 months now and he is moving slow cuase he doesnt want me to dump him with i wont but I Want to makeout with him but i dont want to make that move you no..so how can i like tell him that i want to make out wiht him with out me like just going for it?

its confusing sorry

Everyone likes to go at different paces. Let him know that you want to make out, but don't tell him directly. When you are ready to do it. Get close to him and keep looking at him in the eyes. Lick your lips and do something that will draw attention to them. Be flirty and if he doesn't get the clue then you can make the first move. i know it's scary, but guys will likie you for that. it takes the pressure off of them because they're worried you might think they're going too fast. If you are to scared to, then you could bring it up subtley in a conversation.. say something like youv'e always wanted to make out in the rain, or that you caught your friends making out.. this will bring the thought to his mind. good luck to you.. hope i helped!

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Okay. I have make-out before but for some werid reason I am scared to make-out with my bf, james since i really love him and i think it might be because I'm scare he will think im bad but i shouldn't be worrying about it sicne the guys i made out with befroe said im good and everything like that. but i don't know its like i dont care if all the guys think im bad as long as he thinks im good. what can help make me not be scared? im suppose to today, and i want to. but ahh!!

and also he is in 8th and im in 9th what will keep up able to stay together during school? and be able to work it out?

If it's meant to be, it will always work out! i know how you feel, i've been scared like that before too. First of all don't stress about it. the more you think about it, the more nervous you'll get. Everyone kisses differently. People kiss the way they want to be kissed. Try to follow his lead but also use your own technique as well. Don't be afraid, just do it! If he really cares for you, you shuldn't be worried about waht he'll think. i hope i helped some!

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I would like to reward him with a special treat but i don't know any candy this kid likes. do you guys know of anything sweet for a 4 year old? please help! i rate high!

Try small things that won't make a mess like m&m's or skittles or starbursts. don't get anything too big for i child to eat. You could also get something a little more healty like popsicles. If all else fails, make some cookies!

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so im 14/f and i got contacts like 2 days ago. and i start high school on tuesday. im gonna be a freshman anywho. i look like a total GEEK with my glasses on and the problem is i cant get my contacts in. but when other people put them in for me im okay. i can poke my eye and stuff but idk why i cant put contacts in. can some one give me any good tips on how you can put in your contacts?

i rate good.

I have contacts too and i know exactly what you mean. They will take a while to get used to. Start by trying to touch your eye with the tip of your finger without a contact. I hold my eye open with my left ahnd and use the middle finger of my right to put in my contact. You can try different fingers or hands, It's differennt for everyone. Try looking to the side with your eye when you're putting them in. That helped me alot. I hope i gave you some good ideas!

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I currently have long hair, I love having long hair, but what type of cute do you suggest me getting with it still being long. I will ask for a trim, but what else? I already have side bangs, I don't know whether I should get layers or not. Please advise.

Change is alwasy fun! look through magazines and pictures on the internet to find something that you like. You can also ask a hair dresser what they think would look good on you. If you don't want to lose the length of your hair try adding highlights or color to it. It will give you a good change without making you feel nervous about cutting your hair.. Hope i helped!

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okay so i started liking this guy who moved back from cali and he knows and everything, i think he likes me back but im on 25% sure he does. what can i do to get his attention more and find out if he likes me...asap!

ill rate 5 no matter what but it has to be serious

Guys love it when you act like your interested instead of keeping it a secret.. invite him places with you and your friends or out to dinner.. get to know him better and when you're more comfortable talking to him, tell him how you feel. Don't be afraid. If he ends up not liking you back, then at least you tried! Good Luck!

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