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What are some good ways of getting rid of blackheads? Unless you've tried it and it works, don't suggest it. Thank you.

facial scrubs are good if you use them daily :)

I like St. Ives Apricot Scrub

smells DELICIOUS, and it works

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Basically think of an upside down triangle [the point is on the bottom] and thats what my body looks like.

Why is it that im like 50 pounds over weight.. i way about 160.. and yet i wear a size 5 pants and people say i look like i weigh 130 pounds? i know that i should take that as a compliment but it makes me feel worse about my weight and makes me more self concious.

so what im wondering is why are my hips very small and yet i have a stomach and broad shoulders? even though i do about 85 pushups, and run daily, and is there a way to make my stomach smaller?


im sorry this is very confusing

my guess is that the extra weight is muscle :) especially with you doing that many pushups daily.

for your stomach, try doing some cardio such as running or walking, and follow this with some situps.

also healthy eating. watch the sugar content!

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my boyfriend and i had dry sex, though im just the only one having my undies. i just want to ask if i can get pregnant doing dry sex. also, accidentally, mine and his came into contact but it was very quick. there was no penetration. can i get pregnant by that? im really confused and i really dont know what to do. please help me. thank you so much.

you can, but it's unlikely so i wouldn't stress too much.

factors that will affect your chances...
1. did he cum on your underwear?
2. are you ovulating at the moment?

you can work out your cycle here:
http://www.babycenter.com/calculators/ovulation/

if you answered no the above questions i definitely wouldn't worry too much, it's actually harder to fall pregnant than you'd expect! anyhow, if your next period is late, take a pregnancy test to be safe.

if you're really worried you can also get an emergency contraceptive pill over-the-counter at most pharmacies for around AU$20. this will only be effective if you "did the deed" within the last 48 hours.

remember the easiest way to avoid situations like this...
USE PROTECTION.

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17/f
k so i have problems with guys. none like me! But people tell me i'm good looking, and fun, but then why don't any guys like me?! people say all that stuff like 'i know someone taht likes you' but no one ever seems to...help! wut can i do to be more attractive to guys?

it's not all about being good-looking and showing off! guys need to see your caring side, the side that says "i'll be there when you need me, i won't hurt you. etc."

show them the LOVE you have to offer.

i suggest you start with friendships, that's always worked for me! get to know a guy first, have meaningful conversations, as well as throwing in the flirty comment or two every now and then!

;) good luck

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Im running for student council. I need a slogan for the name Andrea Obah. What rhymes with Andrea or Obah that you can put into a slogan?

Your vote should be clear, President Andrea!

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14/female

so i've had my boyfriend for about 3 weeks.. and this friday I wanna make-out with him at the movies..But I don't want him to know it's my first time.. I REPEAT, I do NOT want him to know it's my first time.. Can somebody give me a step-by-step on how to make-out? I need every little detail, everything that's most likely going to happen.. don't suggest some french kissing website because i've already been there to them all.

hehe, we've all been here before...

it's important to know that EVERY KISS WITH A NEW PARTNER WILL BE DIFFERENT, so everytime will feel like the first, and will be new for him too.

start with a hug, his arms around you or vice versa. then even if he's not looking at you, kiss him on the cheek, the neck, anywhere, and continue to do this until you get his attention. keep your face close to his, and when he looks at you, look him in the eyes, then shift your eyes to his lips. tilt your head to the left then move in gently and kiss his lips. focus on his lips for a while, placing gentle kisses esoecially on his bottom lip, and allow your lips to 'fit together'. when you have the confidence, slightly part your lips and slide your tongue between them, so they just touch his. if he wants to go further he will bring his tongue to meet yours. then open your mouth a little wider, you may need to tilt your head a little more, and just play with his tongue. don't stick your tongue out too far. making small circles at the tip of his tongue is a good idea. alternate between this and soft kisses on the lips, and keep it going as long as you like.

if there's any specific detail you want to know more about feel free to ask!

good luck ^_^ go gettum

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i was just wondering if anyone knew any good websites that sells used razr phones , that are kinda cheep and that wont rip me off?!?! my service provider is dobson cellular and i am not on a contract, i have a prepayed account with the little sim card thing! please anyone?!

http://www.ebay.com

if you are under 18, you'll need an adult to create an account for you to use. most seller's will accept bank transfers if you don't have a credit card.

happy shopping!

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What do you need to know, or what types of questions to they ask, to get your learner's permit to drive?

Know your road rules!

You should be able to pick up a book on these wherever you take your learner's test, or at a newsagent.

Don't stress too much, a lot of the questions are common sense and if you think logically you should be able to answer them. But read through the book to be sure of what you need to be aware of on the road! Also, learn your road signs i.e. stop, give way, crossings...

good luck!

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My friend's birthday is coming up. She'll be 15. I asked her what she wanted and she said she wants me to kiss her (we aren't going out). I only see her once a day at school and we just hug, say hi, and go eat at our different tables. She said she wants me to kiss her on the lips. When and how should I kiss my friend?

sounds like someone likes you!

on her birthday i suggest something like greeting her with a happy birthday, put your arms out for a hug but keep her in your arms and look into her eyes. if she doesn't pull away then lean in and kiss her, softly. lips are the key to a great kiss, not tongue.

good luck ^_^

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So.. my friend, whom we'll call stacy, and her boyfriend, whom we'll call sean is what this is about i think. Not so much with sean..but i could be wrong. Stacy for the past 2 months, i just found out has been throwing up her food , and lately she can't hold it down..its a natural thing now, and because she does this, she cuts herself, and cutting herself makes her eat..its a vicious cycle. She wants to tell her mom, but her pregnant sister ran away and her mom is under a LOT of stress, so she doesn't want to put that load on top of it. She knows she has a problem, and i want to help her. But i know i can't do it by myself, she's stubborn. Would it be okay to talk to our schools couselor about this? thanx for any thing you can help w/. Oh, and where sean comes in, i think she's throwing up because of him, she thinks she's too fat? or something maybe? i hope not because he isnt like that. but plz help me. I'm the only one she's told about the cutting

It's great that she understands she needs help. I think the school counsellor would be a great idea, or even better a doctor. Both meetings will be totally confidential, so she doesn't need to worry about extra stress for her mother. And with you by her side to support her, I'm sure she will get through.

If she has the internet, I'd like to suggest a site we use in Australia where she can find advice and speak confidentially to a counsellor online.

http://www.reachout.com.au

best wishes to you and her, stay strong!

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I RATE 5s. Im 14/f and I have a lot of small problems that I can't discuss with my friends. Well.. I can, but they have problems of their own to deal with. Even when they tell me their problems, sometimes I freak out that night- not because of their problem, just from too much negativity in my life. Sometimes I really want to cut... but I hate blood, so I can never go through with it. I think I might give out a "i have no problems" kind of vibe. I don't show up as an emotional person cus I don't want people to see that. I don't have THAT many problems,its just things build up inside me. I have no one to talk to about issues- I won't be talking to my parents about them, so please don't give that advice. I also have major trust issues because of most of my friends during elementry school. So if I do tell my friends something, I end up freaking out that night thinking they will tell someone. I'm not emo, I dont dress it, act like it, or any of that. I'm just sad on the inside. Most of my sadness lately is caused of loss of control over my life. I REALLY like this guy and he has a gf... but theres nothing i can do about it. My grades are going down and theres not much I can do to change them... stuff like that.

Thanks SO much. Sorry it was so long.
-anomynous-

I know EXACTLY how you feel.

During my time at high school, I suffered depression unbeknown to my friends and family. I did eventually bring myself to cutting, it lasted around 2 years and I finally moved on...

Mine too was caused by issues with elementary friends. Would I be close if I said that the reason you can't talk to your friends about it is that they were the elementary friends that caused your trouble? Also that your parents would brush off your feelings as 'stupid' and mostl likely tell you off rather than be of any help?

Anyway, if you're not a cutter, please try to avoid that path. I'd be wrong to say it doesn't help, but it is only a TEMPORARY resolve, and in the following days brings you feelings of pain and guilt.

Some ideas for you...
* purchase a stress ball - digging your nails into these when you feel urges can release a lot of tension and provide you with the same numbness cutting can.
* excercise - gives a feeling of accomplishment and confidence
* sleep - when do you most get the urges to cut? is it late at night? it was for me. so get to bed early and wake up feeling bright.
* hot chocolate - warm milk releases many feel good and relaxation thingywatsits. try it!

I got through without speaking to friends or family, if you want to talk to someone about it I suggest sites like this. See people in your situation just as I'm doing now, and be strong for someone else. It's a real booster in keeping your mind set on your goal.

And the last thing, guys at your age? Psssh, and this time in your life SO NOT WORTH THE EXTRA STRESS. You feel you have no control of your life, so concentrate extra hard on your schoolwork, lift your grades, find some direction and gain control of who you are as a person, before you try to share that with someone else. And believe me, once you have yourself under control, your lovelife will be a lot happier.

Hope I've improved your day! Feel free to email me if you'd like to talk further.

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ok well i have a really close friend(a boy) he has really helped me get thro the last year without me wanting to slit my wrists or something.. i have found out that he is lyk in love with me.. its not even just a crush he is lyk totally serious and i dont want him to act lyk this..btw we went out for 2 years a year ago n i promised myself i wouldnt fall in love with him again because he is amazing.i dont know how to say i dont want to go out with him but i still want to be friends...what should i do?

it will hurt more if you lead him on.

tell him that you love him and appreciate everything he has done for you, but you no longer see him as a potential boyfriend.

i know it will be hard for him to take, but stick by your word. you DO NOT have to compromise the way you feel for the sake of not upsetting someone else. it's a big mistake i used to mistake and still do.

it will make you feel guilty, but ultimately it is YOUR LIFE and if you don't want to be with him, that is your decision and no-one can take away your right to make that choice.

just make sure he undertsands how much you truly value his friendship.

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okay so there is this mentally retarded girl i know. im friends with her sister so now she talks to me. because her and her sister are really close. well, she always ims me with all this crap like 59342579034 ims in a second. and i get so annoyed and never know what to say. i just want her to leave me alone but i dont wanna be mean! please helppp.

just block her. i know it sounds harsh but, it's YOUR IM address, and you have the right to use it as you please.

if you don't have the heart to do that...
either just don't answer
or tell her you're a bit busy right now and will talk later

there's no reason to not be friendly, a hello now and then is harmless, but if you don't want to constantly focussing all your attention on her, then don't!

hope this has been helpful

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okay so theres this guy im kinda friends with and im sort-of crushing on him and we talk online alot and at school he will always say hi to me in the halls. so anyways i was talkin to him online and he was like well im going to go get naked and jump in the shower , wanna join me ? and of course i was like yeahh lol . but obviously he was joking around but what do you think that he was thinking about when he said it .. and if he's feeling like how i am about him . thannk youuu ♥

as the others have said, he was flirting. guys tend to flirt A LOT whether they like you or not unfortunately, but throwing in your own comments now and then will add more fuel to the fire. :)

good luck!

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So basically i have used every acne medicine ever made...
And none of them seem to work...
Does anyone know something that will work quick...
cuz prom is next week...
And i dont want to go with pimples...

toothpaste apparantely!

sleep with it on the pimples, wash it off in the morning.

and KEEP YOUR FACE CLEAN.

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What are some good love songs to listen to? I need some ideas, because I'm going to be cooking with that special someone on a romantic date on Friday, so I need some "mood" music, you know? Any suggestions?

hmmmm...

the goo goo dolls - 'iris'
david bowie - 'as the world falls down'
leonardo's bride - 'even when i'm sleeping'
monica - 'angel of mine'
jewel - 'you were meant for me'

those are some nice ones i think :)

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