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ok so my bf and i r going out and i went to his house yesterday we started making out and one thing lead to another and he took off my shirt and bra.we continued making out but i eventually put my clothes back on after like 3 minutes. I'm only 14 and a female and i feel like I'm a slut because we've only been going out for 3 weeks. he said that he loved me and he always talks about the future in like years but i don't know what to think. am i slut? (link)
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No honey your not a slut. If he's your boyfriend you're expected to do things with him. It may be too fast and if you're uncomfortable with how fast things are going then talk to him about it. He might even agree with you.
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Ok so I have never like reall kissed a guy before and I don know how to. And please don't say you will figure it out it comes naturaly or something please!? Thanks alot! :)
~Kaiya (link)
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It really will just come naturally. I was just as nervous for my first kiss, but when it happened I figured it out pretty quickly. You'll get better at it too.
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Hello I am a 13 year old girl I like this boy and his brother told me that he likes me and I want to go out with him, should I give a hint, or ask him myself or wait and see if he would ask me? (link)
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Tell him how you feel!!Live life with no regrets and go for it. You'll never know unless you try. Definitely give him hints and if he still hasn't asked then just go for it and tell him.
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I'm a thirteen-year-old rising female freshman.
Back in September, I got my first boyfriend. Let's say his name was Tyler. Tyler verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me for almost six months before I finally broke it off. The thing is - I know I was wrong to give in to this - I lost my virginity to Tyler. I thought I loved him, and adults around me believed we were in love too, so I don't know, I just felt like I could trust him. I know I was stupid, losing my virginity at thirteen to someone I no longer care about, but I've learned from my mistakes and won't do this for many years.
Now I've got a new boyfriend. Let's say his name is Aaron. I've known Aaron for almost two years now; we've always been close. I'm Aaron's first girlfriend. I love him a lot, and he's the person I trust most in this world. Recently, I accidentally let loose the fact that I have a deep dark secret (that I'm no longer a virgin). He got curious and asked what exactly my secret was, so I told him I trusted him enough that I would tell him by the end of the summer.
I have no regrets about saying I'd reveal my secret to him. I know he'd never tell anyone. What I am scared of, however, is what he'll think of me afterwards. What if he calls me a whore or something? I know that means he doesn't deserve me, that he isn't worth it. But unlike a lot of other people, his opinion means so much to me. I guess I kind of need some reassurance in my decision to tell him. D: (link)
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If he truly cares about you then he'll accept you for who you are. He should be able to accept you mistakes and all. If he does change how he thinks about you then he's not who you thought he was.
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Okay. I'm fifteen and once I told my ex boyfriend that I will NEVER get a hickey cause I think they are nasty and gross. Sooo... we broke up, long story, and he was telling his baseball team about this and then he said he'd give whoever gave me a hickey first twenty bucks. The baseball team does stupid bets like this alllll the time. Well now guys are trying to give me hickeys! Like two of them just came up behind me and started sucking on my neck! It was disgusting! Three of them have asked me to hook up and basically all of them have started texting me. One of them even said he'd split the twenty with me if I just let him give me one. I told my ex he needed to call this stupid thing off but he doesn't give a shit so... What am I supposed to do?? Please don't tell me to just "wait for it to blow over" cuz I don't wanna do that! And please don't tell to "go tell a parent or coach" because I don't wanna stir shit up. Thank you! (link)
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I think that you should tell someone about it, because someone needs to put a stop to this. Tell your ex to be reasonable, because this is so immature. If you don't want to go to an adult then go to the source who started it. By taking care of the start of the problem the rest will stop to. Stand up for yourself and tell your ex off.
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Alriiiight. So I'm fifteen and my ex is sixteen but I was fourteen while I dated him. Since we broke up (he dumped me) I've left him alone, been a good girl, ya know, didn't cause drama. But he's telling everyone I gave him a BJ, which... yeah I did. I really regret it cause Jesus I was fourteen, but while we were dating I let him walk all over me... I was definitely whipped. He made me feel so guilty saying I should do it if I loved him and stuff like that... I know I know, please don't tell me it was a mistake because you'll only be telling me what I already know. And you wouldn't understand how it felt unless you were in my place... and I got dumped four days later in a text message so I think I got my punishment. Anyway it was my understanding that something like that is supposed to stay inbetween you and your boy (thats what he promised me at least...) but yeah he told the entire baseball team, who told the football team, who told the basketball team... I don't know why only guys are hearing this... Well anyway my ex ALSO started telling people that we had sex which ISN'T true. He's saying digusting things too. Like "When I was on top I was scared I was gonna break her cause she's so tiny." and "She let me do whatever I wanted, I bet I coulda stuck it up the a$$ if I wanted to." And now all the guys think it's real funny to come up to me and put their finger up my butt. Ha-ha, right? It's been two months and these rumors HAVEN'T faded... I even went away for camp for a week and when I came back WORSE things were being said. I don't know what to do. Our school is so small... and my repuatation before this has been "goody goody two shoes" now people are looking at me differently and guys have been saying all these gross things to me... I told my ex that I don't deserve any of this because I never did anything to hurt him... Everytime I tell him about this he says he's telling people he was lying... but he's not. He just doesn't care he's being an ass... he doesn't care but I do. How can I just make this all go away? I have super supportive friends but I can't handle this anymore. (link)
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I know what it's like to have rumors spread about them, but eventually it'll slow down. They'll never go away completely, but other things will happen and it'll become old news. When people question you about having sex with him just tell them that you haven;t had sex with him, but they can think what they want, because you and him both know the truth. Don't make a big deal out of it. That's what your ex wants. He wants to see your reaction so just hold your head up high and don't give him what he wants. You're not a slut sweetie.
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I'm a girl and 14 almost 15.I have liked this guy for a really long time.For the past few days we have been talking non-stop.He told me that he really really likes me and that he wants to be with me forever.I want to be with him forever to and i love him and he knows that i do but he has a girlfriend.He doesn't want to be with her so he can be with me but he doesn't want to break up with her.what do i do??? (link)
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Be careful. If this boy had real feelings for you he wouldn't even have to think about breaking up with his girlfriend he would just do it. I'm not saying he doesn't like you though, because he might. Don't get to emotionally involved with this boy, because you might just end up getting hurt. He might have a reason why he doesn't want to end things with this girl so try asking him to see why he won't break up with her.
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there are a lot of ppl involved so here's a list:
Jake: (boy; 16) my ex-boyfriend
Brit: (girl; 15) Jakes ex-girlfrind, not my friend
Matt: (boy; 16) the guy I think I like now
John: (boy; 16) My BFF basically, used to be Jakes bestfriend till we broke up but they kinda still hang.
Tess: (girl; 15) my good friend
Ben: (boy; 16) some kid I kind of had a thing with
Phew. And I am a fifteen year old girl. Okay so Jake and I dated for seven months, but he was abusive, verbally and sometimes physically as well. We broke up and he started telling people we did all these things we didn't do, like had sex and stuff. Well he and John used to be super close till he found out all the horrible things Jake did. Alright so this boy Ben, he's kind of a player. He dated Britt for a while, who is Jake's ex-girlfriend. So when Ben asked me out on a date I said no because I didn't wanna take another one of this girl's Britt's left over guys haha ya know? So yeah... he's kind of out of the picture but I still kinda like him :/ ...
Anyway the main guy I like right now is Matt. He's super sweet and nice but I feel like I want myself to like him more than I actually do. Also, Matt and Jake HATE eachother. Jake almost started a fight with him a few weeks ago when he saw me with Matt even though we aren't dating anymore... I wanna be with Matt but at the same time I don't want himr or Jake to fight and someone get hurt. And there is one more complication here...
John. He and my friend Tess kind of like eachother. Except that Tess is talking to a bunch of other guys and she recently told hiim she doesn't think she likes him, they still ya know, kinda talk. John and I are super close. We hug and cuddle and I hold his hand and sit on his lap but I've always seen it as just us being good friends. Like we did it while I was dating Jake too, we're just super good friends. He knows everything about me. I don't know if I have feelings for him...
We were hanging out at the park the other day and I was sitting on his lap on a swing and I was making fun of him cause we joke around that he's liked all of my close friends. All three of them have hurt him though. Like, they say they like him and then they tell them they don't. We were joking around like "hey I'm the only one left!" and he suddenly got kind of serious and said "Ya know I should just try going after you. You'd never hurt me." ... I don't know if he was serious. I feel like our relationship has always tetered on the edge of liking eachother but I just don't think we'd ever work as a couple. We'd be so dysfunctional. Plus he's still kind of good friends with Jake...
Soooo my life is a mess. And I really neeed to know what to do about Jake, Matt, Ben, and John... Please don't judge me. I don't know what to do, I just want to figure this all out and I don't want to hurt anyone... :( (link)
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well I think that if you had true feelings for John you wouldn't need to ask yourself if you like him or not. You should ask yourself why you think you like him. Is it because in a way maybe as a joke maybe as the truth he's told you he has feelings for you or do you honestly have feelings for him? If he hadn't have said anything would you still consider liking him? Don't forget to not hurt yourself, because the way you feel and your feelings are just as important as your friends' feelings.
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