about

Hi, this is Kate and Kayla.
This column is here to help you with your boy,girl, and anything else problems. Get advice from teens like you that have been there. We are pretty good at giving advice! Hope we helped!
XOXO



--always smile...
even if it's a sad smile
cuz wats even sadder
than a sad smile is
not smilin at all :)

Part of bein a champ is actin like a champ You have to learn how to win and not run away when u lose


I'm twisted cuz one side of me is tellin me to move on on the other side I wanna break down and cry!


Crushes only crush you,
Falling only hurts you,
Hearts will only break you,
If there is no love to save you.


Many people will walk in
and out of your life,
but only true friends will leave
footprints in your heart.

Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.

There's always that one person who will always have your heart.

advice

hi i have a 3 yearold daughter but latly she been out of control she dont listen she is very bossy she wont potty train she hits throws things around gets into everything what can i do to help with all of this everyone is getting mad cuz she is not potty trained yet ive tryed pottys and the adult toliet but nothing works ive tryed soap and spankings and took her toys away but nothing is working can someone help me

liz

Well, it is just a stage that your little girl is going through. It is time to set some ground rules if she doesn't like it is too bad cuz she has to learn.

A way to get her potty trained is getting her a pool for the summer and telling her she can't go in it unless she goes on the potty. My mom said this worked for me!

~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

I have two dogs, one by the name of symba... and one, by the name of Brownie, and i love both of them equally. Though, lately they have been extremly burdensome, especially each time they run away...poop or pee on thier bed or in the house and have to continously be groomed and get thier monthly shots (which are very expensive). So... every once and a while... my mother will suggest giving them away to one of her close friends, who would take equally good care of them since, (now that my brother has moved out to collage..) are sometimes left outside for the entire school day and only given walks once a week. the problem is, as stubern as it may seem, i love my dogs dearly and could never give them away. never. Am i being impossible... how can i show my mom that they are extremly special to me and i love them too much to give them away...

Well, my cat was a burden too, and one day my dad gave her away w/o telling me. Tell your mom how you feel, that you are not trying to be selfish, it's just you love them sooo much and you would be heartbroken w/o them. you are not being impossible. You are acting like a normal person. Tell your mom you can't just give away a family memeber. Hope I helped.
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

ok well my friend is at my house and he likes this girl well that I just found out and he was talking to her on MSN and then I said something then all of the sudden he said of sry that was my dumb bro and wouldn't even say he was here with his best friend(girl) so I'm super pissed at him and omg iunno what to do I feel like he'll stop being my friend just that is a bad sign for everything plz help...

x0x cutiibabii44 x0x

Boys are sometimes retarded like that. Don't mind him. If he is embarassed by you, he is not worth being mad at. Just know you are a better person than he is. Tell him how you feel.
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

well here it goes. might be long.. well me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a year.. and i hve noticed now that i am losing alot of my friends over him :-/ bc it seems like he is all i ever have time for and the only person i am ever with. i miss all my friends alot and i dont kno what to do.. i love him alot and we hve been goin out alot.. but sometimes friends r more important but, i never get to spend any time with them... or as much as i would like.. seems like im not invited many places as i used to be and my friends jus dont hve much interest in me bc im jus the girl with a boyfriend thats no longer fun. i dont kno what to do bc i kno it would be hard to break it off.. but jus sometimes with him is jus not the best and it seems like everything i do makes him mad but i cant get mad at him. dont get me wrong we do hve some great times together but i think we might jus need to go our seperate ways but every other time i hve tried breakin up i ended up wantin him back soo bad! and i jus dont kno what to do.. please give me some help and maybe leave a sn so i can contact you

signed::
xox lover OR friends?

Well, try being a lover and a friend. It will be hard, but you can do it. Tell your b/f that you two should take a break for a while, and get used to life without him. Never lose your friends over a guy- it's just not worth it. If you find that you can finally get along without your man, tell him how you feel. Even if you can't, you should still tell him and if he doesn't accept it and can't realize that you need your friends too, then you should DEFINATELY break it off. He can't control your life. You are too good for him. Hope I helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

Hello all~
Thank you for taking the time to read and answer this. I wanted to know if there are any cool websites that can give me cool poems, away messages, random facts, or anything worthwhile. I am on the computer a lot and would like to find sites that are new to explore. Thank You Very MucH!!! 15/f

Try iconators.com- it has cool icon and away messages and you can even make your own icons. Try flogo.com for some laughs!
~oxkatekayla

[view]

OMG, I am so frustrated right now, because I just went shopping and must have tried on over 20 pairs of jeans, and every single one of them was big in the butt. I went shopping last week, too, and still nothing. I have the smallest butt in history. I feel like I'm gonna have to walk around naked the rest of my life! What am I gonna do? Does anyone know of any stores or brands that sell their pants with smaller butt sizes? Please don't suggest Hollister, but I'm totally poor! We tried that today and they were like, $80! I've tried Vanilla Star, L.E.I., Mudd, Arizona, Paris Blues, Union Bay, and other regular brands, and I've also tried Aeropostale. Does anyone else have this problem? Where do you shop at? Thank you so much.
x3 Erin

I do have the same problem... i am only 80 pounds and 13 years old so like i don't fit into any jeans.
The only jeans i fit in are L.E.I. I go to Filenes.
Hope I helped! If you need any more help leave one in my inbox.

~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

were can you find really cute bedsets for a teenage girl? ((bedsets as in comforters?)) please help!

Try JcPenny or Fileines. They usually have cute ones there for teens! Hope I helped!

~oxkateKaylaxo

[view]

Does anyone have any tips for swallowing pills? I have some pills from my doctor for a bronchidal infection, and they were huge, I had to cut them up into fourths, yet they still are tough to get down. Tips or tricks?

Well, maybe cut them down a little bit more. If not, swallow with milk, that usually helps for me!
Hope I helped!

~oxkateKaylaxo

[view]

Hey1 I've been with my boyfriend for a bout 4 months now and his birthday is coming up. I don't have much cash, but I want to get him a gift he'll love. Does anyone have ideas of gifts or nice plances to get a boyfriend a gift?

If he likes sports, maybe you could get him a sports cap or shirt. Maybe a nice chain. Or, you could take him out to dinner to a resturant!
Hope I helped!

~xokateKaylaox

[view]

Hi im Jess i really need to know how can i get more aggressive in soccer because i love the sport ive been playing for 9 years and i just cant seem to get aggressive. Ive heard people say i need t get more aggressive but i dont know how so if anyone has any ideas plz let me know. Thx
~Love Jess~

I have the same problem. My coaches usually modivate me. They get me mad so that i want that soccer ball real bad and go for it hard. Also the audiance does the same. Tell your teamates to modivate you. Like have them say stuff that would get you mad. I hope I helped a little!
~xokateKaylaox

[view]

My friends birthday is tomarrow and i have no idea what to get her! shes not into makeup or anything like that...shes more of a tomboy....i have no idea what to get for her...shes 15....we dont really hang out alot so i wouldnt know stuff that she likes!! could somebody please help me? thanks

Maybe you could get her a gift card to a mall, store or even money, so that way she can buy whatever she likes.

[view]


ok i like this guy ALOT and were going out but my friend also likes him and shes not talking to me because im going out with him but she also told me over and over again go out with him he really likes you and i kept telling her no no because of you and he told her before we were going out that he didnt like her he liked me so now im going out with him and i dont know wbout my friend...

i need help!

I think your friend isn't a true friend. If she really was, then she wouldn't care if you were going out the the guy she likes. I mean she told you that you should go out with him and so you are... There is nothing wrong with that. You should remind her that she was the one who told you should go out with him. She has no reason to be mad at u. I hope i helped!
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

gey well my good friend monica likes my ex boyfriend jeremy well jeremmy likes her and i dont want them to go out b/c the thought about my best friend and my ex it hurts okay she has alwaysed liked him and hel iked her to but i am with this guy and i cant get jeremy out of my head we have been broke up for a week now. so anyways how can i not let it bother me see he wants a girlfriend so he can get his mind off me and i am all he thinks about and i told him if you go out with monica it will harder for you to get over me b/c she is my best friend well one of them. see what i really need help on is should i let them go out and if i do will i stop our friendship b/c she knows that i still have feelings for him and she knows it kills me but do you think i can get through it? i mean i know i have a boyfriend and everything but he is 4 yrs older than me and i am 16 and jeremy is 16 monica is 16 so i want him back but if monica goes out with him do i need to break off our friendship? i am so confused plz help

Well, you are in a pretty tough situation! If Monica knows you still have something for Jeremy, than she shouldn't go out with him. You should tell Monica how you feel and if she doesn't care for what you say and goes out with Jeremy, she is not a true friend! Just try talking to her.
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

Well, my B-day is exactly one month from now(may 21st) and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas of kinds of (inexpensive) guy-girl parties. I was thinkin of a kind of message thing with the clus where you have to find them and then they lead you somewhere, but i dunno. I live right next door to a school where there is a soccer/baseball/hardtop. Anysuggestions? I rate HIGH! Thanks!

Haha kate, Did you realize you asked our advice column? but i think it goes to other people!! Anyway I love the clues idea, i think everyone will have fun!!!See you later
~oxkateKAYLAxo

[view]

ok, my birthday is in 5 days and my mom usually asks all her kids what they want and where they want to go out to dinner for their birthday. well, she didn't ask me anything yet and she forgot 2 years ago and i think she forgot again =/. i feel like she doesnt even care and i've tried to hint to her that i actually have a birthday unless i'm delirious and its not april 21st today?

Your mom probably has alot on her mind. You have a right to be angry. Just mention to her where you would lke to go for your birthday. If she doesn't remeber that it is in 5 days after that, then something is wrong. Happy alomst birthday!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

For the last few days a bunch of boys in my class have been looking at me funny. At first I thought that I mite have had somthing weird on my face or maybe my outfir looked redicules to them. Then they all started talking to me. Not at once, but boys would come up to me all threw out the day and talk to me. This one boy even said that his best friend (one of the boys who wouldn't leave me alone) had a crush on me. I didn't belive him. Another one, was always trying to make me laugh, anouther one was always starring at me. The boy I have a crush on is really cool and always talking to me too. I can tell he has a crush on me. I think all the other boys have crushes on, and it really freaks me out!!!!!! A bunch of girls have been giving me the cold shoulder, or being really mean. My crush is my best friend too, and we are always together, some stupid boy calls us the love birds. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stay away from all boys in general.

NO NO NO! lol. I would die for a chance like that. Just be friendly towards all those boys who like you (let them down gently) As for the boy you like, I tend to like my friends as well. Tell him how you feel and if he likes you back, maybe you two can plan a date. Boys are wierd like that- when their friend likes a girl, they start to like them too. Hope I helped!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

when is mothers day?? thanx!!

It is on the Eighth of may. (I can never keep track either)
~oxkatekaylaxo

[view]

I have a really great singing voice, but I'm so embarassed to sing in front of anyone, even my mom. Can someone please give me tips to overcome my shyness? I RATE HIGH. Someone pelase help

OMG, I know exactly what you mean. I am in chorus, and my teacher says i sing really well, but i am really shy so my voice comes out soft and squeaky. Just try to conquer your fear. There is really no other way to put it. You just have to relax, take a deep breath and say," hey, i am good at what i do and i enjoy it and if they don't like it , to hell with them!" :) Once you can conquer the fear, you should have no problem!
~oxkatekaylaxo

ps. After I got over my self-conciousness, I ended up getting a solo!

[view]

k so i love music, and i always have to wait to get new cd's. I want to download songs for free. like straight from the site, i have an Imac and firefox, i tried some sites, but it didnt work like on download.com

try www.winmx.com
that is what i use and it is pretty good.

[view]

ok im going into 9th grade and im trying out for varsity...we already had one tryout and i didnt do very well i dont think...i need to be tougher going to the ball....any suggestions??? im a fast learner and im willing to work hard! leave your AIM sn if u can help and also leave advice!!

Haha I have the same problem! my coaches usually modivate me. They get me mad so i will i get tough and get the ball! This helps me a lot. You can even tell your team mates or parents to modivate you. I hope this helps.
My AIM is Ssoccersweety6. Please IM!!

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker