ok so say my name is jenna and this kid's name is john. alright well i have to go to summer school which sucks but im getting used to it. one day while i was at school in the morning i walked over to my friend who was talking to this guy. then he turned to me and said "hey you're jenna, i recognized you because you're her top person on her friends list on myspace" when the guy left i asked who it was and she said "john smith(not his real name)" and i recognized him because my friend had talked about him. it was a friend of my friends ex boyfriend. follow that? ok so that was on friday and over the weekend i accepted him over myspace to be my friend and we talked a bit on there but not much. just the simple questions like what school do u go to? why are you in summer school? whats up? that sort of thing. monday(today) im back in school and im walking in and he's standing at this ledge we have outside my school and he says hey and i wave, not really awake enough to say anything. so then i go inside and sit on the window sill in there waiting for my class and he comes in and he's like "hey *jenna* how was your weekend?" and he gives me a hug. and i said it was good but i was surprised that he gave me a hug because we just started talking 2 days ago. then when i was leaving school he stepped right in front of me and said goodbye and gave me another hug...once again i was kind of confused why. the only guy friends that normally give me hugs are guy friends that i've known for a really long time. now normally i would say that he might like me but he has a girlfriend. i know his girlfriend she goes to my school, he goes to the school in the next town. basically i don't know what this guy's thinking. he doesnt hug my friend and he's known her a lot longer. what do you guys think he's thinking? i'm so confused i never had a guy act this way with me before.
He thinks you're hot, that's what he's thinking. And he's thinking if you express an interest in him, too, he can dump his girlfriend for you.
If you return his advances, he might be a sweet boyfriend for a while, but he'll eventually do the same to you. Your choice if you want to take that chance. If you aren't interested in him, don't hug back or try to avoid the hugs, or call him out on it--"John! You have a girlfriend! You can't hug me like that!" And see how he responds.
Sounds like he's interested in a little summer fling to me.
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do guys talk about other girls, like how he supposedly has 5 dates this week to flirt with you?
read this IM, you think he is trying to make me jealous, or trying to get rid of me?
me:are we gonna hanggout this summer? or too awkard for you lol
himL sure
him:just not this week i have like 5 dates lol
me: bigggg pimp
him (11:15:07 PM): tommorow im going with this girl from lance cruise to her house
him(11:15:14 PM): wensday i have football
him (11:15:19 PM): then going to vilsons and bens
him (11:15:38 PM): thursday im going with these 2 girls and ben to the movies
him (11:15:52 PM): friday im going to the movies again with this girl named shannon
me: haaaa your gonna get laid like 3 times. mannnn whoreeeeeeeeeee
him:na
him: saveing that for someone special
Sorry to break it to you, but he is not trying to make you jealous, he's trying to tell you that he's already got 5 girls lined up, no time for you. :( Time to find someone who ditches any dates he has because YOU are who he wants to spend time with!
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ive started hooking up with this guy ive met. hes really nice and i met him last summer, we kept in touch randomly during the year but havent hungout till two days ago i went to his apartment and we hookedup. i ended up sleeping there and went back last night and slept over again. i think im starting to like him, and trust me i usually never really like guys, especially guys i just hookup with. i want to know what he wants out of this, because if he just wants to hookup i dont think i can talk to him anymore, because now i kind of want a relationship or something. this isnt me, im never like this and i am certainly not the girl to have feelings. i dont want him to think im some clingy 17 year old, so i dont know how to ask. i always joke around and say stuff like "oh if you dont want to talk anymore w.e haha" and hes like obviously i want to, trust me if i didnt want to i wouldnt answer your calls or IM you.
what should i do to cleverly ask?/ tell him i have feelings
Chances are, he is only concerned right now with you sleeping over/hooking up, and hasn't even thought about the potential of a relationship with you. At 22, all he cares about is getting some, especially if you hooked up that quickly. That's probably not what you want to hear, but it's true.
You have a couple of options. First, I would say now is not the time to mention your feelings for him. Try to find reasons for you to hang out that do not involve hooking up (until the end of the date, at least. :) ). He won't even begin to see you as girlfriend material until he has had a chance to spend time with you that is not just hooking up. Right now in his mind, when he thinks of you, he thinks of hooking up, and I would venture to say if you said something about feelings to him, he would be totally confused. If you can go out and do things together, you'll wire his brain to see you in other ways besides sexual, and in time he may realize that he could/does have feelings for you too.
You could also just continue to do what you've been doing--hooking up--for a while, and see if he ever wants anything more from you (as in, an actual date). If the only time you ever see him is to get it on, then, sorry, that's all he wants from you.
In the meantime, try not to get too attached, and try to have fun. And be safe!!
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me and my ex have been going out for over 2 years and we just broke up 2 months ago but were still be talking but it completly ended 4 weeks ago. His last girlfriend also broke up with him and im guessing it was the same reason the thing is his ex girlfriend broke up with him and started dating one of his friends not completly close friends but close. And i did the same thing and i didnt know how wrong of me it was but i really like this guy and he is soo sweet nothing like my ex. What do i do? Is it completly my fault i mean they guy came on to me too!
Well, honestly, you could have held out a little longer for the sake of your ex. The question is, did he do something to hurt you, or did you just get sick of him and move on to his friend? What's important is being respectful of other peoples' feelings. You say you're still talking to your ex, have you explained to him that you honestly did not mean to be cruel by hopping to his friend, but sometimes that's just how life works? This might be a nice thing for you to do. The fact is, he's your ex, so in the grand scheme of things, you don't owe him anything, but if you want to be a kind person, and if you believe that what goes around comes around, it would be worth it to at least try to mend that bridge. These things happen in life, and hopefully you can find a way to still be friends--if that's what you want.
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so i always think i jinx myself by asking things like this especailly with this boy. so anyways. he started texting me again not for too long tho, like a few days, but we haven't texted in the past two nights. should i text him? i texted him one night first but idk if i should again. i heard i shouldn't because like boys wanna work to get the girl or whatever, but idk if he'll think i'm not intrested if i text him or if i'm too obessed if i text him. i honestly don't know what to doo.
If it has been two days, it's your turn to text him. Yes, sometimes guys want to make the first move, but they also want to know you're interested. The key is to text him with something that made you think about him, not just "what's up" or "hi." Maybe you saw something on TV that you know he's interested in and want to know if he saw it, or you heard a song you know he likes and thought of him. So you could say, "Just heard (whatever song) and thought of you--what's up?" (Sorry I'm not using proper text messaging language, a little old to know it well. :) ) The key is, you text him next, see how he responds. If you get a one word response or no response at all, you'll know he's not interested--sorry. If he keeps up the texting, that's a good sign. Also, after you initiate the texting, let him do it next time. If you don't hear back from him, that's your clue he's not interested. In the meantime, keep your options open. This guy doesn't sound especially reliable and if you are too busy worrying about him, you could miss out on Mr. Right. Good luck!
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