Well, whenever me and my two best friends hang out it's all good and we're all happy and talkative with eachother. But lately, this one girl has started to come in and talk to us and whenever she does, I tend to get the left-out feeling. I'll talk but my two other friends'll be like,"Wait, what did you say?" and they sort of pay more attention to her and walk with her more. So basically, I get the boot. But like I said, whenever she's NOT there we're all completely fine and everything.
I just don't know how to handle her whenever she's there.
It's getting to the point that whenever they want her to hang out with all of us I have to make up a lie of some sort so she wouldn't be able to come along.
Help?
mikela thinks.
well. there are two ways to aproch this.
1. you can tell your friends maybe its just me but i feel kinda left out when that girls around.. i mean if theyre really your friends they will understand, i mean mind would.
2. when she come you can try being cool with her. like try talkign to her. try to like get more into the convo with her. does this make since. like if shes says, isnt that the cutest cat. be like omg it is i have a cat like that..da da da da da continue on. if you cant beat it..join it.
that or you can just not hang with your friends when theyre with that person. but that will kinda cut you out on alot of gatherings. the best thing todo is tell your friends how you feel,
ana think:
well.next time your hangin out with just you and your two friends let them know that its bugging you and you feel like they are totally leaving you out. let them know you arent trying to breakup there friendship with this other girl, but it really makes you feel bad when yall all 4 hangout because you feel so left out of everything. dont be whiney about it. just be mature about how you bring it up and how you tell them. they seem like really great friends and im sure they will understand
good luck=] IM me if you need anything else.
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Hi, I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend (he's also my best friend)is moving to Belgium, which is bad because I live in the US. My problem is that though 4th grade all the way through 7th I was a cutter. Now that I found out he's moving... I started again. He Knows what's happening and gives me all the love and support i need... That makes it worse. I love this guy more than ever, and we recently got sexually involved. I'm sooo scared.
P.S. I'm 14, I know young. For what you just read at least. I'm a girl!
ana: okay, so it seems like you realllllyy love the dude. but sometimes if you love somthing enough you have to let it go. considering your 14 there isnt nmuch you can do except keep in touch with him, and try to move on. but DONT cut yourself. that wont do anything but hurt you. surround yourself with friends and family until you get through this. it wont be easy, but you can do it. im sure you will find another great guy, and be just as happy, just give it time. and seriously, get some help&& stop cutting is doesnt solve anything and your wayyy better then that.
good luck, i hope everything works out=]
mikela thinks.
listen. theyre are other ways to deal with your problems. one of my friends use to cut and she got REAL help. your boyfriends great and everything but you need REAL help, professional help. listen there will always be tuff times but cutting yourslef wont make them anyless tuff. you end up just adding more problems on top of that.now i know your gunna miss your boyfriend but if you love him, you will work it out. and maybe hanging out with your other friends are your family will help ease the pain because time heals all and friends will always be there. but seriousely if your cutting yourself you might have other problems you didnt know about. but yeah another thing you can do is pick up a sport or hobbie to keep your mind on other things. i hope everything works out and if you need anything eles. you can im me. miikela says xx. oh ps. my friend sees a proffesional and she loves it and shes really happy now :]
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how in the hell do you rate you guyss i have been looking every where. dont worry yall helpedd me a bunchh and im veryclear on what im going to do. thank you. but dude how do i give yall feed backk?
damnn.
well.
you have to be a member.
soo most of the people who ask advice wont be able to rate but its okay. we know you love us ;]
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ok.
idk if you would know what this is but
i was wondering why it feels like i have a throbbing kind of ish pain in my vagina.
im only 13 too and like im too young to get cancer down there
so do you know what it could be??
well mikela said shes had that be4 and it just hurt but take an advil and if it still hurts then tell your mom
ana:well ask your mom about it and give it some time and if it doesnt go away, take it up with a doctor. dont stress about it though those kind of things are normal
good luck=]
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Ok well me and this guy met a few months ago and i have developed feelings for him since i met him. We actedd like we liked eachother and we did some stuff. but thenn he STOPED talking to me. and i was like ok well screw him. you know even thoe i secretly liked him i was truly getting overhim. then he started calling me the day school got outt and was being very nice and flirty. wanting to hangout with me. and stuff but im afraid he will hurt me again once school starts and i dont want to get back attached to him. him being all nice is only making it worse for me and harder. now im staritng to like him again BUTTT HE ALSO LIKES THIS OTHER GIRL. its pretty fucked i have to say. omg whatt do i do?
ohh and im 15 and female
ana:okay well this guy is obviously a player if he flirts with you then all of the sudden STOPS and he likes you and another girl. trust me honey, he aint worth the time. i know its hard because he is realing you in with his flirtyness and sweetness, but dont let him fool you. he just wants what he wants and isnt thinking about what he did to you and your feelings. try to shut him out and give him the hint that you dont wanna have anything to do with him. you deserve wayy better, dont waste your time on a dogg.=]
good luck!
mikela thinks:
yeah that deff is a problem. but if you worked so hard to like get over him it would be a shame to let all that go to waste, but what you should do is ask him straight up. why did you stop talking to me, and what possessed you to start back up again. just talk it out. you decide if its worth it. you know better than i do. but my nigger ana has a good point if i were you id ask the question then drop his ass.
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whos you twos favorite big brother?
ana&&mikela
JACKKKKKK!!=]
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ok so i like this guy...and we are really just friends do you know how to make him like me?
mikela thinks:
well. chances are. if he can listen to you yap he probally has a little something for you. and you cant really MAKE him like you. but you can deff drop hints. like flirt with him. tell him you like some1 but dont let him know who it is. haha thoses cheesy kind of things. but yeah deff flirt with him like crazy. talk to him. you know. if you think you have a chance why not tell the negro you like him. lol go for it! whats the worst that could happen?
ana: well, maybe you should try confronting him about it, i mean it works out in some situations, (it worked for me=]) but yeah i would definatley let him know you have feelings for him because chances are he feels the same way. dont act any different around him, be your self, and win him over with your personality. good luck=]
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ever since my friend got a boyfriend,she has been bailing on me. I feel as if i am being left out. She says we are still friends, but i just dont know. What do i do?
ana: well we all know when a girl gets a new boyfriend, thats just about all she can think about, i know you feel like your being left out right now but just hold it out, she'll come around she is just excited about her man. dont try to budd in on them. just tell her straight upp that even though the relationship with her man is important so is yalls friendship. she needs to be alerted before she bails so much that she starts to loose her friends, she'll appreciate you saying somthing.=]
mikela thinks:
listen. you gotta set your friend straight REAL fast. just be like listen i love you. your my best friend but you cant keep bailing on me. like i know your boyfriend is important but so is our friendship. set out a day like a..NO MATTER WHAT WERE HANGING OUT THIS DAY. like every monday its you and her time. that way youll see her and its a cool way ya know. but try to be her friend and tell her what shes doing cause she needs to be aware
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im a good girl. i dont look like one. but i am. me and my friends are very good. but i let this guy finger me. and im pretty ashamed. and i dont know how my friends will take it. i dont even really wanna tell them. me and this guy arnt going out. but we really like eachother.
am i a slut or what?
ana&&mikelaa
okay. if they are really your friends, they will comfort and support you and give you good feedback. i mean thats what best friends are for.dont be afraid to tell them, just be sure to tell the friends you trust the most, even if that mean only telling one. and no you are not a slut. just dont make this a normal thing, and if yall really like eachother maybe it was worth it, but dont think that because it happened once that you have to go any further in your sexual relationship if your not comfortorable with it. and make sure that isnt all that your relationship with this is based on. so, tell your most trustworthy friend, and soak up there support, im sure it will make you feel alot better.
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dear mikela&ana,
i got in a fight with two of my really good friends a while ago. And whenever we get into fights, I'm always the person who has to fix things, and talk about it. What if they don't try to make things better? I'm scared that our friendship will go to waste. I miss them, but for some reason, i feel like i can't let them know that. For some reason, i feel like i HAVE to act like i don't care, when i REALLY REALLY do. I don't know, a part of me says "WHO CARESS?!" then the other part of me is like "well, you've all had some GREAT times, and you still care about them dearly, and it would be nice to still have 2 friends, instead of losing them." oy, idk. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!
ana thinks: well. if you care this much they are obviously really important friends to you. some time when yall are together, sit them down and let them know that yalls friendship wont work if they dont pitch in, hopefully this will open up a whole new door to yalls friendship and they will express there opinions about the topic as well. dont tell yourself "who cares". because if you guys never work things out you will regret it to the maxiumm. dont let 2 good friends slip away, work it out (unless they arent contributing to the friendship).
if anything happens let me know. good luck!
mikela:
if your friend isnt trying to fix things. what kind of friend is that. i mean a real freind wants to work things out am i right. but if this is a fight over something stupid like OMG I WANTED THAT HAT! AND YOU WENT AND BOUGHT IT. then well you both will get over it. dont waste your friendship over something stupid. but if its something like real then deff dotn apoligiez i mean listen to their side of course its only fair. but dont be like dude we need to make up let them come to you. either way dont waste your friendship unless its something good. but try to be a bigger person.
LOTSOFLUV. peace
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My boyfriend is Constantly working so I never get to see him the last time i saw him was Thursday and I miss him so much im crying! yeah i know well he cant call me either because hes either eating, sleeping or working so I hardly ever get to see or talk to him. i only see him on his days off (which arnt that many) Im sorry if this is a hard question to answer but what can I do? I want to see him SO BAD!! he lives in a diff. city than I do (about an hour away) and I dont know where he works at either so I cant see him or call him because he doesnt have a cell phone and no work phone. I miss him so much what can I do? and im always thinking about him and it makes me cry because i miss him so much. and another thing is sont say something like "go hang out with your friends or family because my family is out somewhere and my friends are out with THEIR boyfriends so theres no where i can go to get him off my mind im stuck at hi\ome with nothing to do, noone to call, and all i have left to do is think about him and its making me depressed. and DO NOT say break up with him because i LOVE him. is there anything i could do? anything that would make me happier? thanks i will rate and leave really good comments!
Mikela thinks:
well. trying calling and leaving a message asking him to call when he gets the time and ask when his work days are. THEN. surprise him show up at his home and be like BABY I MISSED YOU!! i mean you sound like a pretty desperate woman. and despreate times call for desperate messures. but like even if that doesnt work out. meet new people. pick up a hobbie. like gardening learning to sew. i mean no matter what your going to think about him. but dont think about how you miss him think about hoe much fun it will be when you reunite keep a postitive attiude roll with the bad times. i mean its hard but this just tests your relationship and shows you how strong it is.
:]]
ana thinks:okay. so obviously you love this guy. this is deffinatley a tough one. but if you dont have a job, and you really miss him that much might i suggest moving in with him or yall buying an apartment together, i know its a huge change but i think it could make yalls relationship alot stronger. if that wont workout the only other think i can suggest is find out where he works and give is spiratic visits, im sure if they are from you he will appreciate them. maybe even try getting a job near him.
i feel your pain and wish you the best of luck, im sure it will all work itself out.=]
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I'm 17 and my boyfriend will be turning 19 soon. We have been together for several months, but this is the first birthday that has come during our relationship. I have no idea what to get him! I know whatever I get him should come from the heart & be sentimental but I was thinking things along the line of a few tshirts he likes, gift cards, a new wallet, cologne, things like that. Any ideas/suggestions would be great appreciated!
mikela AND ana think:
well, only you know what he really likes. if i were you id get him something simple like cologne or his fav band t-shirt and a mushy gushy handmade card. i think hell like ANYTHING you give him. another way to make sure you get him something he wants is to ask his friend or something. but like i said im sure he will like ANYTHING you give him. and the mushy gooshy card is like..putting a cherry ontop of the icecream
:]] good luck
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer..
mikela thinks:
NO ITS NOT. your like a number 7 at Mcdonalds. your friends are the fries n coke. they come along with the package. he wants you hes gotta learn to deal with your friends. you should deffinitally tell him that its NOT ACCEPTABLE how he talked to your friend like that, like i said earlier your friends come with the package. if he doesnt like them he doesnt get the BIG MAC ;].
but that is a small bump to over come, you deff need to talk it out with him.
anaA thinks: well i wouldnt go and breakup with him IMMEDIATLY but, i would talk to him about it. tell him that what he said not only hurt your friend, but you as well. tell him you want him to treat your friends with the same respect that he gives you, if he doesnt agree..dump the guy. but hopefully you guys can talk it over and you can let him know that how he treats your friends is really important to you, and try to get him to clear the air with your friend and apologize.
good luck & i hope everything works outt.=]
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Okay my friend is 14, soon to be 10th grader and her boyfriend is a senior. So she's having sex. Her parents don't know.. but she has NO problem flaunting it around everywhere.
She's doing it because she thinks she's in love and she doesn't want to be alone. Being alone is her biggest fear so she latches onto any good guy, you know? I've known her for 5 years and I've seen it over and over.
And a couple of people think her boyfriend is only in on the sex.
They have only been going out for about 6 months.
Should I try to talk to her? Or talk to her parents?
Because she keeps hurting herself.
And I've seen her cry in her sleep and it bothers me..
She's going way too far and I don't want her to get hurt.
mikela:
well.i know what your going through. you can tell your friend what shes doing isnt right or good for her and tell her what can happen. she obvisouly likes this guy but tell her theyre are other ways of showing she likes him. ask her to even ABSTAIN from sex. if hes still with her even tho shes not having sex. he obvisouly likes her.
am i right. but if it gets too out of hand tell her parent. tell YOUR parent after that thers not much you can do except be their for her
anaA thinks: well, i actually have a VERY similar situation going on with one of my friends. if you havent tried talking to her yet, give it a try but if that doesnt do anything go to her parents. she might be mad at you for a while but when its all over she will thank you. let her know that its not somthing to be proud of and that she is going to be known as the school whore/slut if she keeps going around like that, one day she is gonna end up messing around with the wrong guy and she is going to get hurt even more, tell her parents or a cousnler, its tough love tell her you wouldnt do all this if you didnt care.
hope this helps, good luck=]
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i love basketball and i have kinda planned my life around but one thing ive noticed is how all the pro basketball players taht r girls r flat chested its odd to ask this question but im wondering how to prevent that and how to stop your boobs from sweating?!? Please Help
Thankssss
if you like the sports enough, you shouldnt worry so much about the effect it will have on the size of your boobs. but of course all girls want nice boobs, its just a fact. i cant provide a suggestion to keep them big or to stop them from sweating. But if you do go pro im sure basketball will be such a huge part of your life and you wont even have time to worry about your boobs, atleast if they are small you will know your in shape!
i hope this helps =]
anaA
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hey i have a boyfriend. we had sex for the first time last week and now all he wants to do is have sex everyday! what should i do?
well. obvisously you both really like each other if you had sex. this will take alot of guts i must warn you now. but just tell him, listen i like you but i dont want to have sex all the time i mean i know we did it once but that doesnt mean i want to do it all the time. if he REALLY likes you hell accept it and move on. but even after youu said that you might want to avoide tempting situations. like going to his house when no ones there. having him over being alone..try hanging out with him in public places with friends. stuff like that.
i hope everything works out.
Love. Mikela.
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okay. so this BITCH is all over my BOYFRIEND and i do believe the words BITCH and BOYFRIEND dont go together but shes kind of like my friend...ish. and if i tell her that she needs to back the hell off of him (which she needs to, believe me)then all of her n her friends n my boyfriend will probly think im retarded. but she acts like he's her boyfriend so i WANNA say sumthing but...AHHHHH idunno what to say to her w/o being the loser/ jealous/ girlfriend that i am
anaA thinkss:okay, i totally get where you are coming from. but she knows yall are boyfriend and girlfriend, and she is just trying to compete with you and obviously its not working because yall are still together. i would let her know though, dont be whiney about it, just get straight to the point and let her know how much its upsetting you but no need to start beef. just talk to her privatley and tell her that you dont want to make this a huge deal, but you just wanna clear the air and make sure she knows that her flirtting && trying to get with your man when he is yours really bothers you. dont be a biotch about it, just let her know calmly. im sure she will understand, if not maybe yalls friendship isnt one worth pursuing.
mikela thinks..listen. if this girl is all over your man. you really need to tell her. but be mature and calm and relaxed. just be like listenn i like you your cool da da da da but im not comfertable with you spending more time with my boyfriend than i do. so if you could please lay off him, because if this continues im going to be forced to take dramatic and imediate action! :] thanks bitch!
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