about

I'm 16 years old. I'm in 11th grade. Most of my friends that I give advice to have done pretty well.. either they took my advice or I made them think about things they haven't thought about b4.
I'm good at answering questions about sex. not that I'm like a fein.. but I like to know about it so I can be safe, and now if you ask for advice you can be safe and informed too.
I'm also good with frienship issues.. or anything in that matter! I'll be straight with you and tell you what you need to do or what you should/shouldn't do if its that type of question. I won't hold back.
I'm also not going to judge you, if you're 13 and having sex.. HEY! that's your business! I'm just gonna make sure you know EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!! or if you cut or something going on with ur family or watever, I'm not gonna make you seem like you have a disease.
I hope you all can trust me and leave me one in my inbox and I'll hit you up with the best advice and information I can.
Love Always,
!~$*AMANDA*$~!

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i was at my friends house with a bunch of other friends and we got drunk. the whole night i was hanging all over the kid i liked ( who happens to be a good friend) and i refused to talk to anyone besides him. i tried to kiss him when i was drunk but he wouldnt kiss me. does that mean anything besides he only likes me as a friend?

i think it just means he didnt want to kiss u when u were drunk bc maybe he thought that that is the only reason why u were tryin to kiss him... cause u was drunk. he might like you so he might want u to be sober so he knows that u kno what u are doing.
Manda

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i have a bf and i really like him and we have been going out for about 9 monthes. but this past day i went over to friends house and she has 1 brother and he is really cute and i like him as well as my bf....so what im saying is what should i do should i break uo with my bf or stay with him!! HELP!!!

well i dont want to see you dump ur bf of 9 months and try to get this other guy when this other guy may not even like you. then u take the chance of ending up alone and wishing u had ur old bf back. so try to figure out if this other guy is really wat u want and if he likes you.. and if hes looking for a girlfriend.
Manda

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This might sound a lil weird.. but im 15 and i was wondering when is the best age to start having sex?

everyone is saying when u get married! i think the best age is when u are in love and u want to remember that person forever and u kno that they love you and want to be with you and when u kno everything u need to kno about sex!
If u need to talk leave one in the inbox or IM me at aim> softnsexy489
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whats it mean when ur crap is green

that can happen if like u eat cake right and the icing is blue or purple or green or if u eat someone of blue like a cookie that has alot of blue icing or something with food coloring in it. it should go back to normal soon.
Manda

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how do i get a girl friend

just be urself. u dont want to act like someone ur not and then make the person think ur that person and then it gets totally ruined!!! i think if u be urself and u find a girl that likes you for you then shes a keeper.
Manda

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Ok me and my boyfriend just broke up on Friday. then on Monday some guy i like asked me out, but i still like my ex-boyfriend what should i say to the guy that asked me out?

i think itd be wrong to say yes to this other guy bc u still like ur ex. ud be cheating him outta gettin the whole u. and u wouldnt want him to think ur using him as a rebound. i think u should wait a while untill u figure things out about ur ex and this new guy. and wait till ur sorta over ur ex.
amanda

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oMg! major problem here! i can't believe i'm even admitting this! but i really like a younger guy! as in 3 years younger!!! he's 13! I can't believe it! Is 3 years younger 2 young? what should I do?

age aint nothing but a number... but u might change ur mind if he is too immature or sometin liek that or if ur worried about what ur or his friends will think
manda

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is it a good way to make money

its a great way. but also depeneds on the kid. in my opinoon babies are better. charge about $5-$7 an hr and ur set.... i do it with one lil baby and i make 60 bucks a week.
manda

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For everyone I wanna know how old were you when you lost your virginity, how did it go, was it to someone special or do you regret it, where were you when it happened... and so on. Thanks

i was 15 when i lost mine. it was to my current bf that ive been with for 9 months now going on 10. it was very special. (AND PAINFUL MAY I ADD!) maybe not the place but i got 22 mosquito bites from it. lol. it was on a roof in a park. at nighttime so no one saw us. and im known to be a girl that would think thats SOOOOOO NASTY. im very conservitive. but see we didnt have no where to really do it and the threat of us breakin up bc of my mom and family bc hes black and im white, made me want to loose it to him bc i love him. i would do anything for him i would die for him. and with my mom and stuff it made me love him more. and i wanted to loose it to him bc he was my 1st love and he meant so much to me. he was my 1st real bf, my 1st boy to hold hands with, the 1st boy i allowed to get close to me, my 1st kiss my 1st everything. i love him soooo much and ill never regrt it. i now have my one true wish. which was to always remember him. and now i can. u got me crying lol.
Manda

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i had sex with a guy a few times and now im looser down there. is there any way to get things back to how it used to be before i did anything with him ?

umm theres exercises called kegel exercises.
for more info on that go to www.talksexwithsue.com
when u get to the site enter it and all that. at the top ull see 'sexual information' click that.
then ull get a long list of things. they go in alphabetical order so go down to the K section and look for 'kegel exercises (better control of genital muscles)' and click that, then read what to do.
hope i helped. rate me. and if u got lost tryin to find it IM me on MSN or AIM or leave one in my inbox and ill help u out.
Manda


DANG THESE PEOPLE SAYIN NO WERENT NO HELP!! THEY HAVE ALOT TO LEARN,

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Does sex always hurt the first time? My friends say it does... but are there any ways for it to not hurt at all?

everyone is different. some of my firends said it didnt hurt. all depends. like have u even been fingered b4 stuff like that. with me it hurt like a bitch even though i was fingered once. i was "tight" and it hurt so bad. but i kinda took the pain bc once the pain is over its heaven from there!!!!
amanda.
ps. also depends sorta on ur man's size.... or so ive heard.

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Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think?

well like u siad its totally up to you. i thought the same way b4 it happeend to me. i thought it was sooo nasty!! and the kissing thing too! but! we (me and my bf) would talk about it and id be like "its ur mouth, if u wanna do it go head. but dont think ur gonna get any from me" and he still hasnt. and hes cool with that. i mean he wishes i would do that for him but i think its totally gross. but he can do it when ever he wants on me lol its feels so good!
and u can also tell ur bf that after he does that to you to go wash out his mouth. i tell my bf that too. well he does it anyway. but some of my friends say it shouldnt matter bc its u and u kno ur clean. but hey watever u wanna do lol.
i still rather him wash his mouth out personally.

Manda

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hey. how long does the pleasure last when ur having sex? i hope it lasts longer then masterbating cuz the pleasure only lasts lyk 15 seconds when i masturbate. i rate high!

its kinda the same. only some guys reach thier O way b4 girls. its like we take about 5-7min to reach ours. when they can cum within 3-4min! when im having sex and i reach that point it comes and its there for a bit like i cant move then its over. but it sure is nice! :)
and it also depends on how "horny" u are and the person u are too.
Manda

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My friend told me tht she caught her sister cutting....Can ne1 tell me wht tht is? I asked her wht it wuz and she looked @ me like I wuz crazii...Wht is it?! I need 2 no!!

cuttin is where ppl cut themselves literally to inflict pain on themselves to relieve pain they are feeling inside. they can cut anywhere on thier bodies. wrists, shoulders, legs, thighs ect.
manda

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what is a good product to use to make your hair less frizzy?..i am kinda looking for something that i can rub into my hair when its when they blowdry it and not have to take as much time to straighten it..i guess something that blocks against humidity and frizzies if that makes sense

i hear garnier fructis sleek and shine, shampoo and conditioner and this leave in stuff works. i use the regular shampoo and it works. ima get the sleek and shine stuff soon bc i have the same problem. frizz. ill let u kno if it works. or u cantry urself too.
Manda

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hi im a 13/m and i dont masturbate by like just putting my hand around "it" and pushing or w/e i just take a pillow or w/e and sorta push on that (sorry if thats 2 graffic). is that abnormal or not?

its normal. guys tend to have different ways of pleasuring themselfs. hey do what pleasures u!!!
Amanda

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well i had my period.. n they were like all the symptoms n everything so im sure i had it.. but ive missed my period date?? idk wats going on.. i tried to wait a few extra days but its been like 4-5 days n i sitll havent gotten it? its my 2nd time getting my period so i dunno is that normal? im not very close with my mom.. so i cant really talk to ehr about it.. i dunno what to do! helppp!! ((n i havent been having sex lol so it cant be that))

well if u had sex then there shouldnt be nothing to worry about. its only ur second time gettin ur period so ur irregular. my second time was like a month later. so it all depends. it takes up to two years to become regular. (gettin ur period every 28 days) all girl range. im on a 25 day schedule. so u can get it any day up to 28 days. my aunt got hers every 4 months! its been 2 years and im still irregular too. im Definetly sure u have nothing to worry about! ull get it within time. its only ur second period.
Manda

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i'm on my sister's advice name, but im a guy and i have really hairy arm pits. is it weird to um...shampoo it? does anyone else do this? thnx

i wouldnt think its wierd!!!! shit id rather u smell GOOD than smell FUNKY!!! lol. i think its ok.
manda
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Me and My boyfriend have been going out for awhile but we haven't seen eachother sence we started going out because I had cheerleading and he had football..we talk on the phone all the time but I wanna do something together with him..should I just ask him one day on the phone to do something or wait till he asks me?

u can ask him first.. ask him to go to the movies or hang out with u at a park or someting.

Manda

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what r some ways to get rid of cramps

girl! i have cramps soooo bad i have to take prescription pills for them. neways u can take ALEVE those work great for some reason. and then u can put a hot water bottle or heating pad on ur stomache. and u can also do sit ups if u can.
Manda
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ps. if no aleve, ibeprofin works good too!

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