Wow. Its been a really long time since I've been on this name. I lost the password for this one and haven't been on this advice column for a while. My other one is ohxbaby. So yeah, I love giving advice, and if you like my advice just drop a question and I'll answer it A.S.A.P.
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Member Since: January 25, 2006
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im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep** (link)
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Ok well you could do many things.
1. you can try talking to him about it, it might help depending on the guy.
2. you can tell someone, if he does that to you, most likely he'll probably do it to other girls too, so if you get him help you will stop other girls from getting hurt.
3. dump him, if he doesn't listen to anything you say, or stop dump him. tell him you don't want someone who hurts you.
With all of these choices, you probably should tell someone. He needs help.
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is 16 years old too old for a 14 year old?
because i don't think its a problem and it never ever seemed like a problem until one of my friends brought it up. hes totally cool with it. and he doesn't like force me to do anything. its nice. but is he really too old? (link)
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No, its not a big age difference.
To be honest, if you like him enough, you shouldn't care what other people think.
I like a guy who's 17 and I'm 14 and it might seem like a huge age difference now because we are teenagers, but htink of it this way, when your 20, he will only be 22.
I have an amazing guy, he told me that he doesn't care what his friends think, and if his friends have a problem with it than "f*** them" cuz they arn't true friends than.
He seems sweet.
But if he forces you to do stuff you don't want too, thats when you drop him, no matter how much you like him, don't do something you don't want too just because he wants you too.
I hope this helps sweetie.
Good luck.
Marta
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Hi, I am 15 and I will be 16 in March. My ex boyfriend broke up with me cause his parents were afraid he would get introuble with the law cause he is 19. We weren't doing anything sexual, is it still illegal to even date? I live in Michigan and I know the age for sex here is 16, but what about just dating?
Now he wants to wait till he moves out at the end of March or later to go back out. Cause he HAD to leave me or get kicked out of his house. Should I wait for him.. or move on? I really love him.. and he doesn't even know if we will ever get back together. I'm confused and heartbroken, any advice? (link)
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If you really love him...
you'll wait.
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i have NO clue what to get my b/f for v-day.. he likes skateboarding and hes doing something really really big for me so i want to do/get something nice for him
any suggestions? (link)
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Ok well, usually on valentines day guys get girls flowers and chocolates, I think you should try getting him flowers and chocolates, its like a nice gesture since they always get us those things. Also, everyone loves flowers and chocolates, unless he's like allergic lol.
Hope this helps.
Marta
Oh. P.S. you could also get him like a cute teddy bear...it might be girly but its still cute.
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u wanna know what marta
u stink
and this isnt CM
*wink wink*
:-P
hahaha (link)
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Of course its not CM
there is just someone who happens to have
the exact problem as you. lol
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i like a kid in 9th grade
he is like really amazing
how can i make a move on him?
nevertheless approach him?
notice:: he just got out of a relationship.
thannnnks (link)
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I think if he just got out of a relationship, you should just be there for him. Don't approach him in a more the friend way right now, wait till' he is steady and ready to have another gf.In my personal oponion, you shouldn't approach him, let him approach you, maybe wait a while. If he doesn't THAN maybe approach him.
Hope this helps.
Marta
P.S. I know this is CM
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So i'm a 14/f and (i live in a very weathy area,but am not rich)i have a disability called Cerebral Plasy, it effects the way i walk and is VERY noticeable.At school i am not popular ( not that that is very important) and people look down on me because of my disability. What they dont understand is that i am just like them: i am a girl who can talk and be fun and loves music and shopping and girly(ish)thing> what they dont understand is that i am just LIKE THEM. I am not saying i want to be a clone of them or anything, i just wish that they wouldnt judge me for my disability instead of getting to know me because i am JUST LIKE THEM (but not a judgeing bi***).
It is the same way with boys too. The problem is i was trained to be shy because i know they judge me, but i am not shy with friends of family.
What can i do to show them that i am not just some freak. (link)
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The truth is, kids are mean.
I know your probably just like them, but they don't see that because they don't bother to get to know you becuase you have a disability.
Try getting to know ppl online, and get friends outside of school. If they know how you act and your personality hopefully they will see that you are more than just a disability unlike the people at your school.
Teenage years are tough years, I am a teenager myself. I hope that everything works out for you, and know you always have friends here on advicenators.
Marta
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I have Limewire and I want to know how to get those songs on my MP3 player. ( I have a Sony Bean if that helps ) My brother got about 100 songs on it but I have downloaded more and hes in college and works 3 jobs so he doesn't have time to tell my how to do it.
Pleasee Help =) (link)
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I used to have an MP3 player and what I used to do is find where the music is stored. than open the folder that goes with your MP3 and drag the music into the other folder. I did this until i got an ipod. now I just use itunes.
I hope I helped
marta
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ok so here it is.
3 guys.
3 different grades.
3 problems.
Yes, it's true, i kinda like 3 guys.
one in 7th, one in 8th, and one in 9th.
I am in 8th.
The 7th grader, i've been out with this past year,
the 8th grader i have also been out with this year, and the 9th grader i havnt been out with, i just like a lot, but he has a gf.
both the 7th and 8th grader like me.
i have no idea what to do.
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I agree with the person below me.
Leave him alone, no use chasing after someone who doesn't like you back. So decide between the 7th and 8th grader. Who was better to you. But don't even think about the 9th grader, if he has a gf he obviously doesn't want anyone else at the moment.
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Ok this girl at my school has an std. she thinks nobody knows about it but obviously ppl found out if i know. Well the thing is this guy broke up with her and is now dating one of my friends. well if the chick w/std and him did anything then he might have it and he could pass it to my friend. but heres the thing He doesnt know that she had an std! i reallly want to tell him bcuz i soo dont want my friend to get one from him [if he has one] so should i tell or no?
sorry its long i rate 5's! (link)
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I think you should totally tell your friend, no one wants to get an STD! So by telling him you'd actually be doing him a favor. He might stop liking her, he might not. Its better he knows. Some guys actually don't mind, if they know what to do to not catch it. I think you should totally tell him.
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How can i remember to take my medicine every night?!
I have to take it every 12 hours and i take it around 7 am before school so i guess i'd have to take it around 7 pm nightly. What can I do to help me remember to take it at night? I have a fine time remembering to take it with my other med. in the morning. Help me!
Thanks!
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Put a post it note on your mirror, if you look at yourself (if your a girl than you def. do) tha you'll see it and remember. Another thing you can do is set a reminder onto your cell phone (if you have one) so it rings when you have to take your pills.
I hope this helps
marta
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So I'm a 17 year old female, and I need to give you a little back story so you can better understand this. This past week and a half, this boy and I got close working on the school play together. He was really flirty and I was flirting back. Then on Saturday, I found out he went out with this girl the night before that he's been pining after for a while, and she told him that she likes him back. The flirting kind of ended for a day, and then it started back up a little by Sunday. I know that this is just a weekend, but I fell hard.
My question is, should I tell him that I like him, just to let him know, or should I let it go and let him be happy with this other girl? (link)
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I think you should tell him.
If he likes you back than good, if not, at least you did. Be like "I don't want to ruin what you have with so and so, but I think you should I like you" Its straight forward and honest. He might secretly like you and the only reason he is with the girl in the first place is because he thinks you don't like him. Flirting doesn't always mean you like someone.
Hope this helps
Marta
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Hiya, my name is Diane I'm 13. I really like this guy, lets call him Tom. Tom and I used to hangout every Friday and I mean we've kissed and stuff during spin the bottle but it has never ment anything. In november i was at my friend Joe's party. Joe was with his girlfriend, Joe's other friend John was with his girlfriend and I was just with Tom like walking around this park we went to. Since we were alone we talked alot and he put his arm around me for a good 10 minuets...until I kindof push him off. Anyway since then we've been really close friends. We flirt all the time even when his girlfriend walks by (one girl dumped him cause of that). And he tells people he wants to hangout with me, but I want him to make a move already I mean i'm probably sending mixed signals or something but how do I get him to make a move? (link)
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You can't GET him to make a move, but you can talk to him about it. Thats what I do with guys, if I want a guy to ask me out or something I'll talk about it with him, be like "yeah who do you like" or something. Right now, to me it seems as if he likes you, but doesn't want to ruin the friendship. He is probably thinking the same thing as you and doesn't want to seem stupid by making the first move and you maybe turning him down. I would give him more signals that you are interested in being more than friends with him.
Hope this helps
Marta
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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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I think he is just insecure that he is overweight so he takes it out on you.
A lot of people do that, they are bitter because they arn't happy with themselves.
You are average, or perfect, and he isn't. It makes him mad.
Don't take it personally, try talking to him about it, if he is to bitter to even do that, move on.
You shouldn't have to deal with his insecurity.
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hi
well me and my boyfriend just broke up..and i dont like him any more...i think...and i like other people but im not sher they like me..and the valintine dance is comein up and i wont to have a guy to go with ...and i kinda like my x's best freind but im not really shere if there still best friends...and im goin back to my old way ...blemic stuff(5'2 140)...i fell really fat and its gymnastics time at my school and its no cut so im on the team..so im on the team...and i feel really fat compared to the other girls....and it makes me feel in concrel...u c my grandma is livein with us and shes 85 and im the one who get stuck takin care of her...my mom and dad r always gone...so im alway stuck at home with my grandma....please help asap..... (link)
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I'm not sure exactly what your asking, but I'll try my best here. For the boyfriend thing, you should probably just ask his best friend, I mean....no hurt can come of it except that he might say no. If he says no, its his loss not yours. As for the gymnastics stuff, don't stress it, once you start you'll probably lose a ton of weight. If you still want to lose weight before starting you might want to try running every morning or night and eat fat free stuff, its actually really tastey.
Hope I helped,
Marta
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