Member Since: June 25, 2010
Answers: 27
Last Update: November 5, 2010
Visitors: 2427
|
| |
This is kinda long but I want you to fully get where I'm coming from.. and I greatly appreciate all answers because I have nobody else to ask for help about this.
My family moved to a new town in Texas, all the way from New Jersey. Even though I've been here since March I still feel like the new girl. I'm 16 btw. So far its summer vacation and I've only hung out with a girl from school once. The rest of my summer I've pretty much spent at home on the computer, at volleyball practice, or visiting relatives. I don't want my entire summer to be a waste.. how do I make friends with people? Should I always be the one inviting them for things?
One of my regrets for the summer is I tried inviting a group of people to a concert and I said my mom could pay for it so they should give me the money, and she would only buy tickets once she got the money from everyone. But they gave me the money too late and the show sold out. I hope they still aren't mad for me for that.. but it wasn't my fault cause I kept reminding them about it. Next time everyone's gonna have to buy their own tickets themselves. But I dont know if because of that those girls don't want to hang out with me anymore, cause they really did want to go to the concert but I gave them over a week to give the money and they gave me the night before the show.
I dont know what to do now.. I cant just keep inviting them for concerts and thats the only time I see them. But those people I invited were nice and I hung out with them during school.. you think they are still holding the concert thing against me? And.. I guess Im pretty socially inept.. I was pretty bad with this sort of thing in my old town too. I live in a big neighborhood and I know a couple girls from school who live here. Should I just ring their doorbell and be like "hey, wanna hang out?" but what do we do.. just walk around the neighborhood? Its sad but in my life I have little "friend experience" like that.. I don't know why cause I think Im a cool person I guess but people didn't really invite me for things so I didnt have the confidence to invite them either.. I feel like I dont know what to do.
I cant invite people to my house cause there's nothing to do but watch tv or go on the computer.. we still need to buy a lot of stuff for our new house cause its bigger than my old one. So should I just randomly invite people I think are nice to movies and the mall and etc? Ive never even been to the mall with friends before. Do you just walk around and just look at clothes? Sorry if this sounds pathetic.. ugh. Im a very social person so I dont even know how Im in this situation.
Im going to be on the school's volleyball team too and over the summer we have practices but I feel awkward around them because they all know each other cause its a small school, and I just moved from a big school so Im not really used to that. Like they have their conversations and I dont want to intrude, also cause I don't really know what they're talking about. And then I hope they don't think Im shy cause I dont talk alot cause of it. Their parents are really nice and in my old school the volleyball parents were just to themselves.. I guess its just the Southern hospitality thing? But it makes me awkward that the parents are so nice and welcoming like that.
Ugh what can I do to make friends in this place? How do I set up hanging out with people? Like do I just text them and say "hey wanna hang out?" then what next? I want this summer to actually be fun cause most summers I've just been in my house but NOT THIS ONE. I still have a little more than a month. Help me please!! (link)
| |
Volenteer or get a job summer job somewhere where there are alot of teens your age. you said your on a team maybe you can bake cookies for everyone one day not saying you have to buy friendship or kiss ass but they will remeber you as the nice girl who bought us the cookies. or you can organize or suggest that the team have movie night. get everyones facebook and myspace. and put out a mass e-mail for you to all go bowling or something. and don't be a afraid to talk to your team members YOUR A TEAM. There is no I in team. If one of you falls you all fall. You have to work together there should be no clicks. thats what makes a good team. don't be shy come out of your shell its great that your on a summer team thats your ticket to start getting new friends right there.
|
No one is hiring, I'm negative in the bank, and I'm ashamed of myself that I have been out of college for 3 years and no one wants me to work for them.
I've tried selling a book, nothing. Stores, nothing. temp agencies, ****ing nothing.
I'm starting to get suicidally depressed about this, and am starting to think that if I don't get some money soon, the only way I won't be a strain on my family is to wander off some desolate to starve to death.
male, 27 (link)
|
i'm so sorry to hear that you feel this way. Unfortunately alot of people are going through the same struggles you are. The country is in a resetion. I need more information about you to answer this question. there could be a number of reasons why its hard for you to get a job.
1. Where do you live. There is a possibility that the city you're living in has a low unemployment rate to begin with.
2. Maybe when you go out on interviews your doing something wrong. Try to make eye contact with your interviewer. And speak with confidence.
3. Maybe there is something in you background that is preventing you from being hierd. Did you commit felony. What was the reason you left your last job?
4. Maybe you're over qualified. Employers won't take a chance on someone who seems overlly capable of doing the job, because they run the risk of having that person eployed only short term.
What your going through is tough. I've been there myself. But please don't be depressed and don't do anything stupid like taking your own life. I'm sure you family and friends that love you.
You have to put your self out there talk to your neighbor ask around the neighborhood maybe someone knows someone whos hiring. Send out your resume everyone And i do mean everyone. At the same time think about what kind of skills you posess. What do you like to do. And go out there and see who's hireing in that industry. Get a caree councelor the government give free career advice. Craigslist.org is always hireing. Look in the news paper for jobs. There has to be something somewhere When you find something take it no matter how much it pays no matter how degrading it is do it and it will just be a stepping stone to get what you want.
you mentioned you tried selling a book are you an author? People need writters all the time to right plays to re-write a novel There is a whole insustry for that research i don't know if you have a computer at home but research all your options there are all kinds of things going on you don't even know about.
I hope i helped you. Keep your head up.
|
Okay, so i'm 15 years old, going to level 1. This is my summer vacation, and my mother tells me my curfew is 11!!! That really bothers me because throughout the school year, my curfew on weekends was 12... I really feel like im being mistreated here, but she will not reason with me. I hate my curfew, and it's embarrassing when all of my friends can be in at 12 and 1..but i'm home at 11.
I've tried to explain to her sooo many times that all of my friends can stay out later than me, she just says it's only an hour!
What can i do to change this? I would really appreciate any advise, thanks! (link)
|
you know its funny if i were still 15 years old i would agree with you. But now that i'm older i understand why mothers are so annoying. As far as i'm concerned your mother is right you do need to be home at at a reponsible hour i'm surprised she let you out that late when i was 15 my curfew was at 9:30pm
Any way its my experience that nothing good happends at midnight that when all the freeks and crazy ass people come out. you're only 15 years old you may think you're grown but there is alot to learn about world.
now before you give me a bad rating on my advice hear me out. I don't know you therefore i don't know what kind of a teen you are but if you really thing that you are mature enough to stay out that late you must show her that you are responsible you have to negotiate with her do extra chores around the house wash her car walk the dog or you can even show he how responsible you are buy getting a part time job or volunteer show her that you are capable of handeling things on your own and trust me she will feel more at ease to let you come home at a even later time because she knows that you're a god responsible. kid. In nutshell basically what i'm saying is kiss some serious ass and she'll comply. hope i could help.
|
|
I've always tried to go to the gym five times a week but it can get a little boring sometimes u know. I hate exercising in the same place and doing the same things. I just wanted to know if you can recommend any exercises that I can do at home that will get the cardio pumping without the treadmill. Thanks. I don't want to do weights at home because that's what I pay a gym membership for. However, I do use a articular weight for my arms not to bulk them up. I just need a routine like maybe squats or something (link)
| |
i know wxactly what you meani get bored to. i lost 50 pounds in 6 months doing taebo. i was 280 pounds the weight falls off so fast and you sweat like crazy.TRUST ME try it. the dvd's are pretty are a good price. you can find the on amozon. i was so lazy. i never worked out never i was very lazy i don't know what size you are but if i can get my big ass up so can you. another fun workout with cool music that like danceing is turbo jam IT WORKS.
|
okay, there is this boy. We have been on and off for a while and were really close; we hug, text, flirt but were only just mates. we hes not around i think about him, i wait for him to text me, i have had dreams about him and i get tingles when he talks to me. he doesnt treat me like any other girl, makes me feel speacil. the only problem is, he used me once (asked me out when he didnt have feelings for me) and he also flirts with my best friend even though he hates her.
he said he liked me, and even tryed telling me he loved me.. but he wasnt direct about it (he dont like talking about his feelings AT ALL.) so what should i do.
i also like someone else,,, but not as strongly as my ex.
14/f (link)
|
Forget this dude. He is no good. I speak from experience i am not a woman scorned i just know men. Men are selfish people at times. you said your self he's used you before don't walk into the same trap again. When people show you who they really are the firstime belive it. Don't make up a story and belive what you want to belive.
thats the thing about girls we tend to like the bad boy or the boy that doesn't treat us right. I know you feel tingles and you love getting tesxt messages and all that other crap but seperate yourself from all that stay away for a while and you'll get over him. save yourself the drama.
|
18/m my best friend is 17/f
Ok, so basically...I have a crush on my best friend. I don't know what to do. But there's more. She has a boyfriend that she really likes...I'm leaving for college soon...we've been over this before and she said no....AAHHHH!!!! I have no idea how to deal with this anymore. I've tried just playing nice and ignoring how I feel about her, but I can't control it. It really bothers me anytime she talks about him and how much I need to meet him and stuff. I don't know. Any advice is welcome, and if anyone has any questions, just ask me, I'm not too sure what else needs to be put. Thanks guys and gals (link)
|
this is a tough one you are in a bad situatiion its hard to really be in love or like with someone and the don't feel the same way you might feel rejected and feel like you can treat her so much better. But its time for some tough love you have to move on she is not into you in that was.
did you tell her that you liked her? What did she say. I you told her and she played it off like she doesen't want to deal with it right now you need to back off. You said that you can't help loving her and seeing them together pisses you off so you must let time heel. Don't hang around her too mcuh but at the same time don't be mean about it. stay away for awhile and in time you will get over her.
|
22/F
Okay, I weigh approx 280 lbs. and I am 5'7 so my BMI is high or whatever. I do have a genetic predisposition to diabetes because it runs greatly in my family. Yes, I am obese. (But I don't in my eyes appear to be obese, I have very large muscular thighs, and they have very little cellulite. But I do have a large stomach and chest, 44 ddd.)
I am currently taking Metformin 500mg 2 tablets everyday... (but I do forget often). My periods have been abnormal for the past 4 years. Like I get only 3 periods a year. I have had ovarian cysts but have not been diagnosed with PCOS.
Yes, I have been to the doctor and she's told me all the stuff about how I need to loose weight, YEAH I KNOW. Plus I just got done taking both a nutrition and health class and has been ridiculed a great deal in both classes about being obese.
But has this changed my mind? No. I know that I am already pre-diabetic... especially for type 2 diabetes. I know what diabetes is and I know that it can kill me if I don't loose the weight.
My question is why with all this information and knowledge I have, I CONTINUE TO EAT.
I can honestly say that life happened to me in the past 3 years, I had a really bad break up, suffered the death of a best friend, lost my apartment because of people who used me, lost a lot of friends, and was used for sex which was a major blow to my self-esteem. I mean it was a lot... so my comfort was and still is food.
Why is it that I won't give it up? What can I do...
My ultimate fear is that if I loose weight, that I will put it back on... and weigh more than I am now...
I really want lap band surgery to ensure the weight will stay off but its costly and my insurance won't cover it.... I don't know what to do, but something needs to be done. Lap band surgery however is still an option for me. (link)
| |
I can toatally understand where you are comming from. Its hard to lose wight and its hard to change your life. We are so much alike I was 280 pounds as well. i was diagnosed with PCOS also. my BMI was high and my mother has diabetes so it runs in the family which is not good. But i was sick and tierd of being sick and tierd and i made a choice to change. I joined a gym i worked out out on the elliptcal machine for an hour each day i lifted some light weights too. I ate alot of fruits and veggies lean meats and fish i cut out soda any thing with high amounts of sugar any thing with high fructose corn syrup and i cut out all white foods white bread pasta and rice. i'm not going to tell you it was easy. alot of times i wanted to quit. alot of times i did not get the results i wanted but i kept going and I was 280 on march, 1 2010 and now today i'm 245 i lost 35 pounds it was not easy but i did it and i feel so much better. please don't take the easy way out. the lap band surgery will not help you. Its all about your mind. Find out the reason why you over eat. Why you are fat and then you will be successful in you weight loss journey. the surgery is not a real fix it fixes the out side not the inside. oh yes one more bit of advice if you really want to start losing weight try kick boxing that worked wonders for me. Taebo was a life saver. no more excuses don't say you can't do it or you don't have time MAKE the time. your life depends on it. i wish you the best of luck. I know you can do this. I know everyone says this and its getting old but if i did it you sure can cause i was so lazy never excersied loved mcdonalds fried chiken and chilly hot dogs. i never liked to sweat and i loved soda and snacking at night. I've also tried every fad diet known to man. but i did it on my own and so can you. Good luck and if you ever need advice feel fre to ask me anything cause i've been exactly where you are and my journey is not over yet we can do it together. I know i talk alot but i just identified with you so mcuh. GOOD LUCK
|
|