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Heyyy everyone! Im alexa and im 13. I've been through some stuff with losses and the occasional chaos of middle school.I love helping people about random stuff =D I'm a very random person!! haha if you want to talk in private always email me :)
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Hi,
I won't go into detail here, as If I do we'll be here all day :-(
Anyway, I have helped a friend who was in desparate need, financially and physically for over a year now, and it has nearly drained me of all my resources. I am so tired and worn out and also worried about my own finances. She claims she will still need my help for another two months and then should be able to get back on her feet and start paying me back. Which I just can't see how she will do that. I have tried to tell her NO, that I can't do this anymore, but I just can't say it, because honestly she has no one else.
yes I feel like I am being taken advantage of, but also she needs the help.
Is there an easy way to say NO? If she didn't have small children--I could do it easier perhaps.
this is exactly what my mom did for my dad for about 15 years. they were never married but she still wanted to help him. from what she did, coming up to know i am living with my grandparents and my mom. we can't afford a house, car, ect. and it's become specially hard when she started to look for a new job. with other things she is over 20,000 dollars in debt. she wishes she could take everything back. dad never gave us a penny.
this is where you might end up. or in a different situation close to this.
i would say to help her as many ways as you can without giving her money. it will just end you up no where.
ofcourse there isn't an easy way to say no to a friend. you always want to do the best for her. but sometimes saying no is the best way to go.
tell her your situation and explain why you have to stop giving her money. she might understand.even if it might not seem like it, you are doing the best thing by stopping. it will pay off later
i hope i helped. =D
contact me if you need anything else!
how do u add a freind?
you click add to friends!!! haha nice londyn :)
no wonder ur my bff!
so there is a really good party soon and i got invited the only thing is. is that i only know a couple of people. one is the guy i like but the girl he likes is going to be there and i really dont like her alot. so should i go anyway even if he and the host are the only people i know. i asked him if he was going to hang with the girl he liked and he said he would rather than me.
(one of his best friends)
xox thanks xoxo
this is a chance to branch yourself out to people.
if you do go just be yourself, you shouldn't care what other people think! have a blast and you'll definately be the hit of the party. meeting new people is always tough. if you ask the two people you know at the party to introduce you to some of their friends im sure you will be a lot more comfortable with someone you know introducing you. just don't be to clingy.
also, don't worry about the boy. and be nice to his gf if you run into her. compliment her on clothes, makeup, etc. that was really mean for him to say that. i've had a recent experience with a guy i liked too. he called me a hoe, slut, and everything allong that. i've come to see what he is really like and i don't like it. just try to have fun and don't worry about him.
remember: be yourself :)
i hope i helped and i hope everything turns out fine =D
my friend always talks bout me behind my back, and im soooo sick ov her shit! She wont stop, but i want to keep being her friend. what should i do?
I have had an experience like yours and i would say to make new friends and surround yourself with people who like you. You don't HAVE to stop being her friend, just start hanging out with your other friends more often. If she needs anything from you she will definately come and ask. Be a friend to her even if she still continues to act the way she does. If she was truly your "BFF" she would care about you and your feelings. That's what i did when my friend started to be mean to me. I hung out with new people and made a bunch of more friends. She was using me to go to places and meet boys and i just got fed up with her. We used to do everything togther. Now this year i barely talk to her anymore and i have so many BFF's i cant count. It's definately for the better because i found people who don't treat me like s**t. But i always help her if she comes to me for something.
It's definately your decision and im not saying you have to do what i did. But it was the best decision i made. :)
i hope i helped
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