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i started to go out with this guy 3 weeks and i feel very strongly about him. we were such good friends before we went out. i feel like everything has changed between like 3 or 4 friends of mine and i've done everything i can and everything i could do and said. i just dont know what to do anymore.. i hate it and i dont know if anything is going on and i dont always know why im crying. im scarred of being hurt i hear that im going to get hurt and that im going to get cheated on. please give me something..
aw hey, don't be scared of love.. and crying is totally normal, even when your madly in love with someone lol. What changed between your friends is probebly going to mend over time, and if you feel like your being cheated on then ask this guy if he's cheating on you- it's the only way you'll know for sure, and hopefully he'll tell the truth. Love is really confusing, but just give your friends time to accept what you chose. sorry this is so short... but write back! xoxo -*jeanine
my friend goes out w/ a boy i like what shold i do?
you should tell her that it bothers you, but you can't really stop love. Try waiting until somthing happens with them or whatever and he's free, then he's all yours :)
after i straighten my hair.. blowdry and straighten. its always staticy.. what can i do so it wont static to my face and hands ect.
in the last seven magazigne i read it suggested putting a dime-sized amount of lotion on your hair and it stops it from being static. hope i helped xoxo -*jeanine
Hey. Umm well I just started cutting and I don't want to cut my wrists because people will see the marks but where else would you suggest??
well, i wish i wouldve been as smart as you when i started cutting... [lol] i cut my wrists and i have big red scars all over them now and i really regret what i did- beleive me, you will too once you start. don't cut yourself, at all. and don't go around asking people that question, it's not really somthing you should ask openly about... people aren't going to be like "Oh! well i suggest cutting your as* so nobody sees it!" [sorry if you take this offensivly] but you really shouldnt cut yourself, i learned that the hard way. i would suggest stopping before it gets too serious and you end up with a counciler like i did. xxo -jeanine
i like this girl but i dont know if she is going out with any one and if shes not then how do i ask her out
ask someone that knows her if shes going out with anyone, and if shes not then simply say "will you go out with me" works every time... good luck
hey, Sometimes i dont eat for up to two days to try to look better. When i dont eat , it makes me look much skinnier, but i feel really weak. Is it safe to be doing this. Its not like im throwing up every thing i eat or anything. What should i do??
no, thats not very safe- when you don't eat your matabolism slows waaaay down and then your body goes into starvation mode and has nothing to eat, so it has to digest somthing and the closest thing is muscle [no, not fat] so that probebly explains why you feel weak, your being eaten from the inside [literally]. You don't have to starve yourself to look good (its a turn off for guys when they see a starving herself) your probebly going to end up with a counciler like i did, and please start eating! i don't want you to starve to !! you probebly heard this a million times- but the best way to look good/lose weight is a HEALTHY diet and EXCERSIZE not starving yourself. sorry i can't finish answering- i'm late, but please try to start eating healthy!! write back! xxo -jeanine
I haven't gotten a boyfriend yet (kinda sad, i know) and i don't know what im doing wrong. What do guys look for in a girl? Any tips?
aww don't think that, there isn't anything sad about that at all. And your deff. not doing ANYTHING wrong. I think guys look for girls that can make them laugh and share some common intrests. Try going to some social events or somthing to get to meet some new guys that don't go to your school [how old are you? lol] i think it's easier to be yourself around a guy that doesnt go to the same school, it's weird.. i don't know why. When your talking to guys don't try to be somthing your not- like if your going to ask a guy out [theres a lot of guys who actually like it when the girl asks the guy out] don't start wearing makeup that day if you didn't already, they'll think your trying to be someone your not- which is a turn-off. Just be yourself, and have fun. You'll have the perfect guy before you know it! hope i helped!! xxo -*Jeanine
My friend and I are starting a band, and are trying to get a record deal. The probem is she wants to be a singer. But she's really bad and I'm great{that's what everyone tells me}. And I write all the songs! How should I tell her I'm the lead singer and that I need her to play an instrument instead?
"I'm the lead singer and that I need her to play an instrument instead" maybe like that?
does any one know how to lose like 10 pounds in like a week...i have a party comming up and i want to look a little "less" in my dress...thanks..
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losing 10 pounds in just one week isn't healthy, but if it's what you want... try to cut out as much sweets as you can (cookies, candy, pop, ect.) DONT STARVE YOURSELF though, if you lose weight in an unhealthy way like not eating at all, your actually just going to gain weight because your metabolism will slow down and you'll end up gaining weight like crazy. If you have food cravings a lot, like in between meals or somthing, try chewing gum, and drink lots of water- you might gain "water weight" but you'll end up losing that real fast after a few days i think. Eat balanced meals, lots of fruit and vegtables... and try joining a gym- or excersizing on your own at least once a day if you can. [dont try diet pills- they dont work, i've had past experience] Hope i helped :) xxo -*jeanine
hi. erf.. i cut myself and i wanted to know if there is any thing to make u stop/get ur mind off of it?? i heard that snapping rubberbands help.. but it isn't working.. help
you probebly already know that cutting yourself isn't the best way to deal with your problems, i cut x's all over my arm and i'm looking at the big red scars that won't go away right now. i never did get help cuse i had no one to turn to, that might be how you feel too. if your going to keep cutting yourself just think of how much you'll regret having the scars later, like i do. i feel really awkward wearing a t-shirt because i always see someone looking at my arm, or in gym class my friend saw my arm one time and asked what the x's were for and i lied and told her it was pen. i don't know why i did it, and you probebly don't know why you do it either if your wondering how to stop. when you feel like cutting yourself stop and think of one good thing in your life and how much it/they means to you, it might help a little. xxo -*jeanine
Okay well I am 13 years old. I think I am one of the fattest people out their! I weigh about 105, and I am about 5,1 ½ .. There are like 4 people who tease me, and call me fatt because they know it gets to me, and I cry all the time. About 1 week ago I tried making myself throw up. It hurts, but I don't care. I am also on a diet. So the food I eat is healthy still get's vomited out. But oh well. But my two best friends ones a guy who I like love with all my heart, and one is a good girl friend of mine are so pissed that I do this, and tell me not to listen to what people think =/ They said if I continue to do it they'll refuse to talk to me.. Urg! I wanna lose a lot of weigh for summer, and stuff and this is a pretty good way to do it but I dont know because I dont wanna lose my friends anymore =/ .. Ekkkk what to do?
first of all, YOU AREN'T FAT. i'm like 5'4 and i weigh 115. Your weight is probebly all muscle, and muscle weighs more than fat. I'm not going to give you crap about how dieting and making urself vomit are unhealthy at your age because you most likely already know that, and i know exactally how you feel. i was annorexic and bulimic last year and i had to go to a counciler, which is probebly where your going to end up if you keep making yourself vomit. I think I'M the fattest person on the face of this earth, and i tried on my shorts and skirts and stuff from the past summer and there all too tight. i still cry all the time too, i try really hard to lose weight without making myself throw up or skipping meals, but i still do it all the time. the best way to lose weight it cutting down on like candy and junk food, and try jogging some mornings before school, or afer or somthing. i would defenitly stop making myself vomit if i would lose my friends, try a healthier way so they don't have to worry about you. hope i helped a little xo -*jeanine
I LOVE your name! haha.. sorry.. its the same as mine.. im Jeanine too! lol. i never meet anyone with that name.. spelled the same.. i know i sound REALLY lame.. but yah..
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lol ur name ROCKS!!
how can i make sure that my girlfriend that lives 300 miles awya will never wanna leave me?
hey, i have a boyfriend that lives like 300 miles away and i have to be honest, iv'e thought a lot about leaving him. some stuff that you could do would be buy her somthing when you go somewhere or somthing and send it to her, and be sure you call her at least once a week. i love it when my bf sends stuff in the mail, idk why lol it makes me so happy. i hope evrything works out :) xo-jeanine
Well ok my brother got a girl friend about 2 monthes ago maybe and sence then he hasnt been giving me any time to spend with me well I am 13 and he is 17 and he use to do every thing with me until his girl friend 15 (I think)started to always go every where with him and sometimes Michael (thats my brothers name)is mean to me now all because of Katie I think (THats michaels girl friends name)Should I tell him how I feel or wait until they brake up or what he is driving me nuts!!!
hey.. i think you should at least try to tell him how you feel. i wouldn't wait till they break up, cuse then after you tell him he might be like "god, why didn't you tell me i was being so mean?" it will help in the end. :) xo-jeanine
Ok, so I'm in jazz band I play the trombone. Theres this boy and we share music and stuff. I'm really shy and stuff, like insecure of my playing (when its not totally with the band, and today we were practicing as just sections) and I wasnt play loud and stuff. So then I was in study hall and my sister comes out "aww someone likes you" to me and I was like 'duh nuh uh.' and shes like 'yeah someone from bannnd' so I was like 'whatever.' and she names off the guy who I share music with in jazz band. Well she's like (her friend) was talking to him and he said something about there being this freshman that plays trombone but sucks and just fakes it and shes cute (or some other compliment I dunno) and I've been sitting around for a day and a half just wanting to cry since this. I'm CRUSHED. How could he say this about me? I know I'm not the GREATEST but I didnt think I sucked. And I dont fake it. It really hurt my feelings. I dunno how to get over this...like its hard. I'm thinking about quitting band but I dunno. Any suggestions?
hey, noo don't quit band!! and don't let anyone tell you that you suck at something you like doing. i understand how somthing like that would hurt ur feelings, but try not to let it bother you. i know thats a really hard thing to do, but if you don't think you suck THEN YOU DON'T!! god, don't let someone tell you somthing like that! hope i helped :) xo-Jeanine
Do you neciserrily have to think a guy is cute to like them? Like can you be attracted to just there personality and still have a crush on them?
of course! your actually supposed to look at someone on the inside rather than what they look like... someone might be totally hott but really shallow, if you know what i mean. xo -jeanine
I really like this girl that I met in september. she's really flirty with me - and not with ALL guys (maybe just a few...whatever). And she went through this phase where she was a total bitch to me but she would have this cute little grin on her face assuming i didnt notice. like almost 3 weeks ago she was like - i wanna be friends and not a bitch and then she would talk to me and come up to me a lot again and flirt. I want to ask her out eventually, but i wanna know what the deal is - even if were "just friends"
k thanks
hey, i think she likes you.. even if it doesn't seem like that, from what you said it looks like maybe she was a bitch cuse she was scared of becoming your friend.(?) try talking to her more and getting to know her better, maybe it would help :) -*jeanine
Ok, i like this guy, lets call him Ryan. And im positive that he likes me back. But i get really nervus around him. I'm not shy to call him but i sound all shaky when i talk because of the nervusness. (sp?) Should i ask him if he wants to go to a movie with me and my friend to get to know him better?
yeah! get to know him and be friends with him, then you might feel more comfortable around him and before you know it, u guys might even be going out :) hope i helped xo -jeanine
okay so im a 16 year old girl who likes a 14 year old boy, I honestly dont care what people think about it, but thats not myproblem. my problem is, i like him a lot, and hes a really friendly guy and i met him not too long ago so yeah but i cant tell if theres anything there yet, like, im friends with his sister, and ill call for his sister to talk to her, and the guy i like will pick up and talk to me too...and i asked his sister if he always does that, as in pick up the phone and talk to her friends at the same time she is, and she said, hes NEVER done that before, so i thought that was really cool, and so yeah, i went to a party at his house yesterday a christmas party and everyyyyone was there, which was a lot of fun, so we were hanging out, and i told his sister that i was gonna put my jacket in her room, so i ran upstairs and 10 girls followed me, and it was really crowded up stairs like REALLY crowded, and then adults came up too so i was like stuck, and my someone opens the guy that i likes door, and he kinda looks out and sees me and then the door closed, you hear him run and open the door and he goes "JENN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and i was like HEYYY! and then we chilled for the ENTIRE night, we were up in his room just laughing at everything possible he was shooting his air soft gun at kids that botherd him we were just being dumb lol, then we went up to his attic thing where he has this HUGE car racing thing set up and everyone was up there, and me and him were talking and he kept on looking at me, a lot, he was just looking at me and stuff, and yeah, so thats how it was the whole night, and then at the very end we were on his trampoline and i had to go so i jumped off cuz he was talking to everyone, and he goes "JENN!" and jumps off and hugs me and then he was like "ill probably see you in a year" and im like " DUDE...SLEEPOVER REMEMBER?!" and he was like OH YEAH! and so yeah, cuz were ALL having a sleep over like 30538304 of us together so itll be a lot of fun but what my question is, is do you think there is ANYTHING there?? because i mean i know you guys dont know him or me, but hes 14 and im 16. I really like him and all and hes just a REALLY nice guy, so i dontknow if hes just REALLY nice and always happy to see me and talk to me on the phone or if he has a lil sumthin for me....oh, and he broke up with his gf 2 weeks ago and he said that he found out that 20 girls like him at his school and i was like "well are you gonna ask one of em out" and he was like " I dont kno, theres this one that i might but i dont know what the concept of it is, like i dont get it* and im like * well...if you want her to be your GF then you ask her to be your gf...if you want her to just go out on a date with you, then you just go out on a date* and he was like * I dont know, they all want me to be their bf* and i was like * well do what you wanna do :) its up to you* and he was liek * yeahh* and so yeah, he still hasnt asked her out or anything so HELP ME PLEASEEE I dont know what i should do, i really like him
hey... it sounds like you like REALLY like this guy lol. i know exactally how you feel about the couple years younger thing, i went out with a guy who was 2 years younger than me so, yeah. If you really like him that much maybe you should tell him, like before he goes and asks out another . Maybe he doesn't think that you "like him like him" because hes younger, thats what i would do... but i don't know if you'd want to do that or whatever. so... I think you should tell him that you like him :) hope i helped a little bit -*Jeanine