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Hi I am planning to bake this Red velvet cake with frosting for my friend's Valentines day party...

but today, sunday night, is the only time i will have time to bake it and decorate it because I will be away from my house on monday night due to some work, and I will have to attend my friend's dinner to meet my friend's parent on tuesday night... then I will directly have to go to school on wednesday and to her house, so I won't have any time...

So if I baked it tonight and store it in refrigerator, will it last till Wednesday?

I was thinking it will, but many people seem to doubt me and told me its best for me to bake it on tuesday night, apparently they dont get the concept of that i possibly can not have time for it any other night than tonight..

Thank you (link)
i think it would be ok... you could freeze it then take it out on tuesday...you could also order one from a store bakery have someone pick it up for you on tuesday and then put your own decorations on it...


This boy acted liked me for about a month and a half then just completely stopped talking to me. I guess he liked me, now he doesn't. Problem is, I like him now. I was lead on, now completely ditched. How can I get over this quick? I realized he's an asshole, but it still really hurts. Help? (link)
Yeah it hurts but youll eventually get over it thats the type of guy whos going to treat you like dirt even if you guys do achieve a relationship is..start focusing on a new guy...this other guy seems alittle immature anyways forget him hes not the only guy on the planet.


So my boyfriend for almost a month still hasn't told his parents that we are going out. His parents are very strict, but he is 18 and I told him that he should be able to do what he wants. I wish he would tell them because I feel like I am in hiding because I can never call him because his parents are around. What should I do about this problem?
Also what is a good gift to give him for valentines. I was thinking a big card and homemade cookies. Is that to much or do you think that is just right?

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i think home made cookies or baked good of somesort would be great....if you want to stay with him you might have to bare with it for now but hes a big boy and an adult now and needs to start acting like one...ask him what hes so afraid of.


So basically my title exaplins it all.
Im a little over weight and i want to lose
so weight for graduation that is coming up.
Is there anything that i can do to lose a couple of pounds. And im eating small helthy meals an it is not working. Thanks. (link)
you shouldnt really work out until you get to youb desired weight and need to tone because muscle is harder to lose try eating more water based foods...if you need to know some let me know..you could also workout a diet plan that would suit you the best with your doctor.


my best friend is dating my crush of three years-- she knows that i like him. infact we almost dated last year but some things happened and it didnt work out. ive never liked someone as much as i liked him, she knows that. she acts like she forgot. what should i do? do i want someone like that in my life? (link)
Somethings just happen like that i wouldnt take it to personal unless she does things like that all of the time but maybe you should just focus on another guy....If this constantly happens with her then id stop being friends with her.


is it true that Shakira said that she would rather pigs listen to her music then jews? i love her song Hips Dont Lie but i wouldnt want to support somone who was Anti-Semitic.
are there any songs that are great dance songs like Hips Dont Lie but that are sung by somone besides Shakira?
thanx you so much!
xo
-L (link)
http://www.ukmix.org/forums/viewtopic.php?t=1818

its false you can read about it there^


I hate my body! My vagina is totally warped! My innerlip on the right side is way too large and it actually hangs out past my outer lips. Totally disgusting. And last night I tried shaving myself down there for the first time. I did trim the hair with scissors first and then used a razor. I really don't understand how anyone could have a clean shaved pussy...? That area is NOT easy to shave. Is there ANYTHING I could do to boost my confidence? I'm totally scared of losing my virginity or letting a man see me naked because I feel so ugly. (link)
you should wait to lose your virginity to the right guy and the right guy probably isnt going to analyze your vagina that closely let alone even notice..it you need to learn to love your self the vagina is not the most important part of a girl there are a variety of features on a girl that can be attractive just play up those features if your not sure of what they are send me a pic and ill point honestly poing them out to you...since i dont really know what you look like to say what they are...but just about every girl at some point goes through the i think im ugly stage and thats not pretty.


15/f

Okay. So I have this guy friend. He's 17. And I like him a lot. He's very nice to me, and we're practically best friends. BUT...about 2 weeks ago, he told me he didn't want to be with me. But we should still be best friends. And so about two weeks ago, I found out he has a girlfriend. She's the same age, but he knew her for a less amount of time than me. The thing is - I get SO jealous and I want to be with him - but since he already told me off about that, there is really nothing I can do. But, whenever we're in a group conversation on MSN or something, I get SO pissed and jealous and just storm off. The thing is - she's really nice. As much as I would love to be happy for them - him and her - I can't face my jealousy. I can't be happy for them without hating her evern though she didn't do anything bad to her. Now whenever I talk to him, I'm filled with hatred and the most JEALOUS kind of jealousy in the world. I always wish them the worst. I always cry about it and wish that they would break up. What do I do? How can I overcome this? :( (link)
hes already spoken so your going to have to get over it or risk losing his friendship....try focusing your attention on someone else whos attractive to you with time it will go away keep in mind that if it doesnt he might make you go away...this kind of thing happened to me only it was my best friend who like me ans he wouldnt let it go so i just cut him off completely its been a couple years and i havent looked back and dont plan to.....so dont let that happen to you if you truly value his friendship..if it helps think about if you had a friend(not him) who you got really close and liked you but you didnt have romantic feelings for that person but they wouldnt let it go..how would you feel..your going to either stop being friends or bare with it and get over it..because storming out of the room and jealousy gets really old


I'm in a relationship with this guy. We have been going out since the 6th. And I'm having weird feelings about him.

We talked online. I like him when I talk to him online but in person.. those feelings slowly fade. I still think he's sweet but I can't see myself kissing him.. when he's actually around me. When I'm at home.. I can picture it.
I have OCD. I think he's.. dirty and I don't really want to touch him. That sounds stupid i know..

I don't know if this could work because he's so busy. He has a job. He's in karate/gymnastics.

Should I give him space and be distance with him? I don't want to be clingy. I don't want to ask him to hang out with me one weekend if he's that busy. (link)
Maybe hes just not the right guy..that doesnt sound like a good relation ship if you dont want to kiss him and think hes dirty..if you think its because of ocd then you need to see a doctor and get it fixed...seems like youve already given him space..if you dont want him then dont go with him....i really do think you should see a doctor though.


my bff just told me she had sex for her first time when she was 10 and shes still havin sex alot shes only 13 she says not to tell anyone or else she'll be grounded for life (link)
wow thats not good....but if shes got to hide it then she knows she shouldnt be doing it and she does have free will...she needs to quit while shes ahead but you just cant tell some people...you can either tell because shes really awfully young or keep your mouth shut and just let her be..because shes going to do what shes going to do even if its not in her best interest


well me and this guy have been friends for a while, and we always talk, in person, on the phone, on myspace ext. and help eachother with our hw and i like him a little/lot more then a friend
and like i got my best friend adn him to talk and stuff, im basically the reason why they met, and he told me he kind of likes her, and i think she likes him alittle, and she always trys to flirt with him and push me out of the picture
we like have compatitions talking to him.
but him and i are close, so he talks to me alot, and idk if he likes me.. i dont think so but sometimes it seems like it cuz hes like yeah i hope i see you or please call me soon or something.
But i dont know what to do.. (link)
He could just value you as a friend its normal..if he liked you he wouldnt of told you that he likes your best friend because he would run the risk of detouring a romatic relationship with you..he probably just sees you as a good friend..so let them be togeather even though it might hurt if he liked you he wouldnt of brought up another girl to you especially your best friend..so be a friend.


so there is this guy, m1 is what we will call him, and the day before new years eve i was at his house and he held my hand while we were playing man hunt with our younger siblings, but the lights were off. then he and i became closer, and now my friend says that he laughs and smiles around me and when im around he gets a *twinkle* in his eyes, but my other friend thinks he likes her so im like uhhhhh clueless. And to add to this whole thing his mom and my mom are BEST friends which is why i was at his house on that day. and we've known each other for ever and i dont know what to do! (link)
Maybe the other girl likes him and doesnt want you two to get closer(even if she denies it)...I think you should go up to him and talk about if youve known eachother and like him..Your not mind readers.


i have no clue where to sit on my bus! i'm new at this school, i love the school & i made a ton of friends.. but i dont know anyone on my bus. & like, i never know where to sit. &this one kid was like.. making fun of me & saying like get out of peoples seats we've had these since the begining of the year! & i was like wtf. its not my faultt. so i just dont know, what should i do? (link)
First of all its not there seats if they werent asigned thats so rediculous. Just sit down anywhere they dont own the bus and their being immature or wait until your the last one on the bus and see which one is available.


"They're living for the present and not the future’s well-being"

or

"They're living for the present and not the future's fulfillment."

what one sounds better and makes more sense? im writing a poem for school (link)
The first one sounds better.


How do you deal with someone who thinks that everytime you question them on something they are doing they think you are criticizing them when you arent? (link)
IF your being nice about it and they are still getting offended then just stop doing it all to geather unless what they are doing pertains to you they probably either dont like the fact that your questioning them if it has nothing to do with you or have their own deep cieted issues about it but if what they are doing doesnt concern you then just let them go and dont question it.if it does concern you then explain your concern in a logical and polite way


i need some good hairstyles for long thin hair that allow my hair to be down...if anyone knows of any an can give instructions with a picture so i know what your talking about or can give me a website that maybe theyve been to thats devoted to hair how tos that would be great oh yeah please nothing thats teeny bopper and i need indepth information because im kindof hairstyle challenged (link)
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well im not sure what to do..this this guy kevin and were friends with benefit but were more like boy friend girl friend but without the title were realy close.he is very anti cheating even talking about it pisses him off.i want to be honest and tell him that when i was still dating jorden that i cheated on jorden with him but im scared of what he will do.i asked him but i said what if and he said he would probly be ashamed and might go back to old habits such as cutting,drinking.ect. what should i do i wanna be honest and tell him but i dont want to lose what we have pls help asap (link)
then be honest....its really not a requirement thought since your not officially going out and those old bad habits are his doing and he cant blame them on anyone else....if you want to be honest then do it but if your not officially going out then you really dont owe it to him because for all you know if he hasnt asked you out he could be using you...you could start off fresh ask him out and just say nothing about it..to him..but im sure hes no angel either so dont feel to bad and if he goes back to those things its not your fault....hes not even giving you a real relationship and you dont know how many girls hes doing the same with since technically its not cheating if their all friends with benefits...tell him if you want but hell take it how he takes it good or bad and if he goes back to those things hes voluntarily doing it no ones forcing it on them..its bad on his part to hold it over your head or use it to get what he wants..your better of ending this and finding a boyfriend learn from your mistakes


does anybody know of greattt layout pages?
please dont say something like createblog. for myspace
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hotfreelayouts

mygirlyspace



IM REALLY NOT SURE if I like my guy friend as a close friend as in a brother or as a boyfriend. What are some signs/clues that I probably like a guy as a more than a friend and as just a friend?
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if you liked him in a romantic way you would know..

some indicators are
you daydream of you guys being romantic
you get jealous or hurt(not just in a protective way) when he has a girl friend or tell you he likes someone
you think about him romantically..like about kissing,dating,etc
you want him

if you do those things automatically then yes you like him


me & my bf are a really good couple. we think so anyways. the thing is our status is completely different. hes from this extremely rich family that owns about 5 houses and is going to the best college in our area. my family is..not rich and im going to a regular state college. his parents are nice but i think you get where im going with this. we went to his cousins wedding this past weekend. there were about 50 really pretty girls there that were family friends and he talked to all of them and i was kind of left on the side. i basically followed him around the whole time. he wouldnt hold my hand, he wouldnt touch me, he barely looked at me, but when we were by ourselves everything was normal. they know im his gf! i always feel left out with this. any ideas?? oh and im uncomfortable talking about it with him. (link)
maybe he just felt uncomfortable showing pda in front of his family or at family functions some people see it as rude. if thats the only time he does that then thats probably why but if he does when you guys are out without the parent in an unformal setting and hes checking out other girls then id question it if not then dont worry about it maybe he just didnt want to be rude to people around you guys.




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