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Hi everyone! I just want to say a few things that I feel are important for you to know. First of all, my life's passion has always been to help others and when I found Advicenators I felt drawn to see if I could help here. I have been in alot of different "shoes", so to speak,and not always comfortable ones! I will not give advice on things I have no clue about and I will be honest. I've tried very hard all my life not to be one of those people that say they know how you feel when they've never been in your situation.
I'm going to college in the spring and I'm going to be working towards a bachelors degree in psychology.

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Location: Indiana
Occupation: self-employed
Age: 45
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I think I have a kidney stone and it hurts so much. Is there anything I can do at home to get rid of a kidney stone? I would like to get rid of it as soon as possible but I don't know any home remedies or home medications that I can take. I don't want to go to the doctor unless I absolutely have to. I've had kidney stones before. Is there ANYTHING I can do at home by myself so I don't have to go through so much lengthy pain on waiting for it to pass?

I'm 45yrs old and to date I've had 32 kidney stones.....seriously!( My body over- produces calcium.) and the majority of those I've passed at home. I have no medical insurance so I really have no choice. Anyway, what I've done is drink tons of water and/or cranberry juice and taken painkillers to get through the pain. If you don't have anything to take for the pain be prepared because ,depending on the size of the stone, the pain could become unbearable. I'm not sure how old you are but if you're old enough to drink alcohol, beer is a good kidney flusher too and it will help numb the pain as well. Whatever you do though please don't let it go too long without getting a doctors help--I did that once (3 days) and ended up with a toxic kidney infection that could've seriously caused damage to my kidneys but didn't--thank God. Definitely seek medical attention if you run a fever--that's a sign of blockage and that's bad news. I definitely know the pain you're in and I wish you a speedy "delivery" of that bad boy. :)

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my car keeps dying when i am stopped at a light or about to stop i think it might be the filter but i really have no idea the car is a Dodge Interpid 2002 3.7L

I agree.. this is either your fuel injectors or fuel filter. At least that's what the problem was when this happened to me.

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I am 19 and have a 4 1/2 yr old daughter and my boyfriend has a 18 month old son that lives with us. I am now very pregnant with twins.

Today, after I had picked up the kids from pre-school and daycare, I went into the store to pick up some things for dinner. While I was picking up the baby and putting him in the cart, my little girl was playing by the quarter machines. A woman (probably about 30 years old) saw me and said, "Aren't you a little young to have a baby with another one on the way?" I didn't get a chance to say anything when my daughter came running over, screaming, "Mommy!!!" The woman just looked at me glared, shook her head, and left. I just wonder what people must think of me. Yes, I made some really poor choices in my life but I would like the chance to talk about it so maybe some other girls wouldn't go the same route I did. It's not uncommon for me to get crazy looks or stares when I'm out with the kids--or even just one of the kids! At least I'm taking full responsibility for my actions by raising my children the right way. It's just A LOT harder with me being so young. What would you think if you saw me in the supermarket? What would you say to me?

Thanks

First and foremost it is not my place or anyone else's to pass judgement on you. Not one single person on the face of this earth has lived a life with no mistakes and I really wish people would remember that before they go looking down their noses at someone else! I, personally want to praise you for taking responsibility for your children and doing the best you can. You should hold your head high and not give a damn what others think, at least you aren't the majority of teenage mothers in this country. As long as you are a good mother to these children and raise them with love, and put them foremost in your life, then even God himself wouldn't dissaprove. Keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about what society thinks.....at the end of the day all that matters is what your children think of you. God bless you!!

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Ok, so my boyfriends dad offered to sell me a car, that was valued at 6000, for 1500. He said eh wanted to keep the insurance and title in his name until the car was paid off. I had no problem with that, but when i was on my way to take him somewhere, someone ran a red light and smashed the car. its gone, totalled. now he wants to pay his random bills with the settlement! My bf thinks im being selfish by thinking that he should keep the 1500 that he would have gotten from me out of the settlement, and give me the rest to get a new car. Am i being selfish, or is his dad being a real jerk? I really think that he only wanted to keep it in his name so that he could reap the benefits if I got in an accident. Help! dont want to see his face everyday while im so angry at the fact that he's gloating that hes making out on the deal!

I honestly don't think the man is being a jerk. Entering into an agreement such as the one you had with him is basically the same as any lending institution. What I mean by that is this: if you borrowed the money from a bank or credit union and you owed money on the vehicle at the time of the accident, and the car was totaled, then they would get their money first and you would get the balance--that is providing you had made payments. Now, if he is the one that made the insurance payments as well, then is entitled to recoup that money also. You never really said whether you had even made any payments so I'm just basing this on what you did say. I feel if you did make a few payments then the fair and righteous thing for him to do would be to at least give you that money back considering the car was a total loss.

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Hoookay....so I've met this guy online (this was almost a year ago) and we've decided we are going to meet eachother in person for the first time...(We're meeting in a VERY public place, and I'll have someone with me and such) However, I think it's possible that I might really, really like this guy! I know I won't know for sure until I actually meet him, I'm still scared...though he's seen my picture and told me that I'm pretty, I'm still not entirely confident about my looks (Particularly my teeth...) and I'm worried about saying or doing the wrong things, yadda' yadda'...so I guess what I'm asking is for advice from anyone who has met someone online and then in person...thoughts? Suggestions?

I,myself, have had this same experience recently. Meeting someone face-to-face for the first time is always scary but I decided I was just going to be myself. Being who you truly are is a whole lot easier than putting on a front to begin with and secondly you should be nothing other than honest with this person. In my situation I went into the date being exactly who I am everyday, unfortunately the person I talked to on-line was not the person I met for that date. You actually are in good shape I think. You stated that you've been talking for almost a year right? well basically you already know this person so it's just the initial physical meeting that's an issue and I'm sure whoever this guy is he's interested in you for more than your looks. Otherwise I don't think he would've stuck around a whole year. :) I know it's nerve racking, but just be yourself and what will be...will be!! Good luck and have a great time.

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