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Q: ok i have a friend her name is stephanie and we're in 7th grade.
i dont really know why but sometimes when she gets mad at me she'll take it out by pinching me or hitting me
should i dump her?

It all depends. If you guys are only friends you should tell her not to hit you. If you are close ask her why she hits you or just hit her back.

Q: Okay so you know those stores that have cool old stuff? Like vintage-y? Im looking for a store like that that would have michael jackson things. It could be like shirts or posters or even records. But please don't send record stores...:D

thanks so much

lol this may sound wierd but cut some shower curtains or something. You know the wierd funky ones with a lot of color. Or you car try an old store near your town.

Q: I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 26. We've been together for 3 years.

He's always getting text messages from girls. Girls that I've never heard of, that don't live in our town, let alone our state. He watches porn when I go to bed (which I don't really care about, he is male.) He's just really secretive about things. Like when he's on his computer, he won't do anything when I'm around.. but as soon as I go to another room he's typing away. And I'll come back in and he'll close everything he's doing. I always ask him if he loves me and means it, and he always says yes. I just sometimes feel like he isn't being honest or faithful to me. I worry a lot. I feel like maybe this relationship has been a waste of time.

I don't know what to do. Like I want to talk to him about the girls and the text messaging and all, I just don't know how to bring it up to him at all.

Spy on him one day while he is in the computer or go to his email and read them. If he has msn and talks to them through that theres a way you can save the conversations and then read them when you can. When comes to the text messages get his phone one day and just read them and call the girls. It is for the better.

Q: My best friend went out with this boy (ryan) for about 7 months and she broke up with him because they kept having arguements. She's been out with two guys since. And she is still going out with one of them. Who she claims she's in love with. Two weeks ago ryan and i started talking, just talking nothing special, then we talked more and we were getting to know eachother better. We met up and i decided i really like him...but then the other day my friend turned round to me and said she still liked him and was jealous...but she has this other boy...i don't want to go out with him because it would be mean...but at the same time i really do!!
advice anyone?

You sit down and talk with her. Ask her what she really wants. Im sure you'll come to an agreement.

Q: well for myspace, i want a cute christmas song, but not one of the ones you generally hear like All I want for Christmas is You by mariah carey. is there any songs for christmas that anyone knows that are sung by well known arists like chris brown (this christmas) or are just really great or funny songs? please let me know ; thank you. =)

You can try Hollywood Undead - Christmas In Hollywood its really funny.

Q: how long do you have to be doing it for/how often for your voice to become lower? im a singer and have been smoking about 3 months and have already noticed a difference..maybe Im imagining it? Also, if your voice does become lower, can you change that?

I agree with xxlilreddivaxx and also your career shouldnt cause you your health. You can always get good training.

Q: i started highschool this year without knowing ANYONE, and i've adjusted really well. I'm still haveing some trouble, though, just meeting everyone and making friends. I know a girl who was also new this year and everyone who meets her like LOVES her. What are some tips so i can be more friendly and inviting, and like easy to talk to? thanks =]

Be open to everyone: Talk about what they like and tell them your opinion. They'll probably ask you what you like too. In high school its kind of harder because everyone has their own little group but they will welcome you with open arms.

Q: I need cool, cute websites that have free myspace layouts (i like the kinda small-ish ones.. if you know what i mean. not the ones that look like i had no time to get a better lyt..), graphics, and stuff for the myspace im making. like and by graphics i dont mean those ugly glitter things.. I mean like, little quotes that are fancy-ish and say things like "suppp" or "get wild" or "love and peace" or "best friends" or "CRUNK" or etc. and graphics i mean like.. cute graphics you sometimes see on your friends myspaces.. i need new ideas for my.. well.. space, lol and thanks.

createblog.com dont be fooled by the name its got everything you need.

Q: i have a slight fear of judgement. ok, make that a BIG fear. so, i really like to sing and dance, and its been my dream for a long time to be famous like ashley tisdale, or another disney star. but i have the biggest fear, that someone is going to make fun of me, or judge me or something. i dont want to let that get in the way of my dreams, so how do i get over that fear?
sorry if its a stupid question....

Confidence is key to everything. Another thing is you have to remember that your dreams involve rejection and also like Ashley Tisdale probably went through rejection several times you just have to remember never to give up. You can get over your fear by performing infront an audience or infront of your friends and then ask them their opinions.

Q: My best friend of 5 years is Tom. Tom has always been there for me, and he's a really great guy. I (being a girl) have developed some feelings for him. Tom liked me a year ago, but I sort of just ignored that; we were still close friends. This year things are different, and I feel like I want to be with him.

He likes this girl Amber who he met a couple months ago, but we are still close friends. I'm jealous,quite frankly. Tom asked Amber on a few dates, but she turned him down. They hooked up (just kissing) and presumabely she likes him? Yet they are not going out.

I want to tell Tom that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to tread on anyone's feet. Amber is not the nicest of girls, but either way, I'm not sure if it's the best idea to suddenly drop a bomb like that on him.

I almost feel like he's just with Amber because it's just someone to like, you know? Maybe if I told him how I feel, he'll realize he likes me too...

I have no clue what to do. :/

16/f

Like you said, "I almost feel like he's just with Amber because it's just someone to like" maybe he is "with" her to make you jelous but if he isnt then I think you should tell him.

Q: My mind is troubled. I am thinking about suicide. I know it isn't the answer, yet I have been thinking about it for years, but have done nothing. I am not suffering from depression, but I am a bit depressed. I get aalong each day yet there is an empty void inside me that has no solution. It eats at me everyday all the time. Suicide seems like the only solution. The more I deny it the more I want it. I can't inflict pain on myself, but if I were to do it it would be by pills. I am not saying I am going to, just that I think I think about it too much. I have no religion. I believe that when you die, your soul moves on and takes you to the place you truly desire. Not heaven. For me I belive that my soul will take me to another body of the alias and world I created in my mind. Mostly I created it for an escape from family and life, but lately it has become an addiction.

What should I do. I can't talk to my parents, a therapist, without anyone knowing, but I am afraid that one day i will end my life. and that pull to do it is getting stronger, not because I am depressed, but because I am curious, and the void is pulling towards it.

I really need help.

Isntead about thinking of ending your life you should think about all the good times you've had rather than the bad so you dont drive yourself into doing somthing bad.

Q: What should I add/change/remove here: www.freewebs.com/bt4t

I want to make my website better; in the process of moving it to paid hosting; want to make it look more appealing, energetic, enticing, and eye-catching, if possible.

I'm not a real big fan of Freewebs; my new site is www.velociteen.com; lots of kinks to be worked out on that new site, however.

Any ideas?

Maybe if you added more pictures or you can have challenges for people to do.

Q: Why do girls wear tops to flaunt their cleavage?

They either want to show off to someone or be total airheads and not even notice their cleavage is showing.

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