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Hi, this is the first time I am writing on your page.. i just need someone to talk to about this. So, there is this kid alex hes 15 and im 16 and he and one of my best friends just broke up (she broke up with him) it was a TERRIBLE break up because he still liked her but all she kept saying to him was " move on, i dont like you anymore. do whatever you want." Well, me and him have been friends for a while and he texted me.. we started talking and things got a little cute.. and then adorable.. and then sexy. (no sexting or picture.. ) he told me that he liked me before he liked his ex and said he wanted to hook up (make out ) with me.. and i told him i wasnt sure because one he dated one of my best friends and 2.. i think hes just using me.. even though he told me he wasnt.. Exact words " i would never use anyone, especially you... i like you." I really dont know what to do.. i dont just wanna be a secret hook up.. and i dont want to hurt my friend.. please help me

1) talk to your friend about this and ask if she would be okay with it
2) its kinda obvious he might be using you, to get to make your friend jealous since you guys r best friends
3) he might still have feelings for her and hasnt gotten over it, dont jump in like you're a second pick
everyone is a first choice and does not like being the \'what if\' one, such as: what if she broke up with him, oh he just picks you up like a penny on the ground, not cool
4) give him some time, and dont react so much, because a real guy doesnt wanna just hook up with someone they like, they would wanna let the relationship carry on a little
5) do what your heart tells you, and honestly if i were you, it would be a no no, because a best friend is like a sister or brother
6) hope this helps
~gamergirlxoxo

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im 13 and people at school pretend to be my friend but prefer to reject me. need social advice.

1) are you doing anything that would make them wanna reject you, or not like you?
2) understand that you should not call people friends until you completely understand that they are good and are not gonna be mean or hurt you in any way
3) perhaps you met someone and decided to be all good to them, ur giving them credit, they start thinking they r too good for you, be sure to play it cool until u officially become good friends with them
4) hope this helped :)
~gamergirlxoxo

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ok so i like this guy and we r friends and hang out with eachother alot.we talk on the phone alot to.one time we met up during class and we kissed.then 2 days later we did something after school in the cafeteria and we made out a few times afterwards.he says he wants to do it again, but i dont think he wants to kiss ME. i think he just wants to kiss somebody.ive told him but he says he WANTS to kiss me. wat should i say to him without telling him tht i like him as much as i do?

1) make sure he isnt just using you because he cant find anyone else who would just kiss him
2) try asking him how he feels about you, and if he likes you or not
3) if he replies with a no or not really, then its time to leave the guy i suppose
4) if he likes you, tell him what you feel about him
5) lastly, make sure your decisions are careful and nothing to regret once its over or once he does not want to be involved in these situations anymore.
Good luck
~gamergirlxoxo

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My dad was in a car accident a few days ago but doesnt have lawyer money?
He says his neck hurts and it costs 4,000 to get the car fixed and we don't have that money. The airbag stopped him from getting killed. A girl hit my dad real hard on his drivers side and she ran off in her car. My dad was the only one in the car, he was so shook up he didn't get her license plate number. He has insurance and we know nothing about the girl. she drove away when he said he was calling the police. He has witnesses that saw the girl crash into him. The people don't know what the girls name is or where she lives but they know where she hangs out at and they told the police. They did a police report and my dad hasn't got it yet. I don't think he knows what to do about this. We took pictures of the car and he thinks that's all he has to have.We haven't found the girl that hit him and he cant afford a lawyer. He doesn't have $4000 to pay for what the girl did. He thinks he can get a lawyer for free. What is he supposed to do since hes saying his back hurts and the car is wrecked on the side and he cant get a lawyer?

First, tell your dad to go to the doctor or hospital, or else his injury could get worse. 2nd, mail a letter to the government, police and bank explaining your story, while try getting a loan for the bank until he can pay them back. Make sure to indicate in your letter to the government about getting a lawyer, because you guys have every right to sue.

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can you help me write a letter to my bestfriend which is leaving today ?

Dear (name),
you mean so much to me and you have been the bestest friend I have ever had. I wish for you and I to have sleepovers and visits all the time, and I hope you make lots of new friends. You always made me laugh and cheered me up when I am down and therefore I will never forget such a great friend like you. Love you

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ok i have tried everything.. i cannot get tampons to fit comfortably. ive tried angling it differently but it still is super uncomfortable, painful sometimes.
what am i doing wrong? i read the instructions and used google but nothing is helping me. please help. pads gross me out.

You could try to ask a doctor or a parent, if pain is worse then I suggest you definitely report to a doctor. Also, try to not angle it at all and gently apply the tampon straight up.
~gamergirlxoxo

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I know that have wrothe about this before but iam still having the issuse. I've had a hard life and it started when I was about the age of 3 I would have been 4 a week later when I was molested by my father and iam 22 now and Iam still having flashbacks and nightmares. I don't remember all of what happend by mom has been telling me about what happenned ever since I turned 7 years old. I don't think my mom should have told me about something like when I was so young and today I blame my mom for my depression and now a few weeks ago I started thinking about suicide. I just feel like it's better for the whole world if I was dead or better yet to never have been born. Ever since I turned the age of 18 I started acting wild and out of control I have had sex with 5 guys and 2 girls since the aga of 18 and iam now only 22 years old. I've also been drinking and smoking weed. One of the guys i've had sex with was when I was drunk and I don't even remember it I found out when he was spreading it around the school and the other kids was calling me a drunk whore and talking about me behind my back. I feel as if I was raped since I was drunk is it to late to report it and plus Iam mentally challenged(mr) How do I get over my depression?

1) If there is one person in the whole world who means the most to you, and you know they will always have your back, discuss this with them.
2) Relieve yourself from those flashbacks and think of it as a movie you saw, and that it never happened.
3) Talk to your mom if you wish and tell her what you have been going through, most parents help out in their own ways.
4) Do not commit suicide, because nothing is your fault, and you deserve every right to be happy.
5) If people talk behind your back, so what? Ignore it, that is what I do, and remember, they don't know the real story behind all your problems, and they can go screw themselves.
6) Write down everything that bothers you as a message you would send to someone, and rather send it back to yourself or burn it. If you do happen to send it to yourself, reply in a sort of way that you would help that specific person if you were not in their place. If you burn it, imagine all your flashbacks, fears and problems locked up in that one envelope, sealed shut, and burning to ashes.
7) I hope these help, further more, you could get some counseling to help out, or relieve all your anger and depression in exercise, rest, or specific sports such as karate, gymnastics, swimming, lastly boxing.


I hope it helps
~gamergirlxoxo

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