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Q: On my left ear I have my lobes pierced twice
On my right ear I have my lobes pierced twice and upper helix(cartilage)

My question is, should I either
A) Get a mid helix piercing on my right ear
or
B) Get a mid helix piercing & tragus piercing on my left ear.

I want it to be unique (:
P.S. Im 19 living on my own with a job so I don't need parents permission.

Maybe you should just get both.That way,you don't have to choose.

Q: My mom won't let me read the Hunger Games and it is SO annoying. All my friends have read it, and I just need to. It makes me mad. Please help me! I NEED TO READ IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ask her why she won't let you read it.
And then bring her research on it,or let her read it for herself first.But if you whine about it,that will get you nowhere.

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl
How do you get over someone?

Coming from someone your age,the best way to get over someone,is time.

It might seem like that's what everybody says,but it's true.As Miss Piggy says "Only time can heal your broken heart,just as time can heal his broken arms and legs."

Music also helps.Some of my favorite artists when it comes to love are : Automatic Loveletter,Hey Monday,Paramore,Taylor Swift,and Maria Mena.

Hope it helps.

Q: So me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years. We've had our off and on moments and a lot of it had to do with drug abuse on his side. I really care about him a lot and would leave when he began doing that but would come back when he had been clean for a while and began talking to me again. He finally seeked help and has been doing good for about 4 months. He got into what he wants to do for his profession and I think its helping him stay clean cause he doesnt feel like a loser. We've been long distance for about 2 years now and live about 5 hours away. We are both 22.

Well he came to visit me this week and it was really good for most of it. I felt bad cause I had to work some nights and since we were gonna ride back home together (we are long distance cause im in college) he didn't have a car. Without a car he was stuck at home. But what he wants to do for a career is on the computer anyways and he said he didn't mind and was just glad to see me. The last day is when we started the horrible argument. Something changed with the stocks (what he wants to do) and he was really antsy to get home and kept asking to leave the day early. I realize now that I should have just said okay, but when he first brought it up...it didn't seem like it really mattered. So I reminded him that we made plans with a friend up there for that night. We ended up fighting the ENTIRE day about it. We would argue, one of us would leave the room and then he would come back and hug me and say he loves me. It was like a cycle. But we ended up really getting angry angry and at one point I said wow we must really hate each other or something. I was in no mood to drive that long in the condition i was in.

Anyways, he ended up breaking up with me and said things like long distance is too hard, there's more bad than good, we have too much baggage, and we are bad for each other. I could not stop crying, and I'm extremely embarrassed to say but it seemed like I kept talking him into staying with me. This went on for like an hour. He said after that that he wanted to give it another try. We slept together that night and this morning. He just kept telling me not to think about it and that he loved me. I tried talking to him about it and saying if he didn't want to stay he shouldn't feel like he has to. But he kept saying he wanted to stay and I just take too much reassurance. Then he texted me tonight saying he loved me but stopped responding when I mentioned how sorry I was.

I just really care about him and my prides a little hurt. I wanted another opinion because I don't want to be bad for him at all. But I also don't want to break up and get back together again. It's too much heartache. So my question is really just your opinions on all of this. Thank you so much for any kind of input :/ I hate feeling this way.

Your in a really complicated situation. I know it's hard when relationships are on and off because of ecisions on one side or on both.

But think what's making you stay is that you love him.Or it could be that you just don't want to live without him.And either one of those is understandable.

I'm going through the same thing you are and I'm only 15.But whenever he leaves,I feel like a piece of me and my happiness is gone.

I know right now that it's hard, but you have to make the right decision for YOU.If you feel that it's best to leave,then leave.But my grandad always says "That if you feel something is worth working it out,then by all means do so."

You should really try sitting down with him,and just the two of you talking your whole relationship through.

(Also music helps. This song reminds me of my relationship,and you might relate to it also. Just hold me by Maria Mena.)

Hope it helps.

Q: 12/F

Hi! So I checked my mom's email because I needed to confirm something I couldn't do on my email (She doesn't care if I go on her email) and I saw this email...

It said something about a Child Development Counseler.. I looked up what it was and it said something about "Help your child's behaviour!!" ?!?!!!! I mean, they HATE me so I rarely even talk to them. The email was sent yesterday.. Do you think this email was sent automatically to random emails or she subscribed to this?!

They say "I give them a hard time". I NEVER talk to them!! Omg please help!

It might just be a spam email.I get the same one and I am only 15.

But it she did suscribe to this, don't fret over it. Atleast if this is a problem your mom wants to get you help.

My mom would never get me help even if I need it.

Q: heey, my name is Jasmine, I'm 13 and I think I'm starting my period...

I'm going for a school trip to the swimming pool,and I think I might actually get it while I'm there, or at least I'm really scared I will get it like in the water and everyone is going to see it :(

I read that it is unhealthy to put in a tampon without your period.. but I don't know if I should anyway...

I have most of the symptoms- really bad cramping in my lower stomach, I have had that for about a month and a half maybe, I have tender breasts, I have hair down there.. but I don't much armpit hair, like only just a few black strands, I have pretty heavy discharge, and I have a few tiny spots or red, which I'm guessing is blood.. but I have only had them for a few days, and there is only like one or two dots..

WHAT DO I DO, AND WHEN DO YOU THINK I WILL GET IT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

You should just wear a pad or pantyliners,when your not swimming.And when you do go swimming,put in a tampon.
trust me,when you get your period,your going to wish you didn't.Tust me.

Hope it helps.

Q: We've been dating for 10 months and I feel like I don't treat him as good as he treats me. We're in the 8th grade, how can I be an awesome girlfriend?

Your being an awesome girlfriend,because if you weren't,he would probably let you know.Your only in eigth grade so you don't have to worry about being an "awesome" girlfriend.
Just continue loving him,and being there for him,and your being an awesome girlfriend.

Q: I started talking to this guy about a year ago around thanksgiving. We talked for 2 months &i really thought it was going to go somewhere. We texted all day long and hung out when we could. Then out of nowhere when things were going great he just told me he was "busy" and stopped talking to me. I for some reason am infatuated with him. But the thing is he annoys me, gives me anxiety and is boring. Doesn't make sense huh? Haha. Well we randomly text each other but it never is a conversation it's just 2 texts back and forth. I texted him on thanksgiving &it had been awhile and I was starting to move on. We started talking like we had before &it lasted for a week. We would flirt and he would be so nice &then randomly he stopped texting me. I feel completely broken hearted again. I want to move on more than anything but I feel like it's so impossible. I only want him. Part of the reason I can't move on is because I can't not know the reason he stopped talking to me last year was for. &now he did it again. It eats me up inside but I'm too afraid to ask. I don't think that will be the last time we talk I just love him so much. I've had 2 past relationships and the guys were amazing but I can see now I only want this guy. We are both 21 &go to the same college. Any advice on this situation/how to move on? Thank you so much in advance!

(:

I know it's hard to move on in a situation like this.It ruly does take some time to get over it.
But you do need to move on.I've been in a similar situation.I was also scared to ask why he suddenly would stop talking to me.But I wish I would have asked.I found out that he had a girlfriend,so he stopped talking to me all together.If I would have asked him up front I probably wouldn't have been so hurt.
But that happened three years ago,and Ive moved on,but still think about it and feel sad.
But the point of that was to show you that sometimes you have to just be daring and take that chance,to ask.
Whatever the reason for him doing it, it's wrong,and he should not do it.
You should ask him why he is doing it then tell him you can't speak to him anymore.No matter what,on't let him get the satisfaction of knowing you still like him.

Hope it helps.

Q: 19/f
My ex-boyfriend use to make me feel very secure. Always held me and took care of me when I needed it or was stressed. We also had a very romantic relationship and went out all the time. My new boyfriend isn't exactly the same. When i'm with him I love him I sware I do. Our personalities click and everything but I feel like it's at a plateau. He doesn't like spending money and is very cheap. Normally when we hang out were just at my house or his house. I just feel this empty space sometimes and miss my ex. Not to be with my ex, I just miss what we had if that makes sense? I just don't know if what i'm feeling is normal or if it's a sign to move on.

I can understand how your feeling.
Honestly,it might be a sign saying you should move on.It seems like your comparing your current boyfriend to your ex boyfriend,which is possibly causing these feelings.If your comparing the two it might also be a sign that you miss your ex boyfriend.
You should give yourself some time free from the both of them,then see who you like better.It might seem stupid but ry making a pro and con list for the both of them.
You might just miss the things you and your ex boyfriend did.But you also have to remember that their two different guys.Your current boyfriend might not like going out,he might be more comfortable just chilling at home.And if that's true,then you have to respect these feeling.

Hope it helps.

Q: hey guys so my bf n i recently got n in a long distance rela recently and in that time he made some new friends (3 months of friendship only) and in the time i have seen his pics of fb ... there is always this girl that he hangs out with all the tme ... he said thta he is a gud friend of hers ... so i cant even create a big issue out of it ... yesterday he told me he ll be doing a project which he has to run every night .. that means no more talking to him .. during the week days .. n it was already hard to digest that but i was like this is for his career but then today he told me that his 3rd partner is the girl who he hangs out with a lot .. the only prob that i have is that is that he ll be spending more time with that girl .. than with me ... i know tlking on skype can be boring but i am willing to give him that much amoutn of time of my lfe than y cant he ... the pics of him with that girl r like she kissing him on his cheeks or she is leaning on his shoulder ... anyhow ... i dont know what should do i do .. talk to him bout it .. he is surely be like wth its my work ... i cant be selfish but how do i control my feelings? pls help thx

Trust me,I know how it feels.My boyfriend is always hanging with his friend who is a girl but I hate her.She talks more to him than I do and I see him everyday.
I'm not a relationship expert,but I can offer some advice.You should talk to him about her.See if they had any history in the past: if they used to date or like each other.If so,then that's a problem.
Call him up one day and tell him you two need to have a serious and honest conversation.Then bring her up and ask about those two.
I get that it is for his job,and you don't want to be selfish,but in a situation like this,you might have to be.You should tell him about thee situation,expressing your complete feelings on it,then you can possibly tell him to pick you or his job.
It might seem selfish,but it might be what you have to do.And if he picks his job over you,he wasn't worth it in the first place.

Hope it helps.

Q: My friend is obsessed with a guy who isn't interested, like at all. She is really obsessed with him and is always stalking him on fb or counting how many times he blinks in class. She thinks he's in love with her but they font even speak and he has a girl friend. always says how she hates herself and has. Started drinking/taking 5 Panadol at a time and even self harming. I am rely worried about her and I love her to pieces but I have other friends too and I can't spend 24hrs a day telling her she's perfect, that's not fair on them or me. I really want to help her though! I've convinced her to jo to a councillor but it isn't helping...what do I do?!! Age:14 gender:female

Well the worst thing to do for a person who self harms is suggest they get help.I self harms also,and have been doing it for three years.My friends have suggested I get help like you did and that just makes things worst.

Try understanding why she hates herself.Just be there for her.When she needs someone to talk to be there.Right now she is more important than your other friends.Self harm is a life or death situation.You want to help her but you have to go about doing it the right way.Dont just tell her to stop,because that will make it worst.

Learn more about self harm.Once you look more into it you can start to understand why we do it.But whatever you do dont judge her.Be there to support her feelings.Encourage her to talk to you about how she feels.

Hope it helps.

Q: So my boyfriend is dealing with Depression. he's had trouble finding work for quite awhile now. He had a job for awhile but had to quit it due to the awful commute. He recently got a part time job but with the gas and parking permit he has to have, he doesn't even feel like it's worth it.

We've been together for about 2 years and 8 months now and still don't live together because he lives with his friends and hasn't been able to get a place of his own because of his work problems and I can't help atm because I'm a full time student.

I understand why he's depressed, I just dunno how to help him. It hurts me to see him like this, I wish I could help more but we're in different phases in our lives, a lot of his issues I don't know how to help him much or pull him out of.

Any ideas would be much helpful..

oh and please no one suggest him getting therapy...it doesn't do much good when you can't afford it. Thanks!

In this situation all you can do is be there for him.I suffer depression also and hate when people try to help me get better.But what does help is trying to just be there for him and give him ashoulder to cry on.
When your depressed nothing seems worth it not even life.So he needs someone like you to show him sometimes things re worth it.

Try finding out what caused him to become depressed.

Hope it helps.

Q: I'm in Middle school and all of a sudden from time to time I feel that ai should not live anymore. It's hard for me to though. I like this band Blood On The Dancefloor I got into and I think it is triggering to this. I don't really like my family anymore either. How can I get rid of this feeling forever! Help me!

Hi,and I can honestly say I understand you.But let me give you a secret.
Music helps alot.Your doing the right thing listening to BOTDF.
I've had similar feelings to yours,but mine's were more intense.
I'm not gonna tell you that things will get better 100%,because honestly,it won't.
We aren't like cars or instruments.We can't get help,and expect to be perfectly better.
But it's worth the try.
You should talk to someone no matter how hard it might seem,because it could help you sort things out.

Q: theres a girl who i know from school,who mostly
hangs out with her friend girl.one time,while in
school.the bell ring and it was time for the next period.there was a boy walking out of class ahead of them she was chatting with as she and her friend were walking down the hall together.at
lunch time, when she and her friend girl both sat at a table.right after the same guy who was walking with her and her friend,came in to the lunch and walk over to the table on the side were
she was sitting.he tried to sit next to her and
she looked at him in without a smile on her
face, almost like she was uncomfortable but move over for him to sit.then she continued to talk to
her friend. she noticed he was sitting there,and talk with him alittle but,not in a very interested
way.after he left she continued to talk to her friend like no one was every there what does that mean?

I hate to say it,but it could mean she didn't like him.But that might not be true,it's just my opinion.

Q: i like to sit on a girl's lap. wen i sit i feel i am being cared.i don wanna kiss or anything like that. i jus wanna sit on the lap and feel that affectionate warmth. i weigh 58 kgs(130 lbs).but being a guy is it wrong to sit on a girl's lap??

No,there's absolutely nothing wrong with it,and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
There's nothing wrong with feeling like your being cared for.
And just because your a guy,doesn't mean anything,you can do whatever you feel like as long as it's reasonable.

Q: Hi.. I'm 12 years old, female.

So yesterday, I got done eating and I asked my OWN dad for some gum. Then, he said "It's all 'candy candy candy gum gum gum' with you. " That's when I just wanted to cry.

And that's not all. Kids at school call me names too. I told them and all they did was tell them to stop - they didn't!! I told them again and they said "Well they should express their facts and opinions". I told my mom and she didn't care. They can't move me to another school.

I've been counting my calories for over a year now. On the app I had, I set it for 1200 calories I eat.. I may drop it down to just 1000.

My calves are fat, my chin is fat, my butt is fat, my stomach is fat (I seriously have to suck it in), my cheeks are fat.. Pretty much it. I hate my body and I want to go anorexic. Yeah, yeah anorexia is bad for your body but it will be better for me! I'm thinking about starving myself..

Hi,I'm just gonna be honest with you.
I was your age to,when everything started.
The self-mutilation,the eating disorder,and the depression,and everything else.
I know how you feel,and I know it's easy at all.
And two years later,I'm fourteen,and even though I'm getting better,I still struggle with it.
I used to be just like you were.I would be afraid of drinking water,because I felt it would make me fat.
But,even though I know you don't wanna hear it,I'm gonna tell you that it isn't good for you.
Sure,it may seem like it helps,which it does.But it does more harming than helping.
But please promise me something.
That you'll think about the consequences first.
And believe me,your very beautiful,even if you may not feel like it.Sometimes you just have to ignore all the hate.
Because there's a quote I love by ALbert Einstein : "Everyone's a genius,but if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree it'll live it's whole life believing it's dumb."
That can apply to your situation also.
If you let people constantly judge you by your lookes,or call you things like "fat",and other things,you'lll start to believe it.
But there's a challenge that's advised to girls to try.
Stand in the mirror,and find at least ten things about yourself that you love.But you can't leave until you find ten things.
I've lost all my friends because I let my eating disorder take over.I also am not as close to my family as I used to be,because I didn't go get help.
One song,that applies is called Courage by Superchik.
Please just know that your not alone,and there's other like me who knows what your going through,and still struggling with it also.
If you ever need help,or just want to chat,inbox me,and i'll give you my e-mail.
But also remember that if you succumb to an eating disorder like I did,the eating disorder becomes more than just an illness,it becomes who you are.

Love,Jazz x.

Q: one day as i was walking down the hallway in school,some guy i never met joins me along with
a few others.he then tells me he's dating a girl i know,and the others with him say yeah yeah he
is,but from what i know about her she always hangs out with her friend girl,at lunch and outside everyday in school.also whenever i see her and give her a hi five and say hey,she would do the same in a kinda shy way towards me.she talks but not with many people.also she would only talk with others if they start the conversation first,in addition,i never see them together.so i kinda found odd that this guy would come up to me telling me this,its almost like he felt he had to but i don't know why.

He might be trying to make you jealous.
Or he might know that she likes you,but he likes her,and doesn't want her with you.
I am almost sure she likes you from what you've said.
Hope it helps x.

Q: a friend of mind seen a girl i know who i haven't seen in awhile.he talks with her about me and she seemed really happy(face lights up)remembering
me, she then begins to tell him that i was a sweetheart and that she always liked me.but i never even noticed, because she must have concealed it very well.i had no idea she did and how long she has liked me.when ever in school,she talked but not very much except with her friend girl.but when ever i said hi to her she would say it back and smile slightly.this has me very confused,sense the way she was around me back then
in school, seems very different from what my friend mentioned when he brought me up to her.

Well,I can see how your confused,because I seem to do the same thing she does.
It might be because she was shy,and didn't know how you would respond if she told you she liked you.Most girls fear rejection,so they try to avoid it at all costs.
And that smile she gave you was probably her way of trying to hint to you that she likes you.

Hope it helps,and feel free to message if you need anymore help on aything.

Q: one morning at school, i walked in the lunch room
and saw a girl i know sitting at a table with her
three friend girls.also at the table-a few seats down from her, was a boy and two other kids i didn't like.as i walk over to say hey to her and try and sit down the kid i didn't like tried to pick a fight with me because he didn't want me to sit at that table.then the girl i know stops talking with her friend girls and tells me in a mean way, go sit somewhere else.whenever i see her regularly and say hi she says hi back, i don't understand.

Hey.
Your situation seems really complicated.There's thousands of reasons why she could've done that.
1.) She probably didn't want the other guy to keep trying to pick fights.
2.) Maybe she didn't mean to say it in a mean way.
3.) Maybe she just wasn't having a good day,and was easily irratated.
Or,maybe you could bring it to her attention,and ask her to explain why she did it.I know I prefer to be asked why I did something I did that confused them.

Uhm,I hope it helps.And if you need anymore advice,feel free to ask.

Q: so i've liked this guy for 4 straight years. and he's known that. i've never had a full on conversation with him. he now has a girlfriend and whenever he's with her and i come around he will kiss her in front of me, or tell her she's beautiful and that he loves her. oh, and he will say it loud enough for me to hear. before he has a this girlfriend he would look at me constantly and it seemed like he would always want to get my attention. he still does that now, but not as much. Do you think he's trying to make me jealous? is he trying to see what my reaction is? cause honestly though i'm not jealous.

I honestly think this could be him trying to make you jealous.
He could be trying it for several reasons.
But he might also be doing this,because he's in the driver seat.
I learned a long time ago,that you never let a guy know you like him,because that puts him in the drivers seat,and guys are bad drivers.

But it could also be because he wants your attention.
Remember that guys and girls are completely different,so we do things differently.

But it's good that it's not making you jealous,and don't let it make you jealous.
If he sees you don't mind,then he might lay off the act.