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I'm Bryttnii and I'm eighteen years old. I have an amazing boyfriend of two years! I've been on this site on and off for about 3 years. I love giving advice & taking advice. No question is considered too personal for me. Ask me anything, that's why I'm here!

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im 17
and i haven't had sex

i'm wondering how i will know whether i'm ready for it or not..

You'll know when you meet the right person. It could be 10 years from now, but when it's with the right person you will be glad you waited.

There isn't anything wrong with being a virgin and you shouldn't do it because everyone else is doing it.

Just wait until you find the right one. Then you will know instinctivly.


_bryttnii

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I am thinking about how things will go when I have sex and I know it hurts when you have sex for the first time, but I really want to know: did you have an orgasm the night you lost your virginity??

Is it possible if it always hurts too?

Some people do, some don't. I personally didn't, but I did the second time. It did hurt me, but not as bad as I thought it would. It's better if you feel relaxed and if you are with the right person. If you're tense and not sure you want to do it, it most likely will hurt more.

The pain isn't as bad as everyone made it seem. But then again, everyone is different. Some people may not feel it that much and some it might hurt bad.

_bryttnii

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So usually when i cum i never actually "shoot", it just kinda rolls out. Do girls find it less attractive if you dont "shoot"?

To be honest, girls don't really pay attention to how far you can "shoot it."

It's normal & it's not a big deal.
Don't worry about it :]

_bryttnii

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My best friend is a freshman in college and I'm a senior in high school. We used to call each other every night and talk for an hour, but now its an occasional text and we have run out of things to talk about, and we are definitely not as close as we used to be. How can I try to fix this and make it work? (both girls)

Well, I'm sorry to hear about this.

Maybe you could plan a night for just the two of you to go out. Movie and dinner, club, bowling, party, anything like that.

Don't worry about talking to her everyday because then there really wouldn't be much to talk about in your phone conversations.

Let her know that you feel like you two aren't as close and that you would like to do something together.

Good luck.
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So in april i met my current man, hes black im white. and my dad jus happens to be racist. my mom knows about my boyfriend and i know she would like him if she met him..my dad jus doesnt open up to anything really and one day when i tell him or he finds out its going to tear the family apart. We already dont talk, and he knows i dont like him. The only reason i stay here is for my mom, plus im underage. I am in love with my boyfriend and there isnt really anything i can do at this point. i feel lost. Help?

You will always have people that just doesn't accept a girl/guy dating outside of his/her race.

Sometimes it's hard to ignore little comments especially if their from your own parents.

Since your underage, unfortunately they can stop you to an extent from seeing him. I would sit them both down and explain to them everything. Before you do this, you could invite him over for dinner and tell them he's a friend until they open up more.

If they still don't like him, that's when I would tell them that you're dating. Sometimes you think that the news you have, will most likely make your parents go off, but sometimes it's the opposite.

At this point, you just have to see what happens.

_Bryttnii

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what are some cute love songs? i would like new ones...from like 2005 and up

love - keyshia cole
trust - keyshia cole
departed - brandy
you belong with me - taylor swift
come on over - jessica simpson
you complete me - keyshia cole
shorty like mine - bow wow
like you - ciara bow wow
and i - ciara
let me hold you - bow wow
how do you sleep - jesse mccartney
down - jay sean
dont forget about us - mariah carey
use somebody - kings of leon

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I'm 18, and a girl and I'm always tired. It doesn't matter if I go to bed at 8 and wake up late, I'm always tired and falling asleep. I've asked the doctor before, and he thinks it was my diet. I eat good now, and it seems worse. Is there something I could take or something? I'm miserable!

Try taking vitamins. The one a day for women are the best ones to take. It'll give you more energy & make you feel more awake & ready to do things.

_Bryttnii

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m/16, i need an idea for a holloween costume.

You could be a pirate, cop, excaped convict, michael myers, clown, cowboy, michael jackson, a cheerleader(joke), doctor, professor, fireman, basketball player, baseball player, football player, etc.

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I need a second costume for halloween, i'm at college and so we are going out both nights of the weekend. Im not sure if i will have time to go buy anything so can you think of a costume that, chances are, i already have in my closet (like something with just a black dress...etc.)

Thanks so much!!

If you have a black dress, you could tease your hair really big & use make-up to draw a nose & whiskers & you could be a cat.

If you have a plaid shirt, you could wear that & a skirt with high heels & wear your hair in pig tails & get a pair of glasses - school girl.

Wear pajamas & be a baby.

Wear a black dress, pearls, heels, and if you have one of those featherd boas, you could be like a show girl in the 20's.

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how to make friends in a school that hates you?

It's hard depending on the situation. I'm not going to lie. If a school hates you, it's hard to even attempt to become friends with them.

I've been there.

Try becoming friends with people you know will be nothing but a good friend to you. The people that don't have many friends, usually are the best friends you could have. Being nice to everyone no matter how rude they can be, always helps.

Don't let them get to you, just keep your head up!

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what kind of card games and board games do you like to play with one other person or a group of people at a party? or even family night?

Spades, Rummy, Phase 10, Monopoly, Clue, Uno, Hearts, and Life, are my favorites!

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i have felt like pure crap for the past few days and i think i have the flu or swine flu. which i couldnt go to the doctor because my parents were across the country but they just now got home. i also got wasted two nights ago because i felt so bad and was fighting with my boyfriend. if i go to the doctor and get tested or something would alcohaul still be noticeable in me? and what is the test they do for swine flu?

The doctors are not going to look and see if you have gotten drunk days ago. Their simply going to look for signs of swine flu.

They don't do a test for swine flu.
They will probably swab your mouth & maybe take blood.

If you do have swine flu, it's only fatal if you have a high fever that you can't break.

Here is a link you can read more about it.

http://www.examiner.com/x-18331-Natural-Health-Examiner~y2009m10d28-What-are-the-symptoms-of-swine-flu

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Okay, do guys want you to get rid of all of it? I am only 13, but I don't want to stand out when i do get close with a guy. What are they expecting? Do I need to shave down there everyday so i don't get stubble, or do guys not care?

Help!

It's not about what the "guys" want, it's your decision. If you want to have hair down there, then do so. If not, then shave it.

You do not need to shave it everyday because this will cause razor burn bad :[
Use a new razor everytime you do shave which is recommended every 3 days.

Do it for yourself, not any guy.
If a guy don't like it, you deserve better anyway!

_Bryttnii

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so i was thinking of being a lifeguard for halloween...im a girl i have the red one piece bathing suit that says guard on it...but i want it to be a cute costume..but i dont know what else to wear with it?
im 19 & will be going to a college party..

You could always get a whistle to wear around your neck and wear white flip flops. Don't forget your sunglasses :]

That should be all you need really. You could do the whole sunblock lines under your eyes & that would be cute.

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What are some songs that could relate to this situation?:

There's this guy I like but we're not that close yet. I wanna know him more but I don't know how to do that.

trust - keyshia cole
going crazy - natalie
wonderwall - oasis
and i - ciara
promise - ciara

these are old, but their good!!

_bryttnii

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So I want to get to know a guy and I'm wondering if anyone knows any good ideas for stuff to do after school during the week besides chilling at someones house. Thanks!

You could go to an early movie.
Go to the mall & just walk around.
Go for a walk in a park.
Going bowling sounds nerdy & everything, but it's actually a lot of fun if you go with the right people.
Go for ice-cream somewhere.

Even if it's something as simple as walking around the neighborhood, as long as your having fun with him!

_bryttnii

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how to apply leave on serum for straightening hairs ?
should i use it before straightening or after it ??
i have this " hair repair leave on serum for damaged hair from straightening "
dont know how to use there is no instructions on back !!
help

You can put it on before and then after as well. If you put it on before you straighten your hair, it will burn the product up before it burns your hair. Use it after and it'll keep the vitamins in your hair until you wash it.

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so i love to use dream matt mouse but wheni do after a coouple of hours it goes blotchey so i was wondering what is the best way to stop it dong that thanks (:

That's what I use and I had that problem too.
After you apply it, apply a powder foundation on top, it doesn't get all spotty looking with it on there. I use the Bare Minerals powder and it works great!

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if your on birth control, can a guy nutt in you and you not get pregnant? lol

No, you can still get pregnant. Birth control isn't 100% effective. I would still reccomend using a condom, please!

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16/f
So, my friend got fingered the other night and she said it hurt really bad and it was only one finger but it hurt a lot. Her boyfriend told her she was really tight and he didnt even stick his whole finger in her, just a little and she said it still hurt her really bad. What should she do?

If she is a virgin, then it most likely will hurt a little bit the first couple of times.

If she isn't a virgin, it could be she hasn't had sex in a while.

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