Hey Yall My name is Blayre !*! Im A Georiga Peach all the way, i love to hang out with my freinds, talk on the computer, and run my mouth on the phone. The reason i made this advice column is bc like every other average teen i have problems that i need advice on too!*! So i thought i would pay it foward and thats why i made this column to give adivce to people like you!*! So if you need adivce give me a holler and i would be glad to help!
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Blayre
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Im 15 male and from scotland. Currently i am in a long distance relationshop and i am confused!
I love this girl, im sure of it. And she loves me too, but i dont know, things seem hazy, its not that i dont trust her of course i do. But like she has a load of male friends and is rather shall we say "close" to them. I dnt mean anything goes on or that jus im not sure what goes on coz i cant be there and see. Like i sed i do trust this gal with my life i jus dont know wot 2 think at the moment, plz help me sum1.
Youres anon (link)
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Sometimes as much as u are worried about your girlfriend or boyfreind u jus have to learn to trust them until someting goes rong! obvisly u love her like u said soo trust her if she says she isnt cheatin then well she isnt!
Blayre
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So I asked what I should do about my "friends" before, what happened was my friend demanded i drive her all around town to finds a party (there was a bunch of us in the car) and I go well i have to pay for gas so no, then she bitches at me for like 10 minutes then bangs my car on the sidewalk when she left, apparently she felt bad and was gonna apologize and she still hasnt! that was on halloween weekend. Ever since then my friends have been bitchy to me and ignoring me and not inviting me anywhere! I have talked to 2 of them and was like what should i do? like why am I in trouble out of this situation? Like my friends have been so evil to me, and my boyfriend feels bad and doesnt know what i should do or what he should say. I have tried to figure things out with them but like they just say (without tellin me why there mad) in time it will get better...but it hasnt its gotten worse, they defiantely did secret santa without me.. like did i basically lose my friends ? i have no clue what to do? i have 8 months til university and until then i have a boyfriend?> and a few guy friends?? help! (link)
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Hey well it sounds like your soo called frinds arnt worth it jus makes new ones they sound lik big BITCHES! jus find new freinds and they'll proble adventuayll come crawiln back!
Hope i helped
Blayre
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MJy stepdad is a real jerk, and my mom always chooses him over me, is that right:? (link)
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well tell your mom look i kno he means a lot to you but im your daughter its seems like u always choose him over me and i dont liek that! let her kno im ur daughter u shouldnt put him first!
Hope i helpede
blayre
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HEy uh i love this girl but im afraid to tell her.I told her once that i liked her but she seemed to dislike me even more and all her freinds hate me.What should i do? (link)
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well sometimes not everyone you liek out there lieks you and sometimes they do! send her a sweet nice love letter letting her kno how much she means to u and if she doesnt liek you then i guess youll have to accept it jus be happy and try to say freinds with her bc frinds if almost jus as great as goin out sometimes even better!
Blayre
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One of my really good friends has been really really depressed ever sence her and her bf broke up. A few days ago she started to cut herself.I am really worried about her. Only me and a few of her friends know that she is doing it. I really want her to stop it because I am scared that she is going to do something she will regret. It hurts me a lot to see her like this. I am in practically the same situation that she is in. I want to help her and we always talk about it. ButI feel like there is not much I can do for her right now but try and always be there for her. What should I do?
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well try to find out why her boyfreind brooke up with her and see if u can get them back together! there isnt much u can do but jus let her kno ur there fr her introduce her to some new guys let hre kno that he isnt tha only guy out there! mostly people cut for attention and dont waste al ur time tryin to give her attention jus try to give he e lil attention and see if it works!
Best wishes
Blayre
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My boyfriend is always putting his arm round my waist and touching me but I never know where to touch him. I don't want to be really outragous or anything, I just want to know how I should touch him. (link)
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well mostly tha girls jus let tha guys do all tha touching soo dont worry bout havin to put your arm around him jus if he raps his arm around u lay your head on him and jus go along with hta flow it'll go fine!
Best wishes,
Blayre
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hey i got this huge problem.. i am like SO OBSSESED WITH MY GIRL FRIEND...we hang out alot and she comes ova to my house and i go over to her house and im always like all over her. (not that way..well sometimes) if u have any advice plz tell me...
from, ********
p.s. she likes to poke my stomach lol (link)
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HaHa sounds like yall gots a pretty damn good realtion ship if ya ask me!Jus dont let her go im sure she wont let u go either !
Love
Blayre
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hey i need some help... i gots this problem.. my girl friend thinks i like otha ppl. I DONT..i keep on tellin her this but she wont listen..i reallly really really love her..shes the best thing that ever happened to me.. plzz help me..
signed, ******** p.s. u know me (link)
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Hey well there is nuthing u can really do other than maybe ask her why she thinks this if she says well your talkin to other girls to much then stop talking to other girls if she says it seems like u flirt or i heard u said she was hot jus watch whut ur doin if u do somin u would consider someone elce as flirtin then dont do it jus think about whut u do u might not thinkin your flirtin with and yet you are! jus thnk about things u have been doin latley that might make her think that! well if you need me to talk to her for ya jus I*M* me and ill be gald to !
Best Wishes Blayre
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Hay, theres this boy that I havent talked to in a few mouths, but i saw him at the movies a few weeks ago..but i didnt relize it was him..so we didnt talk, i just waved at him cus he looked like i knew him from somewhere! well..i was chattin with him online last weekend, and he was like..i saw u at the moves a few weeks ago and ur really hott and sexyer! well we usta like each other..but we dont talk that much ne-more, and i want to see him more! wut should i do?
Age-13
Sex-female
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Well jus put out tha effort tell him look i like you alot would u like to go to tha movies sometime and maybe hang out it would be fun! and if he use to like u than the chances are he still does! soo give it a chance u never kno whut he'll say!
Best wishes
Blayre
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okay theres this guy that i like and he likes me toO, but we go to diffrent schools, and he said we shouldnt go out because we would not see each other everyday, just on the weekends, but I really want to go out with him, and so does he, what should I do?
HeLp pleaZzz!
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Hey well try to explain to him tha great things about long distance relationships! Like tell him when we do see eachother on weekends it will feel so great and we will enjoy it more than if we se each other every day! and that it wont make us soo obsesed with eachother it will space our time aprt ! but jus let him kno u really love him adn that every second that u can spend with him will count and will mean tha owrld to u!
well hope i helped!
Blayre
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ok...so theres this guy i met and weve become good friends...we hang out on the weekends and stuff and hes really fun to be around and talk to...only i think i like him too much and i kno he likes me too much...i didnt want this to happens on account hes a lott older than me ... what should i do? (link)
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well if he is like 2 or 3 years older than you its no big deal but if he is like 4 or 5 dont you think its kinda weird datin a guy 5 years older than you unless you like older in 25's or older but other than that there is plenty of other guys out there why go out with tha ones 5 years older than you jus go with tha flow if u like him that nuch then ya go out with him
Blayre
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ok so,i play like every sport there is except rugby and football...cuz im a girl...all my friends say that im amazimg cuz when i get home from school iu do my homework get online then sports the rest of the night..but sometimes i goto basketball then to soccer then to lacrosse then to swimming. everyone says that i should quiet mayb 3 sports and only havge like 3 sports to do...should i quit? but i always have time for them...i rate REALLY high..*but it has to be good please!) (link)
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NO if u love doing these things then dont quite if u have time for your friends then dont quit especially if you love doin it but if you dont then quit but if you do then dont lol that was confusin but dont quit somin you love that was tha main message!
Blayre
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OMG lol hey i gota a prob. i dont no what to eat: pizza or a sub? ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY!! plz hurry cause there gettin cold
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HaHa hmm well i would go with tha pizza for soe reason i hate subs! lol Well lyl
LyF
Blayre
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Hi, I'm 13 and 4 months and I havent ever gotten my period... :(. Anyway the last week-ish i've been noticing stuff and I think it may be coming soon. I am eating A LOT, like the equivilant of about 5 full meals a day. My skin is going from oily to dry to oily to dry and back to oily again, and I have more pimples than I've ever had before. My boobs are extremely tender too. Discharge isnt an issue, I've been having that all the time for like a year and a half, and it's the same as always.... what do you think? Might it be my time??
Ps- today i'm also a lil sick, like congested, but I think thats an outside issue, i dunno if it matters, oh well.
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HaHa yes this normally means your goin to jus be prepared and dont let it go thorugh your jeans and humilate your self been there done that! but trust me whenu do have it you dont want it!
well hope i helped
Blayre
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well hey blayre i hav kind of a problem well me and my g/f have been goin out 4 like a month but i still feel kind of nervous around. plus she kind of ignores me and is sort of mean 2 other ppl. i wanna break up with her but i dont want 2 hurt her feelings how do i do this? (link)
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Hey well tha eaisest way to let a girl down is to let her kno that u would jus wanna be freinds! tell her look ur are a terrific friend but i jus dont see you as a girlfirend tell her that when your around her u jus see her as a freind rather than your gf! and last but not least end it nice say you are a terrific preson tha next guy you go out with will be a lucky man!
At least thats how id wanna be let down !
Best wishes hope she'll understnad
Blayre
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Hey,
theres this guy that always flirts with me, always talks not stop, and he even called me sweet. He taps my foot all the time and we end up getting into a flirty footwar, lol. I think hes gonna ask me out, but i really like him as a friend. What are some ways to turn a guy down nicely so that he doesnt hate u forever?
Signed,
girl under an attack of unwanted predator (link)
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Hey lol jus tell him u like him as a frind, or tell him that u dont wanna go out or that u liek him but when peoeple tend to go out and break up they dont stay freinds and u wanan always be freinds with him ! let him kno that u wanan be good frinds jus not lovers!
Good Luck
Blayre
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my friend (kelley) has been cutting herself lately and doing some pretty dangerous stuff. i told her to stop and she said she has but i dont know if i should believe her. what should i do? *signed clueless as what to do* (link)
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If your friend is cuttin her self comfort herdopnt push her away or tell her she is stupid bc somtimes it makes tha sisuation worse let her kno u care about her and your there for her! i have a friend who does that and all i can do is let her kno im here for her and if it gets to bad then yes i would tell someone if she thoght about killin herslef! but meanwhile jus comfort her and think of why she would do this if its for attention give her tha attentoin she needs soo she might stop
well i iWIsh u luck
Blayre
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CountryCutie,
Please help me with my problem. I have liked this guy for 1 1/2 years. I went out with him before but he broke up with me because he thought i didnt like him. Now i like him even more than ever and he HATES me.
Another problem, all my friends have byfriends and the ones that dont are liking all the guys and there's no one else for me except... that person that hates me!
When i go to the movies with my friends they all have their boyfriends with them. So as i TRY to watch the movie and not break down crying, i see tem out of the corners of my eyes!
so now that i feel bad enough, i cant go to the movies with a boyfriends because all my friends have them!
PLease help me with these problems!!
~SAD AND MAD~
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Hey well i kno excally how u feel iv had all this happen to me! Let him kno look i really do like you iv liekd u for a long time, even thorugh in some stuff liek out of all the guys in tha school i want you i like you soo much! tell him how u feel ever though that sounds corney it works! and mean while who said you had to go outw ith a guy at your skool go out if u have frinds from other schools get your firnds too hook u up with a guy form tehre! sometimes long distances relationships are tha greatest things bc after you havent seen him all week u finally get to see him and it makes u enjoy him more! soo talk to that guy and if it doesnt work go out and look for a new romeo!
Well best wishs
Blayre
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Hey blayre i am one of your best friends...
i am going out with this guy and i like him alot.But i also liked someone else.what do i do.
P.S~ i asked your x but i wanted to see what you had to say.
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Hey girl well well seeing how i kno who u r this will be easy! I kno u like **** but sometims u jus have to go with tha flow and see where life takes you jus stay with ***** and if u relize taht u dont like him atht much dont play with hi heart jus dump him and mean while maybe **** will come to his sinces! adn if u break up with **** you wont kno whut u might miss out on soo jus stay with him and if yall dont click let him nko and wait on ****
Luv ya Lots
Blayre
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating about 3 months on the 24th...But he still doesn't understand my hints. How do I get him to understand my hints without me saying what I want out right?
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Hey well guys are jus stuborn sometimes you jus have to go with tha flow and it looks liek you have been for quite a while! of he is jus a slow mover find someone that u think would go faster but dont dump a guy jus bc he wont do all those things! try talkin to oune of your firends thats a guy adn ask whut their G.fs did and they noticed and if that doesnt work then jus plane out tell him whut u want!
Good Luck
Blayre
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