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my name's michaela..my friends call me kay, or kayla pretty much..im 14 years old (yeah i feel really young on here..there are so many older and more expierienced advicenators on here..o wel...live and learn) im not gonna go on about how "i give fantasmic advice!" because..that's an oppinion, and everyone should be able to have their own oppinion, so if you like my advice, thats great! and ill always be here to help you out. If you dont like it, well i'd love to hear from you about what im doing wrong so i can maybe improve a bit?
If you want to know more about me..well, i love to party and go crazy..thats like my life!! hahaha..trying to stay young as long as i can. I am really into art, painting and writing. I guess you could say i am a creative person. I like to listen to music. I like pretty much everything..rap rock r&b..you name it..EXCEPT i DESPISE country..blahhh =(..i have 3 amazing best friends..danni, kate, and izzi. They are all absolutly gorgous and amazingg..and they are always there for me. I couldnt ask for better friends. they tell me im beautiful..but i totally disagree on that one..i want to get a picture up on here..
thats probably not going to happen though..so if you want to check out my myspace..
http://www.myspace.com/xokaylao7
^^ check it outt..
i will answer questions through aim and email if you think its nessasary..
xokaylao2

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hii. i think i am fat i weigh 141 and i dont like the way i look so im thinking about becoming anerixic for just a few weeks to shed some pounds. But i heard it can be dangerous

Hey,
That is definitly not a good idea. You can't just decide to become anorexic first of all..its a mental illness that causes you to physically harm yourself..your pretty much just trying to lose weight by means of starvation which could lead to the development of anorexia (which is extremely hard to get rid of once your hooked) And there are soo many health risks that follow up with anorexia..
NOT a good choice..try dieting..don't starve yourself..thats discusting and dangerous..i dont want to sound mean..but it is a serious topic and i shouldnt let it go easily..
Just please rethink your descision..instead of starving yourself..try getting on a serious diet..and start exercising..that is a healthy way to shed a few pounds..and if their are specific parts of your body that have a little extra fatt..well their are plentyy of workout videos with instructions that can help you rid yourself of those burdens..for instance..if you have a huge saggy tush..use the butt busters routine (huge hit in the 80's)..ok well pleasee pleasee do not resort to anorexia..
pce :/

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ok well I was the one who broke up with my bf, and its been three days and hes ready to ask out another girl! we went out for a month and a half! i mean im only 13/f but still... does anyone else think its weird? i mean im really hurt... what should i do?

Hey,
A monthand a half might seem like a long time to you..but it could seem like nothing to him. Maybe he holds relationships for longer periods of time then you do..
Moving on can be different for everyone..
Just do the same. Your the one who broke up with him in the 1st place. So obviously you dont "want" him anymoree..
pce :)

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okay well i have a bf and we have nothing at all in commin i mean we barly talk and now hes gone 4 2 weeks on a cruse and theres a dance coming up this weekend. adn theres this kid ((boy w/e)) that i kinda in a way just met and he told me he liked me and well he was flirting w/ me at the last dance and i just think hes cute i mean i dont think i like him. but hes a grade unger than me and i dont realli think age matters but i do have a bf and idk what to do i mean wen im single i barrley like anyone but now i have a bf i think i like alot of people ((well no everyone)) but i tend to flirt more or notice that i do. srry its so long. im just so confused about this hole thing.

Hey,
I notice that i flirt with people alot more when im going out with someone too. I think its because we gain confidence by knowing that the guy we like likes us back..so we feel like we can flirt with any guy and they'll flirt back..
Lots of girls tend to do that...its interesting the way things work..

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I have a boyfriend that I am very much inlove with. But in every relationship that I am ever in it goes great until they want to do something sexual! I duno why i just get really shy and scared. its not that im afraid of the thing its just im afraid of doing it with the person! its kind of confusing. I really love my boyfriend though and I want to be able to do stuff with him when the time comes cause I love him to death! How can I loosen up? Any advice?

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Hey!
Thats not confusing at all. I feel the same way. I really dont like having a sexual relationship with someone..im a simple person..i like to cuddle and makeout..and thats pretty much it.. Once you have been with him for a while..you will be able to totally be yourself around him and you will probably be very comfortable with doing sexual things..just because you know and trust him more. Dont worry about the future right now..just take each day as it comes and when that topic comes up..then you'll have to sit down and think about wether you're comfortable enough with him to have a sexual relationship.
pce :)

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I'm thinking of going to a new school next year. I don't want to leave my friends. This new school has more opportunities for me, though. I can't decide. Please help!!!

Hey,
This is what i would do if i where you:
you need to make two different lists..on one of them you will write all of the pro's and cons of going to a different school..and on the other write all of the pros and cons of staying at your current school.
When you finish it should be pretty clear which is the better choice.
pce :)

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Sorry If Its Long!!! .. Well here it goes

Ok well theres this guy .. well call him cody.
well me and cody have know each other for like almost 2 years. and over the summer we talked about how we liked each other .. and he kind of i guess strung me along for like 2 months .. sayin he liked me but wouldn't do anything about it, but when i asked if i should juss forget it he told me not to b/c he liked me ..

he said he'd call nd he said we'd hang out but he kept blowin me off and not callin but he "liked me" so i guess he thought it was ok. so i left him a message on aim sayin to call me so we coudl talk about it .. yahh well he got the message but didnt call. so we stopped talkin for like 3 weeks .. like i was pissed. and he knew it but didnt try to make it better.

soo halloween night me him and my friend kev chels and jenn all hung out. i didnt know he was gonna be there or else i wouldn't have gone. but we ended up having so much fun and i laughed the whole time .. all the feelings i thought i was over .. came rushing back soo fast!!!


so we talked about it and we talked online the next day and he told me he liked me and everything. so 2 nights ago we hung out and went to funspot and all of us were in a guy named brody's truck. i was like practically sittin on top of him the whole like 1 and a half ride, and he had his arm around me and stuff.
- - but when we were driving home kevie (the other guy who was there) was like "so cod are you 2 like goin out now. and codys like no. and kev was like wait what. how come? and codys like you heard me .. i didnt stutter ..

i juss dont get him .. so we talked nd hes like i REALLY like you, i honestly do i juss dont want a girlfriend .. but he told kevin that he didnt even like me at all .. hes pissing me off b/c hes not even tellin me the truth .. and i just wanted an honest answer

Hey!
That sounds alot like what one of my friends is going through. She's been talking to this kid joe for a while..and she seriously likes him..he tells her that "they are going to go out soon" and its been a couple of months since he told her that and nothin has happened..she comes to class crying like every day and it really sucks..because i know she is hooked on him..she wants to just forget about him (if nothing is gonna happen) but then he reasures her that they will be a couple soon..so she holds on a little bit longer and gets more attatched.
You need to tell "cody" exactly how you feel. No girl should be played around with like this. Personally, i think you should forget about him. If he's this confusing now..imagine how hard hes going to be to deal with in a relationship.
There are so many better guys out there. You dont want one thats going to be telling you that he loves you..and then turning the corner and denying all his feelings for you to his friends. Thats just not right.
basically,
just do what YOU think is right
go with your gut feeling
pce :)

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what does stfu mean?

shut the fuck up.

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I know one of my friends is stealing things from my locker because I saw all of my stuff in her backpack. I don't want to tell. What should I do?

if you want your shit back you should tell. next time you see her with your stuff ask her why she thinks she has the right to steal your shit. Only "tell on her" if she absolutly refuses to own up to it..or give you your stuff back..
k thankss :)

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is there any ways i can get motivated to write? i don't know.. my boyfriend told me..that my writing would get graded an F. umm yea. that really hurt..and now it's bothering me. i know my grammer sucks...but that really messed me up..now my authors block is lasting longer than usual.

Hey,
You just have to, put alot into your writing. Instead of writing simple sentences, add detail to them.
I am a pretty good writer myself. If you want to email me one of your pieces ill be happy to read it over and give you my oppinion (after all, sometimes guys have no idea what their talking about)
xoredskittleox@cox.net
pce :)

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i am 15 and boobs are very small what are the best things to us to stuff a bra like not buying one thats stuffed just what can i use thanks i rate high

hey,
Mine are small but i kind of just deal with it. I mean, its so obvious when people stuff. Theres no way around it. EVERYONE can tell..especially other girls because chances are they've given it a go atleast one before. And you dont just walk around school one day with no boobs..and then come in the next day with gigantic ta ta's! it doesnt work that way.
But if you seriously want to stuff..go right ahead. You can take the padding out of your bathing suits and put them in your bra. I had to do that for homecoming so that i could fit into my dress. It works pretty good.

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Ok im 13 and I have had sex twice....I know that I want to tell my mom....but i know that if I tell my mom she will tell my dad and I KNOW that he will flip out....But I had ses with a guy that i have been goin out with for 2 years already and we are still going out...so I dont think it is that big of deal...but how do I tell my parents without them like killing me??? Also do you think I am considered a slut or something because a couple people at my school do...
thanks

I dont think that you are a slut at all. If you where sleeping around with a bunch of different guys, of course that would be a different story. But you two have been together in a relationship for a pretty long time so i suppose what your doing is ok.
I dont advise you tell your parents. They will definitly not like the idea of their thirteen year old daughter being sexually active. If you do openly tell them that you've been having sex with your boyfriend..they will try and stop you from seeing him. Just keep it to yourself.

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