I won't tell people what they want to hear, I tell them the truth.
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My boyfriend is trying to give hints that he wants to take the relationship further, he's asking me how far I would go and what I would do, asking me to send him dirty pictures and if I would have sex. I'm 14 years old! I'm not ready, I'm not comftable with my body and I'm not comftable thinking about it. I want to tell him somehow that I'm not ready to go that far yet but I'm not sure how to tell him, he said he would never force me which I hope he won't...
Anyone got any advice on how I can tell him without it breaking us apart?
Also he wants me to send him a picture of me, a dirty one... I really don't want to, how can I tell him I don't want to do this aswell?
Thankyou x (link)
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In a relationship if you are not comfortable with something it is always best to say. Be calm and tell him how you feel. Now if he is angry because your not ready or makes you feel like you are not good enough,then he is simply not good enough for you. And if he does behave this way then he is caring about his feelings (and willy) rather than how you feel about it.
It is scary to say but if you don\'t tell him how you feel he won\'t know and won\'t know that you are not ready. Take a few deep breaths and say it.
However, being ready to have sex and being comfortable with your body are two very different things. I think maybe you should work through your feelings about your body before you begin to think about having sex. If you are not happy with yourself then having sex won\'t change that and it could make it much worse.
Hope this helps :)
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I got a job at buffalo wild wings and they want me to come in tomorrow to do an observation shift. Please help me out on what I should wear. For both my interviews there I wore some nice jeans and a nice shirt with flats. (link)
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I am sorry that I could not answer your question in time. I was away on holiday but I hope that you got the job :)
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Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)? (link)
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It depends what she\'s into. Is she a girly girl, or a bit of a tom boy?
As a child I loved anything pink and sparkly, that was to do with princesses or fairies (or even better a princess fairy).
1) Does she like cooking with you? You could get her a play kitchen.
2) Does she like arts and crafts? You could get her an art box with a book on different things to make with her.
3) Does she like dressing up? You could get her some outfits so she can dress up as different things eg: an astronaut or an explorer
4) Is she interested in make up? Don\'t panic I\'m not saying put lots of make up on her but maybe a light colour nail varnish set would be nice and its something to do together. Or if you think she\'s a little young, you can get dolls that you can do their hair and make up.
5) Does she like babies and want to be a mummy? You can get some great baby dolls that you can play with. Some are scarily real.
I hope this helps :) if not message me back and I\'ll try again :)
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i'm very bugged up of my life, my family & love life, at times i feel like i'm a burden on every 1, no 1 understands me completely, have sacrificed enough till date, have attempted suicide thrice, not happy with any thng happening around me, dont know what 2 do ????? (link)
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You need to talk to someone: whether it's a doctor a helpline anything, even if just to unload. At times in your life things will be very difficult and you are not alone in this. There are many that have attempted suicide even myself, but try to think about all the good things that you have. Find something to focus on that's positive and maybe work towards that. :) hope this helps slightly
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In one advice you wrote that you wanted to commit suicide but then things got better. Look, my boyfriend wants to kill himself and I just don't know how to talk with him about it. I don't know what to do. But I have to admit that he uses this to get my attention (he is extremely diffrent from me and when I do something he doesn't like, we have an argue). It lasts few months and I think I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but I don't know how it would affect him. He doesn't want to see doctor or anything.
I would be grateful if you helped me. (link)
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Well first of all you can't keep carrying on in a relationship if your not happy, because that's not healthy for you or your boyfriend.
The sad truth is if he refuses to accept help its very difficult to keep offering it without them feeling suffocated. I don't think you should presume that it is just a ploy for attention because he could be crying out for help, but not know how to and probably very scared.
In terms of speaking to him, I've always found with the person who helped me. Just to let him know that you do care and if you ask him a question be sensitive and try to keep it an "open question" so that he has to answer more that just a yes or no. Ultimately you must have been able to talk about personal things before with him, so try to talk to him in a way you think he will respond calmly. Furthermore, the issues that need to be discovered is why does he want to do this? And, why doesn't he see the point in living? Try and give him a new perspective: focus on the positive things like careers, and how far he could go to prove to not just other people but importantly himself that he can overcome his demons and see life as a beautiful thing.
I know this may sound like a cliche but as I don't know you or your boyfriend its the best advice I can give.
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I need a fast/painless way to commit suicide. I've already made up my mind so please don't tell me not to do it. (link)
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I cannot tell you how to commit suicide.
But there must be a better way than ending your life, why do you want to commit suicide?
At many points in my life I have thought about suicide I have even attempted it twice, and have a past of self harm, but after talking to someone I could trust. They showed me that there are better ways and can live life more positively. To do it for yourself
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First of all id just like to say this is more of a statement than a question and for that i apologise i just thought that somebody should hear what im thinking before i die. Im male, 21 years old from the uk and ive finally given up on life.
Ive been trawling the net for days trying to find reasons why i shouldnt kill my self and i just can't think of any, ive felt dead for years, i know its selfish but i dont see any other way.
IT all goes back 11 years when i found out my biological father was a peodophile, what a way to fuck a kids head up, i dont blame my mom for telling me, she got advice from many different people and authorities and was told that it was best to tell me. since then i was never the same i took to stealing and lying, smoking pot and generaly being a prick. i have stolen from my mother so many times ive lost count, ripping her pubs of for £1000's at a time and everytime she has let me back, well i did it again just recently trying to stay out of my own head i picked up an old habit for cocaine and in 2 short weeks of running a pub for her have ripped it off for £900, she and her bloke are in debt up to there eyeballs already and now with this they both might lose there home and job(another pub) i know that im well and truely broken, i should have a seen a shrink years ago but always refused and ive recently come to realise that the drugs the stealing it was always running from the real issues ive left bottled up. It will probably destroy my mom when i kill myself tonight but i figure if i do it im only going to hurt her this 1 last time,
the real question here is do you think she and my little brother will ever forgive me? (link)
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I don't think being forgiven after your dead is the main point here. Its not a selfish thing to commit suicide, its a sad thing that you feel so alone.
In answer to the stealing for drug addiction, I think you know that drugs has never been a good idea for anyone and ultimately if you take drugs for a long time then you will die. I've watched people take drugs and known those who have died and its awful. You recognise that drugs is a way of escape, so try to stop taking drugs.
You need to talk to someone, you are not broken. Before I have thought I was broken and would not be able to be fixed, but there's always hope. There is always a way, even when it doesn't seem like it. (I know it sounds like a bloody cliché but its true)
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I want to die as there is no reason for my life on this earth..My life is shit..im a loser.n i feel its better to die than to care about some shit..idc about who feels bad coz idk who really will feel..all i know is i want to kill myself n is there any way by which i can die painlessly? please help me (link)
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I could not possibly give you advice on how to go about committing suicide, but I will say I have been in the situation where I have wanted to kill myself, and have attempted it because of personal ordeals but I spoke to a Councillor and found a person that I could trust, this really helped me.
I learnt that in this dark place that your in, although it is hard there is always a way out of it and I think if you are thinking that people won't miss you there are probably people that will. Above all, don't do it. For yourself, prove to yourself that you can carry on and make something of your life.
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can girl become pregnant ihf she has sex not during period but after 10 days of period (link)
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Doctors say that it is less likely to become pregnant just after a period, nevertheless without contraception there is always a chance that a girl will become pregnant if having sexual intercourse. And remember only condoms prevent against STI's.
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I know many people think this is a stupid question, but how can I kill myself with no pain at all? I've been through so much from abuse, rape and so on..I just feel like its time leave this world. (link)
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I have been in situations concerning abuse and rape, and many others, so I know you can feel like you are alone and nobody understands. I have self harmed from a young age and I have thought about suicide, and gone through different ways of how I might end it all.
But when you feel like this, why don't you take some time to reflect: Do you want the people that have hurt you win? Or do you want to prove to yourself that you can achieve things after these ordeals?
There are people in this world that aren't bad and don't want to hurt others, so don't forget that.
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Well I used to be the prize in the family. You know straight A's, popular, a good kid, and everything you could ask for in a kid. When I got to 6th grade it was harder because my school is for all gifted students so I got A's B's and a C. My parents weren't happy but I still was the prize. Then my brother decided to try going into the Army. All of a sudden everything changed. I'm the one that does all chores except one and if I don't do them I get in trouble but my bro doesn't get in trouble in he doesn't do his ONE chore. If one speck is left on the counter, I get yelled at and when my mom is in a bad mood because of me she goes to my brother and says "SOMEONE made me mad, it's ok honey, it's not your fault." She gets upset with me SO easily and never gets mad at my brother even though he eats ALL the food in the house and knows he's not supposed to, doesn't do his chore, his room smells like a pig pen, he doesn't follow ANY rules! I know going into the Army is a big thing but I don't think it's necessary for al this to happen.
I've tried talking to her MANY times but everytime she yells at me and I cry and she yells at me for crying. Then goes to my brother and says "it's ok, it's not your fault!"
I'm sorry it's long, but what can I do? Thanks a bunch! (link)
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Well, as your brother joined the army your parents are probably a bit scared, seeing as the dangers that come with the job. Considering you say you have tried talking to you mum, but it didn't work: It may seem like an odd thing to do, however you could try writing a letter explaining how you feel. Although you live with her, if you leave her a letter she can take the time to read through it and think about how it is affecting you. Be careful not to make it seem as you are telling her that she is not doing her job as a mum, be sensitive, because you don't know she could be feeling like your being distant from her.
Hope this helps a bit :)
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