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In one advice you wrote that you wanted to commit suicide but then things got better. Look, my boyfriend wants to kill himself and I just don't know how to talk with him about it. I don't know what to do. But I have to admit that he uses this to get my attention (he is extremely diffrent from me and when I do something he doesn't like, we have an argue). It lasts few months and I think I don't love him anymore and I want to break up with him but I don't know how it would affect him. He doesn't want to see doctor or anything.
I would be grateful if you helped me.
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Well first of all you can't keep carrying on in a relationship if your not happy, because that's not healthy for you or your boyfriend.
The sad truth is if he refuses to accept help its very difficult to keep offering it without them feeling suffocated. I don't think you should presume that it is just a ploy for attention because he could be crying out for help, but not know how to and probably very scared.
In terms of speaking to him, I've always found with the person who helped me. Just to let him know that you do care and if you ask him a question be sensitive and try to keep it an "open question" so that he has to answer more that just a yes or no. Ultimately you must have been able to talk about personal things before with him, so try to talk to him in a way you think he will respond calmly. Furthermore, the issues that need to be discovered is why does he want to do this? And, why doesn't he see the point in living? Try and give him a new perspective: focus on the positive things like careers, and how far he could go to prove to not just other people but importantly himself that he can overcome his demons and see life as a beautiful thing.
I know this may sound like a cliche but as I don't know you or your boyfriend its the best advice I can give.
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