Okay I don't have a purity ring yet, but I vowed to stay sexually pure until marriage. That obviously means no sex until marriage but does that mean no masterbating or anything like that? Like what are the guidlines most people who vow to stay sexually pure until marriage live by?
My sincere congratulations to you. Although you don't have a purity ring yet (as you say), I appreciate your decision of staying sexually pure. I believe in the same principle as you do as far as sex before marriage is concerned. As far as masterbation is concerned, I would like to say, try to avoid it as much as you can. The thing here is that if you do not get involved in sexual relationship untill marriage but masterbate, you remain pure only phsically but certainly not psycologically. This is my belief. You have the freedom to disagree. However, it is important for me to include that I myself, at times, falter on my principles. If you are wondering I am a hypocrite who suggests to do something, however, does not follow himself, well, we all are like that since we are only human beings and we can never be perfect. You should attempt at not masterbating at all and then you will probably end up doing it with very less frequuency. I aim at not doing it at all but I end up doing it occassionally. However, in no way, I am trying to mean you will also end up doing it with less requency as I do. You may end up doing it with even lesser frequency or for that matter NOT AT ALL! It depends a lot on your ability to control your sexual desires. Hope I have been able to answer you. May God, The Merciful, bless you wil absolute bliss.
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18/F I had a friend agree to come to my house and give me a voice lesson. I offered to pay her and she said she'd be over. She didn't show up on time nor did she call me back after I left her a message. I'll admit, she's not a very reliable person, but how do I let her know I'm not okay with this. Usually when a friend backs out of plans with me, I'll say : "it's okay, no worries..." because it truthfully doesn't bother me that much, but it doesn't mean I want people to treat me like this. So basically, how should I respond when someone doesn't make me a priority?
First of all, I personally believe it does not really matter how someone else treats you as long as you are a nice person and behave in an appropriate manner with others. Please do not bother what others think about you as long as you stand firmly on the truth. Often it happens people will not like you or ignore you just because you tell the plain truth. If she did not keep her promise for teaching you the lesson, I guess that is her problem that she cannot act as she promises. Her ignorance towards you does not take anything away from you as a person. You are as good as you were before she ignored you. I guess you should have called her when she did not show up in time. When you meet her the next time simply let her know you did not like her absence. If she continues to behave the same way, no need to have a friend like that who can not keep her promise for no good reason. Just imagine, someone who cannot keep a simple promise, where she will be in your bad times. The old proverb holds true here: " A friend in NEED, is a friend INDEED!" Hope I have been able to answer you.
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so i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years and it hasn't always been a walk in the park. We've had our fights and break ups but we never stay broken up for more than like 5 days. Lately things have been really good and we have been messing around a lot lately. Like we've never had sex because i thought i wanted to wait until marriage but now i think that i want to lose my virginity to him and i don't know why things have changed like that. So i don't know if I should have sex with him or wait until marriage. He never pressures me to do anything with him I just think it's weird that all of a sudden I changed my mind. I'm 17 and so is he. Should I lose my virginity to him?
As far as my personal ideologies are concerned, I would recommend you to remain a virgin. I guess this is one of God's greatest gifts and and also a valuable asset of yours as far as your moral side is concerned. Wait until marriage, understand him more, and try to read beyond physical attractiveness. I do not know if you have started to feel that I think like an old man, but I have simply expressed my honest opinion and I stand by it.
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