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Above is a picture of me.
Recently I got in a megafight with a good guy friend.
He told me that I'm really, really, fucking ugly and it got to me.
Since he's always been honest with me.
So I'm wondering what you thing.
Btw my nose has a bump on it because I hit it a couple of weeks ago.
Sorry it's a posey picture. It's the most recent one I have :\ (link)
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Honestly, your guy friend was probably just trying to hurt you and knew you'd believe it.
You are a very beautiful girl, and I'm sorry, but he has no concept of taste if that's ugly. He's probably just bitter over whatever you fought about.
So, don't let the jerks of the world get you down.
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i am looking for ways to turn my boyfriend on and i havent been very successful.first off this question is for the guys to ansewer.sorry ladies,but i need a guys opinion.details as many as possible,stories are welcome as well.
15/f
tnx in advance. (link)
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First off, the moral bit. You're a bit young to be trying to turn a guy on, aren't you? If you try too hard at this age, it could easily lead to you being labelled as something you're not.
Honestly, the best way I can think of that won't be completely sleazy is a tight, small kiss on the neck, between the windpipe and the vein.
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I am still contantly thinking about him.
I was for sure in love with him and he told me he loved me.
I cant stop thinking about him.
The other day was my birthday, and he sent me a text telling me happy birthday, and I replying saying thanks.
& he sent back, im sorry for the way everything happened, and I wanted to let you know that im still a friend if that is okay with you.
I wrote back that that is fine and if he ever needs someone to talk to im here.
But you see, ever since we broke up, he hasnt said a word to me. Nothing.
It kills me that he wont talk to me, and I dont want to make the first move and talk to him, since he already has a g/f. ( his gf is one of my friends)
but I dont know what to do, im about to move, and school is almost over and I want to talk to him.
I really do think I am heartbroken.
Any advice?
Sorry its so long.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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First, you have to be honest with yourself. If deep down you still want him, then I think you should just let it go. This already sounds like a powderkeg waiting for a match, and the last thing you need is drama between you, him and her.
If you don't still want him, and have come to terms with the fact that you are no longer together, then I suggest brokering a meeting. Say that you need some closure before you move, and if your friend/his girlfriend has to be there, then let her.
Once you do finally make contact, say goodbye. Get all the feelings you need to out without causing drama between them, say goodbye, and go.
Don't wait for him to make the first move, because you may end up moving with nothing being resolved.
And as for your heartbreak, remember this: every guy that you love and lose is but a step towards the one who shares your soul. And one day, you WILL find him.
Good luck.
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i am so mad at my ex because he did so much crap to me and he was my very best friend. when we broke up i lost a part of myself. im leaving soon so i wont see him again at least until i visit in a few months and he wont talk to me. hes avoiding me because he doesnt want to deal with the emotions he has. i just want to talk about a couple things and get closure but he wont. he refuses. i have tried many times. i cannot let go of my anger and sadness and its making me depressed literally. i never feel just happy now and i hate it. i am a different person and the person i was before left with his and i's relationship. once i move i will become another person but right now all i am is depressed. how can i let go of the anger i have and move on? and i have suckish "friends" that i really cant stand so they dont help AT ALL. they make things worse. i only have a couple friends i really love and care about. they try to help but no one understands how hurt and crushed i feel. they have never felt it before. he had a part of ME and now its gone. and i feel like i cant forgive him for that. i feel like he destroyed me. please help (link)
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I've been exactly where you are. Only difference is I couldn't move away, and she made me out to be a monster when she was the one who abused the relationship.
You have a right to be angry if he did put you through such crap and was that close to you. It's natural. Let it pass through and take its course.
Once you have done that, you have to decide: Is this guy going to be a turning point in your life, or a footnote?
Next part of my advice is optional. IF you truly need to, go straight up to him, tell him how you feel. Even if he isn't affected by what you say, it'll only mean he didn't deserve you in the first place, especially if he can't be decent enough to provide you with closure.
Best thing to do to be just happy again is something you love to do from before you met him. Even if you have to fingerpaint like you might have done in preschool, do it. Just revel in it.
The last thing I can tell you is this: Yes, you have been beaten to the ground emotionally. You want to just curl up and die.
But the truly great people, the ones that are admirable, just, and good, never stay down. It's about how much you can take, and still push forward towards what you want.
Now stand up, and push forward.
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How do you get an orgasm? Like are there certain things I can try? Please help! (link)
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume you're female (because I've heard this question from so many females I know). If I'm wrong, I apologize in advance.
One of the things about orgasm that is fundamentally black-and-white is that either you can have it or you can't.
I've never heard of a man failing to orgasm, but I have heard that a significant number of women seem unable to achieve orgasm. That is just a rundown of my knowledge of biology. I may be off. Forgive me if it's necessary.
The ideal way to achieve said orgasm is stimulation of the genitals, in particular the penis and the clitoris. In the case of female orgasm, some women are just biologically inclined to take longer than others to achieve the orgasm.
Other methods of achieving requires a more open mind, to explore all the possibilities. This link should help you with all your questions.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm
Good luck.
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i was asked out on a group date, but i am sort of socially awkward.
what can i do to lose that and make him think im the best thing since sliced bread?
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This is going to sound generic, cliched and silly, but it works.
Be yourself, and have a good time. If somehow he doesn't think you're the best thing since sliced bread, then he may not be the one for you.
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I need to know what astigmatism is, and i tried looking it up on google but they all have these confusing explanations and i just want to know...?
-what is it?
-is it harmful?
-can it be fixed?
thanks! (link)
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I may be just a bit off, but I do think that it's when a person's eye is weaker in vision than the other.
It can probably be fixed with laser surgery if I'm right about what it is.
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I'm 19, my boyfriend is 20. I'm not religious whatsoever, but my boyfriend is muslim and his family is very religious. He's met my whole family and they love him. He's forbidden from dating outside the race/religion, and me, being white and very un-religous makes it worse. His family has no idea of us & he's not even worried about it, saying "we'll take care of it when it comes down to it". I worry constantly because I think we have a future together! What am I supposed to do? Never meet his family? (link)
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I am a Muslim man. I've been in a similar situation.
I think your boyfriend is trying to relax you, but he is worried about it. Especially if you have a connection like you think you do.
This isn't so much a Muslim thing as just a family approval thing. He, like I was in his place, is probably thinking about how to bring you into the family without pushing his family or you away in the aftermath.
The key thing to never do is push him, like saying "Either I meet your family or we're through". He's probably trying to delicately handle things on his end.
Have faith, and good luck.
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i need some ideas on what to get or give my boy friend for our 1 year anniversery. he is 19, i am 16 if that helps. please do not suggest things like "your virginity" or "give him a bj". any other help would be greatly appreciated. i only have 1 week from today. (link)
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Something that would remind him of your first date or kiss would probably be a smart idea.
Of course, something that you know he'd love anyway would also be good. Depends on his hobbies or interests and such.
Then again, accessories can be fun, like a necklace or watch or something.
Hope these all help.
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15/f
I have the same class with my best friend and the guy that i like. she sits next to him and she knows that i like him. I try so hard trying to talk to him and getting to know him but the only thing i get out of his mouth is stupid things like "yup, right, yes, no, maybe, alright, sweet" and its so annoying. he won't have a normal convo with me! but then when i look over at by bff, she's always having a convo with him. she even wrote me a note once and said that he was singing the sound of music!!! =(
I confronted her about it and i told her that it was bothering me. she said that she isn't flirting because she already has a bf and she would never do that to me. I told her it was okay that she talks to him (that would be way too harsh if i told her she couldn't ever speak to him, besides i need her to hook me up with him) and i totally trust her that she wouldn't try to get with him.
I need advice on what to do! thanks (link)
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This may sound a bit harsh but also confusing, but if he's being more himself around your friend than you, it can mean one of two things:
1)You really make him nervous, which is a sign that he likes you like that.
2)He really isn't into you.
Either way, I think you should trust your friend to help you out in this regard. But I'd do a little research and see which of the two situations I mentioned is the likely answer to this question.
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my boyfrend and i have been together for like 3 months now and have not kissed yet
weve talked about it but i never know when the
'moment is right'
and how do u start a kiss?
dont give me any websites because that doesnt help me.
i really just dont know
help? (link)
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Believe me, it'll happen naturally. This will be something you remember for a long time. The moment will be right as soon as you both just feel it.
Hope that helps.
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