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is there any way to cure depression without help of meds? im not sure what i am. if anyone knows what im talking about, i feel i perhaps have long-term dysthmia. but dysthmia according to sources lasts for 2 years? then what if youre still sad in year 3? is it full-blown depression then? what is it, if not? exercise is hard to fit into schedule. i do not get much sleep. what can i do to help that without those sleep tricks people always say to use? like is there a good medicine i can take for insomnia or im not sure what valerian root does.. i would greatly appreciate any comments (link)
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actually, it's better the try to solve your depression without meds if possible. i take them because i started too late and i hate the side effects.
try making yourself happy. take time for yourself. whenever you're the most depressed do something to distract yourself.
i cook a lot of food or play my piano. something like that.
if you're really worried you should consult a psychiatrist. they are doctors that prescribe medications to people. as for medication everyone is different. I take trazadone for sleeping and i like it. but i can't prescribe you meds so see a doctor.
if you're really worried consult your parents and as them for what they could do to help.
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so i just got a cell phone. my mom said she got me unlimited texting. is unlimited texting to everyone? or just at&t customers?
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unlimited means everyone with a cell phone you can text as much as you want. it's not just at&t
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ok so ive been dating this guy for almost 3 months and i do like him but he is kinda i guess you could say prude and we never hang out, seriously i have only hung out with him outside school like 4 times.. and im used to hanging out with my boyfriends like a lot my EX lived with me. I really do like this guy but the only thing he likes to do is make out .. and hes a virgin, and im not and i havent you know.. done it since like its been 5 months ha and i reallyyyyyyyy want to. should i tell him i want to? he isnt like any guy i know.. he doesnt like to talk about sex or anything i guess were basically like opposite of each other... funny huh
also this guy that i hooked up with he IMed me last night asking if i wanted to hang out.. i did like the guy like it wasnt just sex and then leave like.. hes one of my good friends and ... it was really hard for me to say no because part of me actually really wanted to hook up with him.. not because i like him more then my boyfriend just i havent in a longgg time.. is that like bad? i asked one of my friends and she said that its just as bad as cheating..like thinking about it?
my final question how can i take my mind off of sex im afraid im going to cheat on my boyfriend. (link)
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well, it's only natural that you would want to have sex.
you should ask him if he's ready yet. don't be afraid. if he says no then if your craving is bad just tell him that you need it :P
or just masturbate with a teddy bear :D!
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15/F
5'3"
115lb (or so)
if it helps
i really want to look good in a swim suit this year. so these are all the things i need help with. i would like for these things to be uick result i understand im not going to see overnight results. but just SOMETHING maybe in two weeks or so.
ohkay so you know how when people grab their stomach 'fat' (im just justifying the area im talking about)well i dont want that. and i have that. so how do i tone that so that i can get that to not be there. (i dont want to do cruches) something that i can see quicker results with.
also my thighs: so there not fatty and not HUGE but bigger than i want them to be. so im afraid if i tone them they will get bigger how do i get them smaller.
DIETING:
i dont want to starve myself. but i dont know what to eat thats good for me. AT all. i know i can eat things that arent so good for me in moderation. i just really rather not eat them.
also i have a hard time telling myself when to not eat things. like ill say only eat this much but i will go over. and it just seems like that lately. (maybe within the past month or so) but it really shows on the scale.
I don't know how to count calories or anything so if you recommend that then can you tell me how? I know its a lot. but it will help me ALOT and I would greatly appreciate it (link)
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well, there really isn't much you can do to get rid of that in such a short time.
Eat 3 meals a day
jog excersize
and stay away from fatty stuff like mcdonalds
if you want to loose so much weright to fast then the only thing to do is starve yourself witch you SHOULD NOT DO.
don't do that.
but you can't do anything much for 2 weeks but just start doing those 3 things.
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i've been shavin 4 awhile now & the 1st few times i managed 2 get it smooth, now when i shave, sum hairs dont even come off & i get razer bumbs & it starts hurtin & itchin
i use nair 4 body, i dont use razers
is there any hair removal cream that is made 4 shavin down there so it would be smooth (link)
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Shave in the way that the hair grows. don't shave against the hair. that's your problem.
just try shaving in the way the hair grows. your bumps will start to go away and it'll shave nicely
try it a few times and there you go
even for "down there" ;)
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something happened about 3 months back. my best friend (brian) and this half friend of mine (ray) were hanging out one night and had sex. ray is 13, brian and i are 15.
well, i didnt find out about it until about a month later. and i kept it to myself because i found it out from another friend (kyle). well, finds out kyle had promised brian that he wouldnt tell me, but he still did. and brian and i liked eachother at that time. and i was pretty confused and hurt because i thought he'd liked me. i mean, its even hard to type this out right now. and this happened at least 2 or 3 months ago!
but kyle had made me swear not to tell brian that i knew. so i promised. well, it was driving me crazy because i wanted to know if it was true or not. well, kyle got mad at brian and i because we lied to him about hanging out. so hes out of the picture. well i asked brian about it and he made it seem like it was a lie, at first. so i yelled at kyle. and he was just all "whatever. i hate you. blahblahblah" and im just like "ok, screw that" and then brian told me it WASNT a lie! and i was 3 seconds from tears. i wanted it to be a lie so badly, but it wasnt. and right now all i know about it is that they had sex and there was no oral involved. but i want to know EVERY SINGLE DETAIL OF THAT NIGHT. i wanna know what she was doing. i wanna know what was going through his head. i wanna know why he did it. and thats not even half of it, sadly. but i dont want to talk to him about it. im so afraid of what the answers might be...and we've been going out for a month.
i dont wanna bring it up to him. and i dont want to talk about it with him. he said hes always up to talk about it, but im still iffy on that. im afraid i might make myself look stupid or something.
but im just wondering how i bring it up to him when i DO decide to ask him. how will i bring it up? what do i say? how do i keep myself from breaking down? sorry this is really long, but its a really long story. (link)
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The thing is.. you're never going to know the details... and since it already happened you can't change it.
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see, i have a very small stomach. i usually get really really hungry and think i need to eat a lot, but then i eat only half as much as i thought i could and then about 30 to 45 minutes later i get starved again.
well, for the past 4-7 days, thats completely changed. im not very hungry at all. i usually need to eat about every two hours. right now its 6:45 PM and i have only had cereal, yogurt, and juice today. thats a major drop in diet. and im afraid my metabolic rate is going to slow dramatically and then when i try to eat again, ill gain weight. or im afraid im going to lose a lot of weight and get sick. im very thin and im 5'4". im 15/f and i weigh between 103-106. my weight has stayed in that range for about...5 to 6 months? anyways, i've also been very very tired every day. and like i said, im just never hungry anymore. i've been getting plenty of sleep, trust me.
so, whats wrong with me? (link)
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Have you started a new medication lately? That could be it.
If not, it could just still be you growing.
Eat 3 meals a day, go running or excersize, and stay away from too much McDonalds. Dont worry too much about losing or gaining weight until it's a problem. You're pretty good where you're at so don't worry as much.
Until this starts going on for a lot longer don't worry. If it really bothers you just see a regular physician.
But really, you don't have anything to worry about. You could just have a minor cold or poisoning er something.
hope that helps (:
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so, im growing my hair out right now, and my hair right now, is short, kinda a little below my shoulders, and i have thin layers, and whenevver its windy, the wind makes them kinda curl a little bit. i naturally have thick hair. i dont know if you would say its really really thick, but, its pretty thick, and if i grow it out, and then just put alot of long layers in it, will it still curl in the wind, and if i put it up in a pony tail, will the wind not let it curl? and i was thinking, wouldnt hairspray help them not curl? i straighten my hair every day. i love it being straight, and im definatelly going to keep it long and with alot of long, pretty layers. i just really want them to stay straight. I NEED TIPS! thanks so much!! (link)
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It all depends on the length of the layers.
If you put it in a ponytail it may help a bit but that's it. You could try hairspray. that might work. it all depends on your hair. just try some dif things and whatever works the best just do that.
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I've noticed that this month, i have been very tired. I sleep enough, i wake up. But, everytime I get to doing schoolwork, I feel sleepy. I'm getting distracted form my school work, too. It's so hard for me lately to study for tests (I go well). I want to be able to concentrate more so any tips?
Any tips to help me concentrate or focus would be great! (link)
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Even if you think you go the bed at 8 and wake up at 6 you might not be getting a good sleep. It's common for people to to wake up in the middle of the night for a short time and not remember it at all.
It also might be stress.
You might have ADD.
Has anything happened to make you upset lately?
It might also be PMS.
well that's all i got (:
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ok so i have all these wierd acne bumps on my legs any advice on how to get rid of them would be appreciated
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It's actually probably from shaving against the way the hair grows. Doing so does not get you a
better looking shave. Shave the way the hair grows.
And Try putting on lotion after shaving.
Also you could try washing your legs extra good in the shower but not too rough.
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i feel rejected... and i dont know whats wrong with me...i tried dressing up more dressing down looking this or that acting this way or another... i tried virtually everything conceivable to attract a guy.... i've tried just being myself and still to no adieu..... i know many of you will suggest to give it time... but believe me i've tried for so long and it is not like my shift are drastic and sudden or short spanned...
i am ashamed of asking people to rate me sincerely on my looks ( because that essentially will make me look like a maniac) i am not overweight but even if i were i don't understand how that would stop someone from liking me... i've seen people who are attracted to those on the "healthy" side of the scale and have had prosperous stable relationships with their loved ones .... is it my personality? i do not know... i'm really confused... i have a diverse wide number of friends from all walks of life and i'm very social and liked.... what is wrong with me?
it is really wearing me down.. i am 20 and never had a boyfriend or any form of relationship beyond friendship with a guy for that matter.....
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Well on thing you definatly NEVER want to do is act like something you're not or dress in a way you're not comfortable just to get a guy.
Just take social situations to your advantage. Be calm but strong. As i said before, don't dress skanky but look nice when out.
People are lucky to be in true love ever in their life. It DOES take time!
Don't ever get into a relationship just for the purpose of being in one. You want to be sure this guy treats you right.
AND REMEMBER THIS.
If you're around woman who are dressed skanky, you should dress covering uo somewhat. Mkae sure the guy is liking you for you. The longer you make them wait for any sexuality the longer they'll be interested so don't just sex yourself out, get prego, and have the guy leave you. That's the worst caste scenario.
Hope this helps at least somewhat!
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So sophomore year, i started takin anti-depressants and it made me gain a little weight. I had always been super-skinny so it freaked me out (freshman year i was 103 or so) and so when the scale said 121 i felt like a fatass and began to eat less calories, excercize more, ect ect. I only lost about 12 pounds so it wasn't anything serious and didn't last too long. Earlier this year, in late February/early march, I went on a crash diet and lost 5 pounds in a little over a week.
When I get like that, it never lasts too long and I it's never a full-on eating disorder... but lately i've been very unhappy and extremely stressed. I beat myself up about how ugly and fat I am and how I have no friends.
a few weeks agoI started just trying to work out and eat better foods but eventally i spiraled out of control and ive lost 21 pounds so far. I am 116 pounds and intend to keep going untill I am 100.... my next goal weight is 107. THe fact that I have a goal weight scares me... also the fact that I read online that most anorexics are the "good" child. the "perfect" one... and thats how i've been raised. My older brother was the screw up and I got straight a's. I'm moving away to college in the fall and he, at 21, is still at home.
I'm convinced that I have a handle on this, because its something i've been through before. However, ive never lost this much weight. And i've never had to be this sneaky about it. I lie daily about what ive eaten and what I do ("oh we went out to dinner" when i really just went on a walk with a friend).
My best friend, Brantley, struggled with this when he was in 8th grade. He had it bad, and at 6'0 he weighed around 120 or 125 he said. ANd yesterday he told me that he's showing signs of it again but he doesnt' really think he has a problem.
I don't want to get help. I don't want to talk to my parents or another therapist (btw, the therapist and phsychiatrist i saw in 10th grade only knew aout the depression and NOT my eating issues) i just want to get through this on my own, but without having to gain weight =/ I think when i'm 100 or 105 i'll slowly star eating normally and will try to maintain arond 110 eventually.... (link)
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Sweety, as long as you are losing weight the right way it's alright.
You're at a pretty low weight for your age, though. Make sure to eat 3 square meals a day. GO jogging in the evenings, and stay low on the McDonalds.
Crash dieting is BAD. You should try as hard as you can to get over it before it gets too bad. Your hair can fall out and it'll make you feel terrible.
If you can, take advantage of getting a therapist. They're all different. It may take a few to find the right one. I had to go through a few but now i finally found a great one and am working on my problems with sucsess.
Don't give up!
(and I know how you feel.. i've always been the good child and my brother is 18, a drugie drop out and he has no contact with any of our family T_T)
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i have a razr phone from cingular.. i also have AIM on it but it doesnt work on my phone anymore.. i called the company and they said that they discontinued it or whatever. but i went on my moms phone and she also has cingular.. so it works but just not on my phone. so how can i get AIM to work on my phone? (link)
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If they switched it off of YOUR phone then that means that it's just your phone. Even if you and your mother have the same plan they can still do that.
Your mom probably disabled it.
The only way to get it working again is to have the cell phone company turn it back on.
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