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people always come to me for advice and tell me that i'm a good shrink haha (:
i found this site when i had troubles with this guy about 3 years ago and really need advice. i started to like this site a lot so i just became a user :]
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i'm very aware of how shallow this sounds but it's the only way i can explain.

15/f

so according to a very large group of boys, i'm considered hot.
and based on how they look at me and how they ignore me all the time and laugh at me, it seems as though a lot of girls (the popular brats in particular) think i'm a freak. like they seriously don't like me and think im really weird.

it seems like a very odd situation to me. I know i probably seem like im naive or asking for complients or im plain stupid, but i just want to know if its actually possible to be "a freak" and "hot" at the same time.

thanks:)

haha it seems to me that theyre just jealous :)

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13 almost 14f
i get REALLY turned on when i smell dudes clone. is this normal or strange?

thanks(:

haha naah, its suppost to turn you on :)
it turns me on too.
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Well, I where makeup most of the time, I wonder if my bf likes it or not? Do you guys like your girl friends with or without makeup? Or wat? He never told me not to wear it, so i dont think he minds it. thankss

i think everyone is different.
since noone knows your bf noone but him can tell you if he likes it or not. just ask him! :)
its no big deal x]
and as i said in general it depends on the guy.
i know guys who like make up, others who like it more natural.
i know that loads of girls say that guys like natural look more etc but i know loads of guys who like make up & theyre not perverts or anything.
it really depends.
ithink you should do whatever makes YOU happy :)

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like im a 13 m and im in high school i like this girl right but im pretty sure she doesnt like but the thing is she like one of my best friend what should i do

hii(:
i think you should just try & stay friends for now.
when i told this guy (he was a good friend) that i fancy him he totally rejected me cause he still has feelings for his ex (which i knew, but i STILL had to take a chance)
& now we dont really speak at all anymore & everything is ruined.
just be friends with her & if youre lucky maybe she'll develope feelings for you too. if not then thats okai too & you'll have to move on but at least you'll get to keep her as a friend which is good(:

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i'm so nervous for tomorrow, i'm getting my picture re-taken. i don't know what to do or wear or anything- the last one i got was so incredibly awful. but maybe i just think i'm ugly or something? i don't know.

here's the thing, when i look in the mirror, i don't look great but i look okay. then when i see myself in pictures i look so awful, and other times i look even better than i normally do. it makes no sense. i know this is going to sound silly, but my face is really lopsided. people say no one's face is perfectly symmetrical, but mine is sooo noticeable. my left eye like, droops down and so does my eyebrow which causes me to constantly wear my side bangs in my face covering that eye so no one notices. in my last school photo, the one that was originally taken, (tomorrow is re-takes like i said), my hair is covering the other eye and i look really bad. but i've seen myself in other photos with it out of my face and i look really, bad too.
ugh i'm just so nervous and freaking out, i really want to look my best and get a nice photo. any tips? & should i wear my hair in my face or out of it?

hii(:
noones face is perfect.
& i wouldnt worry too much about the picture. i bet noones gonna notice it as much as you because most people are too busy looking at their own pic.
but as the person below said, try wearing something bright.
you can also maybe put on eyeliner & mascara cause that'll draw attention to your eyes.
and why dont you just smilee? cause then people cant really say anything against it if you look happy. a happy picture often looks better then some supermodel pouting.

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im looking for a good song that is talking to an ex and basically says i love you, but you've messed around/waited too long and im sorry but now i'm moving on and found someone else. i dont care so much for the song, but mainly just good lyrics that i can use as a myspace/facebook status.

rock/country/pop please =]

maybe 'i will forget you' by rediscover. (:

it doesnt entirely fit to your description but its quite good. check it ouut!

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hi peeps!

every time i am in class with this one girl I like i get a terrible boner!! I really like her and I am afraid she will see it and hate me or I will creep her out you know? i really do like her like not as in sexually but want to know her like a girlfriend. the boner thing is just that she is really really REALLY pretty. i feel stupid but how can i MAKE myself NOT have a boner?

thank you!

xD as all the other people said, just think about stuff that grosses you out.
like your grandpa naked or something haha x]

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Does anyone know any good songs about a guy you like dating another girl?
Or him choosing her over you?

Pop, rock, or alternitive gernres, please.

Also, don't list songs that are extremely popular. I've most likely heard them already.

maybe 'learning to fall' - boys like girls
its from the guys point of view though.
hope you didnt know it already :P
xx

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I had this conversation with my friend where she said her boyfriend had a total "boner" when she was making out with him the other night. I just kind of nodded and agreed with her about it and stuff because I don't want to sound really stupid. What is a boner?

it's when a guys penis gets hard. *.*

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I am a slut. I will admit it. I've had sex with about 20 or so boys from my high school and I don't even know how many I've given head to. I'd had sex in the bathrooms, in the janitor's closet, and behind the school. I've skipped class to do this too. I'm really ashamed of myself and the way I dress on a day to day basis. I feel like I'm growing up and I don't want to be that type of person any more. None of the guys at school have respect for me. The girls hate me because I've slept with a lot of their boyfriends. Basically I can't get a good boyfriend who is really interested in ME because he knows we will have sex and I can't have a best friend because the girls think I'm going to steal their boyfriends or something (I don't blame them though...A LOT of guys have cheated on their girlfriends with me).

I am completely unhappy with myself and I don't know what I was thinking when I did those things. I guess I just wanted some attention because my parents are working alllll the time and I don't feel very loved or that I'm special. ANYWAY, how can I stop being such a slut? I hate it about me...I want to stop...but I just keep...screwing up, for lack of better words. Help, please? It's like, I keep thinking things like, "Yeah, maybe this guy might REALLY be into me! I need to push this forward..." but I KNOW he isn't...ugh...I feel stupid...

i agree with dottie.
just stop doing it and dress differently maybe?
you can still be stylish but not so revealing?!
& just try meeting completely new guys who dont go to your school.
cause you cant really change your image in a few days.
just stop having sex with random guys & they will realise that you've changed. same with the girls.
good luck (:

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So usually when i cum i never actually "shoot", it just kinda rolls out. Do girls find it less attractive if you dont "shoot"?

as the the other person said, i dont think girls pay attention to it. i wouldnt. it really doesnt matter. some may find 'shooting' hott but i really dont think that its less attractive if you dont.

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so in the morning, i set my alarm for 5:45. I dont get up until 6:20 I can never seem to hear my alarm clock and my mom is getting really mad about it. Im sixteen and cant wake up she eventually has to come in there 3-4 times until im out of bed. Why cant i drag myself out of bed? my mom just established i acctually have a bedtime-_- not only that its 9:30 that is riddiculous. im sixteen, and a junior in highschool. i mean that is insane. she said it will drop when i get myself up but i cant seem to do it ive tried. Help me get ways to get out of bed!. oh and i dont need an alarm clock. its what gets my mom up in the morning. she doesnt have to get up until like eight.

hii, i have a similar problem. i have to wake up at exactly 5:00 & i'm 16 as well :S
its always really hard for me to get out of bed but my school is really strict when it comes to people being late which is what keeps me from going back to sleep after my alarm rings xD
recently i've tried going to bed at 9:00 which is even worse than 9:30 :P but i've noticed that i feel so much better when i wake up in the morning & dont feel the urge to go back to sleep.
so maybe you should try going to bed at 9:30. it'll probably help! besides that getting out of bed is pure willpower haha.
so whenever you cant get out of bed think: 'if i dont get out of bed now my mums gonna make me go to bed at 9:30 for the rest of my life'.
maybe that'll help :P

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Ok, so I'm a sophmore and there's this guy that i really like, and i think he likes me too. You see he is in three of my class periods but he NEVER sits next to me (thats why i think he might not like me) but he is always looking at me whenever i look up at him. So i think he DOES like me is because of yesterday. During Biology the teacher asked me a question i didnt know and he lipped the answer to me, but i missed read it and got the answer wrong, and he was smirking at me. Then in spanish 2 he was walking towards me like he was going to sit in the empty seat next to me but one of his friends called him over and he frowned and walked away, towards his friends. Then, later on that day, in study hall i was doing my some work on my essay due and looked up, just to think of a word, and saw him staring at me -- smiling. I blushed, errg, and he laughed and i looked down with emberresment. He laughed and looked down, too. I looked back up and he was staring at me smiling, again! So i shot him a confused look. He dropped his smile then turned his head to the side because the door opened, but i didnt look. He turned back to me looking really surprised so i turned and saw a guy with tissue paper hanging out of the backside of his pants and turned back to him. We were looking at each other for ten seconds, stunned, and broke out laughing -- quietly. Then his laugh broke out this surprised me because whenever he talked to me it was always soft and quiet, but this was loud, really loud. Everyone looked at him and he just said "Oh, sorry" (which was also loud) and just looked down. I started laughing harder then snorted -- yikes -- so now everyones eyes were on me, including his, and he started laughing and shaking his head and looked down.

So from this can you tell if he likes me or if he just thinks im a weirdo?

i really think he likes you! (:
go for it!

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where do really hot guys hang out usually?????????????????????????????????????????

it depends on the guys you mean haha [:
where i used to live there was this really kewl skatepark with LOADS of hott guys.

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hey, so i'm doing some research on small bands. the kind of music im looking for are indie, rock, punk, kinda bands. The only necessity is they need to be young/ high school age. im writing about breaking into the music industry. what i need are a list of any and every band that are producing their own origanl music. whether its on youtube, myspace, etc. i'd like to either get in contact with them or be able to see their work. it's suprisingly hard to find small, unheard bands. i don't want bands like all time low, because as much as you might like them, they are famous. so basically and bands, even if its your bands, or your friends. that would help me SO much, so yeah, thanks

i know a really kewl band called 'sound the alarm' & 'renfue'

http://www.myspace.com/soundthealarmmusic

http://www.myspace.com/renfuee

theyre rock/alternative/indie & still quite young & not that famous.
but the music is awesomee [:

i hope you'll like em!

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I use to love the Disney Channel and could sit for hours watching it. On the weekends I would be glued to that television! When I was little I watched things like The Care Bears, My Little Pony, and The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh but later I watched The Proud Family, That's So Raven, and Even Stevens (Shia LaBeouf is awesome). Now, I can't stand to watch that stuff! Especially with the Jonas brothers and Hannah Montana / Miley Cyrus. I can't even STAND to watch The Suite Life of Zack & Cody!

I'm 14 though and, like I'm saying, I use to LOVE Disney. Why don't I any more? My friends like it...

its normal. i used to watch disney channel as well & i still watch 'thats so raven' sometimes even though i'm turning 17 in a few weeks haha [:
but the shows are aimed at people with a certain age. winnie the pooh, care bears etc are aimed at children who are like 6-10 years old. it's normal that you dont like them anymore because your brain works differently now.
i used to watch winnie the pooh as well when i was about 10. & i always found it sooo exciting etc. and then recently when i was babysitting I watched it again & i found it really really boring.
it's because my brain is 'older' now and handles it differently.
& thats probably what's happening to you. 'age' doesnt always matter. i mean i know this guy who is also 14 and looks & acts like 18.
it's just like playing with barbies or something x]
you just reach a certain age where it's not exciting anymore. it always depends on the person.
i stopped playing with barbie when i was 11. all my friends did when they where like 8 [ or at least thats what they said]
i guess youre just ahead of your friends but thats not bad.
just try finding different TV shows that you like.
its not the end of the world [:
hope i helped. good luck!

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I am 16/f
And I like this boy named let's say Ryan and he is a senior.I'm a sophmore. We really don't talk cuz were both in different grades. I just talked to him yesterday and he looked so good. We both like basketball and I just know we would click. But how do I talk to him without being obvious.

why dont you just try smiling at him for a start :]
show him that you find him attractive xD
[he might not smile back right away because he may not expect it]
try doing that for a week. when you see him in the hallway just smile & then look to the ground. make eyecontact & be flirty.
if he makes eyecontact as well you can see if he likes you.
if it all goes well you could just try saying hello or hi the next time you smile at eachother.
that way you can start a conversation.
make smalltalk first & then talk about basketball.
and dont worry about being 'obvious'. if you start things slowly & talk to him casually it wont be. just dont be like: omg youre soooo hott etc' haha [:
cause THAT would be obvious. i dont think it matters that youre in different grades. i also have friends who are older than me.

just be confident [:
hope i helped, good luck!

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were both really into music like HIM, classic rock, etc. basically like love metal type stuff. so our outlook on love is that dark romance haha. we are in love, so i have no qualms on what to draw. i'm an artist, and need some creative ideas on what to draw for him besides him, us, etc. i did a silhouette picture last month, so thats taken(: but if anyone has any darker, romantic things i could draw or paint, i'd be really grateful :)

maybe you could draw him as a vampire or something haha (:
like a forbidden love kinda thing.
i dont know if youre into twilight but maybe something like this:

http://www.twilightmovienews.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/edward-and-bella-wallpaper.jpg

hope i helped (:

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost three weeks, and people keep saying to me 'Awh, you and * look so cute together!' or things along those lines, and I'm not sure how I should respond. I mean, naturally I'm happy, but I'm just not sure what an appropriate response to that would be.
Any suggestions? :)

just be like: 'aww thankyouuu (: he's so cute' etc..
just show them that you're happy with him & happy people think that you make a good couple.
it's no big deal, i dont think that there is a wrong way to respond. if you feel the same way about you two being a good couple just respond spontaniously & happy that your friends see it the same way. [:

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Okay my question is, do some guys find it NOT nasty to have sex with their partner, while they are on their period? It seems most guys I know that I've asked if they would ever do it with their lovers/girlfriends while they were on it, and they said "Aw-hell no that's gross." Is it all guys? Like example, when I've been on my period, my boyfriend has asked me if I'd wanted to have sex with him, not sure if he wanted to but I know I did!!! lol Well he doesn't know I have, but I get very easily turned on while it's my time of the month and I often want him more, but I'm a bit worried to act on it, since of the mess it would be and I also don't want to gross him out. What should I do? Are there some guys that don't find this groos? Appinoins, experiences, I'd love to hear them all both views from men and woman.

F/16

I'm not a guy.
and does it really matter what other guys think though? cause it's your boyfriend you wanna have sex with right? xD
so to be honest, I think you should just ask him what his opinion is.
i wouldnt try & get him to have sex with you while you're on your period because he might say no which would ruin the whole thing & make it awkward.
so i think you should just talk to him about it & if he wouldnt be grossed out it's all good & if he would be then you just have to live with it i guess [:
maybe he'd still do other stuff though. who knows? xD
good luck (:

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