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Will anal sex disvirgin a Female (link)
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Yes, kind of...
It depends on what definitions your using for the words virgin and sexual intercourse.
In general I would define virgin has a person who has not had sexual intercourse.
and in general I would define sexual intercourse as any vaginal, oral or anal sex.
so under those definitions, if a person has anal sex, they are no longer a virgin.
check Webster if you like
https://www.merriam-webster.com/
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So usually i am on this site, to give my advice. I come to my fellow website friends to ask a question in hopes to find a answer that will finally bring my brain some ease. So to make this story brief as possible, i have been seeing a gentleman for about 8 months now. It started as a friendship. Spending endless hours talking and exploring life in ways that we both agreed we have never been able to do with another human being before.He is a deep, emotional type person. He prays to the universe and loves the rain. He is the type of person i have been looking for my entire life. After about 3 months of me and my "friend" being able to escape these moments that would happen, we finally kissed. The type of kiss that i never thought actually possible. The goosebumps giving type. After this we spent many days together, from the moment we were off work until crazy hours in the am. He got me back into writing, and taught me to play guitar. We would watch every documentary we could find. I feel like every person i have loved before now, i am completely over. Because the way i feel for him is absolutely a feeling i have never had. Now for the twist of the story.
He is Married.
With three children.
Most of our talks in the first months, were about how he was stuck in his relationship and how he was very unhappy. But he choose to stay with her for the kids. He would actually say "i feel like life is longer for me, but to just please the people around me".
He works away from home, he spends monday-friday here and goes home for weekends.
I guess my question is, how come he has not left his wife yet if he was so unhappy. Do you think i am getting played? He says to me often that its just very hard for him to just leave because he has so much invested, and he is so scared that his kids will think less of him. In which i have been telling him, take your time to do things right. I made him promise to me that if he leaves him wife, he has to do it 100 percent because its best for him. And i should be absolutely not a part of that decision.
Do you think i am still a very horrible person? Because i get in this mood, when i start to really think about it, and i feel like the worse person to ever set foot on this earth. But most of the other time, it was his choice. And now i am deeply in love with him and i cant imagine my life without him, but what do i do now. He says every weekend he leaves basically, that this may be the weekend everything happens. But it still hasnt. Please give me some insight on what i am to do. (link)
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Rule number two. never fall in love with a married man.
rule number ONE. never fall in love with a married man with kids.
When you are having a hard time finding the right answer it is because the right answer is the hard answer. What that means is you have to leave him. It will not be easy, it will hurt. However, I see no other way out of your situation without causing more harm then good.
Your happiness, his, his wife, and 1, 2, 3 kids. It is best over all to keep his family together at least till the kids are out of the house. sadly that means you are losing end of this situation.
Your best move is to never see him again. Cut your loses spend a few months crying and move on.
If you try to make it work the situation will most get worst, not better.
Nest time you have a fling with a married man do not fall in love.
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I've been working under my mom for a year now (in a different office) as I'm in college and it's hard to find jobs that will work with my class schedule. The job pays decently and it's with a bigger company (my mom just works there) so it looks good on my resume.
My main issues with the job are that they send paychecks a week late sometimes when they can't cut the check by Friday and that's left me in a bad position before with bills, and that my mom can be unreasonable at times and will call me on her personal phone to scream at and insult me when she thinks I've done something wrong.
This usually isn't an actual error, but a miscommunication. For example the most recent time she sent me something that said it was due on the following Monday on a Wednesday and then the next day she called me screaming at the top of her lungs about how much of an idiot I was and how I have no work ethic and I screwed her over by not getting it in overnight. She even hung up on me when I tried to explain to her why I didn't do it immediately. Whenever I try to reason with her she screams for me to shut up and tells me I'm just fighting with her.
Obviously this strains my relationship with her to the point I don't want to speak to her AT ALL. I had plans originally to visit her for mother's day and had already bought her gift, but now I don't want any kind of communication with her.
Anyways, I refuse to take this kind of abuse so I found another job that makes more money. I don't know how stable this new job is, but so far it's been working out pretty well.
I actually plan to find another job too so I can have a back up (this one is PT).
There's really no reason for me to work for her anymore, but I know if I tell her that I found something else she's going to blow up and call me ungrateful and tell everybody in my family how horrible she thinks I am for quitting working for her.
Help what do I do?
I've tried to tell her before I can't deal with her screaming at me and she blames me and says it's my fault that she has to scream or else I don't listen.
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It sound like you already know what you need to do. You just need us to confirm.
Turn in your two week notice and be polite about it.
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So long story short I live in an apartment that I pay for through my college and I paid 2k for summer housing and was told I wouldn't have any roommates.
I was really excited because I've been living with my current roommate for a year and until about 3 months ago we got along fine, but then she started becoming more and more irritating. She would constantly invite friends over until 3am in the morning, was having her boyfriend live in her room (and trying to pretend he wasn't), was becoming a huge slob completely wrecking the kitchen to the point it was so gross I didn't want to step foot in there, got in an argument with my dad twice when he visited (which was only twice), and invites her ENTIRE family to stay in the apartment without my permission.
Obviously I feel very uncomfortable with her now and I was really looking forward to her being gone and having a place to myself for 3 months (I'll be getting new roommates in August). Well summer started two weeks ago and she's STILL HERE and I'm very aggravated.
She was supposed to be gone by latest last Friday. Last night I walked into the living room and her family was sleeping on the floor, which made me angry.
I feel like I cant go to the kitchen or even leave my room so I keep having to eat out when I just bought groceries to avoid running into her or her family.
I want her OUT! She has all her stuff all over the living room like she's planning on leaving, but she doesn't. I feel like she just plans on staying until the school finds out and kicks her out.
However, I also don't want to make a scene if she managed to get late stay and I just wasn't informed since I'm actually moving into a new apartment in 4 days.
Should I just wait it out or should I ask her when she's leaving? (link)
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The question is who is responsible for the mess. If you can wait just 4 days and then beat it with no backlash than great. Keep you head down for 4 days and then split.
If you are responsible for keep the place clean and it is trashed, you may lose your deposit. You may need your roommate help cleaning. Just try to get the plave clean the day before you leave.
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Background: my boyfriend is 23 and I'm 21. We're both finishing our last year of college (he is taking a fifth year because of ROTC and switching majors I will talk about this later). We have been dating for a little under a year and a half.
The problems: started in the last six months. I feel like we've fallen into a rut. I still want so much from him. His time, his attention, cute little surprises/texts, etc., you know the stuff you do in the honey moon phase. Plus our sex life has slowed down a ton even though I am pretty much wanting to have sex all the time. He's the definition of a clueless boyfriend. Part of it is the army. He's been through extensive training over the last five years, more so than a normal ROTC student. Long story. He doesn't talk about emotions well. He's been told it makes him weak. The most sentimental he gets is when we fall asleep he will whisper how much he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. But that's it. All other times he's stoic as a board.
We don't really go on dates. And we only see each other a few hours a week even though we live 50 yards from each other. But we constantly argue about how I ask too much of him. He says he's exhausted and all he wants to do is play his video games alone sometimes. And I don't blame him. I really don't.Part of the problem is he works nearly 40 hours a week, is a full time student, and is essentially completely cut off from his parents. He pays for all of his school expenses, rent, car insurance, cell phone, and so on. They gave him a loan for an accident a year ago and he's still paying them back. It's very different from me. My parents are incredibly generous and pay for all of my school, rent, phone, car, basically everything he has to work for. And I love that about him. He is so driven and independent and I admire the hell out of him. I try to be understanding. I never pressure him to take me on dates and if we do I pay for half. Or at least offer. I suggest things that don't cost money or I make sure he knows that I've already paid for it. I try to always be supportive of the fact that he gets zero sleep. (Three nights he works until 4 and then has class at 8). I do a lot of his laundry and errands to try to help him out. (I also don't work and only have class two days a week). I try so so hard to understand that work and school are his priority. But sometimes I feel really down about feeling at the bottom of his list. Sometimes I don't even want him to come see me I just want him to say that he wishes he could. He can be so cold. But god I love him so much. I could go on and on about how amazing of a person he is and how empowered and strong he makes me feel but it would make this question unreadable. I guess to sum up the main relationship problem: I constantly want more and he doesn't have it to give.
Also. He's been sad this year. All his friends graduated and I can tell he his depressed. But sometimes he takes it out on me. He can be mean and say hurtful things.Sometimes I feel like I can't do it anymore. I don't feel like I have a boyfriend. Next year we will be long distance which we have done for a summer and did great at.
MY BIGGEST WORRY: I will stay with him and long distance will be fine because most of my current frustrations are that I feel like he doesn't make time for me. But if we stay together what if these problems are still there in 2-5 years? After we live in the same city or his deployment is over. I know there are so many factors that will be different than this year of college. But I haven't been my happiest these past few weeks. I don't want to throw it all away because the future is just so unclear. But what if I invest all of this time only to find out we won't work? But then I think about how much I love him and how much we have already been thought. And I guess I just don't know how to bring this all up with him. Please help. (link)
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I see where you are coming from. Me and my wife are both going to school and work. I work more than her and I am getting a bigger degree than her. It is a hard time for us, but we are getting though it together.
In your situation I do not see any major red flags. It looks like a simple carry on situation. Full time school and full time work is hell but he will be better in the end.
Try to help him in any practicality way you can. Sweet surprise are good but piratical surprise are better. for example, my wife is getting an art degree and had a big project due in a few days. I sat down and helped her for hours each day to get her project done in time. That was better then any roses I could have bought.
IT is easy to get depresses in cold weather but summer is coming.
Just try to help each other till life brightens up
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Do I live my boyfriend for my best friend, I actually love both and do not want to loose any (link)
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I assume you mean should "Should I break up with my boyfriend in order to date my best friends?"
And it sounds like a polygamous relation is not being considered.
I would recommend posting a few more paragraphs of information to get the best advice.
But with what little I know I say stick with your current boyfriend. If you love them both then why leave one to start something with the other.
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Long story short, I met this guy not long ago well we were speaking everyday all day for around 4 months now and we finally met up, he seemed interested in me etc till the day we finally saw each other, but even then he still looked interested in me. Since Saturday he has been replying super late to my msgs, taking 2-6 hours to reply he wasn't like this I will come online on WhatsApp and I see him online but he doesn't even bother to open my msg , but he still replies the same way as before only this time he takes longer, why? all of a sudden after meeting me he changed the way he was towards texting, the time he takes messaging me back is doing my head in, did he lose interest? bare in mind we kissed on that day like he treated me really well.. its been different since Saturday? I feel like he's talking to another girl, I get this gut feeling??? why change all of a sudden?
its weird to give me late replies but still speak the same with me?? can someone please help me, I'm reading way too into these texts, I got so used to the routine of speaking to him constantly and since we saw eachother thats changed...??? did I do something ???? like his texts are still the same as before but he takes longer.. (link)
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Talking everyday all day for 4 month is taxing. I am amazed it last for that long. There are a million and one reason why he might message you less. Yes you are looking too much into it.
maybe he has been busy with life and he is doing other things while talking to you.
maybe he is running out of thing to say, which is totally understandable after 4 months.
different people require different amount of attention. My wife would not mind spending every second with me, but I enjoy my alone time and love it when I can spend a day or two apart. I dont love her less. it just i don't have to be with her all the time.
that is just a few reason he may message you less.
I would recommend spending more time with him in person. There is a limit to how close you can get to someone via message.
If you can not spend time in person for some reason maybe play an online game together. do a google search to good co-op online games and find something you both can enjoy. You can find plenty of free online games
check out phone games like "words with friends"
do something other then just chat.
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20/female
I'm at a perfect weight, but my upper and lower arms are still SOOOOO fat. My stomach still looks as if I am 3 months pregnant. My thighs still are WAY too fat as well as my lower legs.
I dont want to starve myself or anything. but like what should i eat/drink and what exercises (i have 3 pound dumbbells and a stability ball and a treadmill, btw) should I do to lose (or tone) all this fat? Like ***literally*** lose/tone it.
(****** I DON'T WANT ANY MUSCLE WHATSOEVER******) (link)
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1) you are the perfect weight so you do not want to change weight.
2) you want to lose fat
3) you do not want to gain muscle whatsoever.
I can not imagine how you could achieve that all three.
it is impossible to lose fat, not gain muscle and still maintain the same weight.
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My last description was very confusing, and I apologize, so Im retelling it. I am a female (17) who dated another girl for half a year, and I was the first girl she was ever with. She had cheated on me with a guy around spring time last year, but denied it, until she finally broke up with me. We fought alot over summer, since I was friends with almost everyone in my grade and they were mad that she cheated, which made her think i said bad things about her. Well, school starts up again and she decides to ask me out and I say yes. Then my parents take me out of the school, but I still saw her on the weekends. Well, up comes December, which was our most eventful month (when we started getting close romantically, t il she asked me out on the 19th), and when I texted her on her birthday and on our anniversary she just left me on read, then stopped reading my messages altogether. Then I mailed her gifts, and she didnt mention anything about our anniversary to me or send me anything, but bragged to others about how I had sent her stuff. In January she begins hanging out with this very popular boy, who only uses girls for pleasure not love, but nonetheless is very attractive, anf his name is Will. I find out that she is flirting with him and two other boys, and that during December time she was cheating on me with someone who was completely aware of my relationship with her, and he had been my friend. In February she admits to "lightly pecking Will on the cheek", but I later find out she was making out with him. I get mad at her, and she breaks up with me but continues to tell myself and other people that shes in love with me. I see her at a mall in February, and Will is grabbing her butt with his tongue in her mouth and she is moaning, in front of everyone at the mall! I turn right around instead of talking to her, but I guess she saw me, because she gets furious that I didnt walk up to her ("I would have fallen to my knees and kissed your hands if you had come over. You know I love you.") So we meet up in very late February (still broken up, both of us single) and she gives me a ring her German grandfather made ( to signify loyalty, apparently) and she kisses me, which is fine until she tries making out in public, which I politely pull away from. Idk what the "loyalty" bullshit was because she sat there snapchatting Will the whole time, then later that night they were seen making out at a party, but he is not interested in a relationship with her, he just wants to hook up. Well now there are rumours circulating that she gave him a blowjob, but people have lied about her having sexual relations with people before, so I dont know whether to believe it or not. She still tells me shes in love with me... umm what do I do? (link)
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She may want to be with you but she also want to fool around with Will.
Are you ok with her doing both?
If you do not want to share her then leave her.
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I wanted to ask my ex of almost a year now to prom this year. But, I got in trouble for taking a picture with a guy my parents didn't want me involved with, trying to get him to become jealous so when I asked him to prom he would say yes. But instead I got in trouble and lost prom. So now I don't know how to describe to my parents that I don't actually like this boy that they don't like and that I was basically using him as a decoy to ensure that my ex would say yes when I asked him to go to prom with me. I don't know how to actually tell the truth about me still liking my ex. And you know nobody likes to admit how much of a jerk they are. (link)
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Just let your parents think you like the "bad" boy. daughters likely guys there are bad for them is normal.
If you convince them of the truth. then they will know that their daughter it manipulating one boy to take a picture in order to manipulate second boy that does not even like her into going the prom.
The truth is way worst then the lie.
The lie makes you look like a normal teenage making normal teenage mistakes. the truth makes you look like and evil conniving witch.
I am sure you know this already. but it is a bad idea to try to go to prom with someone who hates your guts.
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22/f
Last year after my mom passed away, I moved out to another state and moved in with my older brother. I had bought a new car last year, so I make payments twice a month.
I got my dream job as a flight attendant and moved to another state by myself.
So I pay my phone bill, my car payment, insurance, rent, utilities and I'm just finishing up the double deposit on my apartment because I didn't have a cosigner.
I am really struggling. I don't have much food in the house. I have to change my registration to this new state so it'll be around $400 and when I moved, I used my credit card for almost everything because I didn't have any money when I moved. So I'm working on paying that off as well.
I've been working as a flight attendant for 5 months now. I need advice on other ways to make money. Right now, I'm still an on call flight attendant and get paid for the hours I'm on call as well as when I'm flying.
I need help with budgeting because I really need to eat better. Are there other ways to make extra money in the mean time? I don't have much and I would usually go to my mom for things like this but I don't have her anymore. (link)
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I just want to say good for you. You got your dream job and you are making it, despite the problems in your way.
When i read your post it reminded me of a time in my life, and it made me proud of you. You are not letting things keep you down. I am here to tell you its hard now but it gets better.
I feel you pain I have been there. I had to live of of Rice, eggs, roman for a while. It is rough. When budget is tight food in always the first thing to go.
I am sorry to say I do not have any great advice for you. Get a lot of hours and get raises. Over time you will pay thing off and over time you will get more and more money.
See if you qualify for food stamps, you may be suprised
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My boyfriend is 20, we have been together for over a year. Overall the relationship has been good. We do fight a lot but we get over it. Our fights are stupid and nothing big enough for us to break up. We are constantly together, literally. Almost everyday we hang out, hes always hanging in my house, etc. My family likes him very much. Hes nice and attentive, and respectful. I live in a house with my mom, dad, and almost my dads whole family. His brothers, sisters, cousins. All from my dads side. I have in specific a aunt, her name is Mary, in which her husband and her think that they are better than everyone else. They are always mysterious on everything they do, and that goes for her daughter as well, my cousin. On many occasions her husband called my mom to talk shit about my boyfriend and problems hes seen around the family. (My cousin was sexually molested by our uncle when she was 16. He touched her breast, and her bottom parts. )
She is now 25.
My boyfriend didn't really like her because she was always acting annoying, mysterious, or wouldn't want him around whenever she wanted to tell me something.
One night it was my parents, my moms cousin who came to visit, my boyfriend, and I; all drinking in our living room and listening to music enjoying a good time. I heard my cousins were upstairs so I texted them to come down so we can have a good time. My boyfriends not the type to drink, hes a light weight, he barely ever drinks. At around 3AM my cousin, the mysterious one, her name is Laura. She wanted to go get something to eat, since i was the only sober one i drove.Once we got in the car my boyfriend sat in the back, then my cousin Laura got in, and my other cousin sat in the front. I thought it was weird how he sat in the back since he never does. We went to pick up the food and came back home. My boyfriend seemed like he wanted to go he kept insisting lets go lets go, but he ended up not even eating that night. The next day Laura sees me and my boyfriend, she says hi to us. Says hi to him gives him a kiss on the cheek, asks how he was doing and then leaves. That night she told me she needed to talk to me. She then tells me she wouldn't say anything around him and waits for him to leave. It was now 11o clock at night and Then she tells me how in the car on our way home he put his hand on her lap, and as we got closer to the house he started going up. She starts crying and telling me that she would never lie, and that it brought her memories from our uncle. Shes crying, and i'm crying. I'm pissed because he did weird shit like not eat and sit in the back. He was drunk, I remember him telling me he felt very tipsy and didn't want to sit in the front. The next day he had a bad hangover, he kept throwing up. Hes gotten drunk with them on 2 occasions with me not being there because i was on vacation. I don't know what to do. He keeps telling me and swearing that he doesnt remember a thing. He wants to apologize to her, but she doesn't want to see him. I feel like he was really drunk and he fucked up, but from the moment he put his hand on her lap she should have taken it off and not waited for him to go higher. This may sound very misogynist but hes a guy, and all guys try to do the same shit. She told everyone that his hand was on her lap and now everyone hates him. hes not even allowed to be in family parties. My parents tell me that not to worry, they saw he was really drunk as well, and that shes being dramatic. She said hi to him like nothing, even kisses him on the cheek, and then waits a whole day to tell me. When our uncle did this to her, she waited about the same amount of time to say anything and then accused another far uncle of doing the same thing and said he used to do it "years" ago. Shes pissed that im questioning her on why she didn't say anything, she says she was just trying to protect me. I understand he fucked up but he was drunk!!!! and hes willing to face it!! Shes taking it too far, like if he raped her or something. They never liked him to begin with just because he wasn't in college, ( he is licensed). HELP OPINIONS AND THOUGHTS?! (link)
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So Laura says he did it and he says he does not remember. Bases on that evidence I would assume he did.
This is a very serous offence. Being drunk is no excuse. People should still be held responsible for what they do while intoxicated. every adult has the responsibility not drink so much as to lose control. He did not sleep with you cousin but It seems that given the opportunity he would have.
I do not feel that this a grounds to break up but it is grounds for a harsh talking to.
Alcohol generally does not change who you are it just drops your inhibitions.
Keep an eye out, he is showing some red flags
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So I started taking birth control on the 2nd of this month. On my fifth day of taking it my boyfriend and I were messing around, I was on top and I almost slid his dick in my vagina all the way. He was not wearing a condom, and I got off after a few seconds when it started to hurt too much. And I started bleeding, it was my first time really having a penis in there. He also rubbed the head of his penis in my vagina for a little bit before that. I have been freaking out since. I've read that pre-cum can contain low amounts of sperm, and that it can contain it if the guy ejaculated not too long before and did not urinate since. We weren't doing stuff for too long and I do not believe he ejaculated before that happened. Now it is my 12th day of taking birth control, a week after that happened and I have some light spotting. I heard this is very common for women who recently started taking birth control, but I also read that there is a such thing as implantation blood. It said that implantation blood is brownish/pinkish and it seems like that's what color mine is but I can't even tell because its not heavy enough and I'm freaking out. Also not sure if anyone believes in signs but I've been freaking out about this today, well more than usual I guess because of the spotting. And then I go on fb and my friend tagged me in a "names of girls that will have triplets in 2018" and my name was on it and I saw the post at the 10:27, and 27 is a number that has always been like a warning or sign to my friend and I and I know that sounds stupid but I'm just scared. Is there a big chance I'm pregnant? I'm only 19, my bfs 20. I'm still in school, and he's freaking homeless as of rn. My mom told me whatever I do, do NOT get pregnant and that is why she put me on this birth control (LoEstrin FE). and now I'm already fucking up. I was supposed to wait two and half weeks to let the birth control kick in but I did stuff only five days after. I have no idea what to do. I don't even want to take a pregnancy test yet because its just going to stress me out even more, and what if it is not even accurate? Ah sorry I'm ranting. anyway thank you for whoever takes the time to read this and please help! (link)
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The best way to relieve you anxiety is to take a pregnancy test or see a doctor. Make sure to follow the institutions on the pregnancy test. after that you will feel much better.
I am sure I don't have to tell you this but i will say it anyway. follow the direction on birth control pill that stuff is serous.
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My mate said, he missed me, after seeing me in a week time at college (he's never said that before). I fancy him so I was glad that he missed me. I didn't say anything instead I said, oh did you, bless you. He just smiled and touched my shoulder smoothly as always but not in a pervert way. He called me baby once as he'd never used that word before and smiled afterwards. We had Wendy's together the other day and he insisted to pay, didn't even let me pay. Sadly, he's engaged and I have a bf. He says he sees as his own family. I can't even dare to question him even though he's my good friend. I might be thinking ahead, I got no clue but what's his behaviour telling you, experts? Appreciate the answers (link)
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Falling for this guy would be a very bad move.
You have a boyfriend and you would need to end that relationship before doing anything with the new guy.
He has a fiance. Unless you want to just be "the other woman" he would have to end that relationship.
He had not shown very strong signs of liking you romantically. every example you listed is something a friends might do.
It sounds like you have a crush and you are looking to much into things.
My advice, let those feeling go before they grow out of control and make you do something foolish.
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well i been heartbroken over this guy named josiah for 4-5 years, we were close and almost dated. he led me on and used me til didnt need me anymore, and is my first love, kiss who lost virginity to etc. we ent from talking alot flirting etc to all sudden it stopped. idk why still, and foundout from someone that is married now. i tried sending a friend request on facebook, playing it off as dont have these feelings still, but denied request but didnt block. want talk to him so badly, as did have a miscarriage of his child and never griefed properly as kept it from my family cause they lecture me about having feelings for him tho thats not something i can help , tried everything i could think of to move on, and now in a relationship with lance, who treats me like queen do care for just not as much as do josiah. he knows had thing for him in past, as told him how he hurted me badly emotionally dont think it was intentional tho cuase he's best guy i ever knew before lance. what should i do? and want make my current relationship work though im just settling for lance since cannot have josiah like we were... (link)
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good new is this problem will solve itself.
bad new is it will hurt a lot till it does.
You don't have anyway to contact Josiah and as long as you stay away from him and pursue other interest your feeling for him will slowly fade. Dont try to contact him on Facebook can take several years but it will get better.
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So I will do my best to explain this though I have found it extremely difficult to express how I feel and what i think which I think is a big part of this issue.
So I have a person in my life, who I look up to very much, and also work with, who keeps telling me I need to grow up.
Now, I have trouble explaining this situation well but lets just say that I have feelings for this person, I look up to them, I care about what they think, and I want them to think I am doing a good job. He works with me, and he used to be vey kind and understanding with me, until he wasn't.
I'm writing this because Im not sure if I am in the wrong or what is going on so I would like some perspective.
Basically he says I cause more problems than solutions. And he gets angry now every time I mess up at work or there is an issue he yells at me and starts to scold me for what I did. The problem is that I don't know how to fix it. I find myself now working and making decisions on eggshells, and messing up more than before because of the fear of causing anger and getting an angry response from this person.
The other problem is not being able to explain this to him because every time I do he comes back with "UGH see youre just creating a big drama with what you feel and its causing more problems, just admit you're wrong, don't give me some excuse, and fix it"
The problem is I feel like everything I do is wrong and I cant fix it no matter how many different options or roads I take I always end up with the same reaction and being yelled at. And i cant explain how I feel to him because then he gets more angry.
So I guess my question is, am i being too emotional? how do I stop feelings this certain way? How do I fix my work when every step I take or decision I make is to him a mistake and warrants a scolding? And why wont he listen to what I have to say about the situation without calling me a big baby?
What do I do in this situation?
And please don't say to change jobs because I've tried and its impossible at this particular moment in time. (link)
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As far as your feeling for this person. forget it. work place romances are complicated and it does not sound like the other person is interested.
It is best to pursue romantic interest outside of work.
To keep from making mistakes are work, I don't know what type of work we are talking about. Office work, labor, food service industry? Without knowing more detail I can only give vague advice. Make notes of the mistakes you make and then study them at home. treat your work place like you would a school test and study at home to get an A.
The work place is no place to get emotional. that goes for you and other people. He this other person is yelling at you in the work place that is uncalled for and he is in the wrong.
I have hired, trained, and fired several people at my work place but even when i fired them (the worst part of my job :( ) i never yelled. there is just no benefit in getting anger.
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Will anal sex disvirgin you
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Anal sex is a type of sexual intercourse. A virgin is a person who has not engaged in sexual intercourse. If a person has anal sex they are no longer a virgin.
This is according to Webster definitions of those terms. people may have differing personal definitions.
@adviceman49; i beg to differ. here are my sources.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/virgin
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sexual%20intercourse
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I've been a "sugar baby" on and off for three years since I was 19. I've had two "sugar daddies" and gone on dates with other potentials, but they didn't work out for one reason or another.
I don't necessarily like doing it, but the financial and materialistic aspect of it always lures me back in. I always worry about my safety and the fear of being raped or worse because there's really 0 way to protect yourself once you're alone with him.
I haven't had that happen though and my experiences have been really good so far. I was able to make four times what I make at my normal job in a month and finally able to start paying off some of my bills last time, but I had to put a stop to it because he started becoming too demanding of my time and my family started wondering how I was getting so much extra money.
Now I'm really missing it because I've had to go back to the life of a normal worker. I'm starting to see my bank account dwindle back into the triple digits and it's really getting to me because when I was a SB I always had at least a couple thousand extra. Since then I've had my computer crash, and broke a phone so I had to replace those and paid for them outright so I wouldn't have to finance them and I had a car repair as well as Christmas. I also of course had my normal month to month bills.
This is going to sound super selfish, but I also really miss eating out at high end places where the bill would be over $300 at times and I didn't have to worry about it because the SD paid. I was able to buy healthy organic groceries and foods from special markets. The food was so amazing and so delicious and now I'm back to frozen dinners and chain restaurants. I get really sad comparing my life then to now...
So now I'm thinking about going back, but the hunt for a good SD is really long and terrible. There's so many slimy men who will try to trick you and who pray on younger girls like me. There's also a lot of men who are just straight up cruel and will try to belittle you into sleeping with them for small amounts of money.
I'm also getting a new roommate in three weeks because my old one is moving home so I don't now what she would think if she saw me leave and come back at odd hours.
It's so hard living like this again though...I think about it every day. What I could have compared to what I do.
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I have a few options for you
1) Be a SB, if you are making money and no one is being hurt then go for it as long as you are happy with there choice. but is sound like you are unhappy with that choice.
2) Go to college. get a doctorate in a hard science or medical field. It will be very very hard. and will take several years of your life to get a degree and several years of your life to pay off the debt. but it can allow you to make a lot of money in the career of your choice.
3) you could be cam girl. where are websites dedicated to if. you view chat with guy and they pay for the time. you may not make as much money but it is safer you are in more control.
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OK ... I was home alone and I got really horny... I am 18 female and well I decided to search how to masturbate I read and I was getting more and more horny.. I have touched my self already but always after I did it I will still feel the urge today how ever while just reading methods I had some different feeling.. Then eventually I got up yo do it and I could barely move I felt weird then I was involuntarily squeezed I might say and I didn't feel horny again when I went to the bathroom my undies was wet with a lot of discharged was that an orgasm... Im a virgin..
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This question was posted two days ago. no one has attempted to answer it so I will offer what advice I can. I am a guy and I am not a medical doctor.
I am sure you are fine. Females can have all kinds of involuntary muscle movement when they are being stimulated.
funny story, I was with a girl and it was very hard to go down on her because she would involuntary squeeze her tights together when she was close to cumming. It looked ridiculous as T go down on her with my head leaning to the left against one thigh, my right hand push back the other thigh. Hold just long enough to make her cum and then get out quick before she crushes me.
My guess is you ether had an orgasm or where close to one. Some women lose interest in sex after orgasm, others it just makes them hornier. You may have lost your hornless just because your were weirded out by the strange feelings.
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Hi, I'm a 29 year old woman and I'm finally starting to face the fact that I may have a serious problem when it comes to my love life. However, sometimes I blow things out of proportion, so I just want to know how you all feel.
The problem is that my entire life, I have almost exclusively had romantic feelings for older men (almost is the key word though). I've never dated one, but I've had bad crushed on a lot of guys old enough to be my father. Most aren't quite that old, but older than any man I'd be willing to marry, such as 10 to 15 years older. This is the way it's always been. As a teenager, I was simply never attracted to any guys my own age.
Now that I'm an adult, it's getting better. I've always been attracted to grown men, but now that I'm a grown woman, that's not as much of a problem anymore. But it's still a bit of a problem, because I was born in the late 80's and most of my crushes were born in the 60's to early 70's and some even in the 50's (I'm not proud of this). I've never been able to act on any of these crushes because I do not want to date anyone more than 10 years older than myself.
But now I'm thrilled that I FINALLY have feelings for two different guys close to my age. I have two simultaneous crushes on a guy named Dan and a guy named Nick. I am currently 29 and I'll be 30 in September. Dan is 34 and Nick is almost 37 they're still older, but in a few months, we'll all be in our thirties and we were all born in the 80's. It feels great to finally have choices for boyfriends who aren't so much older than I am. So good that I don't wanna go back to the way things used to be, but if things don't work out with Dan OR Nick, I can't promise that they won't and that scares me.
What are your thoughts? Is this the huge problem I've made it out to be or are there other people with this issue?
Is there a reason this might have been a problem for me? Is there a way I can control my feelings? If things don't work out with Dan or Nick, Then, I really want to try to stay in my own decade when it comes to dating, but does anyone know a way I can help myself to do that? (link)
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The massive amount of self hate in the post makes me angry and sad :(
Why is it so wrong to date someone 10 years older? One of my friends is 25 and she is moving in with her boyfriend. he a slightly over 50. She is not gold digging, he makes average money. She is good looking a could date younger men if she wanted but the loves him and they get along.
People have different tastes. If you like older men then date older men. There and plenty of older guys that would love a girl like you.
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