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Q: Hi, Im going to the Vans Warped Tour in Milwaukee this summer. Its gonan be hot, so what should I wear? How long does it go until? Are there a lot of drugs? Am I gonna get beat up if Im sorta preppy? (im a girl) Let me know! thanks!

From my experience its lasted from 11AM to 11PM. Yes, it will be hot, and since you're in Milwaukee- humid too, which is even worse in my opinion. I used to live in Oshkosh but moved down to Arizona into the dry heat. Anyway, you'll want to wear shorts atleast. Especially in the crowds. There are drugs, but ive only seen weed here, not major drugs but theres so many people you never know. Bring the biggest thing of water you can find, it's expensive there, and please wear sunscreen if needed.

Q: Im going to the beach this month, and I have no confidence when it comes to wearing a bikini. I'm pretty skinny everywhere else except my waistline. (I have really huge love handles that are unproportional to the rest of me.) I've been trying to lose it before this summer, but not seen any progress. Im also uncomfortable wearing bikini bottoms for some reason, I know im weird. So i bought some girl swim shorts that go to my knees (like surf shorts.) Do you think that would look stupid for me to wear those and a small tee or tank top when im swimming?

I think that'd look cute. It'd look better then hanging out all over the beach, and by that i mean with your breasts and your butt. Don't worry, you'll be cute. Just say to yourself, "i AM cute" before you go. Have fun.

Q: when you go to get a physical.. sumtimes yoou have to pee in a cup right? well can they tell by ur urin if you have smoked weed.. cuz i thought that when you go they get a urin sample to see if you have done drugs?? or maybe im thinking of sumthing else.?? PLEASE I RATE HIGH

if you are not dumb about this i will rate you a 5..

If you have smoked weed in the past month before you take it, then yes they can tell..but i don't think they can tell if you smoked it like a year ago. Good luck.

Q: I just shaved my pubic area for the first time, and now it itches really bad when I walk!! What can I do about this?

Lotion, lotion and more lotion! Apply every few hours.

Q: Hi, I'm going to the Vans Warped Tour with some friends for the first time this summer. What are some good things to wear/bring? What should I expect? Can you buy CDs there?
Thanks!

Ive been to many.
They usually let you bring in one thing of water, since everything is MAJOR expensive. Find the biggest thing you can. Wear light color clothng and as little as possible. Especially in hot states. Shorts and tanks are perfered. And SUNSCREEEN! Cannot strress that enough. Bring as much extra money as you can because the bands have booths were you can buy their merch, and so does the Warped Tour were you can buy CDs and their merch as well. There is alot of free handouts as well so a bag or some sort is nice. And HIDE cameras or they'll take them away. Expect LOTS of people, lots of drunks and possibly drugs and loud loud music, and it's a lot of fun actually, so have fun!

Q: Is it right for a girl to ask a guy out? please answer..i rate!!

Of course it's right. It just isn't seen because of the double standard, which is slowly winding down. You're lucky if you have the confidence to ask a guy out, but if you see a guy you like and you really want to ask him out. Go for it. Dont let anything stop you. Good luck.

Q: I'm on my period right now, and I'm feeling pretty crappy. Okay, I was having REALLY bad cramps for awhile before I actually started. I usually have some cramps before I'm on my period (which kind of tells me that I'll be starting soon), but these were horrible, I was having them all week before I actually started, and I couldn't sleep one night (I eventually started that night though). And I feel really sick in the stomach. Last month I actually vomited while on my period. And this month I feel the same way. I can barely eat anything, or I'll feel sick in the stomach, like I'm going to vomit at any moment. Whats wrong? 16/f

Nothings wrong, you just got a sucky period. If you go to gyno they can prescribe pills i think to help you with that if normal ibuprofin or whatever you take doesnt help. Also walking helps cramps a lot too. Along with a heating pad. Sorry about that. Good luck.

Q: I like this one boy very much but he doesn't like me because I'm not "sexy/seductive" enough. For example, the girl he likes is very confident and a tease. How can I be a bit more like that?

Dont ever change who you are for someone. In the end you'll end up how you never wanted to be. The only reason to change is if you're not happy with yourself. If this guy doesn't like you then you can find someone who does like you. Join clubs and do activities you like, chances are you'll meet some great people who are into the same stuff you are, and you don't have to worry about changing. Because once you start being something you're not, it gets harder and harder to keep that image up. My advice: move on. Maybe he'll like you later. Just keep talking to him, showing him who you really are, maybe he'll change. Good luck.

Q: Hi, I know this might be a stupid question....
My boyfriend and I have fooled around naked, although not had sex. My period is now late, could I be pregnant?

if there was no fluids secreted from his penis near or into your vagina, you cannot me pregnant. Your period may have just been changing due to stress, or sometimes when you get really excited about something i mean more like going on a big trip, then your period can change. Long story short, i don't think you're pregnant. Wait a week or two and see what happens. Good luck.

Q: ok so i'm gonna be a junior next year and i have been thinking about colleges a lot. I really want to go to Tulane but i'm not sure if my grades are good enough. I have a 3.9, but ive only been taking 2 honors and ill be in 3 ap next year and am in french honors society. Ive lettered in xc twice, track once, and swimming once. i dont have many service hours, though. Do you think i have any chance of getting into Tulane? I know its a hard school to get into but i'm not really sure HOW hard...

I'm not sure what Tulane admits on, but that sounds like quite a few achievements, if you keep going hard i think you can get in. If you still want to get service hours, ive known kids that have done it in one year to a year and a half. I don't think you should have much of a challenge getting in, colleges love all that stuff. Good luck.

Q: well today is my bf's birthday so we are going to lunch at a nice (in other words, expensive) resturant with another couple. i invited him, so does that mean i have to pay for him? its a pretty expensive place and im 14 and he's turning 15. thanks!

Yes, you pay. One, it's his birthday, and Two, you invited him. Have fun.

Q: Im just wondering, this is a quick question. I slept over my new friends house. Shes extremely pretty, rich, but shes diabetic and she smells like fish. Badly. I know she sprays perfume down there, she's told me. But she cannot find a way to get rid of the smell. What should I tell her as advice?

if she asks for your advice, tell her to shower everyday and clean really really well. Also that feminine cleaning wash might help. But if it persists, definitly go to a doctor. It could be an infection.

Q:

on my birthday i found out that my ex boyfriend just got asked out by someone else. i asked him out about four or five days before he went out with the other girl. and i definetly know that it isn't fair. also he dumped me for no stupid reason. now my question is what should i do about this other than talking to him? should i ask him out again or should i try talking to him more and more?? sorry it is so so so so long.. ha ha

Maybe he isn't into you anymore. And that sucks, i know. But that's life. Remember, the song "you cant always get what you want", yeah, this applys. Try being friends again if youre not, let him get to you know again and show him how much youre into him, but don't push it. Good luck.

Q: 15/m ive been feeling really mean and nasty lately. it seems like i get upset over everything. one day, my friend even asked if we were still friends because she thought i wasnt being nice. im not sure what it could be. im taking my finals this week and its also the last chance ill get too see my friends until next year so maybe that could be it. please help. i hate being like this

I feel the same way lately. It's just because you're growing up and your hormones are going crazy. Youre going through differrent stages and new people and plus the stress of school. Once summer comes you'll be ok. You'll be able to lounge around and do activities to calm you down. Good luck on your finals.

Q: ok i have liked this guy since maybe second grade. i still like him a lot. the thing is there's a dance and i asked him to it. and i was so happy when he said he would go with me if he goes to the dance! yeah for me right? wrong. my friends were like forcing him to him to actually say yes. well i felt really bad so i was planning to talk to him alone about it but i don't have the guts to go ask him to go talk with me for a minute or 2 because he's always around his best friend who i absoulutly hate. then i got the feeling he really doesnt want to go with me to the dance and wants go with someone else and not me. i am fine with that but i don't know how to tell him that. then just yesterday my friends from a different class went to his house and made him feel horrible. the thing is i dont know who it was and he wouldn't tell me who it was so i am totally lost right now. so i guess my questions are: how do i ask him if he doesnt want to go with me or not? dont say aim cause he only signs on past 9 oclock and thats when i have to shut my computer down. next is: should i ask him if he is really mad at my friends for making him say yes? also: how do i talk to him in person without his best friend? finally: how do i actually talk to him daily and normally? help me please!

Go to his house, if one of his friends is there, ask him to talk alone..then ask if he really wants to go with you or not. It seems like you really want to talk him and aren't shy about it, so just do it. It's best to do it in person anyway, AIM is not the way. If you really care if hes mad at your friends, then go ahead and ask. Take a few deep breaths before you talk to him, and go for it. Good luck.

Q: Does anyone know a really good site to get MYSPACE layouts and if so will you please let me know of it? Thanks everyone!

Try:

http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=create

or

PimpWebpage.com

Q: Who write the song for the Zoey 101 theme song??

Taken from TVtome.com

Follow Me- Theme Song of Zoey 101

Are you ready?

I know you see me standing here
Do I look good my dear?
Do I look good today?

Today, Today

I'm just another kind of girl,
and you want to see my world
So come and ride away

If you wanna play
Come and play today
Let's just get away (yeah)
I will make you see
All of the things that you can be
Believe in yourself and follow me

Yeah yeah

Sung by Jamie Lynn Spears and Co-Written by Britney Spears

Q: Ok well me and this boy fucked on satday alright its monday and last night i started getting bumps and oucer thingys in my mouth we made out too well i guess you'd no that. But today i was talking to my bestest friend ed and i showed him and it spread all over the inside of my lip well you no right infront of your bottom teeth. He said its herpies. Is it? It was the first time we both had sex and i no hes kissed at least one other girl other then me this week or 2. And if this is herpies how can i get it to go away with out seeing the doctor?

*-*Plz help ill rate 5*-*

Yes, please see a doctor. Herpies is a serious disease. Go see a professional right away. Good luck.

Q: I got choosen to be an extra in a FEATURE FILM! I was so excited about it, because I live in Connecticut, so I don't really have the oppurtunity to participate in real movies, until now. However I don't know what to do because the day I am called for to be an extra is this upcoming Saturday. On Sunday I am going to New Jersey for the day, for a family party. The Thursday of the next week finals in my school start, as well. No that I have all of this going on, my parents are telling me that they do not think it is a good idea for me to do this movie. The movie location is an hour drive from my house, and it films from 8 in the morning until around dinner time. I just don't know what to do, because my parents say that ultimatley it is my deceision, but they don't think it's right with finals coming up, & me not being home all weekend (plus i have drivers ed all this week). I really want to do this though, because I have never had the experience before, and I don't know if an opputunity like it will ever come again! WHAT SHOULD I DO??

I think you should go for it, opportunities like this don't come up a lot. Your mom just may be worried about you. Shes trying to tell you to say no, but it really is your decision, and i think you should do it. Have fun.

Q: Ok, yes I'm the same person that's been writing the rumor questions. My boyfriend isn't coming to school the last few days and I can't get ahold of him on the phone, so I decided I wanted this advice now. Today me and my best friend were walking around the school and we started talking to one of my boyfriend's friends. My friend had her cell phone and said that I should call my b/f. And his friend said, "he's half gay." And we asked how he knew. And he said "cause he told us." Do you think this is reason to believe he is bi? And if it is what should I do? I mean as long as he loves me it doesn't really matter much, but still...it's wierd!

Yeah, i could understand how this could be weird. But never EVER believe rumors until you get to the source. You need to ask him, gently. If he denys it, hes still figuring it out for himself. You just have to be honest and forward. I don't think his not being in school has anything to do with it, but you'll have to ask him that too. Good luck.