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Hi everyone and welcome to my advice column! My name is Jessica. This is me in Barcelona on the top of La Sagrada Familia which is a very famous cathedral designed by Antoni Gaudi.

I found out about Advicenators by mistake on google but I glad I stumbled upon it it because I love helping people, which naturally I use as a Spanish Teacher. If you have a problem and I can relate to it in anyway I will try to answer it to the best of my ability. Never hesitate to ask me a question, I hope I can help!

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well im going out with this guy.
and i have been wanting to DATE him for about 2 years now. and now that i have him ;; im kinda bored b.c when i was wanting him. i always had somthing to do. and now that i have him i feel like there nothing else to want so what can i do now.
the relationship is amazing its just.. you know werid b.c i got everything i wanted and i feel like theres. nothing else to want. and now i dont know what i should do?

You are in danger of falling into a distructive cycle! Stop......and think about what you're feeling. This seems to be the classic case of "the grass is always greener on the other side". Is this the first time you have felt this way? or has this happened with friends, clothes, or any other material things...

What drew you to this guy? What is cool about him? Do you have fun with him?

Start evaluting what you feel in the moment for this guy, fill your time with what you can do with the guy. Also this guy seemed to consume your life before you started going out with him, maybe now that you are with him and he is actually in your life, you could look for something that you really enjoy so you could focus your energy on that. Sometimes when you are in a relationship you need to have something outside the relationship so tha you have something to talk about with your partner.

Good Luck!

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you know that gap commercial that used to be on with sarah jessica parker, when she was singing? the one that goes "when i have a brand new hairdo, with my eyelashes all in curl,somethin somethin somehin etc, i enjoy being a girl" lol
what are the lyrics?

Artist: Lyrics
Song: I Enjoy Being a Girl Lyrics

I'm a girl, and by me that's only great!
I am proud that my silhouette is curvy,
That I walk with a sweet and girlish gait
With my hips kind of swivelly and swervy.

I adore being dressed in something frilly
When my date comes to get me at my place.
Out I go with my Joe or John or Billy,
Like a filly who is ready for the race!

When I have a brand new hairdo
With my eyelashes all in curl,
I float as the clouds on air do,
I enjoy being a girl!

When men say I'm cute and funny
And my teeth aren't teeth, but pearl,
I just lap it up like honey
I enjoy being a girl!

I flip when a fellow sends me flowers,
I drool over dresses made of lace,
I talk on the telephone for hours
With a pound and a half of cream upon my face!

I'm strictly a female female
And my future I hope will be
In the home of a brave and free male
Who'll enjoy being a guy having a girl... like... me.

When men say I'm sweet as candy
As around in a dance we whirl,
It goes to my head like brandy,
I enjoy being a girl!

When someone with eyes that smoulder
Says he loves ev'ry silken curl
That falls on my iv'ry shoulder,
I enjoy being a girl!

When I hear the compliment'ry whistle
That greets my bikini by the sea,
I turn and I glower and I bristle,
But I happy to know the whistle's meant for me!

I'm strictly a female female
And my future I hope will be
In the home of a brave and free male
Who'll enjoy being a guy having a girl... like... me.



-I found this using google, whenever you need a song type in the title or some of the lyris and also type in lyrics and they'll pop up!

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i have a little pot belly nothing big just a little one i have been doing 60 legs lifts a day and everytime i did it i felt the musells in my stomach get tighter.. but the thing is that doing that exercise was making my stomach fatter so i stopped doing them and i realized that my bellly has gotten flatter when i stopped doing them.. i kno that may not sound normal but why did it do that? is there something wrong with me?

hope you can answer my question

I used to dance. In dance class our teacher made us do a variety of stomach exercises. She told us that there was a right way and a wrong way to o every kid of exercise. Stomach exercises in my opinion are the easiest to mess up. In you doing them incorrectly you can actually build your stomach muscle OUT! That means you will have a vey strong pregnant looking stomach. The trick is to concentrate on your belly button. Picture a string pulling your belly button towards your spine (almost like sucking in your belly.) That way your muscle strengthens, but also form in a way that supports your body.

It is very important to make sure that you breath as you do these exercises as well, breath out as you contract your tummy and in when you loosen it.

You should also rest between sets. Don't do 60 in one shot break it up. You'll see better results, because the controlled movement is how you get the results.

Make sure you always research a little before you start something new. You can really hurt yourself or worse give yourself the body you never wanted.
Good Luck!

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My boyfriend lives about an hour and a half away so I stay over there a lot. He won't stay at mine. It really annoys me when my boyfriend goes out all day so I'm stuck at his with nothing to do because I can't get home. The other day we were arguing about it when his mam said to me, "I'm not butting in, but it's give and take in a relationship." What does that saying mean? And what does she mean when she says that? Because to me it seems like I do all the giving by going all that way to see him and he does all the taking by ditching me to do something else, but she was supposedly standing up for her son?

She's right a relationship is give and take.
AND you're right you are giving and he's taking...
He needs to respect you.
Put your foot down. Stop giving!
If he can't give a little, he's not worth it!
Don't go to see him all the time and don't give in, just because you want to see him, if you are sitting all alone at his place it's only going to make you build up resentment. Resentment is a killer on relationships.

Give him a chance to come to you.

Take!

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my bf fingered me (barely)for the first time. he put two fingers in, but it was only like 1 inch. the following day i was bleeding, however i didn't feel any pain. is it still possible he popped my cherry?

Yes

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okay well. i`m 13/f and have never had a boyfriend. i don`t wanna be mean, but even some pretty ugly girls in my grade have boyfriends. and i want one..that i like. i dont just want one because its "cool". i want someone to like me for who i am and such. i dont know ? i guess what i`m asking is how do you think i can get one and find someone who likes me ? i`m athletic, pretty tall, outgoing, skinny, and nice. and i don`t know what else i shoud do ? please give me some advice -- some real advice and if your just going to bad talk, dont even bother..thanks

Ok, first the kind of boyfriend you want won't just show up because you feel ready for a boyfriend. All the qualities you listed about yourself are external qualities... A boyfriend who likes you for you won't show up until you know who you are... You might say well I know who I am... but let's face it there are 50 year olds who still don't fully know who they are...

This is the advice part...
Don't wait for a boy, find out what you love in life... (and I am not talking about boys or clothes or make-up) I'm talking about what in this world makes you excited and want to do good things in this world. This may take years, and it may even change throughout your life. This is the secret nobody tells you: If you focus on something you love doing, that fills your soul everything else falls into place. The boy that you want, the one that loves you for you, will show up and and the best part is that you will be ready for that kind of boy. Trust me you are not ready for that boy until you fully know yourself.

Oh one more secret: The girls who seem to have it all right now (the ones with boyfriends, kissing...and anything else) most probably are caught up in the moment, and in a few years all the boys will be board and over them. In a few years the boys that are worth anything will want someone who is cool enough to actually have a conversation, and who is interesting enough to hold their attention for more than just a few months.

Respect yourself, and other people will...
You will that yourself for following a definite path when you get to be in your twenties and you're sorta kinda confused of what to with your life. You'll be a better person and find better people!
Good Luck!

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so ive tried everything to gain weight and it doesnt work. well i am 5 7 and weigh 100 lbs and on top of that i am 21 years old and recently had a baby. well when i was pregnant i was 108lbs and only went up to 123lbs, after giving birth im back down to 100lbs and i went to the doctor before and after having my baby, and they told me to gain weight id have to eat right. well i always have but no matter how hard i try it doesnt work and i eat like a pig. im really worried b/c i hate the way i look im too skinny id love to be like 120-130 lbs but nothing helps. too when i was pregnant you couldnt even tell i gained weight i was a toothpick with a big belly. so should i go back to the doctor and have them check me out in the hospital or something? please help me, thanks!

People probably tell you that you're lucky all the time! Well, I am one of them, Being thin is a good thing. You probablyhave an amazing metabolism. Don't eat junk though, it won't make you fat, it'll just ake you unhealthy. Try building muscle. Muscle burns fat, but it also adds weight and can make you go from feeling scrawny to feeling powerful... Good Luck!

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Hi..I'm getting married in August and I was wondering if anyone knows any dvd's that are great exercising videos..i will rate high!

Definitely:
Winsor pilates - I swear it works the first time you use it. Make sure it's the Winsor one.
AND
Carmen Electra's Strip Tease- it's fun and it's not cheesy and you may find it useful, Congrats!

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all of my best friends have boyfriends and theyre always so busy with them that i get left out of everything. theyve stopped being such good friends we dont really talk much and when i do they dont listen. its really stressful and i dunno im not jealous of them im happy they have someone but shouldnt they still care about me? they dont know what its like to be in my situation and when i try to explain it to them they just shut me out. what do i do?

It sucks being the one on the outside!
I know because I've been there, but I have also been the one with the boyfriend...
I don't know where you are in life I just know that the best thing to do in a situation like this is to stop and reflect on yourself, ask yourself: Would I act like them if I were put into the same position? If you've never had a boyfriend then REMEMBER this feeling that you have. That way at least you can try not to act the way your friends are acting in the future.

Just know that trying to talk about the way your feeling with them won't get you anywhere, it will only make you hurt more, feel isolated, and break away from your friends. The will feel bad for you and also look at you as a D-O-W-N-E-R. (Nobody wants to be orbe around a downer.) They can't relate to how you feel becaus ethey don't feel the way you do, and lets face it when you're in the same situation you won't be able to relate 100% to someone with no boyfriend either.

The best thing you can do for yourself and your friendship is:
1. Hang out with and make new friends
(I am not saying ditch your other friends, but take this as an opportunity to add new ones.)
2. Try not to be negative when you are around the friend with boyfriends (because that will come back to you the day you get a boyfriend)
3. Fight the jealousy (it makes people say and do crazy things)
You can't put the blame on other people, your day will come, but don't wait for it...have fun in the process and difficult as that might be.
You are your own best friend, if you can't be no one will! Good Luck!

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