I have a lot of life experience and a background in education and some counselling. The following are quotes from friends and family regarding advice I have given them in the past:
"You are so direct and to the point but not harsh."
"You have a lot of wisdom."
"You always know how to cut right to the heart of the matter."
I believe that I tell it like it is but I am also senstive to other's feelings and I am able to see things from various perspectives. Hopefully, I can help you too.
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Does anyone know of any good bands/song I can put on my iPOD? I'm getting tired of all the bands I have. I'm mostly into indie/rock/acoustic/some ska/oldies.
I like Death Cab, The Postal Service, The Audition, The Higher, Panic!, Further Seems Forever, Dashboard Confessional, Hidden in Plain View, Taking Back Sunday etc. Preferably bands that you know and that aren't on the radio. (link)
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Here are some of my favorites:
Snow Patrol (Irish)
Idlewild (Scottish)
Liz Phair (her older stuff from the early 90s, albums: Exile In Guyville and Whip Smart)
The Flaming Lips
Limb Lifter or Age of Electric (the latter is a spliter band; both bands are no longer in exsitence)
Teagen and Sara
The Kaiser Cheifs
The Bravery
Kathlene Edwards
She Wants Revenge
Eagles of Death Metal
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I am Thai. 24 years old. Male.
I have been talking to this girl for about 2 months. We have a lot in common and seems like she enjoys talking to me as she laughs at my joke (she sais I am so funny). she always tells me about her stuffs like her works, friends,ect. Most of the times I am the one who call her for a talk almost everyday (I also text to her everyday). She calls me sometimes, but, recently, she asked me like: "why didn't you call me yesterday?" or "Why you call me so late? I'm waiting". I went out with her 2 times within last 2 weeks. Both times were great (just as I thought). I will go out with her again on next week. Today, this morning, she texted to me like: "Thanks for everything you have done for me and for good feelings you have been given to me". These are what happening now.
Let me take you back to 8 months earlier. I met her and I called her just like what I'm doing now. At the time she had boyfriend(s). She talked to me nicely and also with another guys. I think that time she was really flirting to me without thinking of any serious relationship. I asked her to go out several time, but she did not. After I paused talking to her for 5 months, she called me and told me that she broke up with her boyfriend. Thereafter, I have been talking to her again since then.
My questions are:
1) Does she really like me this time or just flirt to me again?
2) What does the SMS mean(Thank you for...)? It sounds like she wants to break up our relationship to me. It really bothers me.
Please advice me. I appreciate for all suggestions. Thanks. (link)
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Dear Thai,
It sounds to me like it is very possible she is interested in you. However, it also sounds like she may not know her own mind. Perhaps she enjoys the attention of several guys and is too immature for a real relationship at this time.
If it is an exclusive relationship you are wanting with her, I suggest that you clearly tell her that and ask her what exactly she is wanting from you. It may sound scary to be so blunt as it puts you in a vulnerable position but right now you are putting yourself in an even more vulnerable position. If you believe that she is not interested in you at this time anyway, then you really have nothing to lose by making your intentions known to her and asking to clarify hers. If she says that she does not want what you are looking for or if she waffles then I would recommend cutting your losses and looking for someone who wants what you want. I wish you all the best in this; I know how painful these things can be.
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I'm pretty clueless when it comes to guys; so I thought I would ask a question for the guys (or girls) to answer.
If you were married (or in a serious relationship)but not happy; and you had a close friend who you were attracted to and had feelings for; would you be ticked off if that person told you she would never sleep with you as long as you were married? I'm asking because recently this has happened to me. I told one of my close male friends (that I had known for 4 years) that I would never have an affair with him while he were married but I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me. (link)
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First of all - good for you and thank-you! There are too many women out there who have lowered their standards to the point of having relationships with married men. Be proud that you are not going to be one of those women. Let's face it - if every women turned these men down, there would be nobody for them to use. But, sadly this fellow you know will go on to find a women who doesn't value herself as much as you do.
When it comes to deciding if you actually want to enter into any kind of a relatioship with a married man, I believe single women should look at it this way: It is actually an insult to the women for a married man to think that she would actually be desperate enough to stoop to a relationship with someone who belongs to someone else. I think the best thing is for you to have nothing to do with this creep. Is that really the kind of person you want as a "friend" anyway? Shouldn't our friends have qualities that we admire and respect? I think you dodged a close one there.
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Ok, so on new years eve me and my then friend got really drunk and my mom didn't find out until about a month ago. Well she has to go away for the 4th of july weekend and she's like you better work that weekend (what she means is you better not hang out with your friends while i'm gone!) I already said it was a stupid mistake that will never happen again! I need her trust back...and i know this sounds like i don't care or whatever but i still want to party. I mean i'm in high school i want to have the expiriance (sp?)Ok i need her trust back! (link)
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The way I see it, your Mom must already have a fair amount of trust in you because she has decided to leave you alone for another weekend. Otherwise, frankly it is her responsibilty not to leave you on your own if she is concerned that you can not be trusted. Does this mean that you can therefore go ahead and party like crazy while she is away? Well, yes - that would be your choice to do so. But, if you do so, the consequence will be that you will be even further behind in the trust game with her. The choice is yours.
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Is there anyway my boyfriend can control himself while having sex? Like make himself last longer? (link)
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Tantric sex (you know, the thing that Sting is in to) can offer some solutions on sex lasting longer. The trick is actually in the breathing. Using proper breathing techniques can actually prolong and intensify orgasms for both men and women. There are many books on the topic - or, check the internet. Have fun!
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okay, i've been thinking about this a lot lately and there is a quote about good things coming to an end or something. what is the real quote?
is it 'all good things come to an end'?
'all good things end sometime'
help.
thanks. (link)
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I believe the quote goes: "All good things must come to an end."
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one of my best friends (brylie) is convinced shes in love with this guy. hes rude && controlling... he always her friends we need to give them "more space" when in reality - they have all the "space" in the world. he wants them to be left alone at parties && such. and we've been doing that. he's not really that rude to brylie, he's extremely pushy towards me && the rest of her friends. she's constantly blowing us off for him && making us feel unwanted and unneeded. what can we do?
thanks. ((i'll deff rate you if the advice is good)) =]
&hearts always. (link)
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Sadly, this is usually a situation where you as the friend have little or no control. His behaviour sounds like it has the potential to bocome abusive. Abusers usually start off with behaviour that "appears" fairly harmeless, ie. being controlling and demanding that she see her friends less. However, it will almost always lead to scarier behaviour such as physical abuse.
I recommend that you sit your friend down and lovingly share your concerns with her, explaining that your are worried about her well-being. Perhaps, show her this email. You may want to suggest that she read a book on the subject, such as "Women Who Love Too Much" by Nancy Friday.
I would have this conversation only once then it is up to her to make her own decission about the relationship. Otherwise, you will only end up driving yourself crazy because you can't make up another's mind for them. It is very likely that she will continue to distance herself from her friends, which is ultimately her choice. He clearly already has his hooks in pretty deep. Sadly, when a women decides to stay in a relationship because she "loves" him and she beleives she can change him (yeah, right), not even close friends can seperate that unhealthy tie. This means that you will probably loose your friend to him for a while but when it is over, she will return to her friends again and hopefully with new wisdom about relationships.
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alot of people say that fingering feels good.. but whenever i or someone else does that to me ..it doesnt feel good.. is there something wrong with me ? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you; sex is a very individual thing. What might feel good for one person may do nothing for another. One of the reasons that fingering often does not feel good for women is because simply inserting a finger "up there" and moving it around doesn't necessarily stimulate things properly. It can even feel uncomfortable. Truthfully, young men need proper instruction on how to do this. When done properly, fingering can actually stimulte the g-spot and bring on tremendous orgasms. However, this typically takes much practice and some women report to never have discovered their g-spot (but many do). If you would like to learn more about this, I would recommend reading up on the g-spot; there are many good books on the subject.
I also strongly recommend that you buy a small vibrator that you can insert in you and experiment on your own first. Then, you will be able to explain to your partner how you like it. Or, you can experiment with your own fingers but sometimes it is easier to use something else when inserting inside of you. Good luck and have fun!
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