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Life is confusing and mistakes are only a part of human nature, no one is perfect and sometimes the right answer isnt always clear...but, when you find knowledge and understanding, its what you do with it that defines your character and who you are as a person.For myself, Ive made a lot of choices in my life, good and bad. Yet, the experiences and the lessons that have come from them have taught me to be who I am today, and without the bad times or wrong choices, I wouldn't be the person I am today or know the things I do. Pain and suffering Is something life gives you because it brings out the strength in your character and shows you what you're made of.
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i just got my belly button pierced!
it is summer time and i got the cutest bathing suit.
i want to go swimming but my mom doesn't know about the piercing.
what do i do?
i would like to wear the bathing suit but my mom will see it. if i wear a tank top in the pool, the belly ring will show when i get wet.
what do i do?
Unless you don't expose it if she's there, thats the only way you'll keep her from knowing. However, not to burst your cute suit excitement but if you just got your belly pierced recently then they usually recomend that you do not go swimming because it needs time to heal or else it may get infected. I had mine pierced and then went to visit my family at the beach and couldn't even swim, it really sucked. YOur not even supposed to have bathes only showers for a certain amount of time. Anyway, be careful not to catch your piercing on anything because it really can hurt so be careful:)
ok i have this boyfriend.. he is really great. but my ex boyfriend is back in my life.. i cant chose who i want to be with. one has a problem....a bad illegal problem and the other is weird.. wat do i do!?
It sounds like both aren't really the best choice for you or what you want in a guy. From experience, I can tell you that dating guys with illegal problems can be just as difficult as dating wierd ones. For instance, it sucks if they go to jail (for however amount of time) and then what about you? Its not fun waiting around for someone who cant give you what you need (love and companionship) when theyre locked up. Its also very lonely and while other guys want to get with you (if you're a good girlfriend at least) you will have to turn them down to be with an invisible man (or at least thats how it feels). I mean all you have is letters and if you're not above 18 then you cant even visit them. If you are, its not like you see them everyday anyway, visits are limited and long distance relationships are hard to keep especially when you're young. If you truly love him, then Im not saying dont be with him, but if youre not sure if you even love him dont even waste your time because its not worth it. Be his friend until hes legit. It also doesnt help if you dont agree with what hes doing or find it morally wrong and no justification in it. The worst thing though, is yes while you are young, its all good and dating guys who are into illegal stuff doesnt really matter too much at the moment because youre not yet worrying about real life. The only responsibility you have at that time is mainly school and thats if you even go. Nonetheless, I dont want to be a hypocrit because practically up to 18 (thats when I got serious about life and the consequences that it can have) I was independently doing my own illegal activities (not prostitution if that was what you were thinking:0) as well because I was really poor and saw easy money, but it didn't mean I was a bad person at heart even though some of things I did were bad. But, I can honestly say Im the nicest most honest person now and what I did in the past does not make me who I am now. So, I did change and now Im in college and working legitimitely so I can make a lot of money in the future legitimately. So, there is an opportunity (if your ex is smart) that he will change too. HOwever, if he doesnt it sucks because past 18, your ex is only looking at jail time at some point, death, or turning legitimate but with no schooling he is going to be making minimum wage if he can even get a job with his record. I was lucky because I straightened up before 18 (mostly) and my record was erased. Now Im free and clear but who knows if that will be the case for your ex. I know many guys that used to have a lot of money and power, be into their bussiness (if you know what I mean) and now theyre either dead, or working minimum wage, in jail, or continuing what theyre doing but in the end it all catches up with you. SO, my point is, do you really want that? A boyfriend in the future that Your going to most likely have to support and be the bread winner, or do you want someone who is just as successful as you will be and can take care of himself. Its harder when you get older becuase now you have bills to pay, and an idea of a life that you want to have and if he is holding you back from that, chances are your relationship is going to go down hill. The only way he could be successful if he continues on with what he is doing with his own life is to save his (illegal money) and if he doesnt get caught in time then he should open a business in something he is interested in and would profit from legitimately but that might not be an option for him so unless he goes back to school, he's not going anywhere in life. Now, on the other hand, if you think your boyfriend that you have now is wierd, then youre keeping yourself from finding a true companion and love because you can't truly love someone you think is wierd. You should ask yourself in both cases, if you could picture yourself marrying them, if the answer is no or you struggle with the idea, then you're really wasting your time with useless guys when the man of your dreams is waiting for you to find him out there somewhere. DONT WASTE YOUR TIME. They obviously both dont have enough value in your life and as a love if you cant decide between them...well, If you were really in love there would be no question who you want and there also would be no option for any other to be in the picture, the one that you truly love is going to be the one that your heart truly wants to be with...and if you dont love both of them...then find someone you do love and are content with in every way possible:) Sorry so long, i tend to talk a lot:) but I hope I helped your situation and I know words are easier to say than do and its always hard leaving the familiar and finding the unknown, but if the familiar isnt making you happy, the unknown is always worth it and is so much better in the long run. Good luck!
i apologize in advance for the length.
i'm 17/f. i don't like drinking. i don't find a point in it. my mom and my sister drink all of the time. it makes them do ridiculously stupid things; typical when you are drunk. my mom has done things like walked into doors, broken valuable things of hers, fallen down the stairs with my cat in her hand, and so on and so forth. my sister is only 19, and she drinks almost every night out of the week. her and her boyfriend broke up over her heavy alcohol use. now, my boyfriend is starting to become a big alcohol user. when i try saying something to them, they say i'm preaching to them, or i'm making everyone mad by preaching to them. what can i say? i'm so sick of everyone telling me i'm preaching to them. i don't like the people they are when they are drinking, and either is my dad. my dad's not even talking to my mom anymore. i need advice on what to say. i don't want to cry about the way things are around my house anymore. any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks :)
Youre certainly in a tough spot because dealing with alcholism in your family can be very stressful to yourself. Alcholism can run in the family (genetics) and makes it harder to control (your sister for example.)Yes, alcoholism is a disease. The craving that an alcoholic feels for alcohol can be as strong as the need for food or water. An alcoholic will continue to drink despite serious family, health, or legal problems. You are absolutely the smartest one for not touching it because it sounds like it runs in your family through your mom and if you were to start, chances are it would probablly be more difficult for you to stop than for most people. It definitely however, is hard to deal with when your family is suffering from this disease (and make no mistake, it IS A DISEASE) Its an addiction, just like any other drug and most people need help to stop or need to recognize that they have a problem in order to want to stop. The hardest thing though, is that alcoholics wont admit to being an alcoholic and will most likely become defensive when you bring it up to them (like when they say youre preaching) Really, you are right to be concerned for their health and safety because there are different levels of drinkers. SOcial drinkers who at social events may have one or two drinks. Then there are heavy drinkers that at social events or occassionally have more than two drinks and usually drink till their drunk. Then there are chronic drunks who drink excessively (like every day or other day) and then the ultimate alcoholic is when they start planning their days around drinking or trying to hide drinking or alcohol from their family and friends to make their problem appear less than it is. But, alcohol at these levels (chronic alcoholism) can be dangerous and jeapordize the health of your loved ones like damage to the liver, brain, and other organs. It can cause birth defects, increase the risk of death from car crashes and other injuries as well as the risk of homicide and suicide. Speaking from experience, my dad was a bit of an alcoholic and it made his emotions more intense and held him from dealing with them properly or effectively that it made him see there was no way out when there really was, he ended up taking his life. Now this is not to scare you, but it is to let you know that they do need help and they're not going to admit they have a problem right away, so despite them saying youre preaching, let them know its out of love for them and their health, they shouldn't be so selfish because you need them to be there for you and they can't do that when theyre drunk all the time. So, Asking your loved ones the following four questions can help you find out if your loved one has a drinking problem:
Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking?
Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking?
Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking?
Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover?
One "yes" answer suggests a possible alcohol problem. More than one "yes" answer means it is highly likely that a problem exists. If an alcoholic is unwilling to get help, what can you do about it?
This can be a challenge. An alcoholic can't be forced to get help except under certain circumstances. But you don't have to wait for someone to "hit rock bottom" to act. Many alcoholism treatment specialists suggest the following steps to help an alcoholic get treatment:
Stop all "cover ups." Family members often make excuses to others or try to protect the alcoholic from the results of his or her drinking. It is important to stop covering for the alcoholic so that he or she experiences the full consequences of drinking.
Time your intervention. The best time to talk to the drinker is shortly after an alcohol-related problem has occurred--like a serious family argument or an accident. Choose a time when he or she is sober, both of you are fairly calm, and you have a chance to talk in private.
Be specific. Tell the family member that you are worried about his or her drinking. Use examples of the ways in which the drinking has caused problems, including the most recent incident.
State the results. Explain to the drinker what you will do if he or she doesn't go for help--not to punish the drinker, but to protect yourself from his or her problems. What you say may range from refusing to go with the person to any social activity where alcohol will be served, to moving out of the house. Do not make any threats you are not prepared to carry out.
Get help. Gather information in advance about treatment options in your community. If the person is willing to get help, call immediately for an appointment with a treatment counselor. Offer to go with the family member on the first visit to a treatment program and/or an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.
Call on a friend. If the family member still refuses to get help, ask a friend to talk with him or her using the steps just described. A friend who is a recovering alcoholic may be particularly persuasive, but any person who is caring and nonjudgmental may help. The intervention of more than one person, more than one time, is often necessary to coax an alcoholic to seek help.
Find strength in numbers. With the help of a health care professional, some families join with other relatives and friends to confront an alcoholic as a group. This approach should only be tried under the guidance of a health care professional who is experienced in this kind of group intervention.
Get support. It is important to remember that you are not alone. Support groups offered in most communities include Al-Anon, which holds regular meetings for spouses and other significant adults in an alcoholic's life, and Alateen, which is geared to children of alcoholics. These groups help family members understand that they are not responsible for an alcoholic's drinking and that they need to take steps to take care of themselves, regardless of whether the alcoholic family member chooses to get help.
You can call the National Drug and Alcohol Treatment Referral Routing Service (Center for Substance Abuse Treatment) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) for information about treatment programs in your local community and to speak to someone about an alcohol problem. This information comes from the site medicine plus. There is lots of sites as well you can look up to help you with what you're going through. I wish you the best of luck, and just remember its not who they are, its who the alcohol is making them be. SO, just know that you are doing what any caring and loving daughter, sister, and girlfriend would do:) Dont cry anymore, and sometimes it helps to talk about it with a friend or someone close so you dont keep any emotions bottled up inside of you or take the pressure of their addiction on you. I wish you the best of luck and hope this helped:)
I got my dog, Angel, spayed and I picked her up from the vet today. Does anyone have any tips on how to care for her and how to get her to stop licking her stitches? THANK YOU!
I have two large dogs of my own (one male and one female) You shouldn't let them lick their stitches because it can become infected and if they lick it too much the fur will not grow back in those areas. The best thing to do is to get a cone for her head so she cant lick it, or just keep a close eye on her and every time she attempts to lick it just comfort her and push her head away. The first couple days are the hardest but eventually she'll start to forget about it and get back to her regular self. I know when my rotti (girl) was spayed at the same time she also got her tail cut (because if you don't its too much weight on her back and bad for her joints) but it was so hard because she would lye their crying and all I could do was lye their with her and console her but seeing her in pain broke my heart) Anywho, that's beside the point, i just love to talk about dogs. Im not sure how big your dog is but another thing you could do is if you have a bandana, fold it like a diamond and tie it around her waist with the nought on the top of her body so that the bandand will kind of cover that area but is not tight on her tummy or place that she has the stiches but it still covers it making it more difficult for her to get at her stitches. Do not have it tied around her stitches, just above the area (rib area) so its only hanging over that area but there is no pressure on it. Good luck with you baby and im sure shell forget about this whole thing in no time:)
This morning i woke up and i coudln't breathe through my nose.
After i took a shower it got a little better.
When i was at school it was fine, too.
But now that i'm home, I can't breathe in through my nose easily. I've tried blowing my nose, but absolutely nothing is in my nasal passages.
And now i can smell blood.
Help!?
Is there anything i can do BESIDES go to the doctor?
Its probablly most likely allergies your suffering, there are lots of allergies medicines that you can get like clariton and so on. The one I find the best that really works, is Dristan, which clears your nose for 24 hours so you can breathe away. You can buy it at a drug store (pharmacy) It wont solve the problem of what's making you so stuffy but it will make you breathe once again. The only thing is its one of those bottles you put to your nose and then squeeze and sniff at the same time but because you do that it goes straight through your nasal passage and to your throat where you can taste a little bit (and it doesnt taste great) but it does the job because there is nothing worse in my opinion than not being able to breathe:)
I had a kanker sore on my tongue today and I know it was just that, but then I didn't think about it and gave my boyfriend oral can he get the kanker sore down there?
nope, canker sores are not contagious, theyre just rather annoying. What is contagious is cold sores (a type of herpes) and if you had one of those make sure not to kiss anyone anywhere. But, canker sores are just things that come up and go away on their own. Dr's dont know the cause of them but, you can get prescriptions to help them go away. Girls usually in their teens and 20's get them more often than anyone else (sh!tty deal if you ask me) They are thought to be caused by a number of things (but not known for sure) like stress, allergies, menstrual period, etc. But, not to worry, your boyfriends safe:)
My cat keeps killing animals. Today it was a baby rabbit. How can I stop him from killing animals? (without making him an indoors cat, which is impossible because he'll go crazy.)
You cant really. Its in their nature and instinct to kill and hunt. Its sad and not a nice picture to see, but, its what they do. Although their cute and cuddly, theyre still animals and will have natural instincts that make them do what they do. Sometimes, if you have a bunny rabbit or something like that as a pet and you get your kitty and the kitty grows up with the bunny, then he wont give in to his instincts but will more look at the bunny as part of your family, but their instincts are that of a wild cat and you can never truly be sure. You cant stop loving your cat because of this because it comes naturally to them and they don't know any better. Its just part of nature. I know how you feel though because im such an animal lover (i have dogs and cats) that when my cat would catch something, even a mouse, my heart would break, or if a bunny came into our yard and my cat started to creep in hunting position, I would scream and run to let the poor bunny know that it wasnt safe, but in the end, you just have to accept that theyre going to give in to their instincts no matter what so just try to look the other way if you can (especially when he/she brings you presents at the door step for you (if you know what i mean:))
Today was my first day driving to work (I'm 16)..and I parked in an underground garage..when I was ready to go, I was backing out, but it was so dark, I didn't see the pole! I backed into the pole..I haven't had my license for more than 6 months! The dent it left is the size of a pole vertically going about 2 or 3 feet until my license plate (I have an mini SUV)..My mom is so mad and my dad doesn't know yet and my mom says not to tell him. Can you please help me estimate the cost to repair this dent? We are so poor right now, I'm so scared. :(
Ouch. That's the expensive part about driving. I know what Im going to say isnt going to make it better and Im sorry for that. But, cars can be costly especially if you damage them and even the littlest of a dent can be close to 1000$ minimum. Of course, i cant give you an exact estimate without seeing the damage personally but by the way it sounds, the least youre going to have to pay is 1000$ If its just on the bumper, youre probablly still going to need to replace the whole bumber, yet if it went to the body of your car, above your bumper, thats probablly going to cost more. But, you're most likely going to have to pay more than $1000. We all have at least one little bump in the beginning when we first start driving (usually within the first year even two) that's why it super important to triple check everything, because its better to be over cautious than be in this sh!tty position. Believe me, i know from experience:) If you're on the insurance then the insurance will take care of it, yet, the negative part about that is that your insurance will go up in the long run and that can be costly. If its just a little damage that can be repaired in time, but, your van is still ok to drive, you should just live with the dent until you are able to afford to have it fixed that way you don't have to go through insurance. Whatever way you go, the best thing to do is to take it in to three different auto repair places and let them give you an estimate of the damage so you know what potential costs you are looking at. Then bring it to your father with your mother and LET HIM KNOW about it so you can fix this problem as a family. Its better not to keep secrets so he doesn't feel left out or deceived. YOu wouldn't want a secret over something like this to tear your family apart because you werent open with eachother. Although he probablly is going to be mad, in time hell realize that money is money, and his love for you will always be. I know that is a hard thing to say when you dont have much money to begin with (I would know) but in the end, having eachother alive, healthy, and happy is way more important than a piece of metal (car). In the meantime, keep your spirits up and know that these things happen and take a lesson out of it. Your parents will only be mad for a little bit so all you can do is grin and bear it. Maybe if youre not working you could offer to help by getting a part time job if things are tight, at least that will show them you are trying to be responsible and fix your mistake. Just remember, it happens to everyone and dont let it get you down, Good luck!
25/F
I apologize in advance for the length of my question. Now... Where do I begin?
I suppose the beginning would be a good place, wouldn't it? Really this all started when I was about 14. Around that time I became very ill and my parents withdrew me from the public school system. I became isolated with only my co-dependent mother and neglegent step-father to keep me company. A social anxiety disorder and depression were the result. That compounded with other issues (an estranged father, past sexual abuse, and extremely low self-esteem) caused my depression to drag me into what I refer to as the "screaming void." I cried myself to sleep every night and thought a lot about death when I was awake.
Around the age of sixteen I initiated a raging war with my own, then severe, depression. I won't bore you with the details. To make a long story short I finally made peace with myself. I am proud to say that I have grown into an emotionally and physically healthy young woman, capable of caring for herself. I'm independent and stable in every aspect of my life... And I have so many reasons to be grateful. My health, loving family and friends, a healthy, loving relationship with my long-term significant other, a decent career with decent benefits and pay, a nice, safe place to live... I have everything I could possibly need...
However... My depression never really "went away." Even during some of the happiest periods of my life it would crop up in one form or another and try to turn my life upside down again. I've managed to keep myself from being dragged into that screaming void but...
Recently, I've felt myself being pulled in that direction again. I know the warning signs. My all ready unusual sleeping habits are becoming even more erratic and I'm always tired. I eat when I'm not hungry. I'm bored with my life and beginning to wonder if it's pointless despite the fact that I know it isn't. I'm not motivated. Difficulty concentrating... Generally feeling over-whelmed, inadequate, etc.
Usually, there is some situation that triggers this behavior. The only thing that I can think of... My career. About nine months ago I was promoted to a management position and sent to a "trouble store" with the mission of cleaning up the mess. It was stressful from the day that I walked in the door to the day I walked out. I ended up quitting and finding another job... During interviews, when asked why I was leaving a company I that I had worked for five years, I implied that the company was going down the proverbial shit-hole and wouldn't be in business much longer. While that wasn't a lie, the real reason I was leaving was that my management staff wasn't supportive... And I was miserable. This was when the warning signs started popping up and finding a new job was the only solution I could find to the problem.
On Memorial Day I started my new job. It's only been a week and I'm all ready feeling bored, inadequate, and generally unmotivated. A part of me says to hang in there, that this is going to pass and things will get better... Another part of me says that maybe I should think about a career change. But I can't think of anything that I WANT to do... And I can't afford to support myself and go back to college.
I'd enjoy being self-employed... Or doing something creative like writing childrens books and novels. But those just don't seem like possible options right now.
I've also thought about asking my doctor about anti-depressants. The reason I haven't is because I know that finding an anti-depressant that works is like riding a roller-coaster. And I've been on that roller-coaster before.
Any ideas? Thoughts? Suggestions?
Thank you in advance. ;)
Well, you sound like you're already on the right track you're just going through a hard time and when you suffer from depression, hard times seem to bring back all of everything, not just the tiny thing that upset you in the first place. I used to suffer from depression too, was suicidal in my teen years, and dealt with losses and other really hard situations as well. I am similar to you in the way that I found my strength in myself, yet, it is always an ongoing battle to not let things get me down. But, most people dont understand that depression is really a tough battle because it always lingers deep in your soul and sometimes smiles on the outside are not a reflection of the inside. Anti-depressants which are the medical anti dote only make you feel happier, yet, they dont resolve the reasons behind why you feel that way. With that being said, most people wouldn't understand how strong of a person you really are to overcome and be able to find happiness even with these negative impediments. The only thing that is left however, is to maintain that strength of character you have and the strength you have in yourself to live. The only way to find happiness, is to cutt out whatever the negative things are in your life that is making you unhappy. In this case, if you find it is your job, then don't continue with it. ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE AND IF YOU WANT IT THEN YOU CAN ACHEIVE IT. Nothings easy to come by, especially happiness. If you think that writing childrens stories is the job that will make you happy then you should pursue it. There are always ways you can do this you just have to motivate yourself and believe that you can. The sooner you make that choice, the faster happiness will come to you. Happiness can be all around you, you just have to find it. In times where you feel sad and overcome, you have to start looking at the things you are blessed with in your life and know that it could always be much worse than it is. Even look at the simple things you have like (the ability to move, see, hear, etc) Make sure that you don't forget to enjoy life and do the things that make you happy as well. If your life starts to become too busy with work (especially if you're not happy with your job) or other things that make you unhappy rather than what makes you happy, then chances are youre going to be unhappy and fall into a place you don't want to be in...which I think you already see yourself heading. SO, stay positive, cut out the bad things in your life, and just know life's not easy but it is what you make of it, so do the best you can and focus on the things that give your life meaning:)
If life was so easy then wht else could i ask for...here's my story...my dad died when i was 3 years old....my mom married this other guy...and after which it so happened that i was the non exiting daughter.....my mom dint love me at all coz then she has two more children with this new guy...now i am married to this guy i loved he was rich famous and everything you can ask for....but now there are some problems, coz his family did not accept...me i left my mom coz of this guy and now i facing critising from everyone ....wht do i do...who do i talk with ...cant go back to my mom coz now i think she hates me...every one hates me....they just want to change me. Why any one does not accept me the way i am.??
First off, accept yourself for who you are! Life is never perfect and you dont always get perfect people as your family. However, although it is a hard hand to play, you were dealt it for a reason because youre a strong enough person to take it (and although it may seem unfair, In the bigger picture, it was given to you so that you could learn a certain lesson in life) I as well lost my dad when I was young from suicide, although my experience is not the same as yours, i do understand that losing one and then the life that follows is very difficult. Your mom does love you but she is probablly unaware of how you feel about the way she treats you in comparison to the rest (her other kids) Its hard because you expect them to know better but some people just aren't as conscious or aware of others and their feelings even if to us, we think it should come naturally to them) We all weren't given perfect parents to some degree and its hard when you are more consciously aware of the right thing to do than your own mom. Even with your problems between you too, it never hurts to be the bigger person (although sometimes you don't want to) but knowing you were will give you peace of mind. Life could end tomorrow so make sure you fix what needs to be fixed and say what needs to be said, so in the end, you will be content with your actions. I believe time is never too late to mend a relationship especially when its your mom. She may not be perfect, but in this life our family is the only most permanent thing we have and although you cant force their actions you can at least let it be known to your mom that her actions and behaviour have affected you in a negative way. You should get this out so you have no regrets in the future of the relationship that was lost between you and your mom. I guarantee you she does love you but she just needs to know how she is making you feel so she can make a change and improve your mother/daughter relationship. If she doesnt, dont be discouraged because then that is her mistake and she'll know this eventually. Meanwhile, you're still not alone and there is lots of love and a meaningful life for you to discover. Now, if this guy truly loves you then he will not leave your side even if his family dissaproves. First off however, you deserve to know why they don't approve of you and especially if it's for superficial reasons than he should stay with you no matter what. If he doesn't then he wasnt the one for you and that man of your dreams is still out there waiting to make you happy, so, don't let this get you down because time heals and happiness waits for when you are able to discover it again. If he is staying with you and loves you but its JUST his family that is having a hard time accepting you, then the only one who really matters is your husband and the love he has for you. No one else should matter. The family's issues should resolve in time once they see how happy you make their son and that your love is really true love. But like I said, you deserve to know why they don't like you and should try to make it work with his family and if they don't come to see what a wonderful girl you are then that's their loss. You did all you can do, and in the end you were the person with integrity and strength when all others have sank below your level. Moreover, you are who you are and you shouldn't change anything (that is if youre a good person at heart... If you did something wrong then certainly you should change the element where you went wrong but that's beside the point.) Many times, you may think its too late or people hate you when its not the truth, so don't come to believe what you dont know as a fact. SO, continue to act with integrity and try to fix what relationships are broken and if you find they are unfixable then go get yourself something new in your life that will make you happy. Love is never hard to find, you just have to be patient and look for it when it comes. MOst important thing to remember, is love yourself!
ok.
so i'm 5'7
and a 15 year old female.
and I weight 123 pounds.
but I feel kinda chubby around my stomch/thighs.
am i under/over weight?
and if so, what is the normal range
for my height/age?
thnks
YOu're not underweight or overweight, you are just right, many girls no matter what size have a little chub, but thats why all you have to do is tone your body. What I mean is give your body definition and do stomach excersizes to tighten it up so you see muscle instead of chub. Certain stomach excersizes i do to get definition are lye on my back with hands/arms to your sides and put your legs straight and together then lift them off the ground up and down without putting them back on the ground. If you want to increase the excersize and work out more stomach muscles at once you should lift your shoulders off the ground at the same time as your legs (v shape) this will work out your inside stomach muscles and lower stomach muscles (where that pouch is for most girls) to get your love handles you lye on your back but put your legs together as if you're sitting on an invisible chair, put your finger tips to your neck and then bring your knee up and elbow forward and touch the opposite two together and then alternate (left knee right elbow, right knee left elbow) Then to work out your outter stomach muscles, just do normal crunches. For the legs, I don't know as many because I play soccer and my legs are quite muscular but one that slims down is the standard one where you lye on your side and just lift your leg up and down, running is excellent way or (jogging) to tone your legs but If you want more ways, what really works well is Pilates, you can buy a video or even look it up on google for certain excersices that will suit the areas on your body you're looking for. I hope this helped and a little chub does not mean your fat!:)
if you deposit money through the green machine, how many days or how long do you have to wait until you can spend with debit card? some say it takes a day and some say it takes 5 days!! please help! thanks~
from my experience with td, whenever I deposit money in the bank machine I have access to it right away (keeping within the limit you have on your account for spending each day) other than that my money is good to be used, however, if you are depositing a check, it usually takes five business days or if its a international check it can take really long (up to 15 days) but your money should be available to you right away and if it's not you should talk to the bank and see why you don't have access to your money right away.
so
i like this girl a lot
i've only known her for a few days
and never actually met her
but i've talked to her alot
like...6 or 7 hours collectively yesterday
and so i'm gonna actually meet her next week
and i already think she likes me
but how can i...ya kno..."put the moves" on her, as the guys at school say?
she seems really nice and so i wanna try and get more than a friend out of her...any advice?
Feel it out first, dont meet her and then right away try to put the moves on her, that can be a turn off to girls because they want you to get to know them first or else they're going to think you only want one thing, sex. So, the best way is to be sweet, and if you see that she's feeling you then start to get a little more bold like more body contact, little things like putting your hand on her back while you're walking with her, be slick and slip in a compliment but dont just say it out of no where, Its hard to really say what moves to do because you have to develop your own game and play it smoothe when the circumstances are right. You'll know when theyre right and if she's into you then she'll be flirty towards you and then that's where you slowly progress until the time is right and you can give her a kiss or become more intimate (hugging, etc). Whatever feels right to you, just dont go overboard to fast thats the most important thing. Hope that helps and if she likes you then things will fall into place on their own.
is my dick big enough for female liking?
i got hard and measured and its a little less than 6 inches
is that good?
Each girl's pleasure threshold is different and what's good for some isn't for others. It also matters if she's loose or if she's tight. Or, if she's a smaller girl, she's not going to need an enormous one. Some guys can be too big that its not good because it hurts too much for a girl to even have sex with them. Medium size can be a good thing. But, what pleasures a girl, matters on what girl you're pleasuring. Its not all about size, it's also about how you use your tool and the motion (rythym) and positions that you have to offer. And, make sure you have foreplay because the more the better. The ultimate most important thing is whether or not you are able to get her off or if she even enjoyed it. But, you got what you have and it cant be changed so use it to the best of you're ability and make do with what you got:p
I love this guy. He is my world, hes my best friend and we've known each other forever. He knows how to make me happy and can always tell when there is something wrong. He goes after the guys at school who talk about me, and stands up for me. He knows that i give in easily and he knows how to hurt me. the thing is...He says he loves me, but i dont know if he does. He flirts A LOT. but he always hugs and kisses me and it seems like he only cares if Im happy. But the problem is that, he goes out with all these girls, once they break up, im his rebound girl. then he finds another girl and forgets bout me. it really hurts me. I dont know what to dooo
Tell him to stop playing with your heart, if he loves you in that way, other girls wouldn't be an option for him. Let him know that he is your bestfriend and he does have the potential to make you happy in a relationship as well but he needs to decide what he wants, for you to be his best friend, or, for you to be his girlfriend, because he cant have his cake and eat it too. Especially, when you are a good girl standing by his side but are getting hurt by his being insensitive to how hes making you feel when he touches your heart in a different way and plays with your emotions and then the very next day expects for you to go back to a frienship role only while he goes and plays the field with other girls? Thats not cool. You should make it clear that he can have a bestfriend and a lover, or just a bestfriend, but he needs to decide because you shouldn't waste any more time of waiting on him and him using you as a crutch when a really good guy who would care for you and who wants to really be with you doesn't have the chance because your heart's all tied on someone who's not sure if they want you or not. If you do decide to give a guy who wants you more a chance, then its more than likely that your bestfriend will realize what he had and what he lost (you) and who knows, if in the future your available again, maybe hell decide to take the missed opportunity. Good luck and remember that its not all about him.
Wow! I thought that lil' girls were so cute! But now I know that my cousin is hotter than me because she's bigger and taller?
Actually, different guys like different girls and not everyone likes taller slender girls, a lot of guys actually like girls to have meat on their bones. Some guys like shorter girls, bigger girls, brown hair girls, blondes, IT DEPENDS ON THE GUY. Just the same as your friend may think one guy is hot and you think what the hell is she thinking? Everyone's taste is different, and therefor you're not any less hotter, you just appeal to your own category of guys. Pay attention to couples out there and you'll see that every good looking guy you see has a different type of girlfriend. (body type, hair, and other characteristics). The media (tv, magazines, etc) just fool you into thinking that those are the types of girls (tall and skinny) guys like because its all you see on there, models have to be more than skinny only for the reason that designers make their clothes so tiny and the only type of girls that can fit them are ones that have pencil bodies...NOT because they are the most beautiful or every guys dream, its just not reality so dont think bigger and taller is always better because for some guys its really not. So, be happy with your body size because some dream guy is going to be just as happy with it if thats what he prefers. And, its not like you can change it or stretch yourself out, so just know that the guys who do like short or small framed girls would be awfully unsatisfied and lonely if all there was to offer was tall and skinny.
i am having problems with my uncle who is the executor to my late fathers estate,what powers of with holding money from me,has he got he has full control of the money and i have no access to it i have to ask him all the time for money now he refuses to give me any , what can i do.
Well, if the money was left in your name but given to your uncle to be the executor of it, sometimes when these wills are made there haven conditions set on them, like for ex) you can only use the money for school purposes until you turn 30 and then the money will be entirely yours to spend as you want, now that is just an example. In the meantime your uncle is appointed to make sure that you spend it according to those conditions and if he breaks that then he could actually get in a lot of trouble for not doing what he was asked to do. In fact, they usually have to prove that they are giving you the money for those purposes with receipts. This is so you don't go wrecking your life by spending too much to soon or wasting the money on things that aren't really important. Especially, if you're still younger (you know parents) they want you to learn the value of money, earning it, and spending it. So, if that is the case and there are conditions set on the will, then there's nothing you can do about it because that is how your father wanted his money to be spent. However, if your uncle is spending your money on himself, or, it was left to you entirely, then you need to find proof of that and contact the lawyers or whoever that set that will forward and notify them that it is not being used for the purposes your father meant it to be or for who it should be for. Hope that helps:)
Okay, so my boyfriend now has a job and football.. and i only get to see him at school in the hallway (we don't have classes together) and like 5 hours on sundays.
i think it's really unfair, and sometimes when he gets days off his parents don't let us see each other, for no reason. i don't think they hate me though since they do let me come over sometimes too. we've been going out for like 7 months, and i REALLY love him but not getting to see him much kinda sucks now.
his parents say he HAS to have a job, so he can't get out of that.. & i don't think he will want to quit football because he's played it every year since he was like, 4.. but do you think the time we see each other is enough? what should i do? i'm 16 & he's 17.. & football ends in october :/ & he is always going to have a job so yeah..
If you really like him don't give up on him, he probablly doesn't like the fact that he has little time to spend with you and can't get out of his job. Im sure he would rather spend his time with you rather than working. His footbal is another thing that you SHOULD NOT make him quit because it is a sport and he is an athlete and you can't keep athletes from playing sports or else its a waste of their athletic ability. They also wouldn't be very happy because it would be like you're taking away something that they love. I know it sucks, but you have to keep in mind that its not like hes dissing you off and choosing to go hang out with his friends or party rather than hang out with you. School, work, and if you're playing on a team is all responsibilities to yourself, to your family, and to your team, so it wouldn't be fair to make him choose between you and those things. Im not saying to stay with him if you're unhappy and want something else, but if you do care for him and want to be with him but are just upset at the moment over his busy schedule, then you should try and be understanding and supportive of him, his busy schedule, and his strict parents (because that probablly sucks for him just as much as it sucks for you.) If you care about each other then you should try to make it work even through thick and thin. Im sure if you were in the predicament he is in you wouldn't want him to up and leave you. Relationships always have their rocky points and unless you are not into him anymore or he is disrespecting you and being inconsiderate of your feelings, then you should stay with him and be there for eachother. Especially, if his football ends in october then at least he'll have a little more time for you then. Its hard to keep up sometimes if you're busy and its also hard to be waiting for someone when you want them there with you, but you just have to make the choice if hes is worth waiting for. Also, you could find one perk, is that you're not sick of eachother for spending too much time together and everytime you guys do get to see eachother you're probablly loving every minute of it. You could also try and do other fun things with your friends or whatever in the time that he is busy with his responsibilities, that way time wont pass so slowly till the next time you see him.
Awhile ago i asked about getting a puppy
I've got my mom totally convinced but its my step dad that won't even budge.
My step dad (i do love him, just hate his rules) is strict in a weird way. ex. I can't draw on the sidewalk with chalk for the sake our house costs 300,000 dollars and is far to nice.. but yet i dont have a curfew on the weekend or school week
Anyways, we're bring it up to him again tuesday night so if people could give me great things to say please do
I also do not have my license and live in the far out country so i can stay home and be with it alot. (i also got approval for it to travel with me to my dads house)
(its a small chihuaha)
well, it looks as though he has cleanliness issues, because yes, a dog can be a messy creature and they can also be almost more needy than a child because they need your love so much and your companionship, its hard not to fall in love with them and they do become part of the family,If you couldn't tell already,I have two big dogs. But back to the point, especially in their puppy years they can cause a lot of damage or destruction (potty accidents, using your furniture and favorite shoes as a chew toy, etc.)But a chihuaha is rather small, and probablly isn't even as destructible as my dogs were when they were young babies. (If you are able to get one) even though its small and more contollable you should still train it and teach them to obey your commands. This will make them and you understand eachother better and will make you both happier in the future when you're not yelling at her/him for not doing what you wanted them to. I know though that this in not an answer to your question or helping, I just want you to get one too! if your willing to take the time and love to take care of it. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO is make points to your step-dad about what you're going to do to take care of it and emphasize especially on the cleanliness factor (for ex, explain to him that they barely shed because they are so tiny (different breeds of chihuaha's shed less than others) If there were to be a couple hairs here or there you will vaccuum and they'll be gone as well you will give them a tiny brush to get the loose hairs out every now and then, explain that you're planning to potty train him/her so that it will let you know when it needs to go outside to go the bathroom (that means there will be little chance for accidents, and you will take him out a few times a day while he is in the training process (usually should be in the morning, afternoon, afterdinner, and nighttime...dogs start to sniff around before they decide to go so pay attention to how long its been since he/she last whent and if they are showing signs they need to go, as well mention all the other responsibilities of taking care of a puppy but like I said, emphasize that they are tiny dogy and there wouldn't be much of a mess. Add to your argument, There wouldn't even be a sign that a dog even lived there if people didn't know you had a dog, etc) I know once you get a pup your dad will not be able to help but fall in love with i,t its just the hard work of getting him to agree with you and your mom, I hope he budges and if he doesn't on Tuesday keep trying:) Good luck!
ok, im 14/f and in 9th grade. im only five feet tall and i weigh between 85 && 95 pounds. im very skinny and always have been but people often accuse me of being anorexic or bulemic. but with the about of food i eat in one day you would wonder why im not obeese or w/e. i 'try' gaining weight but it doesnt work. the nurse at school had a few people talk to her and they're worried about me but im fine. she often weighs me and every so often ill lose or gain a pound or two. what do i do? how do i get people to stop accusing me? like, nothing wrong with me but why am i like this?
You just have a high metabolism and burn of your calories faster than other people, when you get older your metabolism starts to slow down, but if you already have a high metabolism and then are very active then you can just drop pounds like that. I know this because im 5ft too, Im 105 though but thats because I got a lot of muscle which weighs more than fat and im 21. Anywho, I eat enormous amounts everyday, more than even my boyfriend and im the worst at eating fast food because im too lazy or buzy to grocery shop, but I sometimes think that people wonder why I don't really gain any weight and if i have an eating disorder too, but most people wont jump to these conclusions right away,because most people understand what a high metabolism is and arent going to jump to huge conclusions like that. It's nice that those people who told your nurse are concerned about you but maybe they should get the facts straight before they go ahead and start talking sh!t.Some people are always going to make assumptions But YOU know that its not true and so do the people that know you and matter to you. The rest of the people, try not to care because theyre just jealous they have to diet for weeks and deprive themselves of real food just to get to be a little skinnier so when they see someone else be able to munch out and not worry about it, they talk because they don't want to admit that you're lucky. If you did have a problem wouldnt you be showing signs or something like going to the bathroom after you eat or not eating at all? If only they would pay attention and stop imagining things. Maybe to add a little muscle would be good (im not talking body builder or anything) just getting toned will make your body look not so stick thin (not that i know what your body looks like) but it gives you a little curve and shape so people can see that your not just wasting away but that your food goes directly to your muscles:p Dont do cardio, all you got to do it take tiny weights and lift them up and down with your elbows bent and side to side, its quite hard to explain on here but its easy to obtain exercises for girls to work out there arms, butts, thighs, etc. But thats all I can recommend so I holped it helped and you're still young and need time to thicken out a little so in the meantime, just keep eating and being yourself despite what they say.