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Q: My friend wants too kill himself is there anyway I could try and stop him?

I think you should talk to his parents about it and tell them whats going on with their son so that they can take him to a doctor or therapist so they can actually help him since they are professionals.

Q: well..there's this boy at my school who likes and he is really such a nice guy who deserves someone nice to like him back.How do i let him down easy,because he is really such a great person and friend!!

Just tell him the truth and don't beat around the bush. Tell him that he's a sweet guy and a great friend and that's all you wanna be at the moment. I'm sure he will understand. Good luck!

Q: So I like this guy in my English class.. Im new to the school so no one really knows ME.. I try to talk to him in the hallways saying hey and stuff but he just looks at me for a second looks at the ground and says ''hi''.. I want to know if he likes me or not.. I told him I had a kindergarden crush on him.. We message on facebook sometimes and he says stuff like ''I have a six pack (;" .. Soo is he telling me something?? How do I know if he likes me forsure or not? Help ?

It sounds to me like he's flirting with you. That's always a good sign :) But, that doesn't necessarily mean that he likes you. Since you're new to the school and you haven't known him that long so I think you should give it a little time and then when you think the time is right , just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. You never know he might feel the same ;) good luck !

Q: Molly/ 13
Im a freshman in high school and this junior guy named Michael has been sexually harassing me. When he sees me he would grab at me and he would make disgusting remarks. Today i was leaving class and he pulled me into the bathroom and pushed me against the wall and put his hands down my panties. I tried screaming but he covered my mouth. I dont know what to do about him I'm to scared to go to school and I dont want him to hurt me for telling. Please help me.

I think you need to tell your parents or one of your teachers. This is serious , you can't just not tell anyone because he told you not to. It could end up getting worse and worse and he could end up really hurting you. So just take my advice and tell an adult that you really trust. Everything will be fine.

Q: i like a boy namned don and hes in all my classess but he never noteces me and he doesnt speack good english. i know and alwas talk to his freands and my freands make it so abviase that i like him by making my arm touch his arm and stull like that but it just makis me more and more shyer aeound him and some of his freands are total jerkes and are alwas making him change his personality. but i still really like him what should i do ? :(
ima girl anbd im 13 just to let you know

I think you should just tell him how you feel but you have to do it when his friends arent around so that they wont make you feel uncomfortable. If the time is right, also tell him.

Q: ok i'm 17 and i always told my parents i didn't want to date and they always told me to tell them when i wanted to start to date, so you know they can meet him an all. the problem is that i want to tell my mom because my parents are divorced and i trust my mom more but when i tried to tell my mom that this guy liked me and that i liked him too her reaction was happy only cause i told her i didn't want to date. so i had to lie because i was afraid pulse my mom has been feeling stressed with work and all the issues we have that i feel i shouldn't say anything but i feel bad for the guy i like hes very nice and is willing to meet my mom.its not his fault i'm too afraid to say anything! someone give me advice i dont know what to do....thanks

I think you should just have a nice and calm talk with your mom and explain the whole situation the right way so that your mom won't flip out and tell her that he's a sweet guy and that he wants to meet her.

Q: So, my friend got mad at me the other day. I said I was sorry and she replied back along the terms saying that I wasn't a true friend, and I am. So I gave her a few days to cool off, and I called her today. She didn't answer, so I left her a message. I sent her a text through iMessage, and she didn't reply. I tried facetiming her, but that didn't work. So I called her house phone, and her mom said she didn't want to talk to me. I'm just upset and mad, and even wondering if I should be her friend. So any help here?

Well if you really tried hard enough to talk to her again, then maybe you should just give her some space and wait until she talks to you first. I think she just needs some time to cool off.

Q: I am 14 yr old girl and i have had sex. Over 13 guys have naked pictures of me. 5/13 were 18-20 yrs old. Am i concideres a whore.?

First of all, you're too young to be having sex. I'm 18 and I still havent had sex yet. And 13 guys...damn, yeah you kinda are a whore. Especially having sex with 18-20 year olds. You need to stop doing that and wait until you are in a real relatonship to have sex.

Q: I am currently on my vacation which will last for two months in the US. I want to get something for my boyfriend to show him that i missed him and i still love him. something not too big or expensive, Any ideas?

I think you should get something based on something your boyfriend likes as a present for him. Along with it, maybe send him a card that tells him how much you missed him while you were away. Good luck!

Q: So this boy I was with for about two years hasnt really been talking to me. Im kinda over him but he still crosses my mind alot. I had a dream last night about how our relationship used to be. I woke up crying. He was my first REAL boyfrined. He was my bestfriend. My everything kind of. He helped me through any and everything but how do i tell myself to move on to someone else? Without feeling like crap :/
14 female

Moving on is always hard, especially for girls. Guys move on rather quickly, I dont understand why though. But yea, I think you should put yourself out there and start trying to meet new guys and flirt. It'll make you feel better and help you move on quicker. Hope I helped!

Q: My best friend is visiting me for two weeks and I'm not sure what we should do. We are both 12 and won't have very easy access to transportation. What could we do?

well, since your friend is going to stay with you for 2 weeks then you need to make it extremely fun because 2 weeks is a long time. You guys can have a fun sleepover and play games, listen to music, go on the internet, take pictures and stuff like that...best of luck !

Q: Sooo me and my boyfriend were hanging out today and this one boy named Thomas came over there. He HATES him. Thomas tried to do a whole lot of stuff to me in the past so Justin(boyfriend) kind of wants to kill him.. He is really upset and angry and I don't know how to help him cool down and get over it.. I need advice!!

Just tell justin that thomas doesn't mean anything to you and that he's the only person you care about.

Q: My boyfriend is flirting with this girl that i really hate .. What do i do? he's doing it infront of me and crap and im pissed but not showing it.. Its awkward and weird and ugh! What shoudl i do?!?!?!?? Grrrr...

Well, what I would do is talk to your boyfriend about it and tell him that it's really bothering you that he's flirting with this girl especially since you hate her.

Q: Me and my boyfriend broke up..we have been on and off for two years.. we got into a big fight.. should i go back out with him?? he wants me back but i dont know??? Help

Well, if he hasn't hurt you in any way and if you both make each other happy then I think you guys should try it again but this time keep your guard up and try not to fight alot and talk about things in a calm way before you guys fight. I hope this helps!

Q: All my friends have a facebook. I really want one, but my mom, dad, and step dad say that I can't have one. How can I have one secretly (they all have facebooks) without them knowing?
fanks;)

The only way I can think of for yur parents not knowing you have a facebook is to just make one but don't put your real name. And when you have to add your friends or whatever , then just tell them that it's you and tell them why you have a fake name. Hope this helps.

Q: I'm a girl :)
Ok, so i've liked this guy, for 5 years. (Let's call him Jake)
And i've liked this guy for a few months. (Let's call him Shane)
ok, so i've liked Jake for a long time and i've always thought he liked me, but he's never said anything.
But Shane is kinda the same way, but smiles at me more often.

I don't know what to do. I do actually think I LOVE Jake but I never knew what to say. Anyways, what do I do? Help asap!

The best thing to do in this situation is to tell BOTH of them how you feel. If they don't tell you how they feel about you when you guys talk about it, then just straight up ask them. Trust me, this has happened to me before and they both told me exactly how tey felt about me. Hope this helped! Good luck!

Q: There is this guy at school I like (and might like me) and all of my crazy friends say I have him whipped. We really don't ever give hints that we like each other, but we playfight a lot. He's probably one of my best friends. I was just wondering what do my friends mean and do you think he likes me. P.S. We are both 14 and I am a girl.

The best thing to do for this situation is to just be upfront with the guy you like. Don't just be like oh hey I like you lets go out or something like that. Just be like soo I've been thinking about things or whatever you wanna say just make sure you and him are comfortable then you guys can talk about it.

Q: My ex of 3 months wont talk to me what can i do to get him back..can a short term relationship revive?

You shouldn't have to try to get him back though. If you pretend to like someone else just to make him jealous then thats wrong because yu are actually using the person and thats wrong. If you want your ex to talk to you, just approach him and try to have a conversation with him and talk to him about everything.

Q: okay so I am planning on piercing my nose next week and i need to find a way so it doesnt hurt alot how do it do it and what should i numb it with?

Well, I dont think you should do it yourself. I think you should go to a professional because if you do it yourself, it might get infected really bad and you dont want that to happen.

Q: Me and my best friend were really close. But one day, she started hanging out with a girl I didn't like(She knows I don't like her). And the other day, the girl started talking crap to me, and she just agreed to everything. Anyways, she started hanging out with her, and I can't stand it. What do I do? I don't want to tell her I don't like the girl or ask to hang out.. Help quickly please!

I honestly think that you should have a one on one conversation with your best friend about the whole situation. This has happened to me plenty of times before with my old best friend and I just told her my problem and she actually listened and understood what I was saying. Just talk to her one on one and calmly and you should be fine. Good luck!