'Sup everybody, I'm Blade. I'm 5'9"ish, i have brown,gold, green eyes, brown hair. Love playin sports,(there aren't many that i haven't played) any of them and every one out there. i play soccer, swimming, and martial arts. I live in California in the bay area. And most of all I love helping people, so if you have a problem or question on ANY subject then ask and ill be more than happy to answer and help you out, if i cant answer your question or help you i'll find you someone who will.
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Gender: Male
Location: Bay Area -California
Occupation: Lifegaurd and everything else
Age: 17
AIM: ArchAngelP23
Member Since: July 29, 2004
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Ok a few days ago i heard my boyfriend was flirting with this other girl. I was hurt at first but then i knew it was apart of there 3 year friendship.I accidently said i didnt trust him,but the thing is i do and i wish i could take it back.He was hurt and was thinking about going on a break, but decided to give us another chance. He knows i didnt mean to say i didnt trust him, but things havent gone back to normal what should i do? (link)
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Just tell him that it wasnt that you didnt trust him, it was that you were scared about your relationship. I can immagine you were thinking some things like; "whats really going on here?", "is our relationship going to end?","is he cheating on me?", or something along those lines? The majority of people who have something like this happen to them DO trust their partner, so its not a matter of trust in the other person. whats really going on is the person (such as yourself) is scared to loose thier boyfreind or girlfreind and their mind goes into overdrive, basically "what-if" mode. All i can tell you to do is basically let him know how you feel and how you felt and whats really going on. The worst thing you can do is not talk to him because lack of communication can kill a relationship faster than anything else. Reasure him that you do in fact trust him, and as much as you might not like it you might want to encourage his relationship with this freind of his a lil', and encourage him not to ditch his freinds for you ( im not saying you are). The best thing you can do to reasure him that you trust him is to give him the opportunity to be trusted.
Hope ive helped and if you have anymore questions or whatever you can write me another question on here or IM me at ArchAngelP23.
Blade
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i broke up with my boyfriend but now i really want to go back out with him. i think he still likes me because he flirts all the time. we've only been broke up for a week and i don't want to sound deperate or foolish. what if he's mad i broke up with him? i tried to talk to him about it but i couldn't because i was so nervous. i couldn't force the words out. what should i do? i really want to try to do it in person but how can i get over my fears and what should i say? i have no clue how to word anything! (link)
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first of all you shouldnt go back to him this soon youve only been broken up for a week and you havent been able to enjoy being single yet! take the opportunity to expand your horizons. you might find that being single is less stressfull and more fun, who knows you might find a guy thats better than your X. give things a chance to work THEMSELVES out, if you two are meant to get back together then it will happen when HE wants to and when HE asks you back out. thats his job not yours to get you 2 back together.if you run back to him youll never be able to leave him in the future and youll regret it for a long time. so just relax, go have fun with your girlfriends, and explore. keep it safe,keep it real, and have fun.
Blade
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how do you tell a guy you arent interested without breaking his heart? (link)
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tell him that your freindship means to much to you to possibly put it at risk by bringing your relationship to a different level to soon.
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this is really weird because i know u but anyways, im having some issues with this friend of mine. We're really good friends and all but i feel like i cant tell her anything because she wont approve of it. like, i dont feel like i can talk to her about guys because she'll get the wrong idea and think that im a slut, but im not. Or drugs, im totally not a stoner or anything but i do smoke once and awhile. Shes not like that at all though and would be mad at me for doing it and for not telling her. I dont really know if i should tell her and hope for the best or not. If i dont she might eventually find out from other people and be more mad. if it helps im 16. (link)
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you should definately tell her because lying about it and hiding it will just make things worse. sure she might be mad at first but if you two are truly close friends then shell accept it and hopefully move on. she wont just let it go, but she might let it slide. when you talk to her about boys and drugs and stuff make sure you make the point that your not some skank or druggy, lay down your oppinons and beleifs on the matter,be honest, and let her know what you stand for and who you are. then talk. i hope things go well.since you know me you can always come ask me personally anytime you want about anything, i wont judge you on anything youve done,do, or will do, only on who YOU are.
Blade
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Well see me and this guy dated for about 8 months last year and we totally were in love but then things started to change and we broke up....then 5 months later he starts calling me again and talking to me saying me misses me and still loves me.....so i spilled that i still loved him n really missed him too...but then like everytime we like each other is only for a lil while and then he saying he isnt sure if he loves me anymore and he was done this 2 times already...well see then me and one of my ex's start dating again and he comes back and says hes really sure he still likes me but isnt sure if he still loves me;he might and probably does but isnt all the way sure(thats what he said) and that he doesnt like the way my ex treats me(cause he didnt treat me good and i told him everything that was going on)but i kept going out with my ex. then me and my ex broke up and i fall for him again...he keeps telling me he wants to marry me n really likes me n misses me and he told me he is going to ask me out when the time is right and he told me not to give up on us and to not stop loving him....does he still love me or what? and is he going to ask me out?
oh and by the way i know you...lol (link)
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well im not sure if he likes you or loves you or not but ti do know that he does care about you enough to listen and to care who you date and about how your treated. you should first get rid of the bf whos treating you bad and second stay single for a while and just chill until you see the perfect guy for you. find a guy who meets all your expectations and preferences but treats you like a princess(because thats how all men should treat women). also dont rule out your friend as a possible boy friend candidate but dont necessarily consider him either. he jumps around wih his feelings for you all over the place constantly and that doesn't look healthy for you let alone anyone in a relationship. i mean honestly do you really want sum guy to play with your heart and possibly cheat on you because his feelings constantly change? so just take it REALLY SLOW with him. good luck
Blade
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I really love my boyfriend, and I do everything for him, from buying him clothes and giving him food and a place to stay, to all the normal boyfriend girlfriend activities. I want to make him feel the same way about me, not MAKE him, but I just want him to be happy. I don't feel like he feels the same way about me as I do about him. How can I make my boyfriend want me more but still respect me and be happy at the same time?
Signed,
Hopelessly in Love (link)
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you should talk to him about it, let him know how you feel and what you want out of the relationship.(probably about the same way you asked me your question but more in depth). probably the # one building block in a relationship is communication, so talk to him. find out where hes at and where he wants to go with the relationship and vise versa. Also, your not his wife so you dont have to Give him food, clothes, and a place to stay, sure its a nice gesture but when youre doing all this for him, what is he doing for you? make sure youre actually getting something out of this relationship that you can benefit from. dont let yourself go unheard or used, speak up and get what you deserve. hope everything works out for the best.
Blade
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ok i like this girl lets call her jade,she's really pretty but my best friend always flirts with her when i talk to her for instance i broke up with this girl like a month ago and he always flirted with her and now jade flirts with him to should i ask jade out or should i shutup him up cause he really's funny and i'm just as funny as him but he flirts and it makes me jealous,so should i ask her out or shutup him up.
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jealous friend (link)
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well first of all let your freind know you are really interested in Jade and ask him to back off a bit. try and hook him up wit sum1 else. keep on flirting with Jade and let her know that when she flirts with other guys it makes you jealous. hang out with her more and flirt liek crazy and when your on the fone with her or talkinging in person actually listen to what she has to say. you dont have to necesarily say anything just listen and support her and respond to things she says. let her feel comfortable opening up to you and make her feel your not judgemental.
Blade
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Ok, well ther's this guy who asked me out and I said yes. The onlyproblem is that I'm not allowed to date. But, I am allowed to go out with friends, even a coed group. My question is, what should I do? Should I try talking to myparents about it, or jsut tell them we're going as friends and other ones are going to? I really need advice, none of my friends are helping me!!
If it helps any im 13, hes 14. (link)
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wow you sound like me at your age. try talking to your parents about dating and how old you have to be before they let you actually "date". i personally think your a little young to go out on 1 on 1 dates right now but deffinately go for the group outings it can be more fun but it doesnt mean you and your guy cant be by yourselves. let your parent know your dating because i can assure you the less you hide from your parents the farther youll go, cuz theyll trust you more and give you a longer "leash" sorta speak. but make sure not to push to hard when talking with your parents because something is always better than nothing.
Blade
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Hey i got a problem. I am pretty confused. I have been very horny, and havent been when around girls? does this mean i like guys? and if so, should i experiment with my friends? or how would I even begin to do/ask that from my friends? thanks.
sex:16 male (link)
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OF COURSE NOT!! it just means that your timing has been off on your horny clock. no big deal. dont think anything of it and the fact that your questioning this just goes to show that you are in fact not gay. how about you try not masturbating for a week or two and fill your tanks back up and get your hormones rushing and im pretty sure youll be back to "normal" youll be fine.
blade
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suppose a girl really wanted to turn a guy on, any way possible, what would you recommend? (link)
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first of all dress to impress,everything from how you do your hair to what underwear your wearing.come on to the guy and flirt with him alot and make sexual comments and such or if you want to step it up a notch tell him how you want him and wut you want to do to/with him. also get touchy feely with him in any way possible (not abnoxiously though)basically be all over him for example stratling him or groping him/feeling him up, make him feel in control.tease him a little bit, like make him know he can have you but when he goes to "take" you move just a little bit out of his reach (metaphorically speaking. then the next time he tries let him take you.
(ill add more later)
blade
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Okay, I'm friends with my best friend's ex boyfriend.We've always been friends. But I've also always hada little bitty crush on him. He lives in PA and we live in DE though, so boy me and my friend never get to see him. Lastngith he said he missed me and he wanted to come visit me. I asked him why he didn't ever call, and he said he didn't have any minutes, but if he did, I would be the first person he would call. Is that just me or does he sound like he likes me just a little bit? Help me! I rate good!
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its possible that hes interested but to me hes looking for more of a hook up. thats my oppinion from the little information that you gave. if you write me with more info on your situation i can give you better feed back
Blade
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i'm somewhat flat chested, but i have great legs. how can i take all the notice off my chest (or lack thereof) and refocus it on my legs without being thought of as a skank? (link)
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youll eventually grow but for now to focus the attention on your legs you could wear skirts and tight fitting pants. but seriously dont worry about it, you want a guy who likes you for you and doesnt care about your breast size. and its not so much about how big of an ass or boobs you have, its about the proportions.if you think guys dont notice your nice legs because you small chest than your wrong. if you do really have nice legs i gaurentee guys notice them.
Blade
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all right so i can't believe I'm actually asking you advice cuz i knwo you but okay. here it goes.
i met this guy at a party. i was a bit drunk, he was a little drunk- we hooked up. but only made out. at that time i was like is this going to be some random hook up or are you actually going to call me and he said no im going to call you i am. well, skip some, week later he calls me asks me if i want to hang out. of course i do but i end up not being able to. the thing is... i am worried that he is just interested in hooking up with me. im hanging out with him next weekend when he is grounded and we are just going to watch scary movies and stuff. should i jsut wait to see what happens then....???? he's just so hard to read so i dont kno if he likes me or not! advice much??
age: 16
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you know me? wow ok anyways.well yea just wait it out and see where things go, but keep in mind you DID hookup with him so he may assume he might get some next weekend too. did he come up with watching scary movies together? because alot of guys will use that as an exscuse to hold you or keep you "safe" if you get scared or w/e. you havent given me that much detail to your situation so i cant realy give you a great answer so you can either write me again or find me at school(if we go to the same school) or get ahold of me some other way.
blade
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I have this boyfriend who's REALLY shy. I mean he doesn't even hold my hand or anything, but I know he really really likes me. I've never known anyone this shy. I really like him a lot but his shyness is killing me and I don't know what to do!!! What should I do?! (link)
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just talk to him tell him how you feel and what you want out of the relationship and what you want to happen in the relationship, like holding hands for example. then ask him what he wants in the relationship and what he wants to happen in the relationship ( it's ok if you two dont know exactly what you want you may need some time to think about what you want). the worst thing that could happen is he'll tell you hes not ready to publicly desplay his affection towards you, and it can only get better from there. the best thing you can do is talk to him, the majority of relationships, serious or casual, end because of lack in communication ( dont be the majority its much easier and less stressfull, 'sides youll have a better and more intimate relationship this way).
Blade
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Ok...there's this kid I like alot. I have for a really long time and we went out about 3-4 times before but now it's been like a year since the last time we dated. Well...he's not exactly the hottest guy in the school but he's popular and everythin,,like he has a great personality n everythin. Well i wanna tell my best friend that I like him again but I'm afraid of her reaction. Beacause she's really into looks and everythin..and not only that she just doesn't like him that much. What should I tell my friend and should I tell this kid I like him again? And if I do tell both of them who should I tell first? Help! (link)
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well first of all your freind's oppinion shouldnt make YOUR decision. Dont let the advice or oppinions from someone who doesnt have to deal with the results make your decision when you have to. but you should ALSO think back on why you and this guy broke up so many times in the first place, because there is definately something there to make you like him enough to go out 3-4 times but there is also something there that keeps you guys breaking up.
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Theres this guy in my school that saposebly likes me and another girl tasha.He asked for my number caled we talked and hes aware i like him back then today Tasha ws talking about how he kissed her and all this shyt.I was kinda pissed n he kept askin me wat was wrong but i wouldnt tell him...should i tell him that the fact that he cant choose between 2 girls is bothering me?and do you think hes a just a player n a waste of my time? (link)
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well hes most likely not an a player and YES you should tell him what is bugging you. he will appreciate you coming to him and being open and it will help him make a decision if not reduce tension between you.
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