about


i'm ashley.
i'm pretty much a good girl :)
i care about everyone.
i have a lot of first hand knowledge with a lot of things.
my life doesn't suck, so i'm not going to sit here and say it does.
i know how fortunate i am to have a family and good friends
i have a great guy named Eric in my life right now ♥
i help EVERYONE regardless it's just the kind of person i am
i give out my AIM and MSN for a reason, so people can reach me quickly, so IM me anytime.
i'm an honest person, trust me, my mouth has gotten me in trouble PLENTY of times.
i'm a smart person and make good choices.
i screwed up alot before, but as of now, i'm an amazing person in my opinion.
i'm one of the happiest people you will ever meet.
i will cheer you up, just ask, or show you need it
i don't judge you on how you get by, the company you keep, what you do for thrills, that's your own business. and i have no room to judge you.

advice

i know this is kind of weird but i always over-analyze things so here it goes. i have only been to first base. i know i am going to go to second soon but the thing is, i have 32As. what are guys going to think? or will they not care?

breasts are breast. size isn't as big of a deal as you'd think. some guys will care and some won't. but if he cares, screw him you deserve better.

[view]

I just shaved down there and it was my first time shaving everything off, is it supposed to be stubbly?


And also I tried fingering myself and it was kinda a bad oder. I take a shower daily , how do i get rid of the oder or is it supposed to be like that?

Thanks

yep. that's all pretty normal.

[view]

is it normal and stuff nowadays for teens to drink and do drugs...
ages starting at 13-14?

well my friends discovered drugs and alcohol at 13 and 14 too. it's really sad. but they did their experimenting young.

it's really common actually, which is pretty sad.

[view]

Are you still a virgin even thought you've been fingered?

physically, yes. buut virginity is like mental.

i consider you a virgin still.

[view]

hey i like this guy named ryan.I bacically talk to him every morning at school and we SEEM to agree to everything.Everything i say he bacically laughs at..and we SEEM to have alot in common.idk if he flirts with me. like ill be writing something, then he will like get a pen and scribble on it.But when hes around his friends, he flirts with this cheerleader,Nicole. But the next day at school(morning) he starts talking to me again. Does he like me?

age;14
gender;female

he might like you. basically you just have to flat out ask him. :)

[view]

im scared to get my ear lobs pierced should i be

not unless you do them yourself. that kind of hurts. but otherwise don't be, it's painless :)

[view]

13/f I really like this guy in my class. Hes in my spanish class and social studies class. Im very shy, so i usually dont talk a lot during school. On aim we talk alot. Hes the one that I talk the most to and i dont know if he likes me. He sits in fromt of me in spanish so he always takes my stuff and makes me say something to get it back. Today he was playfully poking me. Iono. I heard that if a guy likes u then they try to find a way to playfully touch you??? iono. Wut should I do?? I really like him but my parents say that i cant date until im in college. Wut should I do?

i think he might like you. and if you are really uncomfortable with dating behind your parents back you could tell them. but otherwise just don't tell them, what they don't know, doesn't always hurt them.

you need to find out if he likes your first though. find it out, or have one of your friends find out :)

goodluck.

[view]

16/f

my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.

i know how hard this is for you and i'm glad you want to get help.

you need to see your school conselour, or tell a trusted teacher. just make pros and cons lists. he'll lose his job, and get a satutory rape charge. you can help other girls if you do this, cuz i'm sure you arent the only one.

just talk to someone you can trust about it. it's the best thing to do and than see where you want to go from there.

[view]

i want to get a stuf in my nose, does getting your nose pierced hurt? please people who have it, tell me honestly

it's a little uncomfortable for a few seconds. than you get over it and it's fine.

getting used to it can be slightly painful though.

[view]

Heyy....i really need an answer to this question. If you are dancing with a guy or something and they DONT get an errection from you, does that mean that they are not getting turned on by you?
----Thankss

no no no no no!

guys can somewhat control erections.
or you could just not of felt it.

[view]

i feel so guilty. i always told myself that i would NEVER do something if i didnt have a boyfriend [kiss, mess around, etc.] but today i was with this kid and he just kinda kissed me and then we started making out. and he was sexy about it, he said he couldnt get enough nd kept kissing me and i wanted to stop him but i didnt. i feel so dirty!!!! is this normal? how can i over come this feeling.

it's one of those spurr of the moment things, it happens to the best of us. don't worry. you just need to not think about it all the time and accept it, things happen and it'll pass, trust me

[view]

I'm looking for love songs that are specifically about long distance relationships or missing someone that's far away or that's working far away or anything like that. Any genre, any kind of music really, I would really appreciate it.

Thanks!

The Ataris - Alone in Santa Cruz

Did I ever tell you that I really love you...
and I think about you all day?
I really miss you and wish I could kiss you
but why are you so far away?
(Chorus)
Since you've been gone
I've thought over and over about you inside my
head
and where I went wrong, where I went wrong
Everyday...
I've been thinkin' alot about all of the things
you'd say
Since I went away...
Since I went away...
I guess I could call you
and ask you "How are you"
But I really don't have much to say
I sit all alone
and I stare at the phone
and I hope that you're doing o.k.
(REPEAT CHORUS)

Nickelback- Far Away

This time, This place
Misused, Mistakes
Too long, Too late
Who was I to make you wait
Just one chance
Just one breath
Just in case there's just one left
'Cause you know,
you know, you know

[CHORUS]
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I miss you
Been far away for far too long
I keep dreaming you'll be with me
and you'll never go
Stop breathing if
I don't see you anymore

On my knees, I'll ask
Last chance for one last dance
'Cause with you, I'd withstand
All of hell to hold your hand
I'd give it all
I'd give for us
Give anything but I won't give up
'Cause you know,
you know, you know

[CHORUS]

So far away
Been far away for far too long
So far away
Been far away for far too long
But you know, you know, you know

I wanted
I wanted you to stay
'Cause I needed
I need to hear you say
That I love you
I have loved you all along
And I forgive you
For being away for far too long
So keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and, never let me go
Keep breathing
'Cause I'm not leaving you anymore
Believe it
Hold on to me and, never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and, never let me go
Keep breathing
Hold on to me and, never let me go

[view]

Hi!
I have been giving my boyfriend handjobs, but he never cums. No matter what i do or how i do it, he just says it feels good. Sometimes if i've been doing it for quite sometime, he'd just say it's time (for him) to rest, then he just goes back to kissing me. Is there something wrong here? What does this mean?

there's nothing wrong. just some guys don't cum from handjobs. it's not a big deal and don't worry about your performance. he said it feels good, so don't worry

[view]

ok so heres the deal
Yes I'm underage, I don't need to be told off about that
It's just that I think that sometime in the near future I may be in a situation where it would be very cool to know something about drinking
Like, how do you avoid gettin caught, what is te appropriate time to drink at a party, and even what are some tips on turning down a drink in a social setting?
This is an honest question, if you're going to tell me I'm a bonehead I already know that, but please help me all you can anyhow.

not getting caught, don't drink right before you go home. stop 30-45 min before you have to go home.

and an appropriete time, is proabbly when everyone else starts drinking.

and a refusual tip is oh i have to drive home, or i have to be home soon. and if those don't work just hold one drink the whole night.

but dont drink, but if your going to, be careful.

[view]

Will replacing soda and only drinking water as a drink really make you lose weight? If so, why?

yeah. because soda has so many more calories and sugars.

[view]

Okay, well... I guess you can say I`m one of the go-to-girls in my school. A lot of people look to me for advice, and i`d say I have a lot of freinds but, few of them are with me on making the right descisions, my school, my grade; its so stupid! everyone`s two-faced, no ones honest... everyone in my grade [and I`m a Freshman] has done drugs, drinks on a regular basis, and/or has had sex or done something sexual. when I was in eigth grade, I had some amamzing teachers with whom I connected so closely with. They were like family; they always encouraged me to make the right descisions. well I am I mean, I`m not a goody-goody, I mean I flirt with guys and I mess around but I`m not even considering loosing my viriginty. && when it comes to drugs & alcohol? no way! thats just stupid. its trendy in my grade to get fxcked up and look like a mess. I don`t wanna get into that, not smoking, not drinking, not drugs. Its hard though when everyone thinks you`re a p*ssy because you won`t do the stuff they want to. I need some encouragement, or even advice, please.

good choice :)
i know exactly how you feel my school is the exact same way. i'm a freshman too.

drinking, smoking and using drugs, can and will fuck up your life. just tell people, your not a pussy, your just smarter than that, you know how much that stuff with mess you up. and if they don't accept that, you don't need them.

and having sex. do they releaize how common HPV is? and that it leads to cancer, and condoms don't help. having sex is dumb, especially at 14 and 15.

you just need to stand firm in your beliefs.
if you ever need to talk, i'm here

[view]

What can i do to get more muscles? By the way can Basketball help give me muscles?

-thanks

basketball will help.

but definatly lift weights and use lifting machienes.

[view]

I posted questions in December and have received answers however, since I have not received any more answers should I keep the questions on this site or delete them.

keep them, someone else might neeed the same advice.

[view]

I tried doing something and I guess it was a horrible idea after all.
I'll tell you the situation.
Kay well theres this boy[jimmy], me and my friend like but he doesnt talk to us that much anymore.
We decided to mess around and we made a screename, as if we were someone else [jenny].
We talked to him 2 nights in a row for like 5 hours, he even stayed up talking to "jenny" .
He never really knew her that well at all, becuase they are in different grades but they have like gym or computer the same period, so they see eachother on occasions.
The reason we chose to be Jenny was because Jenny was the best friend of Caroline, the girl Jimmy likes.
Continuing with the situation,he seemed to be nice and talk to Jenny online, he would always have something to talk about and try and make conversation.
He kinda started to flirt with her online.
Then on Monday,after the weekend of doing this, we realized something... what if he says something to Jenny about the IM's online.
She has no idea we did this, but what if Jimmy started to like her.
I figured that we wouldnt go on the screename again and just leave it at that until i saw Jimmy's BEST friend randomly talking to Jenny , they never talk!
Im scared that Jimmy told his best friend about her and now they might like her!
Me and my friend feel so dumb for doing this, even though it was fun
But what should we do!

absolutly donot confesss, he'll think your really weird.

if you don't say anything, to anyone, he'll never know.

and jenny will just think it was someone else, don't sweat it too much. good luck

[view]

theres this kid that i've been talking to for a couple of months now. i think i like him and my friends say he likes me.. or thats what he tells them. but my best friend told me that he is a player and if we ever do go out the relationship wont last long. and she isnt a big fan of him. what should i do?

well if your like me, i have to get hurt by the guy first to believe he's a player.

the only thing you can do is try it out and see it, but be careful about it, and explain it to your best friend before you go out with him.

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker