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Q: my homecoming is this weekend. i have no idea how to wear my hair.! i dont know if i should get it done, but i dont think i have time to make an appointment. i can't wear it down because i don't like my hair down. i have curly hair, medium length. any ideas?! not too fancy - it's only homecoming!

Well I`m learning to become a hairdresser, so I would say have it in an updo, basically up in like a nice bun or something with curls. Maybe you should get it done, but if not you can try doing it by yourself or have someone help you out. Also you can have a wet look, which would work for you since you say you have curly hair. After washing your hair mousse, gel and hairspay and scrunch it. I do that sometimes, and it comes out pretty cute. Good-luck

Q: I'm having a really big problem with a certain advicenator that gives horrible advice, puts people down, and makes fun of the questions that people can't answer... I know it's not my place to say something but this person is VERY rude and makes people feel like crud, I would know. I really want to say something.. This one girl said "Im 150 lbs and I need help losing weight" and the advicenator said "Who cares you're the f**king fat a** not me im only 112 and taller than u, fat a**" thats just rude so help me please... thanks alot

I know what you mean, but don`t let them bring you down. Some people make spare accounts on purpose just to bother people.

Q: I just got this dress today for a bat mitzvah i'm going to. I'm just thinking, is this dress cute in your opinion, and do you like it on me? Also, should I wear stocking or no, if so what color? ALSO, what kind of shoes? One more thing: HOW DO I GET RID OF THOSE TAN LINES ON MY CHEST?

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Love the dress, it looks pefect on you, although I do think there`s no need for the stockings, just wear black shoes. As for the tan lines you can cover that up with tan lotion or even foundation.

Q: I used to have two outdoor rabbits, but they died a few years ago. Me and my sister would really like another pair of bunnies, but if I asked my mum Im sure she would say no. My dad says he'll get me two, but he doesnt live with us, and hes only saying that to uspet my mum. Ive been dragging up the topic about rabbits all the time, and drawing them, whenever she sees me on the computer the screen says 'rabbit', or a picture of one. Have you got any ways on persuading her to let me have two?

Just keep telling her about it. Pretty soon she`ll start understanding how much you really want them. BUT bugging her so much about the rabbits can also annoy your mom, so be careful. Make sure you tell her how much you`d take care of them and stuff, but if you just want the rabbits as a toy, maybe it`s not such a good idea. Good-luck

Q: 14/f

ill just flat out say it. i cheated on my boyfriend. but here's the situation:

my boyfriend of 3 months and i are not allowed to see eachother at the moment. lets call him ian. he is 17 and i am 14. my mother doesnt approve, so we cant see eachother. before this mess started happening, we were having sex. dont prejudge us. back then we were both completely in love with eachother. now all we do is argue yet we're still together.

well i am in high school and he graduated last year. i met this one guy who i really liked. lets call him mike. mike and i kinda got caught up in the moment last night and had sex together.

right now i feel so bad about cheating on ian cuz i know he'll never forgive me. and i truely do love him. when we're together, its the best feeling in the world.

but my problem is, what should i do? i dont want to break up with ian and i dont want to tell him but i feel so bad. please dont call me a slut or a whore. please give me actual advice, i need it.

Honestly I probably wouldn`t tell "Ian" if I was in your place, but it`s very bad to lie especially about these things. Just see how it works out with Ian and if all is well and you don`t feel guilty or anything, then don`t tell him. This may sound very stupid, but that`s probably what I would do.

Q: When my boyfriend and I are having sex, he tends to climax very early. Out of all the times we have had sex, the longest he lasted was 5 minutes! I need him to last a little longer so I can finally orgasm (I've never even had one). What can either of us do to solve this problem?

I say have more fore-play, that way it can be slower, don`t rush it

Q: ok so i got my self in a siruation where...i just cheated on my boyfriend...and before that night i was a virgin and now im not. and like. i dont know what i shoudl do. I didnt really want to have sex with the guy...but i was in a situation where i had to be sorta quite and i was saying no...but i dont think he heard me or maybe he just didnt care. but like. he didnt use protection and im not on birth control. and im pretty sure he pulled out before...but like. i just dont know what to do and im freaking out.

Just try to think for the best, but like the other person said if you say no, then it`s rape. Tell your boyfriend, I think he will understand, and get a pregnancy test just to be sure.

Q: Stupid question, but...I'm 14, and my bf is 18. I was wondering if he could get in trouble for the age difference or anything. If so, what would happen? Do you think we should stay together?

It really depends. Are you guys doing anything that you think you shouldn`t be doing? If so there is possibility that he can get in trouble.

Q: Ever since this summer I've been more concious of what I eat. I am a very active 14/f. I have lacrosse practice for 1 and 1/2 hours three days a week, I have marching band everyday for 2 hours and I run between 3 and 5 miles almost every day. I eat about 2,500 calories every day(honest). I try to balance the amount of carbs, fat, and protien I get based on the recomended servings. My parents bug me a lot about me not eating enough. I have lost my period for a few months now, but the doctor says its not a big deal, it will come back. I have a BMI of 20, so I'm not underweight. But my parents make me feel like I'm anorexic or something, I overhear them talking about me a lot. Do I have a problem?

You don`t have a problem, but is there any specific reasons why you watch your weight so much? I mean I know exactly how you feel, last summer I thought I was so fat and I tried losing weight, doing everything, I possibly can, I didn`t eat anything for like 3 days and that`s how I lost it, but trust me that`s not the way to go. It`s okay for you to worry about your weight as long as it`s in a healthy way.

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