I think I understand. Or, at least I'm trying very hard to. It was just kind of funny to me how you said your whole school would eventually get it. It reminded me of some kind of demented orgy. And I hope to god that you're in college, because it'd just be weird if you're in high school and the whole school is having sex with eachother. It just seems weird to me.
Moving on--There are soooo many loop-holes in your problem, it's not even funny (well, maybe just a little). Now, like I said before, if the whole school sleeps with eachother, then how will people be able to trace the virus back to you? That is, if you even have it. My best advice is to get tested. You might not even have it, you might be stressing yourself out for no reason (not healthy). So get tested first, and if you do in fact have it, then cool it with the sex for a little while. And if that's a bit too much to ask, then just try to use some kind of protection. You don't want it spreding, do you? And about the whore thing, like I said before, people really won't be able to trace it back to you unless you were their first or they communicated.
But it's not your fault. You didn't know. So just calm down, and get tested. I hope everything is fine.

Hey, sorry I didn't answer this right away, I've been at camp for the past 3 days. Alright, so basically you're saying that you're "always the friend, never the girl", right? Well, if that's true, then don't worry about it. Every person needs a really good friend, and I guess that's you. You have an attitude that guys can relate to, and are instantly attracted to you as a friend. Be glad, because not a lot of girls can do that. But if you really want a boyfriend, then just wait. I mean, if all those qualities are true about you, then guys'll be lining up in no time. Maybe you just havta expand your horizon and look for some more guy friends (?). Or, maybe the guys that you're friends with do really like you, but are just too shy or don't wanna fuck up the friendship cause it's too special to them (e.m.f.). So no worries, I'm sure at least one guy falls asleep at night dreaming of you. You just have to get out there and find him ;-).

If the guy really likes your friend, then he wouldn't care. But I mean, most guys want it to be shaven, because can you imagine your guy going through hair? Ewwww. Haha. So it's not manditory, but it is prefered.

Why are you so afraid of sleeping over her house? Are you afraid that she'll rape you while you sleep? I highly doubt that anything will happen, but if you're THAT concerned about it, you could always go up to her and just say, "I support your sexuality, but just to let you know, I'm straight." Something like that...I'm thinking you can put it in better words. Anyways, I'll bet she'll laugh it off, because I doubt that she'd want to push the best friend thing over the limit. And if she does try to, all you have to say is something lik,e "Sorry, but I value our friendship too much." And the geting changed infront of eachother thing...What's so hard about going into another room and getting changed? But if you don't want to do that, then just turn around while you're getting changed.
But chances are she won't want to make anything happen, because hopefully she values the friendship too much.

Maybe you need to go to whoever's giving you the medicine and get a higher MG. Like, if you're on 50MG, maybe you should get boosted up to 75MG. Or you could always try theropy, although that might not work as well.

When I used to do that, I got sent to a mental hospital. You're lucky that you haven't gotten sent there yet, and trust me, you don't want to be. Those places are pure evil. So I would say use that as a goal for you. If you keep cutting yourself, then you'll end up in one. And it's not fun.
I now go to a theropist and I'm on meds and all that crazy stuff, so it wasn't worth it at all. I would suggest going to a theropist, because it's a way that lets you talk about what needs to be talked about.
As for the anger, try getting a stress ball. That way, if you wanna hurt something, you can squeeze the shit out of that (e.m.f.), no harm done to you.

Alrighty--Just to get things straight, I don't remember ever giving that kind of advice about the shaving. Maybe I did, but I'm just a psycho loser who can't remember things. Moving on--The guys. First let's start with the drug dealer. Now, I know you like Mr. Dealer a lot, but I don't think you'd really enjoy spending all that time with him if you guys got caught doing something (like selling). Now, if I were you, I'd voice my concerns to him, something along the lines of "Man, I love you very much, but if you get me involved with anything that you do, then I can't be with you anymore." Something like that. It's not really a threat, more like a promise :). Yes, you will wanna be with him through thick and thin, but you havta look out for yourself, as well. Now onto the little thing about your virginity and the other guy. You're right, I do think that you're too young, but that's not my place to say. It's your life, your choices, and I will fully support you with whatever decision you make, just because that's what we were born with, Free Will. Now, to me (and I'm hoping to you), virginity is something special, and you'd want to lose it with that special someone. The guy that lives 4 hours away may be that special someone, but I don't want you to have any regrets. Like, if you guys do have sex, you won't be able to see eachother that much because of the distance. That's basically the only thing that I'm if-y about. But, if you do choose that you want Mr. Dealer, then maybe you should try to get him tested before you really do anything with him. Better safe than sorry, right?
Hope I helped!

I reframe from using the term goth, because the people that think they're gothic today are basically idiots. The "Gothic" cult died way back in the 1800's. So, no, Joey Jordison is not gothic. He's more like hardcore. And me? Hahaha. I'm probably the farthest thing from gothic. Well...not the farthest. Cheerleaders are the farthest. But I'm NOT gothic. I'm a morbid loser :)

Some things that I do to my hair when I get tired of having it down are:
~You could go out and purchase spray in dye. I'm just guessing that you might not want to perminently dye your hair, so that's always an option. And there are so many different colours.
~This is kinda like putting your hair in a ponytail, only not. I have 2 different ways to make a different ponytail. You could put your hair in pigtails, and then pull those back in a scrunchy. OR you could pull your hair into one of those designs where half your hair is up in a ponytail and the other half is down.
Hope I helped!

I think that you should talk to her. I mean, it worked before, right? You should seriously tell her to stop listening to other poeple and to come to you if she hears something about you. Tell her that you won't lie to her is you did say anything about her, but that wasn't the case this time.

Sweetie, just listen to what you're saying. 1) Those are his EX girlfriends. Why do you think they broke up? Maybe because they were tooo popular? That's a possibility, right? And 2) He already likes you! I don't think he wants you to change into someone that you think he'll like, when I bet he likes you the way that you are. So if I were you, because he doesn't like asking girls out, maybe you should go up to him and make the first move. What do you have to lose?

Well, there's a difference between getting that person's attention, and actually getting them to like, talk to you in a friendly way (assuming that you guys aren't friends). To get someone's attention, you would have to do something completely out-of-the-ordinary. Like, dying your hair green or something. Butit doesn't seem like that's the kind of attention that you want from them, so I would suggest finding out some things that the person's into. If the person likes sports, find out what their favourite sport/team is, and maybe just watch a game or so. If they like music, try to find out what their favourite band is, and maybe listen to a few songs. Then, after you do that, you could just start talking to the person about that (now that you have a little bit more information on them), and that might lead to a friendship (if you're not already) and then, who know? Maybe a little bit more.

I don't cuddle

Because girls your age wanna grow up a little more and you know, be able to show their stuff alittle more. It's completely natural. And if you don't like what you have now, no worries, because girls don't stop growing until around their mid-twenties.

What? You mean like, sat with them? Yeah, I sit with my boyfriends/girlfriends all the time. Like, in the movie theatres, at the mall, all those fun places. I'm guessing that's what the question was. Please specify more next time.

Don't worry about what your friends will think. If you do tell them, they shouldn't think any less of you because of it. If they do, what kind of friends are they? If they really TRUELY hate him, then you might have something to worry about. But it doesn't seem like they do, so just relax and let them know.

Have I ever slept with someone? You mean am I a virgin? Yes, I am a virgin. Have I ever REALLY slept with someone? Like, fallen asleep with someone, yes, I have. With one of my exboyfriends on a trip to Disney World. (We weren't together then) Weird stuff, huh?

You can get pregnant anytime...even on your period.

The same way you flirt with anyone, I guess. I don't really know, I don't flirt with people. So I'm not the best person to ask about flirting, sorry.

He won't be able to tell if you don't make it obvious. Don't give him hints that it's your first, and maybe everything will go smoothly.

So, I decided to start this up again after having it idlized for over 2 years. I would have made a new site, except I really like the name that I had. So yeah. Here I am now. A.Good.Lie is back.


I'm a cosmetology major. I love art. And music. And..yeah...

I'll update this later.

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