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I'm Samantha, 17, and I love to help others. If I'm not sure about something, I will tell you, but I will tell you all that I do know. =D

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Okay, so my WHOLE life I thought you just stuck up your middle finger like this- http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/157678/2/istockphoto_157678_middle_finger.jpg

But people at my school are doing this-
http://www.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/430062/2/istockphoto_430062_middle_finger.jpg

What's the difference? It seems like the gothic/emo/punk people do it the 2nd way.. but I donno..

theres no differnce, some people's fingers can stand straight up like the first one, mine cant, and it makes me sad. lol. hope i helped

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ok, my small community around here are starting a thing that we are going to have every year. its called [the name of town] day. There will be booths with yardsales set up, the blow up bouncy houses and many other activities like that. And craft venders set up, and food venders selling food also. And a beauty contest. What i need to know is what are some fund raisers to get this going? What kind of stuff do we need to do it legally, like libality insurance? And what can we call it?

try having a car wash, car washes are great to raise money. esp. if its hot out. hope i helped

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http://www.spiritwearusa.com/images/pointe%20shoes%20and%20ballet%20slippers.jpg

In this picture, there is a pair of pointe shoes.

Ive had my pointe shoes for like .. 2 months now. They are very very unflexible. They don't bend like the ones in the pictures do.

Is there a way for me to get them like that?
Thank you!

youll have to wear them a lot. im not a ballet dancer, but just like ice skating shoes, they need to be used aleast a couple of months, to be ready to use in a competion. so, just wear them around the house, (if your allowed to do that) and when your sitting or laying down, point your toes as hard as you can and leave them like that, everyday do this, soon they will be like that.

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17/f. I have shoulder-length, thick wavy hair (dyed pink, red, and black currently) that I want to cut in a cool and punky way without paying a fortune. Ideally, i'd like it to be down to my ears and a little shaggy on the sides and in the front (where I can straighten it), and short enough to spike in the back. Are there any websites that have instructions on how to cut your own hair? Or any tips you'd like to offer? thanks a lot!

K

i dont know where you live, but i got my hair cut saturday, and it was only 22$. i had hair down to my butt, and got it cut to the shoulders, and it was only 22, and it looks great. i dont suggest you cut it on your own. mainly b/c you dont have any training in it, and the way you want it seems hard to do. so i suggest, call around and ask how about how much it would be. hope i helped

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Hey. im 14/f and I have blondish/brownish hair. Anyway, I really want hair like Rory (from Gilmore Girls). I have about shoulder length hair. Can I/How can I pull this off? (how do I do this with a curling iron?). Also, are there any other hair styles that may look cute? Something better than a ponytail, but not too fancy. Thanks!

i just got my hair cut to my shoulders. this is what i do, i straghten it, then go layer by layer(i have layers lol) and flip them out with a curling iron. then my bangs(top layer) i flip it under, its really cute.. theres a picture of me on my page with my hair like that.. hope i helped

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i'm 14 years old and i'm a female and i have had sex. how do i tell my boyfriend who i lost my virginity to that i don't want to have sex with him anymore.

when you two are kissing or anything and hes like getting in the mood, say no. tell him your not ready and you thought you were the first time, but you want to wait to do it again. hope i helped

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Ok...I'm 16 years old and i have a boyfriend. Is it possible to just not be ready for sex at 16? A lot of my friends have had sex, and done oral sex...but i just dont feel ready for any of that...and i have no desire to do any of that. Is that normal? I feel like by 16 i should be ready (not necessarily be willing) but at least be ready, and to want, to do those things.

Thanks so much!

oh hunny, your fine!!.. you are what most girls should be!.. not ready(including myself) dont do anything if your not ready, you'll know when your ready!!.. hope i helped

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there is this girl but i dont want to ask her out yet cuz i wanna do something first like hold hands or kiss how should i do it

hit your hand with hers a couple of times, like not hard.. lol.. but just brush yours against hers when your walking together.. do this a couple of times, and maybe she'll get your hint. hope i helped

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This is going to be long and I'm sorry for that, but can someone please help me? I swear that I'm a grammar freak so it will be easy to read =X.

I'm 14/f in 9th grade and I'm the kind of girl that has various crushes for a short time. I'd like a guy for less than a month than move on and forget about him. If, by chance, I like a guy for more than a month or two, that means that I really like the guy. [And I emphasize the really part]. Well, I met this guy [let's call him Joe] at the end of September this year through a friend. He's 15/m, turning 16 sometime soon, in 10th grade. At the beginning he was very flirtatious with me but that kind of stopped, and I've grown to really like him sometime during that time. I know that we're not as close anymore now but me, being the hopeless one, keep on hoping that we'd be close again. But moving on. I still like this guy and it's been over 5 months now, which is pretty sad. Well, I told one of my friends that I liked him and she wrote him a note saying "I have a friend that really likes you and cares about you and thinks you're cute, sweet, funny, blah blah blah. But she feels like you're ignoring her and I just want you to notice her and not ignore her." Or something like that and she stuck it in his locker. I swear I didn't know that she was going to do that and I'm still kind of mad at her for doing that. But she did NOT use any names whatsoever. & so I decided to write him a note saying, "This is kind of awkward. Sorry about that ntoe my friend sent you." and then I went on for a few sentences saying what I liked about him. And then I stuck it in his locker. BLAH I don't know why I did that because apparently, he, or someone else, found out it was me. I don't know if someone saw me [because it was an hour before school started and only a few people were at school & I was sure I didn't hear any footsteps near me when I went to his locker] or if he figured it out it was me. I know he knows because when I went to the lunch table where he sits to talk to another person there about going to the mall, a girl was like "Oh look there's [my name]" Then another girl, let's call her Jane, said, "Don't ignore her Joe" Then Joe turned and said "Of course I won't ignore her" And I kind of pretended like I didn't hear any of that. But it was all said in a very sarcastic tone. Then Jane had to add, "Hey, [my name], do you enjoy writing notes and sticking them in people's lockers?" And I played dumb and went "Huh?" and then turned to my friend, whom I was talking with about the mall thing. And I'm hurt that he told people. He must have or they wouldn't have brought up the "ignore" thing. And Jane is pretty mean to me and she's basically a total b*tch. [Sorry for my language].

I know that Joe's a really nice guy but knowing that he told people about the note, I'm very disappointed and sad about. I don't know what to do...do I deny that I put the note in his locker and act as if I'm clueless and as if nothing happened OR do I just nonchalantly admit it and bleh. I don't know what to do. Can anyone give me step by step instructions as to what I should do?

if someone brings it up again, just be like "yeah i like him, but i didnt think my friend would do that, so i was saying sorry to him" thats all.. hope i helped

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16/f

Alright, straight to the point.. I'm a virgin and all.. but like.. sexually active in a way that doesn't involve a dick inside of me.. so this guy I know, wants to pop me.. (I know. blah blah blah. wait for marriage, wait until he's right. blah blah. dont care)

So, we wanted to know.. when he does 'pop' me.. will blood get on his dick?

thanks :)

yeah, most people. i didnt bleed that much. uhm.. make sure he has a condom, and your cherry might be poped already, if your in sports, then it might be poped. but be safe

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My bf and I have had sex multiples times and all we use is the condom. I'm pretty sure we were protected enough because we did the pull out method and no cum was in the condom. There were only a couple of times were he did cum in it. But we'd always check if their was a hole because he would blow into it and then I'd put it over the faucet and put water and their never was a hole either. But the thing is I 2 days late having my period. I was supposed to have it two days ago and I never got it. Now I'm 15 and my periods aren't really regular they usually come whenever but I'm getting a little scared. I know my bf and I were fully protected too. I'm not even getting any signs of pregnancy either. Just the fact that I haven't gotten my period yet. I usually get it every other month or every month. Last month I got it April 4th around there and I don't know what to do. Do you think I should be worried about being pregnant or what? Please help.

Thanks.

try not to worry about it. if you worry to much, then it like messes things up. and you wont get it untill later, so just try not to think about it, and youll be fine.. hope i helped

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My boyfriend & I have been dating for a Year & we didn't have sex until we were dating for 8 months & then we finally did...I have had a kid & I have some concerns...I have never had an orgasim & I have had sex a few times but I was just wondering could there be something wrong with me? Or am I just not doing something right. I know this question sounds stupid but my boyfriend & I tried to have sex again last night & it was like it was a waste of both of our time because neither one of us got off..within the 6 or 7 times we have done it my boyfriend either went limp or we stopped because it wasn't working & wasn't doing anything for either one of us but out of those times 1 of them my boyfriend got off & I felt like I was going to but I never got to find out because he came before I could & he was a virgin before me & him ever had sex & neither one of us basically know what we are doing, but is there something I can do that will help me have an orgasim because I am at a loss..& whoever answer's this & isn't sarcastic I will rate High. Thank you

try on top, that why your in controll, find a place that feels good to you, and just go at it.. not to be mean, but forget about him for that time, and just try to make yourself feel good, and dont worry about him.. lol.. hope i helped

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my family just got a cat in december.
the cat was being so good,
but something changed i guess?
the cat sleeps on my bed at night,
and i think it was 3 nights i accidently closed my door so the cat couldnt get out.
the cat peed on my laundry and pooped on my carpet.
gross.. i know.
but now, last night i left the door open..
but she still pooped and peed on it.
my dad says if he catches her doing it again,
he'll get rid of her.
all i could think of doing is locking the cat out of my room at night.
but then.. what if she pees in my dads room?
then he'll really get rid of her.
how do i make this cat stop peeing and pooping everywhere?

re-train her. if you see her doing it, yell at her and put her nose by it. i never had a cat, so im not sure how you trained it, butjust start over and train her again. hope i helped

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Hey! I'm 14/f from Maryland (if that's of any help). I was wondering which stores sell birthday wearables like crowns, wands and sashes (I'm especially looking for sashes). Do stores like Party City, Claires, Target, Walmart, Kmart, etc sell them? I can't order it online b/c it will take longer to get here, so if you have some stores in mind that would be great!

i;m pretty sure those stores will. also try at the dollar store, i got my crown from there, it was pink!.. lol.. happy birthday!!

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im like about to cry as i write this. okay i was tlaking to this guy.. hes 2 and a half years older than me and we were getting prettyy closee..and then he asked me for pictures and of course, cause im stupid i sent them..don't even say i shouldnt have because i know i shouldnt. well today he called me and we were talking then he said he was talking to another girl then he was like whne are you gonna come over and ahve sex im like never your talking ot someone remember then he was like dont pull that shit. then he was like if you ever come over will you do stuff with me im like uuhm no your talking to someone and he got mad that i kept bringing it up. i find him pretty damn dumb to do that bc he told me who he was talking to and i could tell her what he is saying to me, but i dont wanna fuck anything up. was i write to bring that u again that hes talking to someonen while hes asking me this stuff?

yes you had the right.. hes an asshole. forget about him...

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okay well i really like this kid whos in 11th grade..and im in 9th..whatever thats besides the point. we talk on the phone and stuff and he seems really nice & everythingg. but then everyone is like don't get involved with him, stop talking to him now and stuff but like i dont want to. if the rumors are true..i'd rather find out myself bc i know rumors aren't always true..what should i do

ask him about them.. hope i helped

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i need this ASAP!! its due on monday.. a basketball project.. can anyone tell me (please) the techniques of basketball and how they work example : dribbling offense defense rebound, etc) and then how it wrks for example: dribbling. You have to .. bla bla bla// somethinhg like that coz i know nothing bout basketball and i really need helkp coz i wont be able to do this project over the weekend because i have to go to church the whole weekend so can you please tell me the basic techniques of basketball, something that i can undersatnd and please dont use big words coz i dont know thos words lol... thanks oh and if youre a too generous person can you also tell me the basic rules of basketball coz i also need it but techniques is numero uno ok? thanks so much

dribbling- you have to be slighly bent over, keep the ball at waist high, always look up..

shooting-keep your shooting elbow in,(shoot with one hand, not two) when releasing the ball, take your shooting arm straight up but when the ball releases, flick your fingers down.

to play defense- stay low, bend your knee and arch your back not to much but just enough. slid your feet, dont hop. keep your arms out. one higher then the other. you cant really touch the oppiste team, maybe a touch here and there, but you cant run them over, you grab anything.
if your person doesnt have the ball, then you can hold on to their jersey, not alot, but just so they know your there. and when they start to move, let go.

rebounding(this might not be good, im not a post) but dont go to far under the basket. maybe a foot and a half away from it. dont jump to soon or to late, when it first starts to come down is when you want to jump.

passing the ball.
there are two ways to do this.
bounce pass, you want to pass the ball with bounce. if someone is running infront of you, pass the ball to where the WILL be. not where they are at when you pass it.
chest pass- this is a strong hard pass- to do this start from your chest and aim it at your friends chest, if they are running, again, throw the ball to where they will be and not where their at now.

rules..
no double dribbling-meaning your dribbling, and you touch it with both hands at the same time, and start dribbling again.

no carrying the ball- meaning pretty much holding the ball and running with it.

no fighting

only 5 players playing at a time for a team

if you foul someone, they get a free throw.
freethrow- a free shot with noone around them, they stand infront of the basket, 10 feet away (theres a line where thats at) and gets two chances, unless they get fouled and make the basket, then they only get one.

your not allowed to push someone, that will get you kicked out of the game.

there is a half court mark. once you have the ball and pass that line, where you basket is, you can NOT go back over it with the ball, thats called over and back.

there is out of bounds making the shape of the court.

---your really lucky i did this. like the person said, we're not here to do your homework, but im in a gooood mood, and loooove basketball, so did this. any more help IM me xo sam e kay 09
hope i helped

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how much should a 16 year old weigh thats 5ft 4in

108-145.. According to the BMI any of that is Normal..

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okay... so i cant tell if im pregnant or not.. im afraid to go take a test so im just wondering what are some signs of beign pregnant.. i havent had sex.. but me and my boyfriend did other stuff and i cant remember if we were as careful as we should have been.. like if he touched himself and then he touched me ... could i really get pregnant like that? i havent gotten my perid yet but i am very athletic.. i feel fatter and look rounder.. but that could just be my mind.. i dont know...
im really stressing out..
please help....
if you need more info askk me please...

you could get pregnant like that. but press down on your stomach, about where you wear your pants, maybe an inch. down. press on it, without flexing your stomach, and if its hard then you could be.(you might have to wait a week if you just messed around like last night, but if its been about a week then you can do this) hope i helped

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My school is totally infested with lice. I've gotten checked and I've been found clean, but I obviously want to stay that way. Can you help me find some products or anything that can prevent me from getting lice? I want to repell lice, I don't want to kill them. Thanks in advance!

i dont know about products, but if your one of those people that wash their hair 2 times a day, go down to once. Lice loooves clean hair, it so much easier for them to live in it. so washy uor hair once a day, or everyother day. hope i helped

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