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Q: ok. so ive been with this guy who lives in california for 2 years. and i live in tx. anyways we're really in love. the thing is i sent him a fake picture. i know it was wrong and the guilt is killing me. so i dont need it from anyone else.but i was wondering how i can break up with him..its not as easy as i thought it would be. im in love with him..i cant just end things, but it needs to be done..any advice?
thanks.
well if you sent him the pic when you both first met, tell him that you didnt feel so safe and you didnt really know him. but now that you two are in love, tell him the truth and tell him that you love him and that the picture wasnt you because you didnt really know him so now that you two know each other, tell him and send him a real pic of you

im not sure if that helped but good luck!

Q: 14/f
I have this headache that is so bad that I end up crying. When I cry, that makes it worse. I know this sounds stubborn but I refuse to take medication. Does anyone have anything they do to get rid of headaches? Or at least make them feel slightly better?
that happens to me ALOT.. what i do is lay down and maybe watch a movie or some tv ..medicine usually doesnt work for me but you could try taking a nap and that usually helps alittle or maybe even take a bathhh

Q: what does it mean to give head ?
aha it means that theyre asking you to suck their dick

Q: so heres just a stupid question :-D uhh can you really die by leaving a tampon in 2 long or something? i mean i dont use them anyways but a lot of people say that!!!
well leaving a tampon in for too long, like over 8 hours can cause TSS and that can lead to death. but TSS is usually rare

Q: I've gone to a public school my whole life. Now 7th grade is ending and im going on to 8th grade. My brother goes to a private school and i want to go there. But I'm afraid of leaving behind my friends. I have a much better chance of getting accepted because my brother goes, but my brother doesn't talk to his old friends much. One of my friends who switches school a lot told me that I should do whats best for me, not for my friends. But I'm not sure whats best for me. I want to go to private school to help me with college, but I dont want to stop being able to see my other friends cause i love them so much.

I'll rate high if you try to help me with my decison
well which school do you think you'll be happier in?

but if you want to go to a private school because it helps you with college, then go for it. for the friends part, you can always talk to them out of school and keep in touch, talk to them online or on the phone and maybe once in a while you guys can hang out and have some fun and gossip !

Q: do guys really like blond better than brown hair?? cause in movies there like always blond girls with good looking guys and everything! so i just wanna know what collor do guys like better?
well it all depends, some guys liek blond hair better and some like brunette better

Q: I have this pimple on my upper lipline and it's kinda big and red. What can I put on it to make it smaller (something i don't have to buy) because I have to go out tomorrow and this is bugging me.
it could be a cold sore but it also could be a pimple.. since you cant get out of your house, you could put some toothpaste on it overnight and it might cause it to be less red and smaller the next day. but if you haave some face wash or acne wash, use that!

Q: me and my x bf have been on and off for 2 years and even if were off were still kinda together...like holding hands..etc...and one day he went to a party and got with a girl..and he called me that same nite and told me that all my friends are going to be lying to be the next day sayign that he got with someone but its not true...well i found out its true and he admitted it to me...and i just want to know if i have a right to be mad..because he doesnt think so...
yes i do think you have the right to be mad.. he went to a party and hooked up with a girl and you two were still kinda together, and he basically lied to you first saying that his friends are gonna tell you he got with someone but its all a lie, shouldnt he be more honest although he told you after ? but yes i do think you have the right to be mad at him

Q: So I posted a couple recent posts about what happend. And I think it's best if he and I go our seperate ways. I mean I love him and want to stay with him. But we are two different. We have different views on religion, and kids and hes younger, so we're really not on the same maturity level. Mom read some of our conversations and shes like Britt he's crazy. You need out of this. So I'm going to post some stuff and I want to know if he is.

[22:30] My Baby: k but i just got in a fight with grandma
[22:30] x_withoutu_x: what over?
[22:31] My Baby: religion
[22:31] My Baby: and i told her i would prolly kill myself before i turned 18
[22:32] x_withoutu_x: what did she say?
[22:32] My Baby: she thinks im kidding ill show her
[22:33] My Baby: im an athiast
[22:34] My Baby: there is no god
[22:35] My Baby: the bible is just a book nothing more than Harry Potter
[22:35] My Baby: are you reading this
[22:36] My Baby:
[22:36] x_withoutu_x: yes
[22:37] My Baby: what do you think
[22:37] My Baby: whats your opinon
[22:38] x_withoutu_x: I don't want to talk about it because we disagree and that would just cause an argument.
[22:38] My Baby: well id rather you stand up and talk instead sit there and let it go on
[22:39] My Baby: i think your leaving me
[22:39] My Baby: i know your trying to
[22:10] My Baby: im considering suicide
[22:12] x_withoutu_x: im back im gonna eat..trae stop it i love you
[22:13] x_withoutu_x: brb
[22:15] My Baby: i love you and im serious
[22:15] My Baby: i was about to stab myself last night
[22:28] My Baby: back yet

theirs some. If you need more just tell me.
uhmmm. this is kinda scary i mean .. hes gonna commit suicide! your mom is right, hes like crazy. tell him that you two are better off being friends and that you dont feel like being in a relationship right now.. like what if he wants to hang out withyou but you cant, he'll like flip ! hope he'll understand and be careful! good luck!

Q: Hi. My bro broke of 5 laptop keys on my laptop so i was wondering is there some way i can fix it at home or wil i hve to carry it in the shop?
well if the keys popped off then you can pop them back in but if the keys literally broke, then i guess you should go in to the shop and have it checked

Q: ok well i just got my ipod today. . and well i dont know how to upload songs to it and transfer it to my ipod. i installed the itunes and stuff but i dont know how to go from there. i have a video ipod so can anyone help me?
thanks
okay well when you download songs from itunes it should be in your library im guessing and then you go to the first tab on the top and click on update ipod.. this is how all the music from your itunes library transfers to your ipod

but if you download music from some other program other than itunes i think you just drag the music into the library of itune and its just the same and then go to the first tab on the tab and click on update ipod

Q: Would you ever meet someone in person off of myspace? I know most of you are going to say no but what if it's a friend of a friend?
i wouldnt meet anyone off of myspace unless i know them ..but since this person is a friend of a friend, you can probably meet them but invite your other friend so it wont be as awkward and just for safety

Q: Dr. Dre FT. Eminem!!
whats the song called?
5s for anything!!
"most people wanna talk like they got somthin to say but nothing comes out when they move their lips just a bunch of jibberish"

WHATS IT CALLED??!

MUCHO LOVE
LILA
its called forget about dre

Q: Is there anywhere to find cheap & cute prom dresses? The prom is this weekend & I really need to find a dress quick!
deb, forever 21, jcpennys, windsor, filenes, you can go to the mall and just search for dresses and maybe you'll find one you like!

Q: let me explain...
person"A" has mono.
person"B" madeout with person "A".
person"B" madeout with person "C" minutes later.
is it possible for person "C" to get mono??

*-thanks
♥ ♥ ♥
yeh its possible cause B could have gotten mono from A and then C could have gotten it from B

Q: ok this sounds so gross but today i was going to use the restroom and i had all this blood in my underwear and i dont know why i am not on my period i just got off my period and it just bled then then stopped and i feel iritated down there im really scared PLEASE HELP ME

rate 5 if good advice
i think thats pretty normal because i also just got off my period and today i still had a little blood, so its probably still your period

Q: Ok, I just wanted to ask, ok, my family has like, 5 cats, and 1 of them has gone missing! I am worried sick, and my Mom misses him 2 death, (he was her favorite) and we have NO idea where he is! We miss him so, and are just wondering, where do you think he is? Do you think he's ok? Should I worry? Heres some info:

He is not fixed
Has not run away for longer then a few hours
Is an indoor cat
Parents dissapeared also but came back
HAs been gone for 3 days

Where is he? Please give me some suggestions on finding him!
you can make posters and hang them around your town and maybe when someone sees your cat they will bring it back ..he'll probably come back cause he will probably miss you guys lol ..but yah good luck though!

Q: Everytime I ask a question i get about 3 answeres and then at the bottom of the question this gets put:

Note:This question was deleted and will not be shown on general search pages.
If there is a reason entered by the moderator it will appear here:
This question was given the lowest rating by at least five level I moderators.

Why does it do that? What does it mean.?

5's for anything.
My question was fine and it still got deleted.
Questions that are outside the acceptable use guidelines are automatically deleted by level II moderators before they ever see the light of day, but lots of other questions get deleted as well after a period of time. Level I moderators are given the freedom to rate questions, and if five of them give you the lowest rating, your question gets taken off the site.

We let level I mods rate based on anything they feel like... they might rate you down because it's whiny, or because it's phrased weird, or because they don't like you. The most common reason for a low-rating is that we've seen the question a million times before or it deals with issues we've heard about a million times before. You can browse categories or use the question search pages to find advice given to people who asked similar questions.

Your question also might be too long and complicated (are you giving us paragraphs of detail that don't even matter before getting to the point of your question?) or it might be too short and impersonal (is your question so broad and void of details that we can't picture the situation?).

We know it's not nice to delete questions, but we get hundreds of these things a day and our columnists go insane if they get stuff that's really not answerable.

that was in the faq section

Q: hey i really love emo mucic i just dont know any good bands and if you have any id love any bands. thanks.. ill rate 5's

blink 182
brand new
hellogoodbye
jack's mannequin
matchbook romance
mest
motion city soundtrack
plain white tees
say anything
something corporate
taking back sunday
the academy is..
the spill canvas
the starting line
the used

Q: every girl i go out with dumps me within a couple of weeks. i'm not conceited and people are always telling me i'm a nice guy but now i'm starting to feel like i'm not capable of keeping a girlfriend. how can i keep a girl for more than a couple of weeks?
well let your girlfriend know that you like her and make jokes and have her laugh.. if shes down and not feeling well check on her and call once in a while to see how shes doing, but not even that, you have to call her like when you have time and make plans with her, you have to be sweet and nice, hang out with her and if you guys are watching movies or out at the movie theater cuddle with her, takke her out to dinner or something .. just be a great boyfriend! haha if you need more just let me know!

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