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Q: wat trends are in style now? Also, how do you pull of the belt on the waist? I dont kno how to do it...
there are many different trends. too many to name. as for the belt at the waist ? first of all a wide belt, a long, flowy shirt, skinny jeans, a big necklace, and flats, all matching colors. thats the basic way to pull it off. forever 21 is probably one of the best stores to buy clothes and put together an outfit.

Q: THeres this guy who's really hot. I dont like him and want to go out, but he's hot, and i want to hook up with him. I only see him sometimes b/c we dont go to school together, but we keep in touch over facebook. He's kind of a player, and he could pretty much get any girl he wanted. I'm confident, and i think that i have a chance. But what are some things that i could comment his facebook saying? just some conversation starters, but cool ones, not lame, "DID YOU SEE THAT MOVIE?" or "WHATS YOUR FAVORITE BAND?"
something good. that will make him like me.
i think that you should just ask him if he wants to chill or something. just be like "what`s up ? haven`t seen you in a while. we should kick it sometime." &stuff like that.

Q: I have an event for which I need a new outfit.

I really want a shirt/top that encircles my neck, but I don't know what this kind of top is called, so I can't search for it.

Can anyone tell me what the name for these kind of tops is, and maybe give me some websites that have them?

Thanks!
it`s called a halter top.

Q: Is there anywhere online that you can talk to a psychiotrist or counsler without paying or anything?
well, there`s this advice site, but other than that, pretty much all trained psychiatrists cost money and have to have in person sessions.

Q: my boyfriend says he loves me but he was checking out some other girl at school i don't know if i should breakup with him or not?


female
13
i don`t think you should. all guys do that, it`s the only way they stay sane. but don`t trip, that`s a stupid thing to end things over, especially if he really does love you.

Q: I have a tough life and I sometimes create a better life for myself. I use people I care about or others, and I use them to comfort me. Does that make me crazy because I think about them? I make stories or illusions with them. Do i belong in a mental institute?
hah. nahh, hun. that`s called daydreaming. (:

Q: I am a 14 year old female and I am the younger sister. I have an older sister and I live with my mother. Me and my sister are total oppisotes down to the tee. My sister is tall, beautiful, SKINNY, smart, etc. I'm none of those. I am pretty smart but I slack off alot. My mom and my sister have this really good relationship but I don't. My mom makes my sister monitor me. Sure I'm a little overwieght but my mom brings it up everywhere infront of everybody. She makes me feel like I'm a disgrace. She compains about how much I eat and what I do because I watch TV. She always compares me to my sister. She talks about how she eats better and what she was like at my age. I feel so wrong. I feel like I don't deserve to be here. They both go out on dates and I'm left alone which doesn't bother me as much because when they are home they complain about me and what I do. I'm pretty but just a little chubby. But i feel like no one really cares who I am. My mom and sister go through my room together or used to read my diary. What do I do. I don't wan to talk to anyone because I've tried that. Don't tell me to talk to them because I have and they understood and then the next day they forgot even when I asked them. I feel lost and hurt because my family really doesn't care. I need to know how I can make this better or if there are people I can talk to wihtout being there face to face because I'm a little sensitive.

Thanks.
well, being where you are, theres not much you can do. your basic choices are either change, or shove it in their face how much it hurts you. if i were you`d, i`d probably be long gone by now, so props to you for holding out. basically, either change, or do what i would do, which is basically go off on them. haha. you need to make them understand how bad this makes you feel.

Q: I'm pretty good at volleyball (well better than alot of people.. not to brag.. but I've always liked the sport, and I even played it in the summer, at like some good rec place.). however in soccer, i have been playing for like 3 seasons, and im not the best player.. like I dont know all those tricks and junk, but I'm determined.. yet lack alot of skills, lol. I'm a 7th grade girl, and I'm going to high school soon.. and Im wondering which do I pick? because the soccer and volleyball seasons are both in the fall... that sucks because I love both, but soccer better.. but im not that good at it! what to pick! .. I wish I started soccer earlier :/
i had the same kind of problem, although at our school, volleyball is fall&soccer is winter, so first, you might want to doublecheck on the seasons. anyways, i had to choose between wresling and soccer, which i have been playing for 4 years. i chose wrestling. why ? simple. new experiences. i think you should try volleyball as highschool sport. then decide whether you like soccer or volleyball better. well you are only in 7th grade, so you really don`t need to worry about it much yet. you might want to see if you know anyone (such as older siblings or friends of older siblings) that play on the soccer or volleyball team. ask what they do for each sport and see which one you would prefer. talking to the coaches about it would also be a good idea. ask how they run things and stuff, and then make your decision.

Q: 14/f
i've noticed that most celebrities and beautiful people have very distinct jaw bones. and i really want mine to be like that.
any tips?

thanks much.
okay, the reason that it`s called a jaw bone, is because it`s a bone ! there is really no way to improve this, it`s just the way you`re born.

Q: My ex boyfriend and I dated 3 years on and off and 6 months steady. I broke up with him about 4 months ago. I can't seem to get over him. In this case its harder because our parents are best friends and we see each other all the time. At school, he comes over, I go there. For me its harder than usual. How can I get over him. Please don't say stay away from him because thats not an option. Any and everything will help.
Mac
PS. I had very good reasons for breaking up with him.
well, considering that you see him all the time, it`s gonna be pretty hard, and your gonna have to stay tough. first of all, you should think about why you should get over him. you need to convince yourself that its the best thing for you, that its for your good and its to protect yourself from getting hurt or whatever has happened. second of all, you should try talking to some other guys, or taking up some more hobbies. having things to take your mind off of him might help quite a bit. and third, if he is flirting with you or doing anything to make you fall for him again, explain to him that you need to get over him and ask him to stop. well, i think thats all i got. i hope i helped.

Q: Ok, this is going to be a long one. How do you summarize a few months of covert thoughts? I can only describe what happened with this one girl like this- I fell in love with her. I feel it's a very, very good match for me.. the only problem being that I could jeopardize our friendship (we developed a surprisingly close friendship). Now there's another potential partner who I think is very attractive, but she's too old for me (I'm 15, she's 18), who I really don't want to hurt, but I don't think it'll work out. However, we have confessed feelings for eachother- I only confessed mine after she confessed hers.. I have problems with showing PDA and trust issues. What steps should I take to (a) minimize damage and (b) end up with someone who works? I haven't typed in HALF of what's needed for this question, but upon prompt I will gladly fill in the blanks. Thank you.
i think, first of all, you should talk to a. drop hints&stuff, and if she doesn`t get it, just tell her straight up, most girls like that better. as for choice b, i don`t see what good can come of that. first of all, she`s much older and at that age where she might ask for some things you don`t want to give. second of all, legally, it`s illegal and she can be put in jail for that and will be tried as an adult. third of all, if she`s a senior, she`s going to college next year, and if she`s already in college, well, that`s not any better. besides, you say you really like choice a, so you should really pursue her because you never know what could happen. i guess you could try choice b, but like i said, i don`t see what good can come of it.

Q: I'm switching schools, how long does it take for them to transfer stuff like.. when we'll i start? if my mom calls tmrw. [wednesday] will it take a week? =/ or less... or more. ):


thanksss loves.
it probably will not take that long, considering right now, most schools either have recently ended or are soon ending first semester. if your school hasn`t ended first semester, they will probably have you complete the semester at your school, what with finals and all, but if now, it should be pretty fast.

Q: uhm like i have ripped jeans, and i wanna make more rips like on the back of them ? how do you rip them?
best way is to get a straight razor &rub at it until you get all the way through.

Q: are there any other books out there similar to lovely bones? and yes, i've already read cut & go ask alice. thanks :]
well, i don`t know if these books is really similar to it, but i`ve read cut, and i like a few books: crushed, this lullaby, the burn journals, etc.

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