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E-mail: sia.d.sus@hotmail.com
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Location: New Zealand
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Age: 20
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ok so i'm gonna try and just get to the pointt. i'm really hoping i'm worrying way worse about it then i am because its stressing me out so much its making me feel sick. well..i kindof had, some sort of sex with my boyfriend today. I mean i say sort of because it wasnt in me. Ever. I had my pants down and his were down and they were rubbing against each other but i'm pretty sure i stopped all contact before cum or precum. I ended up giving him a hand job because well i cant leave my baby hangin lol but i'm just really scared that i could be the least bit pregnant. My period is in a week, what do you think my chances are at getting pregnant? "/ (link)
adding to what the other person said, make sure that you take the pregnancy test 10days after your missed period. dont stess im sure your not pregnant expecially if no one has ever poped your cherry (like litarally been up there). sounds like you guys were just fooling around rather than had sex so dont stress about it, its a slim chance. dont think about it or your mind will make you believe you are when you may not be. just move on and if you miss your period and still havent got it after 10days take the test


Ok I'm turnning 16 in 4 weeks and my dad agreed to let me get any piercing I want! I really want Vertical Snake Bites!

Like this dude has: http://i404.photobucket.com/albums/pp121/sarahndipity81/Piercings%20and%20Tattoos/n5vq-vertical-snakebites.jpg


But I can't find any shop that'll do it for me since I'm 16 :(
I live in Illinois, anyone know a nice CLEAN shop that'll do it for me? In Illinois, Idiana and Wisconsin at most. If not...My second choice are Spider Bites.

Like so: http://i84.photobucket.com/albums/k17/jordannrhodes/lip.jpg


I'd be getting them on both my left and right side, so it'd be four times...o-o
Know any place that'll do either or for me? WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR TELL ME!!!!>:U

One more thing I'm looking to get my septum too, but, I'd like to know. Do you think I should wait a while first before I get 'em or get everything done at the same time?

--Thank you! (link)
definity get oneside done at a time because if you get all four done you will be in so much pain and wont be able to move your lip.its safer to get oneside done at a time aswell and less risk with infections etc.

sorry i dont live in Indiana so i cant help you with anything else


soo on facebook, my name won't show up when people try to search me! i looked at my setttings, and it says "everyone" when it says look who can search for you. and i know that people cant find me because one time i was working with my friend and she was on hers and i told her to add me so i typed my name into the search and i didnt come up. its quite annoying. anyone know why this could be? (link)
thats really weird. did they try searching you by your email?that could help. try that. the thing is FB has been stuffing up. i tried to change my settings at some point and it wouldnt let me either. the best way is to search your friends and add them instead


rosehip oil What is this?
and do you use it? (link)
its this oil that comes from the seeds of a rose after its dried up. its really good i used it on my scare that i got from my opperation and at the moment im using it on my stretch marks, its waaay better than anything else because its all natural


ok, our homecoming dance is coming up within the next couple of weeks and i've been trying to think of what to do with my hair and stuff with my dress.

sorry the picture quality's bad, it was with my phone: http://tinypic.com/r/53wmmh/4

but i'm an extremely pale girl, and i have auburnish hair. i was just going to wear some simple black flats with the dress, but i wasn't sure if maybe just a nice round toe pump would be better ( i've always been weird about my pale legs so i never thought heels would ever look right ). and speaking of the pale legs, i've also seen people wear black pantyhose with their dresses, good idea you think or no? and then what shoes with that is a question as well.


and then as for my hair. i just have sideswept bangs and i usually straighten it, but it's naturally wavy. i thought about going with wavy cause if i just straighten it it looks kind of weird with the outfit. and with the sideswept, if i did a ponytail it just looks kind of kiddish, in my opinion.


so just whatever opinions anyone wants to toss out, i'd appreciate, haha. sorry for all the questions but i've been talking with friends and people about this and they all gave me different opinions and it just made me more indecisive. (link)
heeeyyy!what a lovely dress!k i really think you should wear the round toe pump shoes theyl make your legs look really toned and plus its a dance everyone wears heels to dances...dont wear pantyhose because you will get really hot!dont worry about the colour of your legs just learn to love them, then everyone else will too!

for your hair do a french braid like this:
http://www.hairboutique.com/images/FrenchBraid7.JPG

or even have your hair as beach waves like this:
http://blstb.msn.com/i/61/7458D9378FD63146671659AADC949.jpg

depends what your into really

for your eyes maybe these looks would be nice..go for gold and black eye shadow
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHLMjcJLE4c&feature=fvsr
or
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z49yr0zk_pk

hope this helpes!


Sasha Katherine-Rose & Elena Ricci-Regine.

I think they both have a special ring to it. ^_^ Both middle names for the girls are named after parents.

Opinions? (link)
are these names your considering for your baby?i like them both especially Elena and Kathrine-Rose have you considered Elena Kathrine-Rose??


This question is mainly for the guys:

I'm female/16 and I really like this guy. He's from Egypt, but he's lived in the states now for over 5 years. He's 18, and we both go to the same school. I can tell he's starting to like me as more than a friend, but there's a problem. He has a girlfriend in Egypt that he got when he went back last summer to visit family.

Would it be completely ridiculous to believe he'd dump her if he started liking me, or knew I liked him? I mean, I know she's of his culture and he must like her, but now he's countries away, and he's not moving back to Egypt. Ever. He just visits. I'm here. And I don't want to give up on him because we're so great together. I know he likes me...

Any advice? (link)
heeeeyy im not a guy but i can still give advice about this because im familure with the culture...its a possibility that he may dump her, but i doubt it because usually egyptians would date someone of the same culture.like usually egyptians date egyptians thats probibly why hes having a long distancxe relationship with her rather than being with you. i could be wrong but i do know thats their culture. have you known him to go out with a chik that isnt egyptian?because if so then there could be a chance


So I was Thinking when I have children and I am probable going to get them what is the best way to get rid of them?

Please tell me a bunch of options lol (link)
use rosehip oil its reallly good. or go to the health shop and ask them but i know natural rosehip oil is excellent


For 15 years I was a happily married homemaker with a wonderful husband. "Duncan" and I attended church together, frolicked through the fields, even exterminated rodents together. He was my best friend. It was bliss.

Last year I found out my father had had an affair with Duncan's mother the year I was born, which makes him my half-brother! The news was too much for my husband. He had a fatal heart attack not long after.

What should I put on his gravestone -- "Loving Brother" or "Loving Husband"? (link)
omg im sooo sorrryyy!!!i sympathise complately :(...put it as what you believed he was not what you were told. if you knew him as your husband then thats what should be put on his gravestone.


me and my bf loves each other and i need to ask him something but i dont know how to ask him so he wont get mad (link)
well you know what you should do, go somewhere where you cant get interrupted like a park or somewhere quiet like your room. before you ask him just tell him that you want to ask him something that could upset him or hurt him. tell him that you really dont want to hurt him but you just want to ask the question so its out in the open because you love him and dont want to keep anything from him. ask him to promise that he wont get angry because its only a question


Can someone translate this song for me...I'd like a direct translation. I pretty much get it's baout love. There is a translation with this video but it's hard for me to read in a lot of parts...I really like it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sEK9UET5TU
Thank you. (link)
ofcourse my baby your the best,for sure i love you most
ofcourse my baby your the best,for sure i love you most
the dream of my night is mine
its my life and i have every right
the dream of my night is mine
its my life and i have every right
you are my hope, my new love
your mine, you make my heart so happy
you are my hope, my new love
your mine, you make my heart so happy
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
ofcourse baby me me me, more
when the time brought you to me
the happiness met my eyes
when the time brought you to me
the happiness met my eyes
i surrendered my life to love
my heart is your heart i offered it to you
with you is a beautiful world and i will not suffer
a beautiful world and my heart will not suffer
my first love, there wont be a second
you are my hope, my new love
you are my hope my new love
your mine, you make my heart so happy
your mine, you make my heart so happy
you are my hope my new love
your mine, you make my heart so happy
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
ofcourse baby me me me me me me me, more
its your right to promise us
beautiful nights and make us happy
its your right to promise us
beautiful nights and make us happy
oh the love does not surrender
our love came to us and taught us
the world is beautiful and i will not suffer
your my first love and there wont be a second
you are my hope my new love
you are mine and my heart is happy
you are my hope my new love.
you are mine and my heart is happy
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
ofcourse baby me me me, more
ofcourse baby me, more
ofcourse i love you the most
ofcourse baby me more
ofcours ei love you the most
the dream of night is mine
thats my life and my right
the dream of night is mine
you are my hope my new love
you are mine and my heart is happy
you are my hope my new love
you are mine and my heart is happy
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
who loves you the most
who is sleepless at night from wanting you
for sure baby,thats me the ofcourse

(wow k long song!) hope this helped :)











Hey im that guy whio asked the question on how to get the girl at work's number, then i posted another question the day after saying how i had gotten her number and asking somthing else.
i then sent out thank you letters to the people who answer'd saying how we went to a club the day after and we woke up on my sofa which my mum found us both asleep on the sofa, well this is an update

She's leaving for uni and she wanted to spare me the pain and frustration of a long distance relationship and has decided to split up with me. Ill be honest i saw it coming a few days ago... but i didnt think it would hurt this much while wanting her so badly. i havent stopped crying for the last 4 hours.

we both still love eachother very much and are going to stay in contact but just not be together. I think its a good idea but as much as i hate to admit its a good idea i hate to see her go too.

really im asking what do i do now? wait the 2 years out till she comes back from University? or do i just try to move on, we have such a connection i havent felt it this much with any other person ever and im not exaggerating.


Ps: thank you very very much for your help in previous question's. the last 3 weeks have been the happiest i have had in a long long time. (link)
awww your most welcome, your such a sweety!!
when i read this i laterally yelled out NOOOOOOOOOO!!! im really sad because your sad. i could just tell from the beginning you loved her.
you dont have many options. i mean did you think about moving with her to where shes going?i know you cant just drop everything and leave but its something you can consider.

long distant relationships are really hard and theres a very slim chance theyl work outbut then again distance is a test to see how far love can travel. really dont want to be telling you this because i know how much your hurting.

what if she settled down at uni and you joined her later on. i mean if you love her then shell be worth it. Talk to her about this there has to be another way!!

on the other hand your the only person that knows whats best. if you think its a good idea to break up and go your seperate ways while staying intouch to find out what the future has instore for you both then go with that. i mean right now things are a blurr but i think deep down you know what to do but to afraid to admit it because whatever option you choose its going to peirce your heart. just remember that time heals everything.

im really sorry about this and i wish i had some majical powers to make this go away but instead ill just promise you that ill always be here for you...you should add me on msn just incase

sia.d.sus@hotmail.com or if you have facebook let me know what it is and ill add you

PS smile for me k theres still a future to come and who knows what can happen


http://www.zedge.net/ringtones/753592/message-tone-ringtone/

I can't remember which song this is and its freaking me out!! Help.

~InsaneObsessedMusicFreak (link)
its cassie- me and you!!hehe


y can't i easily upload pics in facebook??? i use the simple uploader which is driving me insane.. errrr.. how do i make it fast??? need it asap...thanks! (link)
you need to make the piks smaller. what you do is go to the piks right click on one of them and click on open with microsoft office picture manager then click on picture up the top and then click on resize and something will come up on the right side of the screen click on the arrown and click on "web small" and click ok then go to file and save the image then go back to fb and upload it. it will upload faster that way


I do this exercise routine pretty much everyday..

1) 25 sit-ups.
2) 25 "backward" sit-ups. (You know..its like a sit-up but with ur legs moving up and down instead of stomach)
3) 20 of this waist exercise
4) 35 of another waist exercise
5) 15 lunges for each leg
6) 15 squats
7) The plank. I do that 30 seconds twice.
8) I lift 5 lb weights on each arm 20 times.
9) 10 more times of just lifting the 5 lb weight.

Then I'm done..
It get's quite annoying doing this every night..but I feel the need to =/ I don't know why. I'm not fat or anything. I used to be which is why I started exercising in the first place.I just do it every night now. But, I know it's a lot. I just want some advice on whether I should cut down how much I do or what?
Everytime I try to limit myself to 6 days a week..I feel like I'm going to get fat again. I probably have some kind of problem lol I don't know :( Help?!
Thankyou. (link)
nope thats not bad at all...well done i say!i mean the more you do it the more your body gets stronger so its not going to affect you badly. thats the work out i do but not 7days a wekk but i wish!if i had the time i would do that too well done


it's been about a month since my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex. i did have my period but it was about a week earlier than normal and it only lasted about two and a half days, and it usually lasts 4-5 days. My period is usually very regular as well. i've been getting nauseous more easily if i eat or smell certain things, and i get carsick a lot easier. I've looked on the internet and i'm just not certain, could it be time for a pregnancy test?
17/f
please only answer if you have advice, i don't need opinions on protected sex.
Thank you (link)
10days after the date of your regular period have a pregnancy test. theres no harm in taking the test just incase. it could be nothing but better safe than sorry


girls: ok haha this is a weird question but when you get out of the shower do you find hair like in your butt-vag? its annoying cause i have to like pick it out after and like if my bf eats me or something its embarrasing for him to like pull hair out. what can i do to stop thiss? (link)
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA sorrry this question cracked me up lmao!its normal...pull it out in the shower before hand. u cant really avoid it maybe shower before you see him?if possible


ok, I am 16 years old. ever since i started my period 6 months ago, it has NEVER been irregular. However, this month, about a week before it was supposed to come, i started having a little bit of brown discharge, and now it is actually time for it to come and the discharge is a darker brown, but it's still not here. Last month i started working out every day, but i stopped a week before this scheduled period now. Could that have a factor on when it's going to come even though I stopped a week before it was scheduled to come? I am not sexually active and as far as i know, I am not stressed out. What could be the reason for this? (link)
heeyyy. your like me i first got my period when i was 16 and it was never regualr. like ever!it would always come at random times. i soon found out that aparently for some people who start getting their periods it takes a couple of years for their period to regulate. its nothing to worry about. i went through the same thing. it will soon regulate after a year or so.if your extremely worries go see a doctor but theyll probibly tell you the samething



this is long and I'm truely sorry but I really need help.

my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. a month later he moved in with me *we were friends in high school* so we knew each other. in the beginning his mother and I did not get a long at all, she assumed "I stole her son". While his mother called a good 25+ times a day I told her to stop calling so much *it was my phone line* and she called back leaving dirty messages, mainly harrassment ones. then she started texting our phones leaving more harrassment messages and we went to the cops. My boyfriend and his mother didn't speak after that for 5 months after that, then he called her again because family told us that she missed him..and she kept asking for us to visit her *she lives 2 hours away* and my boyfriend came up with an excuse saying how he was working..then he went another 5 months without talking to her...

during this time of not talking to her the relationship has been damaged with my boyfriend and his mother as well as his mom and I, She harrassed me and the fight was mainly towards me with threats, harrassment and name calling.

My bf wants to call his mom but at the same time we are set on not wanting her at our wedding nor in our future childs life, If he talks to her we dont know how to tell her that..and if we dont' talk to her she will find out the hard way...and if he talks to her and doesnt' say nothing then she will find out through someone eles...I don't know what the heck to do this is causing great stress on our relationship (link)
well ask yourself. was your relationship with your boyfriend better when she was around or now when shes not?i mean family is family you cant live without them. once she finds out about the wedding and the baby shes going to call and annoy you just like she use to but this time its going to hit her harder than ever because she found out from someone else. maybe if you tired to get to know the mother like call her once in awhile and get to know he that way she wont feel like shes being erased from her sons life and will eventually back off. she feels like shes loosing the boy shes had her whole life to a girl he met in high school so please try to understand where shes coming from. i mean you dont need to see her all the time, just give her closure that her son is going to be taken care of.


~does getting a cherry popper hurt
~can it happen when ur finger someone
~how can u make the first time getting fingered feel good


please any help with any of these questions would help
me and my g/f havnt ever done any of this and i dont want to mess up
amail is wipey1593587@yahoo.com (link)
hey hey:)...well you can use a lubricant or eat her out before hand. if you dont want to do that then lick your fingers. remember if its her first time use only one finger and start slow then once your finger eaily moves in and out of her vagina you can go fatser. rub lightly on her clit like the bit out side her vagina just above the whole, that will really set her off make sure your gentle. you can finger her fast but dont go too deep up if you dont want to hurt her. sometimes when your fingering her past and deep it can hurt her little. just be natural about it once your doing it you can tell if she ;likes it just by her moaning and expression on her face i guess :)..if you need anymore help this is my email sia.d.sus@hotmail.com




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