Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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people keep saying that i cut what i dont anymore and i just wanna forget about that past and they wont let me how can i show people that i dont cut.I do get scraches on me because i have 13 pets.But i dont want to happened what happened befor.So HOW CAN I SHOW PEOPLE THAT I DONT CUT.im not sure if this is the write category (link)
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I'm glad to hear that you aren't doing something dangerous and unhealthy to yourself.
I am not sure how you can convince people that you no longer cut, but let them know, cutting was a part of your past, but you have moved on from there. Let them know you realized that cutting wasn't a reasonable way to escape your problems and that you want to move on and focus on the future but that you cannot do it, if they constantly remind you. I guess if they still don't believe you, ask them what you can do to show them you have changed.
If these people are your friends they are probably worried that you will relapse, let them know that whenever you do need them, you will confront them.
I hope it works out.
-Teacup
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Last night I found out that my close friend slept over my boyfriends house. He didn't tell me that she was going to even though I was with him all day. That really anonyed me because he doesn't even want me to come to his dad house (it's a 30 minute drive from here & he says he hates it there) The girl is one of my close friends, but I know her well and she tends to almost act like they're going out by doing little things like touching his arm and getting really close to him (and she has a boyfriend) I can flat out say I trust him but I don't trust her especially because she lets other guys do stuff to her and lies to her boyfriend all the time. Yes, their good friends but why was she sleeping over his house in the first place? It just seems odd. Do I have the right to be mad? I want to get back at him so bad for not telling me .. idk what to do ): (link)
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Yes, you do have every right to be mad. As his girlfriend, he has a duty to you and telling you that a girl is sleeping over his house is definitely up there. I would tell him that I trust him but I feel uncomfortable with her around him. That's not to say that you don't want them to keep a friendship, but you don't think it should be any friendlier than that. Just tell him you respect that he has friends because in a relationship it's not healthy to be clingy to just one another, but that out of respect he shoudl let you know things like that because if not it, you have every reason to think he is shady for hiding things from you. There's no reason to hide things from one another.
Good Luck.
-Teacup
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O.K. i don't want to sound desperate b/c i'm NOT!! i'm "concerned" about my `invisible` love life. i'm 13yrs.old, a female, and going to highschool.
i haven't gotten my 1st kiss, nvr had a b.f., and will prolly be single for the rest of my life.this is kind of weird but, i want to know why boys aren't interested in me? i mean you might not know why but,idk, i NEED som adventure in my life, and i guess i don't need a b.f. but, a 1st kiss wouldn't hurt ,right???
well i dk know if this was a question but, can anyone PLEASE help me!!!!!=(
*ANY 1 who answers this please DON'T say you're pretty on the inside or "one day it'll happen" or any other thing like that!!! i want the REAL DEAL
(don't be to harsh please, just HELPP ME )
thanxxxxxxx a lottta hearts ♥ (link)
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Wow, I understand your situation completely. I was a sort of late bloomer with the whole relationship thing, but it happened...and trust me, I never though it would.
You are still very young, A LOT of girls have not gotten their first kiss or boyfriends at the age of 13, and A LOT of girls are not ready for it at that age either. AS for boys, at your age, all they are interested in is a "hot" girl...it's completely superficial. I know I wouldn't want a guy who thinks I'm "hot"...I rather have one who thinks I am beautiful, intelligent, and focuses on something real. So, don't kill yourself trying to get a boyfriend..or a kiss.
I leave you with this story I have heard, that though cliche is pretty much true.
The best apples are at the top of the tree.
Some boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.
So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the perfect person to come along, for he will climb all the way to the top.
so just wait for your amazing boy...he'll come =]
-Teacup
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i go to day camp and there's this kid named zach. and i think i really like him. like, i keep thinking about him and how nice he is and how cool he is. i even had a dream about him, and this is sorta creeping me out because i'm 15 and he's as old as my 13 YEAR OLD SISTER. now, i know it's not normal for a 15 year old to like a younger guy, i mean at this age, usually 15 year old girls want to go out with 17 year olds, not 13 year olds! i mean when i was 13 i couldn't even imagine dating an 11-year old. another thing: i don't really find this kid that cute or anything (okay, yes i do. he's cute. but it's just creeping me out that i like him.) everything he does is cute..even weird stuff. so yeah. it's really awkward to like him. i talk to him a lot and we like do this weird thing, where we'll be far away and he'll stare at me and i'll stare at him, and we'll just be sitting there staring at eachother for like a few minutes and then our friends are like...uhh, are you okay?? so i'm really like mad at myself -- am i being perverted for liking this kid or something?? please help! sorry so long. (link)
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heh, you're not pervert. Just look at Demi and Ashton, Justin and Cameron...and they are muuch older than their other halfs. Just remember...age is nothing but a number...if you really like him and vice versa...then go for it. Even if your friends say it's weird, go for it...you'd be the one dating him not your friends!
Good luck and hey it seems like older men are in this year. heh. =]
-Teacup
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im 13/female...im about to start eighth grade...and i really liked this guy (he was in my group of school friends) in the beggining of last year. and i ended up asking him out...and he turned me down. so from then on he was being an asshole and everything i would say at lunch, he would shoot down. and he was just being really mean. so all of last year, i was really depressed because all the time i got to spend with my friends was hell. im worried that the same thing will happen this school year. what should i do??? (link)
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NEVER let an asshole determine your life. Now that you are starting high school, you are going to lose contact with your middle school friends, so it doesn't mean that you and he will have the same social circle any longer. If you do, you should try making new friends you can hang out with during lunch and as for your old friends, find a good time to hang out with them sans jerk. Not only do you get to meet new people, you can also avoid having to be with him.
Hope this helps.
--Teacup
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ok this is my first year of high school an i am really scared cause i dont know how the kids at the school will act some of the kids be picking or teasing the freshman wat shall i do (link)
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Don't worry about it. There may be upperclassmen who feel the need to treat you like crap but they shouldn't think of themselves as such big shots...they went through the same thing and frankly they need to get over themselves. Don't spend your time worrying about them, because high school is fun, and you wouldn't want to miss out on that.
Enjoy it!
-Teacup
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Ok i have a huge problem, Me and my boyfriend have been dateing for almost 6 months, but a big thing that always makes us fight is me being jealous. I mean he has alot of friends that are girls and when he talks to them and stuff i get jealous. I dont want an answer saying this is normal because i know this already, But i just want to be able to be like yah im cool i dont care, because i dont want him to feel like im trying to push him away from his friends. (link)
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If you trust him, then you should not go crazy jealous when he speaks to his friends. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that he's just talking to friends, you're the one he chose.
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i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.
i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?
thanks in advance. (link)
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They say dreams are often a reflection of what we think and how we feel, so your dreams may be telling you that you are somewhat interested in this guy. Don't immediately dismiss the idea of him liking you, now I'm not saying that he's going to necessarily like you, but find out for sure...that is if you do indeed figure out if you like him.
Much Luck.
-Teacup
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ok so heres the story i saw this kid i liked when i was in seventh grade and he was in 8th and i never thought he'd like me. then i moved to florida before 8th grade and i forgot about him. so i go back to ny in the summer for vacations and i saw him playing hockey and i thought he was really hot and he thought i was hot. so i got his screen name and we started talking and he asked me if i ever made out and then he asked if i would make out with him. i said if i ever got the chance than yes. We want to get together next summer and i really want to make out with him but im wondering if he's just using me. Should i not do it and i talk to him online and i never know what to tlalk about. i mean i dont want to just blurt out questions. i want to start a real conversation. and how can i make him really fall for me? Please answer all 3 sections of my question or i WILL NOT RATE. Thank you.Please Help (link)
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Something I have learned from experience is, you can't make a guy like you. We may be mischievous enough to get them to do something they don't want to do, but tricking them into liking you is not one. But, it does sound as if he is interested. If you want to have a real conversation, talk about future goals (traveling,careers,etc) or even have him explain something to you that he likes and you don't quite understand (i.e. what does the term 'downs' mean in football, or i was watching basketball the other day, what's a shot clock). This will hopefully not just turn in to you asking a series of questions, but something he can participate in as well. By the time, your make out situation arises, you should be able to decide for yourself if it is what you want.
Good Luck
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I like fashion design but I don't know how to make my own clothing...I searched many sites on the google search engine.but nvr found anything.I was just wondering if there (is)are any site(s) that will show me the basics on how to make clothing on your own.and the measurements to be taken. (link)
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I would check the yellow pages, to look find something local. Perhaps, a seamstress or a sewing school (I saw it on an episode of Made on MTV). Good luck, I applaud people who deem fashion importantly...and hey, you may become the next Vera Wang. =]
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ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in like 2 weeks and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do?
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It's hard to say whether or not she is just the rebound girl or if he'll call to apologize. But, you need to make some decisions. You dated for two years and surely he must have been your best friend, do you want to keep that, or do you feels he's not worth the effort?
It's good to read that you have made some progress, it's always a difficult feat. But, do not let yourself relapse! You are bound to bump into him at school, that's life babe...it's going to make you stronger. I suggest you give yourself a hobby to take your mind off him, you'll be so busy with it that in no time you will get over him. And if he ever does call you, you'll have had a long time to reflect, so you'll know what your heart really wants.
Good luck...message me if you need any more help...I have gone through something similar. =]
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My boyfriend is 16 and I am 13, I know that is kind of a big age difference but he's alot more mature. I'm really afraid to go to the movies with him and stuff because I don't want him to try to make a move. I'll make out with him and stuff, but he might try to reach down my pants, and I'm soo NOT ready for that. How do I tell him that without sounding like a prude? He's had sex before so I told him that I'm not gunna have sex with him. This was his answer: "i dont care I dont want sex either I just want a beautiful aka you." So does it seem like he's after sex? And I'm really scared to talk to him on the phone so when he asked me to call him I said my phone is lost which it reallly isn't. I feel guilty, but my parents don't want me talking to boys. Haha, if I do go to the movies with him, should I bring a friend? (link)
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Be careful. Being a relationship, you need to be able to trust the one you are dating. If you don't know him well enough, and your parents do not allow you to date, then go with a group. Therefore, if he turns out to be a creep, you have people there to protect you.
Also remember, you are still a young girl, and you may not have enough life experience to know that you cannot trust everyone. I'm sorry if this message sounds a little harsh, but if you say you are not ready for sex, it is probably because you are not. And, if he cares for you, he won't think you sound like a prude.
Good Luck.
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okay. i am 5'8". do you think that is too tall for some guys. the guys that are about my height. i mean. i would prefer a taller guy. but it doesnt really matter. are taller girls a turn off for guys? (link)
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not at all! I mean..I wouldn't know first hand since I am sort of on the short side, but guys love tall girls. If they are a little younger, they may feel shy about the whole height situation...but I think overall it's not something that bothers them.
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I'm eighteen and I've had a FWB relationship with a guy that I've had a crush on since my sister and he had graduated. Didnt see him again after that until I met him at a party one night and we hit it off.
We establsihed that we would just be FWB, but lately we have become like B/F and G/F without the title.
We both don't have that great of a track record of relationships, both our hearts were broken.
But I'm tired of this because I want to know what is up with this.
I don't want to weird him out - but I really do want to know how to approach him about it in a non pressuring way. I don't want to ruin what we have now to because I like it. Advice please? (link)
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You should just straight out ask him if he feels there's more to your relationship than just the benefits, but let him know that his answer in no way will change what you two have already established. It will be a hard thing to do, but it's more important than driving yourself crazy in the process wondering where you two stand exactly. Also, if things change, then try to forget and move in, that will be an indicator than he is not worth your time. Anyway, good luck and I hope this helped.
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