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Q: can you get ringtones without having internet access on your phone?? i have cingular

thanks!!
well you could go to cingular.com and get ringtones there and they will send you a text message ..so yeh you can get ringtones but just on the computer

Q: ok i'm 13 and i got a question. whats the white stuff that comes from your body...girls you hopefully know what i mean. is it bad, or good?
its discharge and basically every girl gets it.. and yes its normal

Q: is it normal for girls to discharge at any time of the day? even without being aroused of any sort?
yeaaah. you can get discharge at anytime of the day

Q: Whats a goood wayy to get a little fitter in a week? also all my weight is in my lower body like my hips and thighs and buttttt. how do i fix that?
you can go running or talk a walk.. also you would want to try to watch what you eat, dont eat so many fats and sugary foods. good luck!

Q: Is it possible to make a new part line in your hair? If it is how would I go about this to make a new one?


I've had a straight down the middle of my head for about as long as I can remember so a new part would be nice.. Please and Thank you :]
yes its possible to make a new part line in your hair, i've done it before and its pretty easy ..first you just part it where you want it after you take a shower and when your hair is dry and blowdry it the way it is.. if you know what i mean but do it for like 3 days and soon itll stay that way.. need any more advice just ask! good luck!

Q: There is this guy that I like and he likes me back, the emotional and physical attraction is really strong. theres a problem though, im 13 about 5'3 and hes a year younger but 4'10 or 4'11. while standing up even if i lean down i couldnt kiss him comfortably, is there a way i could kiss him without it being awkward? thanks
you could always sit down and kiss him, its much more easier, good luck!

Q: How do I make my myspace private???
i think you put your age as 14 and then itll turn private

Q: I had a wierd dream about 3 days ago and i keep haveing it i dont know what it means it there any web site i can go to, to fine out what it means
thanx

~will give 5s~
http://www.dreammoods.com/

Q: is it bad to practice putting in tampons when you havent started your period?
well its okay i guess but it'll hurt more because when you acutally have your period, it'll be easier to put in then not having your period

Q: Ok I have had this feeling that I should smoke but I know I shouldnt. My mom smokes and my dad chews what do i do. I cant talk to my parents they "hate" me. Please help!!!
you shouldnt smoke, even though your parents smoke and chew, try to get out of the house so you arent around them ..if you end up smoking there are many things that could happen to you and you probably will die earlier than others that dont smoke..

Q: okay so here is my story. my parents had me before they got married..but they got separated before that so i guess im technically a love child-but anyways thats not the point.

what my question is, is who should i live with as i go into my first year of high school???

let me give you a bit of an updated backround before you answer this not-easy question...

~dads house~ dad, stepmom, and stepbrother (17)

PROS: no crying babies, more alone time, more time with me/my dad, more attention(more like atleast some attention), good healthy food, spending money, dad usually takes me places on the weekends
CONS: i dont get to see my sisters grow up, i probably break the small contact that ive had with my mom to almost zero and i may be homesick because ive always lived with her since the separation, dad will be popping any zits he sees on me (ouch!), my stepmom has these 'moments' when she gets really pissed off and doesnt talk to anybody and she slams doors and all that crap to let everyone know shes mad**that lasts for days**and it is unbearable!!, and i hate my room (but i understand that can be changed)

~moms house~ mom, stepdad, half sister (5), half baby sister (14 m)

PROS: i have friends here that i get to hang out with, i get to go to the bball court and 7/11 and Osco with a friend(walking distance), i looove my room, school has been good(friends, no enemies, good teachers, good year)*so i am in hope that the next will be just as much fun*
CONS: my mom and i have little contact(i always feel like im bothering her), i cant stand my sisters(their parents didnt raise them the right way)+ i have no say..i am yelled at for yelling at them when theyre bad*mainly the 4 yearold*, i have no say in anything, i only get to see my dad on the weekends, my mom is too overprotective of me, were moving after 8th grade(and not sure if im going to my designated high school)*that means new friends and new neighborhood*(ive moved alllot), not so good food(so i go to fastfood places and eat junk-not good), and no spending money + i havent been shopping in like 3-4 months, no one takes me anywhere..i always have to ask for a friends ride

alright well even though there may be a bit of a lopsided diference..some 2 things combined equal to one thing on another list (and they are both equally bad)..so if you can help me decide before i finish 8th grade..that would be great. and please explain..dont make it a MOM or DAD answer....thx soo much. ill rate high!!
really, you should choose whos house to stay at. but from what i read i think you should chose your dads because there, it seems like you would have more fun because you would be able to go to places and shop and have some fun. and since you wont be able to see your mom as much, you can go visit her at times or call her. when your step mom has moments you could go and take a walk or something. but this is your choice and you should pick whichever one you feel more comfortable and happy in.. hope that helped and good luck!

Q: I'm trying to raise money by selling stuff on ebay. What are a lot of things I could sell that people would buy for a good price?




Thank you. I rate.
you can sell things that you dont use anymore, like clothes you dont wear, movies you dont watch, any jewelry, you can basically sell anything

Q: Okay, I am a 14 and a half year old female who lost a peice of jewerly that means a lot to me. My question is where to I look to find it becuase I have to find it. Dont tell me to remmebrer the last time i wore it or the last place i had it becuas eim not suree.. please give me ideas of places to loook becuas eim out of ideas nad in eed to find this asap..

thx so much...
you could look in your bedroom, maybe you left it on your dresser or something when you decided to go to sleep or maybe in the bathroom somewhere when you were washing your hands, try looking on the floor or on tables, maybe you dropped it and didnt notice

Q: I just got my period and i put a tampon in. How do I know that i put it in the right place. I read the directions and everything... is it also possible that may be too long??



when you know its in the right place, it shouldnt hurt and you should be comfortable ..the longest you leave the tampon in is 8 hours

Q: aright,yesterday people were sayin in their away messages, 'out celebrating 4/20' and on wednesday, my dance teachers daughter said to her friend, haha, tomorrow is 4/20! and uhmm im totally confused could somebody fill me in? thanks
420 is the national weed smoking dayy

Q: well currently it's spring break && im feeling like its summer all over again. I'm not an only child, i have two older sisters who have lives an hour away from my house. I live with my mom and her boyfriend and my dad and his girlfriend live like 20 minutes away. ALL during summer, i'm home alone. A lot of people take advantage of the fact that their mom stays home or that they have sibling to live with. At least they have somehting to do, I'm home alone all summer long from 7-5 :(. I feel like its summer and this is one of the reasons i DONT like summer, im bored and lonely, which makes me sad and i get sad alot and i hate being sad, HELP.
during that time when your parents are gone, you could go hang out with friends, walk around, go on the computer and maybe play some games, or you can even watch some movies or you favorite shows

well i hope that helped and good luck!

Q: What's the best way to keep your period from leaking through you pants? I wear 2 underwear and a pad and it still leaks through.
you could try wearing a tampon and if that leaks through then change it frequently or put a tampon in and also use a pad.. but if you dont want to use tampons try changing your pad like every 2 hours or so

Q: ok im 13/f and one of my friends have been "messing around" lately but i wont have sex with him without a condom. the problem is my mother stil thinks im a virgin. i dont know how to get birth control or condoms without my mom finding out. in the area i live in there is only 2 small gas stations around which both carry condoms but i have a feeling my mom would find out about me buying them, i wouldnt be so worried about her finding out if the guy was 16. i have had sex with him before and ended up missing my period for 2 months! are there any ideas on how to get protection?
please help soon! i rate well!
you could get an older friend or an adult you trust to go buy them.. but make sure they wont tell your parents or you could get birthcontrol at like planned parenthood.. theres also this pill that you take after you have sex so you dont get pregnant.. im not surewhat its called but you have to take it within 72 hours after you have sex or something.. im not sure but good luck!

Q: what are some advantages of using a tampon? and after you get your period, when should you use them?? thanks ill rate
tampons are greatt : they dont take up as much space as pads, mostly you dont feel them, when you have a tampon in you could swim

you would use tampons when your period is heavy not like the last day of your period becaues mostly that is when your period is lighter and since it is light, the tampon wont absorb much and that is a higher risk of TSS

also if you sleep more than 8 hours, dont use tampons because if you have a tampon in for more than 8 hours you can get TSS but its rare

Q: what is the range of normal weight for a 14 year old, around 5'2''? dont give me am-i-fat.com or a doctors opinion i want your opinion of what looks good =] thanks i will give 5s!
i think if you are 5'2" ..the range of normal weight would be around 105-120 pounds

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