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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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For some odd reason I am sometimes not physically attracted to my boyfriend ive had this problem before but is this normal? I mean he’s not at all a bad looking guy but its just sometimes I just catch my self saying (in my mind) eww! But I feel really bad because I love him and he is really in love with me and I can’t seem to stop this

Is there something Wrong with me?? Or does every girl have this problem??

Do you like him mainly for how he looks or who he is as a person? Whatever it is, personality matters in the end. G'luck though.
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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hi i like this boy who i no is just using me for sex but i keep letting him because i like him what should i do

Stop! Right now! You can't let people use and abuse you like you're some sort of toy. You obviously know it's wrong otherwise you wouldn't have wanted advice. Becareful...
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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last night i had my first kiss. it was at my friends house. she had a LOT of people over. and so yeah, me and my friend made out for a couple of seconds.

today i regret it SO much. i wish i had never done it. i just turned 13! i guess i am too young and wasnt ready but i cant go back in time. what do i do? arent most happy when this happens? i dont want my mom and dad to find out. its hard to life with myself.....waht can i do? thank you

Hey hey hey, kisses are meant to be meaningful. We all do things regret, some worse than others but in the end, you made a mistake, learn from it and live life :)
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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Okay me and this boy have been friend FOREVER
and now he is saying that people in our school are saying that we are going out, and were not.
And so now everyone thinks we are and i am like WERE NOTTTTT OKAY and so now he asked me should
I go out with him??????
he is cute but he's not that cute HE IS REALLLLLYYYYYY NICE!!!!!!!!

Personality or physicality? If you like him, try it. But becareful and just take it slowly. Good luck!
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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i dont kno how to tell this guy i like him. we both kno that in the past we liked eachother(never actually went out)i jus found out that he liked me again last (school) year...everyone thinks i should tell him even though he moved like 3 states over...what should i do and how should i tell him?????help i rate high!

I'm not bothered about the rating.
Long distant relationships can be hard and needs A LOT of trust within them. If you say yes, prepare for it, it's not easy. But try and tell him by being sweet and nice, kind and caring :)
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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What does "finally g1" mean??

Good one

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Ok. I ask alot of questions about this one girl and im sure everyone else had but her is my story.

In my Cartoon Desighn class I told this girl I admire that someone admires her and i told her that he{I} said that she was the nicest person he{I} ever met. She said for me to tell him thanks.
As you can tell, I was'nt to honest. Thats because I dont know if I should tell her. I was worried because I thought that she would avoid me. She is eleven and i'm thirteen, so she has'nt hit maturity like you guys have. I just want to know if I should tell her. If you say yes, can you give a long explanation why.
Thanks in advance.
--Caden--

"I reallly dont want to tell her yet."

Didn't you just answer your own question? Leave it for a while, flirt and admire her and say you like how she looks, what she's wearing, her eyes or her handwriting but wait until she gives the same signs back.

x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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Ok im really bad with my self-confidence like some of my friends think i just say "oh i'm so fat" just to get them to tell me im not.. but i really don't i really think of myself as fat.. like my face is pretty but i always think im fat, sometimes i think its because i have such gorgeous friends and they get all the guys i never think i can get any. I always brush by hot guys because its almost like i know they would never like me.. it's horrible but its how i feel.. like (1) i need to know how to feel better about myself and not think of myself as ugly. (2) does anyone know why i got this way.

Welcome to my life!
1 - Life is short. Over time, looks fade, boobs sag and wrinkles appear, there's nothing we can do about that I'm afraid so why not live life to the fullest instead of worrying how you look? I'm not having a go or anything like that..it's just, the guy of your dreams SHOULD and WILL like you for you. If you think positive, they will too!
2 - One word for you: Teenage! We all go through it, some suffer more than others. It sucks and people find different ways to deal with it.
G'luck!
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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ok i am a white girl and I like this black boy. Well he is the type of guy that is touchy feely, and I was fine with it at first, but now it is so much, every time he sees me he want to put his hands down my skirt, or up my skirt. And now I have people at school talking about me. Saying thats the girl, and heads turn. I like him a lot, and I don't know what to do, cause I don't want to hurt him. So Please help me!!!!!!

Hey, "little" things like hands up/in skirt can lead to bigger and more serious problems. Please, from experience, please don't get yourself into that mess! Either talk to him about how you're feeling or try and be more romantic rather than touchy feely. G'luck!!
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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well my ex boyfriend is always sitting next to this girl Kaitlin at lunch... and it really makes me mad! im so jealous that hes like basically in "love" with her when i cant get him to go back out with me! i guess im trying to say... how do i get him to like me again..? DONT say, talk to him or that kinda crap! im trying to win him over! ((will rate 5's))

Hey, if he likes this other girl, I guess you have to be happy for him. On the other hand, I suppose you could just stare at him, smile, wink or just wave across the room. G'luck, it isn't easy!
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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I need some help on picking something out for my boyfriend for christmas... We havent been going out long but i really like him. I want to show him so I want to buy him something that he'll really like. If guys have ideas for me for my boyfriend... please let me know! THANKS :)

Ask him what he likes but the ideas in my head are:
- A football (if he likes football!)
- A video game
- A watch
- A t-shirt
- A handmade thing! (Lol..sorry for the non-specificness!)
- His favourite chocolates
- A ring with something funky engraved on it
- A cd of his favourite band live or something
G'luck, seasons greetings
(By the way, I wasn't bothered about the rating)
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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okay well i like this guy and i have liked him since last year.. well He came up to me ,because i made hima picture last year and he came up to me today and he was like " I still have that picture you gave me and then he showed me and then we just talked about stuff... do you think he likes me and if i asked him out if he would say yes???? please answer this question nicley and i will give you a 5 Because i need the help!!! with this

love Brittany

Hey, I'm not answering this for the rating..I'm just answering it because I have an opinion. I think he does, why would he keep something for a year from you if he didn't like you?
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can try and help some more if you want me to :)

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hello .. well this is going to sound really lame? but whatever uhh its not like that bad i dont really care but.. well there is the boy at my school i like him kinda lot not like obsessive or anything not that many people know* and anyways hes going to ask out one of my good friends and its really shocking cause u woold never ever think like its random its not like im jealous or anything but i want to find ways to kinda avoid them like to not see them together and im just you kno trying to get over it what should i do? x0ox emmaa +)

What's more important; your friend or this crush? Whatever you do, just be or at least pretend to be happy for them otherwise it could ruin your relationship with your friend. It's a tough one. G'luck!
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can advise you more :)

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okay well i have a bf and hes gone for about 2 weeks so i wont be able to see him and i barley get to talk to him. but the thing is wen hes not gone we dont talk (well barley anyway)) and the thing is im started to like this other guy. and i dont want to but then again i do becuz hes not shy unlike my bf and idk what to do im so confused right now. please help me.

Well, I guess it all depends as to whether you want to stay faithful. Is this guy REALLY worth staying faithful to or is he going to break your heart? In my opinion, I think you should talk to your boyfriend about where you stand, guys can't mess you about like that. Good luck, hun!
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can advise you more :)

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I was talking to one of my guy friends about another guy that had asked me out. I told him that I had turned him down because he was a real pervert and just wanted sex. Then my guy friend said he probably masturbates every night. Right after he said that I looked at him and his face went red. Did he just accidently admit that he likes me? Why else would that have embarrassed him? He's the one that brought up the masturbating, not me.

Maybe he went red because of the masturbation topic. Nevertheless, he could have admitted it. Keep a look out for any signs and if you want it to happen, I wish you the best of luck! :)
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can advise you more :)

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What is the best possible way, form, time, and place to ask a girl to be your girlfriend? Well, maybe not the BEST, but a pretty good way. I have a feeling that this girl I know and talk to a lot likes me, and I like her. I'm 15/M, and she's 14/F. Thanks! ^^

It depends what type of guy you are. If you're into football and hard-core music, I'm supposing romance isn't one of your favourite aspects. Anyway, if it were me, it'd be romantic, followed by a kiss. Nevertheless, I haven't and probably won't but good luck and I hope everything works out :)
x Steph x
P.S If you want to talk more, puddycat11@hotmail.com is my email, feel free to add me and I can advise you more :)

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