about

I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


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Okay so theres this guy i met on the inernet he goes to my school i see him at school and talk to him a lot. The problem is he has a gf. He always is like go to the mall with me and would u go out with me if i didnt have a gf and how far i would go. is he just trying to get some or what but i think i mite like him now.

be careful sweetie, he's being unfair and his girlf and if you got with him he'd just as easily ask other girls these questions too.
The fact that he's asking you how far you would go, just screams out that he's just after one thing. i'd stay away from him if i were you, distance yourself from him before you start to fall for him x

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Hey, I have this guy friend, and I found out yesterday that he likes me. I thought about It, and I guess I've known for a while, I've just denied it, but the more I think about it, the more I like him too. I don't know what I should do considering I'll see him tomorrow because we're both in band @ school and so we're gonna be marching in a parade. I don't know how I should react when I see him. He knows I know he likes me, but I don't think he knows I like him back. I want to give him the message, but I don't know how because i don't want to come off desperate or like i'm making fun of him. The way our friendship works is we always bug each other, and we always make-fun of each other just playin around, so... can you please help me? I'm SO confused. (I'm 14, and a girl.)

Luv ya bunches and I'll rate high if you help.

Confused Songwriter

i think you should just tell him you like him. he shouldnt reject you if he likes you so when you get him on his own just say, im was really happy when i found out you liked me because i like you too"

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does any1 kno any realllly good love songs

Angels - robbie williams

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my problem is this. he knows i like him and that i am friends with his sister. maybe this might help, srry for the length in advance.

I like this guy and he used to always look at me when i wasn't looking. When I turned we gazed into each other's eyes for a milisec. But now he doesn't really do that anymore. He knows that I like him because his sister told him. He said that he didn't care and just went on as normal, but i found out this a couple weeks ago. the day after he found out ( i didn't know that he knew) , I talked to him, but know how to continue to talk to him. We were talking in a conversation and i thought that it was fine, but i wonder if the only reason he was talking to me was because he knew that i liked him. it is really weird. My friend likes him too, but he doesn't like her (thank god) lol. She doesn't really like him anymore, but whatever. I just want to get to know him and stuff like that, but I get a vibe thats like weird. I can talk to him, but I'm afraid of his reaction. He is also "talking" to another girl (I overheard him talking on the bus) Should I even bother liking him, but i still want to get to know him. I don't know what to do?
~Linda
PS~
It's that I just really want to get to know him and it is driving me insane

ok sweetie, well i dont really want to end up giving you bad advice so if you like, i think it would be easier to talk to you on msn. we can have a good girly chat about this guy and try to figure him out together :-) my msn add is on my advice column profile x

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Me and my 3 best friends haven't really been getting along, we get into fights. My mom is sick of it and she doesn't want me to be friends with them! I don't know wat to do because they mean the world to me and I cant stop being their friends! She wants me to stop hanging out with them.My mom is acting like a bitch! What should I do?

-->GinA

you mum isnt being a bitch, she just doesnt want to see you getting hurt and falling out with your best friends. she hasnt banned you from seeing them but she just wants the best for you and feels that distancing your self from the arguments with your friends will be good for you.

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i have acne.. . . i use proactiv and it is kind of helpin.. people say it does.. but i don't believe them .. does anyone know anything else thatn proactiv?

valderma cream worked wonders on my spots. i found its the best acne cream.

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Hello just thought some people might know what some of these parts of the mosque are as I found NO information on the internet...........
-Madrasahs ( I know its a kind of school but couldn't find anything else)
-Mortuarys. (I know its a kind of cemetry but where is it located in perspective with the mosque building, e.c.t)
Cheers.

hiya, i had a look and found a website that tells you about masrasahs, it tells you what they are and what is taught in them.
http://www.madrasah.edu.sg/about.html

Mortuary: white tiled flooring for easy cleaning for hygienic purposes. Has a waiting room outside. Has a large washing area.

the mortuary is the area for Muslims to get prepared and washed before burial.


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How do i get the guy i want. i just want to get to know him better. basically how do i get into a relationship to the point that he can actually say hi to me? Thanks in advance!
~Linda

Be your self. It is important that you don't act differently around your guy because he will see right through it and think you are fake.

Be happy. If you smile you will look more approachable and friendly. He wont want to be with someone who looks unhappy all the time. Also when your with your mates and he's with his, flash him a nice flirty smile.

Give him compliments. Guys get insecure about themselves just as much as us girls so he'll love it when you boost his confidence now and then.

Find out what kinda stuff he is into. Then do some secret research on it. he'll think its cool that you like the same cool band as him or his fave movie. Don't go overboard though, if you have Everything in common with him it'll soon get boring.

Laugh at his jokes, even the bad ones. not hysterically though or he might twig what you're up to.

When you are chatting to him, gently touch him on the arm in a sweet flirty way.

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i think i need help because like i have cut myself before and i had stopped for a while too.. and then something happend today that just like makes me want to do it again becuase me and this kid got into a huge fight.. how can i not do it anymore what are some other good ways to take anger out...

i used to do that too sweetie but i found a good way to stop. if its the blood that makes you feel better then use red paint on your wrist or even fake blood. i used this cream that had strawberry extracts in that looked like cuts when you put it on, it really helped me and psycholgists reccomend you do the red paint thing too.

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Me and my old not quite boyfriend got in a fight because i had hickys on my neck and i said they were from one of my g/fs and he found out i wAs lying and he wont talk to me.. Should i give him a call and tell him im sorry? Or what should i do i miss him.. And i made a huge mistake..

yes, you have to try and speak to him and tell him how sorry you are. there is no excuse so dont try to come up with one. i dont know the details so i dont know if you kissed anyone else but just tell him that you are so so sorry and that you love him so much and dont want to lose him over this. you lied to him which will have hurt him lots aswell as the fact that you cheated on him, or atleasty thats the way it looks. you will have to gain his trust again and make him feel like he is the most special person in you life and the one you want. we all make mistakes, so make sure he knows that this was a very huge mistake and that it will never ever happen again.

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ok so theres this guy i like on my brothers baseball team lets call him P. well P's really sweet and everything and a really great baseball player too. The thing is.. their last game is next wed. and i just wanna know if he likes me too.. but i dont want to just flat out say, hey do you like me? because i think that would be kinda... fast. and i dont want to scar him off... but this might be the last time i EVER see him again. So whats your advice for me to do?
please help! i appreciate it :)
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Just ask him if he'd like to meet go for a drink with you or a coffee or something, if he says no straight out it probably means he's not interested but just say, ok, well think about it because i'd really like to see you.
if you do meet up for that coffee then just take it from there, see how things go. you'll probably know if he likes you or not if he seems to be enjoying himself and giving you good vibes.

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im so mad that school yr is over and ima miss all my friends especially this one boy i liked all yr. i didnt get his number i think i got a way to find it out. but im so scared though. i really love this guy and ima be thinking about him this whole summer and i think it might be love. i dont want to use the "l" word but i cant help it. i mean i see things in him that i dont see in most guys. even though he does act like guys act--you know how they are--but i really feel connected to this guy. what should i do? just stare at his picture for the rest of the summer or do something about. becuz im not the bravest person in the world, and i am so scared. can somebody help me becuz my friends don't understand and nobody does. but i dont know if he feels the same way. i guess you can tell by the look in his eyes, but all i see in him is something different. he probably wont break my heart. but im not sure. i cant look into his eyes because i wont see him and its just so crazy. can somebody just help me.

i think you should go for it, dont get your hopes up incase he doesnt feel the same but if you dont ask you'll never know and be wondering what could have been all summer.
You dont have to telkl him you love him straight away, it might scare him, you know how guys are. just call him up and ask if he'd like to meet you for a coffee or something.

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Yesterday my boyfriend of six months broke up with me. We broke up because he has to work this summer and he says itll be really hard for him to just see me for one day a week instead of the six that were used to. I was so sad after hearin this, I cried almost all night cause i really miss him. Now last night he started to second guess himself, and he tells me how he made a huge mistake and he didnt think it thru. Well he wants me back for the summer. What sould i do, I do really like him amd want him around. Should i let him back??? just be friends??? or take a step backwards and say were just dating again????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

i'd go for it sweetie, you obviously want to be with eachother and if you love eachother you can make it work. my boyfriends at uni and have to see each other 1 day a week (unless i stay with him at uni) and it works. you appreciate the time you have together so much more. make sure that one day you see eachother is a special day and spend some really nice quality time together.

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My friend lies a lot! I can't stand it! And it's not the little stuff either! She would tell you she's dieing and then let you believe that for like 5 months! And then she'd lie to cover it up. It drives all of her friends crazy! And when I talk to her about it, she just yells at me! How could I talk to her without her yelling at me?

next time yoy find out she's lying just tell her you've had enough and your not the only one who knows about her lies and if she carries on then she wont have any friends left.

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My girlfriend is a quite beautiful girl. And I know she knows she's beautiful. She's also pretty damn confident. But, for some reason it seems like she's insecure around me. Every time we're intimate and I try to slid my hand down her stomach she sucks it in. I guess she doesn't think I notice but, I do. She has a fine, flat tummy so why she feels the need to suck it in is beyond me. I also don't understand if I did anything to make her feel insecure. I tell her that I think she's beautiful every chance I get. I don't know what to do here.

i do that too because it tickles. thats most likely the reason she does it

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well i like this guy and he lives near me and the other day i went to his house and i hooked up wit him but now ever since i did it he has been like avoiding me and i think its just because he doesnt want his friends to know because i am 13 and he is 16. Also, some of my friends who go to his schoool are saying that hes always with this other girl and is always talking to her and near her and that they like eachother. He used to always talk to me online and like now hes being like boring and is like hi and oh and stuff u know?? what do i do

Oh you poor thing, i went through kinda the same thing when i was 13 with an older guy, i was stupid though and let him keep using me because i thought i loved him.
I know you really like him sweetie but you have to let him go. he used you and hurt you. dont contact him now or hang out with him because this will make it harder for you to get over him. if he ever tries to get you to do stuff with him again you have to be strong and say no, no matter how much you want to or how much he says he wants you because he's used you and hurt you once and if you let him do it again, he'll keep doing it.
you deserve someone that will love and respect you and you know deep down that its not going to be him.

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Since it's getting hotter and I'm starting to sweat a little more I'm getting more zits popping up. Does anyone have any not expencive (and actually work) products, or any home remadies? Ill rate 5's!!

There's an acne cream called "Valderma" which worked wonders on my spots. its really great stuff.
in the UK it costs about £2.75

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my parents divorsed when i was 3, my dad got remaried about 2 years ago with out asking me or even telling me about it, or her. i hate her and my dad knows but doesnt care how do i get rid of her!?!

My dad got married too without telling me...he didnt even tell his own mum. so you arent alone. but he must be in love with her to want to marry her, theres nothing you can do to split them up so just try to avoid her if you can without avoiding your dad too. you might not like her very much but you'll just have to try and accept that they are together.

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i need some help here..well okay i love my boyfriend to death and we`ve been dating for a little over 7 months. and we just started doing things sexually because i dont know before i didnt feel comfortable but now it's like everytime we are together he wants to do more than just hang out it is always revolved around "doing stuff" and that isnt what i like. Why is he doing this? Is it just a guy thing or what? and should i talk to him about it because when i dont give him any i feel like he`s mad at me like until i get to see him again. even tho he says he`s not. And i`m sorry this is so long, thanks for everyone who reads this, please help me!

You need to tell him how you feel, its unfair for you to feel pressured into doing things you are not ready for.
Tell him that you love him so much and want to make him happy but you just dont feel ready to do sexual stuff. if he loves you he will understand and not make you feel bad about it, if he doesnt or threatens to leave you because of it then he's really not worth it.
I think because you've been together for 7 months, he feels ready to do sexual things with you, he's waited this long so he seems to love you, if his love for you is so strong then he will wait untill you are ready.

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if you're realy a psychologist why are you on this crappy site giving advice for free when you could be geting paid for your advice???

i never said i was a psychologist, i said i was studying psychotherapy and councelling.
Just because im studying, it doesnt mean i have to be paid to give advice.

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