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Ok, so last week i was in 3rd hour and my closet friend said to me Pass me a note and i will give it to the boy u like! (he sits right next to him) So i said i will give it to u after class. He said No give it now! So i gave it to him. He ran to the teacher with the note and said SHE PASSED A NOTE TO ME! Holy Sh*t! I was humilated! My closet friend did that! Now he is all like hye whats up? What should i do!

Aww, you definitely don't deserve a friend like that. Why would your closest friend do that to you? Maybe he is just jealous that you like someone else and not him? I would just ignore him and not talk to him and when he asks you why you are ignoring him, tell him how you feel. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Ok, I give advice but for once...i don't have an answer. There is this boy at my school and I like him alot, we flirt with eachother alot and talk to eachother all the time. Everybody thinks we would make an awesome couple but It only works if he likes me back. I am a kinda preppy emo gurl and he is a punk. I hang out with alot of punks and emo and skaters... how can I let him know I like him without being pushy or love dovey (haha) please help me! How can I dress or act give me everything you have!!!!! Thanks very much!
Age:13 ( a little young, but love is for everyone)
Gender:female

You don't need to change yourself inorder for this guy to like you. Changing your appearance and the way you act is like changing yourself, you don't even know how you are and people will see you as a fake. If everyone thinks that you two would make a great couple, then it's probably true but only you and this guy know the realy truth. To let this guy know that you like him, just tell him out of the ordinary. You don't need to flirt more, since you already have been doing that. Yes, you are young but I do have to agree that you love is for anyone but only for those people who know the real meaning of love. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I'm worried since I gave my boyfriend head now he's just using me. 16/F. We've been going out for 3 months but I was always unsure if he really liked me or not. He always says he does so I guess I have no reason to think that but so many girls flirt with him, I don't mind that, but I don't know if he's enjoying it to much. So now that I gave him head i'm worried that's the only reason he is staying with me.

The next time he asks you to give him head, tell him that you don't want to and ask him if he is just using you. Tell him to tell you the truth and if he says he isn't, then he's not. Try talking to him and tell him how you feel. If he flirts back with these girls, then that's something that you should worry about. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Okay the problem is that I am trying to impress someone cute I like but I have tryed making him jealous and stuff but it still has not worked so do you have any suggestions for me?By the way what is a moderater and is there any way you can help me become one?I will rate you a five if you help me!!!!!!

Making a guy jealous won't get you anywhere and it hasn't worked for you yet. Start flirting with him or play hard to get with him. That always works. A moderator is a columnist who can do more things than a regular columnist. If you go to this link, it will explain everything to you: http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=13. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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hm.. where to start.
well first i've been with my boyfriend for almost 1/2 of a year now, and I'm beginning to feel a little clingy. Clingy as in i don't want him to leave whenever he has to, don't want him to get off the phone when he has to.. I was wondering if there are any guys who LIKE clingy girls? or do they just find them annoying?

Yes, there are guys that like clingy girls and there are some who don't but most of them do. But if you do get too clingy, your boyfriend may think you are annoying. Why don't you ask him or have a friend ask him if he likes clingy girls? Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Ok i have a problem here..
I live with my grandma and grandpa and sister and my grandparents dont want me to have a boy friend because they think i am gonna be like my mom.. but i do any ways ..im 13.. and well how do i get them to let me have a boyfriend that they know about? oh they dont even want me to have ANY guy friends and 90% of my friends are guys! what do i do??? Thanks..
i rate 5's

You need to talk to them and tell them how you feel. Tell them that you should be allowed to date, because it's normal these days and that you aren't going to be like your mom. Also tell them that having guy friends won't do anything. If you just talk to them and explain your reasonings in a nice way, I'm sure they will understand will allow you to date or hang out with guys! Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I juss ordered the Hair Chi straightening stuff today by a money order and where i ordered it is in California and i live in florida and i sent it today how long do you think it would take to get here? and does it work because i have really curly hair and i want it straight!
Thanks
I rate high
Signed,
Clueless

Yes, CHI's work really great and they are one of the best. Since this order is coming from California and you live in Florida, it may take about 2 business days or probably more, if it doesn't get delayed. It just depends on how it's being shipped to you. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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my boyfriend always tells me that he feels lonely at times. and i don't know exactly what to tell him. i mean i'll say your not lonely you have me and you always will but he still does. i love him to death and i would do anything to make him happy. what exactly can i do that won't make him feel that way??
thanks a bunch

When was the last time that you two hung out? If you don't hang out with your boyfriend that much, maybe this is the reason why he feels lonely? Try to hang out with him more often and show him that you care for him and he won't feel this way. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Whats some cool quotes that I can put in my aim info that would look cool?

If you go to http://www.hellz-angelz.cjb.net or http://www.quotemania.2ya.com, you can find tons of quotes that range from love quotes to friendship quotes.
-Karen

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i just got my first xanga and i wanna put a layout on my site but i dont know how, ive looked at all the layouts and stuff but i dont know how to actually put it on my site. can someone help!? thanx

Hey, I just made my first Xanga today also. If you took a layout from a person who makes them, copy and paste the code for it in the "Custom Header" in the "Look and Feel" section of your Xanga. If you need more help, feel free to ask.
-Karen

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does anyone know a site where i can find lyrics for frankie j's "obsession"? i already tried lyrics.com . thx in advance

Here's a link to find Frankie J's "Obsession" lyrics: www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/frankiej/obsessionnoesamor.html. It won't let me give you the actual lyrics, so just click on that link. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Whenever I get money I immediatly spend it!! I want to save it for something big. I don't want to give it to my parents to hold onto either.

1. How can I save it?

2. Are there any good ways to make some moeny?

3. What do I do when I go to the mall? How much do you think I should bring about??

1.) To save money, I suggest that you should open up a savings account at your parent's bank. Once you receive money, put some in your account and then keep the other amount. If you keep on doing this for a while, you will have an amount of money to yourself that you can spend.


2.) To make some money, you can babysit your siblings or neighbors, do some extra chores around the house, walk dogs, shovel people's driveways when it snows, and mow people's lawns in the spring/summer. If you are old enough, you can work at a fast food joint such as Dunkin Donuts, McDonald's, Burger King, Wendy's, or at pizza resturants such as Papa Gino's, Donatos, Dominos, etc.


3.) When you go to the mall, you don't have to do anything; you can walk around and look through stores, without spending your money. If you want to try not to spend all of your money, buy clothes that are on sale or marked down. You should bring about $30.00 if you are going just to hang out with friends but if you are going to shop, you should bring more.


Tell yourself that you can't spend all of your money and that you need to save it. Having your parents holding your money is a great thing because you can tell them to only give you some when you really need it but since you said you didn't want to, then you don't need to, it was just a suggestion.


Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Ok well my sister tells me everthing. And this weekend she went snowboarding in frisco w/ her friends and boyfriend. And all her friends and her drink under age (she's only 17)and my mom always tells her not to drink or do sex. And our family friend who was only 17 died 2 years ago from achohol poisining. And I know there's going to be sex and drinks up in the mountains. Im just scared and I really want her 2 stop. Help. Wut shood i do?

Well, you can't do anything now, since she left. When she comes back and when you get a chance to be alone with her, talk to her and tell her what you told us that you want her to stop drinking because there are consequences to it. You can't make her stop drinking but you can point out to her that she shouldn't drink to much. Why don't you tell her that you look up to her and if she keeps on drinking, she isn't your role model anymore. Tell her that everyone wants her to stop and that she can die of alcohol poisining, like your family friend did. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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Okay here is the problem my friend just turned 12 last week but her room looks a little kiddish with like pink wallpaper,horse models and so on but she wants her room to look like a 12 year old kid's room but her mom will not let her get new furniture or paint her walls.So does anyone have any ideas on how she could make her room look good without getting new furniture and stuff?I will rate fives to anyone who helps with this room emergency no matter if your advice is not very good!!!

Your friend can take down her wall paper with one of those steamers, she can make a collage of all her friends and put it up on her wall, she can reorganize her room, she can get a new bed spread. Your friend can also buy magazines such as Teen People, Cosmopolitan, and YM and cut up words, pictures, etc and put them all over her room. She can also put all her "kiddish" things into her closet. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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ok i like this guy and i asked him out but he was like i like u alot but i rather jus be friends. but then like a week l8er he asked 1 of my friends where i was cause he needed to talk to me and it was a good thing, but i had left school, so he coundnt talk to me. what was he gonna say, it killing me and i cant wait till tuesday.
*comfused*

Well, I can't really tell what he was going to say so why don't you just ask him some time about why he wanted to talk to you that day? IM him or call him and talk to him, since you can't wait until Tuesday. If it was a good, then he probably may ask you out. If he likes you a lot but would rather be just friends, then he probably can't get his feelings straight and that's a good thing, since now you can talk to him more and get to know him better. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I am having a sleepover next weekend and i was going to invite one of my best friends but she has been really mean to me.She has been telling me to shut up and to leave her alone.Should i invite her to my party or not be friends with her?

Well, if she has been really mean to you lately, then don't invite her to your party because you don't deserve a best friend who is mean to her. Talk to her and ask her why she is being mean to you. If she doesn't tell you and is still being mean to you, then you should not hang out with her for a little bit or not talk to her. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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What are some good aim sns that aren't already taken?? i am really bad at thinking up screen names. Does anyone have any suggestions??

http://www.hellz-angelz.cjb.net and http://www.sunkissed.cjb.net both have sections where they give you suggestions on making a screen name. I would give you some but you didn't tell us your interests as in your favorite color, where you like to shop, your favorite number, etc. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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* 14 SINGLE Female *
- Everytime I talk to one of my friends boyfriends, they always talk about how much they love my friends. I'm single, and I always get pissed when they talk about them. Do you think it's just because I'm jealous?

You probably feel this way because you don't have a boyfriend who talks about you and how much he loves you like your friend's boyfriend does about her. You are jealous but then again, you aren't. Just tell him to stop talking about your friend and this feeling will go away. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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I was reading seventeen or teen people or cosmogirl...i forget which one. anyway, they talk about not doucheing and i was wondering what that is! Thanks in advance and I'll totally rate ya high if you help me!

To douche means to clean your vagina with a douche bag. Basically, in one of these magazines, it was probably talking about not cleaning your vagina and so on. Hope I helped :)
-Karen

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what are some good fonts for aim?? i have book antiqua now, but its getting boring

I use Arial, size 8. Some other fonts are Tahoma, Verdana, or Century Gothic at any size.
-Karen

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